Irks up in here!

Stackeye210 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : When I googled my name prior to marriage, it always came up with me. Or this woman whose first name was "Gay", but her middle and last name were the same as mine. She was the president of her sorority in New Hampshire. Now I find lots of people with my new name. It's kind of sad.
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

<div>That's how my maiden name is. I can see stuff I did in diving back in high school if I google it. If I google my married name I get a ton of links to a softball player pitcher that's apparently pretty good. She's cute, so they can confuse me, I don't mind. I way less searchable these days.</div>

MyUserName1 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : My married name is pretty unique. I've googled it and I always come up with me. When I google my maiden name, I get TONS of other people.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

There was one other person with my maiden name, but she's married and changed her name now.

I'll be the only one with my married name. In fact there's only about a dozen people in the country with this last name and they're all my FI's close family.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : When I googled my name prior to marriage, it always came up with me. Or this woman whose first name was "Gay", but her middle and last name were the same as mine. She was the president of her sorority in New Hampshire. Now I find lots of people with my new name. It's kind of sad.
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

I actually didn't mind my maiden name being so common - that would make me harder to track down, kwim? With my married name, it's pretty simple. Bam. There I am.

There's nothing bad on my FB, but I've decided that if I'm searching for a job or something I'm deactivating that shiit.

MRSBJS · January 2012

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[QUOTE]I love my married last name, but it is REALLY common. My maiden name was less common (except for in southern MA/Northern RI -- huge Portuguese communities), but it drove me crazy because it was also the name of a pop singer and people would ALWAYS ask if we were related. Yes. We are the only two people in the world with that last name. *rolls eyes*
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

Your married name was very popular where I grew up (Central MA) - one of my best friends has it as a matter of fact. With the same spelling. But the other spelling (the French one) is also pretty common there.

Stackeye210 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : I am biting my tongue so hard right now...
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

<div>um, why?</div>

MattsPenguin · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : That's how my maiden name is. I can see stuff I did in diving back in high school if I google it. If I google my married name I get a ton of links to a softball player pitcher that's apparently pretty good. <strong>She's cute, so they can confuse me</strong>, I don't mind. I way less searchable these days.
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

I will have to go look up your alter-ego!

I do enjoy the anonimity more. Like now I'm not really nervous about telling people my full name, since it's so common. If I told you my maiden name, it would be so easy to figure out where my dad lives and works. And probably lots of other stuff about me.

froggatt.clare · January 2012

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[QUOTE]I get irked when people write Nichole. I am not a Ni-ch-hole. Nicole. And I never go by that EVER. Nicki. Nick with an i. Or Nick. Not Nikki, not Nicky not Nikky. It's spelled there in my email address, and FB page. I also really can't stand it when people assume I am all judgy-pantsy when you eat meat in front of me. No, I don't care what you eat. And no, I won't preach my views to you (well, unless you ask, then we can discuss it. But never over meal/eating time). My husband eats meat. I used to go to game dinners until I went veggie. So take your pre-conceived notion of what vegans are, toss that, and then have a conversation with me.
Posted by Nickivegan[/QUOTE]

Nicki, that's exactly how I feel. Everyone assumes that I will preach to them or get upset when they eat meat in front of me. Dude. That's your choice. My choice is to opt out. We all have choices and as long as these choices aren't illegal, they're ok. One girl I went to middle/high school with was suuuuuuper preachy about people eating meat in front of her, and when I went veg I vowed never to be like her.

MattsPenguin · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : I actually didn't mind my maiden name being so common - that would make me harder to track down, kwim? With my married name, it's pretty simple. Bam. There I am. There's nothing bad on my FB, but I've decided that if I'm searching for a job or something I'm deactivating that shiit.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

See my post above this one about being more anonymous now.

ETA: I just think it's sad how common my name is now. I don't care that you can't google me.

