Stacks, I'm curious as to why you feel that way. I don't think it's wrong if it works for the two of you, I just personally don't feel at all that H is innately better at making our decisions, so I wouldn't automatically defer to him.
It still amuses me that Hollister sells surf-bum clothes, but the actual town of Hollister in California, which the store is named after, is a podunk inland town in the middle of nowhere. Not sure what marketing idiot came up with that one!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:74b45cf6-3ed2-41af-8a54-efa9e4ef124cPost:34b31245-57bf-4665-92e4-b652354d805a">Re: unpopular opinions</a>: [QUOTE]Stacks, it's kind of opposite in my house. :) I mean...OUR house. Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
And to be honest, I think that's great for you. As long as both people in the partnership agree with how things are run in the household, more power to you.
Mr Stack and I butted heads early on, not so much a power struggle, but it took me a while to earn his trust and know that his decisions were 100% for the better of our family. I thuroughly enjoy the freedom I have from making some decisions now and it helps me focus on my personal role that makes our household run.
alix - me too!! I especially loved that dress she wore to the MTV awards, the one made out of garbage bags!
kiki-I was on a similar diet to that - two "shakes" a day for breakfast and lunch, and a modest dinner - with one day of cleansing per week (where you basically starve yourself and drink this disgusting liquid)... i lost a lot of weight but i ended up gaining it all back i was starving all the time. that said, i don't judge you for that by any means.
It's called Optifast, and it's actually a medically-supervised program. You go to weekly support groups and check-ins with a doctor, where they do blood tests and everything.
It's for people who need to lose a lot of weight, which I do.
kiki - just one thing - if you lose weight really fast you'll have lose skin to contend with (like i do) .. it sucks. and a program like that sounds like you would drop the pounds pretty quickly.
and from your picture you don't look heavy AT ALL, but i know it's all a matter of personal perception.
I hate Twilight, and I fail to understand why perfectly intelligent people think the book is actually well-written. It's not. It doesn't deserve its popularity at all.
I didn't like Friends either, so it's probably not that unpopular of an opinion.
2. I hate when people give the side-eye to attachment parenting and/or extended breastfeeding. I think parenting decisions like those are personal to the parent and there's no right or wrong answer (CIO, formula-feeding are fine too - it depends on the parent).
HAH! what about those mothers on the AP board who are upset when their 5 year old doesn't want to breast feed anymore, so they decide to "dream feed" him aka wait till he's asleep, and then breastfeed to get him hooked back on the boob? you don't side-eye that? if not, I seriously side-eye you.
It's not even about wanting to look thin or whatever. It's a health thing- I really NEED to lose weight. My cholesterol and all that jazz are good now, but I know my weight is not healthy.
[QUOTE]It's called Optifast, and it's actually a medically-supervised program. You go to weekly support groups and check-ins with a doctor, where they do blood tests and everything. It's for people who need to lose a lot of weight, which I do. Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]
Just because it's medically supervised, doesn't necessarily mean it's healthy.
Can you not do some sort of modified bariatric diet with real food? I would think that plus exercise would be a better way to go.
But then again, I'm not judging and I don't expect you not to do it if you're already planning on it.
I like cherry flavored things, but I HATE cherries themselves. Same with grapes. Grapes make me actually gag sometimes when I see them. But grape jelly? Perfectly fine. Yeah, I don't get it either.
I don't mind registry info inside invites. It saves me the trouble of asking around to see where they are registered, since I almost always buy off people's registries anyway. I do see why most people consider it bad etiquette, though.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:74b45cf6-3ed2-41af-8a54-efa9e4ef124cPost:0f4ab714-b8cf-4e18-95c9-c71be99242e6">Re: unpopular opinions</a>: [QUOTE] HAH! what about those mothers on the AP board who are upset when their 5 year old doesn't want to breast feed anymore, so they decide to "dream feed" him aka wait till he's asleep, and then breastfeed to get him hooked back on the boob? you don't side-eye that? if not, I seriously side-eye you. Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:74b45cf6-3ed2-41af-8a54-efa9e4ef124cPost:6c2ea772-37cb-4bc3-94fc-921718044893">Re: unpopular opinions</a>: [QUOTE]<strong>I hate Twilight, and I fail to understand why perfectly intelligent people think the book is actually well-written. It's not. It doesn't deserve its popularity at all.</strong> I didn't like Friends either, so it's probably not that unpopular of an opinion. I do not blame Angelina for the Jen/Brad divorce. Posted by perfectvelvet[/QUOTE]
I highly doubt that most adults who read/like Twilight think it's well-written. Unless their normal reading material consists of Cosmo and coloring books. I enjoy a lot of things that aren't well written or well scripted or well acted. They're called guilty pleasures.
Even Harry Potter isn't that well written, gramatically speaking (although it's as creative as can be).
