We're not getting married for a couple years so this problem won't come up for awhile, but I'm still curious. Who's ready for a gun debate? I apologize in advance if this causes WWIII...
BF's side of the family is extremely pro-gun. Most of his family members won't leave the house without one. I, on the other hand, am extremely anti-gun. All of these family members (it runs in the family. EXCEPT for BF, who's really the black sheep) are rowdy drinkers, quick to anger, confrontational, and careless with their guns (e.g., leaving it out in the open on the coffee table with small children running around). Because of that, I don't feel safe around them knowing that they're all carrying. Second amendment aside, I especially wouldn't feel safe or trust them if kids and booze were present.
BF isn't nuts like the rest of his family, but he is pro-gun and he does carry. However, he knows how uncomfortable guns make me, and while he doesn't understand my POV, he'll support me if that's what I want and he'll deal with his family.
Am I allowed to request this? And does their history of carelessness and the fact that there would be kids and booze change anything? I suppose one way around this would be to pick a venue that doesn't allow weapons on the premise so that there would be a legitimate reason to tell them no. Again, this is years away, I'm just curious.