MRSBJS · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : I will have to go look up your alter-ego! I do enjoy the anonimity more. Like now I'm not really nervous about telling people my full name, since it's so common. If I told you my maiden name, it would be so easy to figure out where my dad lives and works. And probably lots of other stuff about me.
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

That's me with my maiden name too. If you said it in the town I lived in, the first thing out of someone's mouth would be "Oh is she K and S's little sister?"

Yes. Yes I am.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : See my post above this one about being more anonymous now.
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

Thumbs up

annie912 · January 2012

My first name is Anne, with an e. The e is almost always forgotten. I use "Annie" often for screen names and such, but really don't care to be called it IRL. However, when telemarkers call it's always a dead giveaway because they see the "e" and pronounce it "Annie".

My current (maiden) last name is Italian. I don't think it's terribly difficult but I have seen numerous "alternate" spellings and people usually hesitate a bit when trying to pronounce it. As soon as I say it I usually get "oh, that's just how it looks."

When I got married the first time, I didn't change my name. A few reasons, but I hate to admit that one of them was I just didn't like my ex's last name. Even longer and tougher than mine. Hyphenating wasn't an option. FI has a very easy, short name. Again, a few reasons, but I am thinking of changing this time. I just worry that it will look like I didn't change it the first time because I didn't like his name since I am (or at least considering changing) this time.

My irk this morning was people who park themselves in the left lane, go slow, and then speed up when you get into the right lane and start driving past them. It happened to me not once, not twice, but three times this morning.

Nickivegan · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : um, why?
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]
Seriously, Edie, I want to know what you want to say now!

KarleeKrause35 · January 2012

My mom goes by her middle name, which is funny because her first name is impossible to get wrong. She goes by "Lloy." People are always calling her Lloyd, which I get because her name isn't exactly common.

baystateapple · January 2012

Okay, WTF. The director of religious ed. just came in, dumped some papers on my desk, and said "I need 15 copies of these for tonight."

Not that making copies is a huge deal, and I AM a secretary, but how about a "Are you busy? Would you please run off 15 copies of these?" You're not my boss, and my REAL boss doesn't even speak to me like that.

MRSBJS · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : Seriously, Edie, I want to know what you want to say now!
Posted by Nickivegan[/QUOTE]

I feel like she's going to slap you with a pork chop or something lol

MattsPenguin · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : That's me with my maiden name too. If you said it in the town I lived in, the first thing out of someone's mouth would be "Oh is she K and S's little sister?" Yes. Yes I am.
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]

It's how this random lady tracked down my dad so easily when she found our discarded wedding album laying on the side of the road. She just saw a picture of our wedding program with my maiden name and called up my dad.

MattsPenguin · January 2012

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[QUOTE]My first name is Anne, with an e. The e is almost always forgotten. I use "Annie" often for screen names and such, but really don't care to be called it IRL. However, when telemarkers call it's always a dead giveaway because they see the "e" and <strong>pronounce it "Annie</strong>". Posted by annie912[/QUOTE]

Story of my life! It's why I always hated the name Annie, because it usually meant that you were pronouncing my name wrong. Hello? Anne of Green Gables? ANYONE? ANYONE?

LaurenHH · January 2012

People have such a hard time with my last name. It's of German origin, but it looks/sounds Asian. I've had a lot of people who see my name before meeting me tell me they assumed I was Asian.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · January 2012

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[QUOTE]My mom goes by her middle name, which is funny because her first name is impossible to get wrong. She goes by "Lloy." People are always calling her Lloyd, which I get because her name isn't exactly common.
Posted by KarleeKrause35[/QUOTE]

Lloy is so different! I dig it.

My mom's drycleaner's name is Hyacinth, but she goes by her middle name... Aloma. I like unique names but at that point I'd probably start going by something super ordinary. Like Jane or something.

MattsPenguin · January 2012

Gah, this is fun, but I gotta go walk the dog. Have fun discussing names more!

AllAboutTheBenjamin · January 2012

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[QUOTE]People have such a hard time with my last name. It's of German origin, but it looks/sounds Asian. I've had a lot of people who see my name before meeting me tell me they assumed I was Asian.
Posted by LaurenHH[/QUOTE]

My married name is German too and I've encountered the same thing. "Oh is your husband Asian?" Not to be an ass... but does he look Asian? I have to try so hard to be polite about that, lol.

annie912 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : Story of my life! It's why I always hated the name Annie, because it usually meant that you were pronouncing my name wrong. Hello? Anne of Green Gables? ANYONE? ANYONE?
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

My mom calls me Annie, but she's my mom so she can pretty much call me whatever she wants. My grandfather always used to call me Annie, but it was different coming from him too. My nieces called my "Auntie Annie" when they were really little but have outgrown it. Those are the only exceptions. FI called me Annie once and got the look of death. He never tried again.

Oh, and my father is one of the people who usually forgets the "e" at the end of my name. Um, you were there when I was named. Actually my mom says he's the one who picked out the name. He's kind of one of those really brilliant but absent-minded types, so I cut him some slack. Just wish that after 33 years he'd spell his daughter's name right more than 50% of the time!

LaurenHH · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : My married name is German too and I've encountered the same thing. "Oh is your husband Asian?" Not to be an ass... but does he look Asian? I have to try so hard to be polite about that, lol.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

I've had people looking straight at me ask if I was Asian. I'm a 5'10" white girl with brown hair and green eyes. Really? I have a hard time not being rude to people who ask such dumb questions.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : I've had people looking straight at me ask if I was Asian. I'm a 5'10" white girl with brown hair and green eyes. Really? I have a hard time not being rude to people who ask such dumb questions.
Posted by LaurenHH[/QUOTE]

Haha I KNOW. Insanity.

I've been asked if I was Italian too. I'm mostly Norwegian...

MyUserName1 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm irked as hell right now with my polisher. We did this badass medallion with a tribal eagle motif that the client is going to put on a leather and beaded bracelet he was given by an elder twenty five years ago. It turned out so awesome, but the polisher keeps doing a half assed job and he's making it look shitty.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

Ugh. I worked one place where ONE dude would always leave polishing compound inside rings. Every time I would come to work, I would check everything in the finished drawer and repolish all of his jobs.

Shia · January 2012

My first name is unique Shatavia and it is pronounced Sha-ta-vi-a but people have the hardest time saying it. I do not get upset but I wish they would take the time to pronounce it. But I love my first name.

celticmyss · January 2012

My name is Sara, so I understand when people add and H to the end. However. I get annoyed when people repeatedly do it in response to emails or on Facebook when the correct spelling is right there. I am quite amused when people decide to spell it Shara, Sahra, or Sarha though.

My brother's name is Cuyler, no one spells or pronounces that one right (it is Dutch).

I work in pediatrics and I am very careful to spell and pronounce the names of the patients and their parents properly. This can be quite a challenge at times.

ErinG93 · January 2012

My first name is wonderfully easy to pronounce and spell. Thank you mom and dad. My maiden name was pretty easy. My married last name is truly difficult for people to grasp. Yes, there's an extra "a" thrown in the ending, but that doesn't mean we pronounce it "ay." We say, "ee." The name sounds just ridiculous if you say, "ay."

LaurenHH · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : Haha I KNOW. Insanity. I've been asked if I was Italian too. I'm mostly Norwegian...
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

I'm way too pale to be considered Italian, but I've got a lot of Scandanavian/Norwegian in my background, my last name just happens to be German.

The other problem I have with it is that it's a ridiculously uncommon name. I went to college 5 hours away from my hometown, and the first question I was asked in one of my college classes was, "Are you related to so-and-so?" Yup, he's my cousin. I can't escape it.

krizzo17 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : I've had people looking straight at me ask if I was Asian. I'm a 5'10" white girl with brown hair and green eyes. Really? I have a hard time not being rude to people who ask such dumb questions.
Posted by LaurenHH[/QUOTE]

Ok, on the topic of "are you asian," I used to know this Korean kid who was adopted by white parents. His parents said that people used to ask them all the time if he knew/they were going to tell him that he was adopted....

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