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:74b45cf6-3ed2-41af-8a54-efa9e4ef124cPost:e82ef286-8fcb-4f3d-8719-90f1fbf60ac1">Re: unpopular opinions</a>: [QUOTE]Lala is still breast fed. Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:74b45cf6-3ed2-41af-8a54-efa9e4ef124cPost:0f4ab714-b8cf-4e18-95c9-c71be99242e6">Re: unpopular opinions</a>: [QUOTE]2. I hate when people give the side-eye to attachment parenting and/or extended breastfeeding. I think parenting decisions like those are personal to the parent and there's no right or wrong answer (CIO, formula-feeding are fine too - it depends on the parent). HAH! what about those mothers on the AP board who are upset when their 5 year old doesn't want to breast feed anymore, so they decide to "dream feed" him aka wait till he's asleep, and then breastfeed to get him hooked back on the boob? you don't side-eye that? if not, I seriously side-eye you. Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
Wouldn't that be an extreme example of attachment parenting though? The basic tenets of the theory aren't necessarily that extreme.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:74b45cf6-3ed2-41af-8a54-efa9e4ef124cPost:8f252451-76a9-496b-ae1c-7f5079712354">Re: unpopular opinions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : Wouldn't that be an extreme example of attachment parenting though? The basic tenets of the theory aren't necessarily that extreme. Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE] she said there is no "wrong" in child-raising. I'm pointing out that there is.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:74b45cf6-3ed2-41af-8a54-efa9e4ef124cPost:0f4ab714-b8cf-4e18-95c9-c71be99242e6">Re: unpopular opinions</a>: [QUOTE]2. I hate when people give the side-eye to attachment parenting and/or extended breastfeeding. I think parenting decisions like those are personal to the parent and there's no right or wrong answer (CIO, formula-feeding are fine too - it depends on the parent). <strong>HAH! what about those mothers on the AP board who are upset when their 5 year old doesn't want to breast feed anymore, so they decide to "dream feed" him aka wait till he's asleep, and then breastfeed to get him hooked back on the boob? you don't side-eye that? if not, I seriously side-eye you.</strong> Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
I've never even heard of that before to be honest. At risk of sounding like a massive hypocrite, I do side-eye "dream feeding". I think both participants need to be willing - and the child is definitely not willing if they're sleeping.
And not every attachment parent does that. I would have to say that they are probably the very small minority, because I've never heard of that before.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:74b45cf6-3ed2-41af-8a54-efa9e4ef124cPost:6c2ea772-37cb-4bc3-94fc-921718044893">Re: unpopular opinions</a>: [QUOTE]I hate Twilight, and I fail to understand why perfectly intelligent people think the book is actually well-written. It's not. It doesn't deserve its popularity at all. I didn't like Friends either, so it's probably not that unpopular of an opinion. I do not blame Angelina for the Jen/Brad divorce. Posted by perfectvelvet[/QUOTE]
I love Twilight and I laugh at people who think it's well-written. The <em>characters</em> are well developed and written and that can't be discounted. The book(s) is not.
for the record, I totally 100% side-eye attachment parenting. I think it's bad for everyone involved, and is especially hard on the mother. it spits in the face of feminism. and that's just one of the problems I have with it.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:74b45cf6-3ed2-41af-8a54-efa9e4ef124cPost:ff52ac85-b298-46b6-95a8-3450ce171217">Re: unpopular opinions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : she said there is no "wrong" in child-raising. I'm pointing out that there is. Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
Ah I see, I thought you were only responding specifically to attachment parenting, but I get it now. I'm a bit slow today.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:74b45cf6-3ed2-41af-8a54-efa9e4ef124cPost:ee661947-1ccf-4581-bedf-89efa44673fa">Re: unpopular opinions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : I've never even heard of that before to be honest. At risk of sounding like a massive hypocrite, I do side-eye "dream feeding". I think both participants need to be willing - and the child is definitely not willing if they're sleeping. And not every attachment parent does that. I would have to say that they are probably the very small minority, because I've never heard of that before. Posted by xyrius[/QUOTE] I was fascinated by the AP board for awhile. you wouldn't believe some of the threads I've read. in one thread, a woman asked how they have sex with a child in the bed. this one woman said that when her 3-year-old gets fussy when her and her husband are having sex, she breast-feeds him. not right.
dammit, i frequently think of good ones and then forget them when there's actually a thread.
i majorly side-eye attachment parenting and extended bf-ing, so i guess xy hates that.
i don't know that h nor i is head of our household. we mostly make big decisions together and don't tend to butt heads. i can be a pushy broad though when we disagree. i'm pretty much in charge of decorating the house, since we agreed before moving in together that i would be. and also since i'm paying for everything and put the down payment on the house. but i don't really do anything major without runnning it by him first. for example, i love shabby chic and he hates it. so we compromised and i'm keeping the shabby chic to the guest bedroom.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:74b45cf6-3ed2-41af-8a54-efa9e4ef124cPost:6c2ea772-37cb-4bc3-94fc-921718044893">Re: unpopular opinions</a>: [QUOTE]I hate Twilight, and I fail to understand why perfectly intelligent people think the book is actually well-written. It's not. It doesn't deserve its popularity at all. Posted by perfectvelvet[/QUOTE]
<div>I love Twilight. So do many of my completely intelligent friends. And I think we all agree that it's not well written. </div>
I seriously question people's overall intelligence if they don't know basic geography. Like madam on the amazing race last night who thought London was a country. Yep.
I think what I was trying to point out is that parenting isn't black and white (OK, there is wrong and right - child abuse = wrong, etc.) - and it irritates me when I get the side-eye for my parenting choices.
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[QUOTE]Stacks, it's kind of opposite in my house. :) I mean...OUR house.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
And to be honest, I think that's great for you. As long as both people in the partnership agree with how things are run in the household, more power to you.
Mr Stack and I butted heads early on, not so much a power struggle, but it took me a while to earn his trust and know that his decisions were 100% for the better of our family. I thuroughly enjoy the freedom I have from making some decisions now and it helps me focus on my personal role that makes our household run.
kiki-I was on a similar diet to that - two "shakes" a day for breakfast and lunch, and a modest dinner - with one day of cleansing per week (where you basically starve yourself and drink this disgusting liquid)... i lost a lot of weight but i ended up gaining it all back
It's called Optifast, and it's actually a medically-supervised program. You go to weekly support groups and check-ins with a doctor, where they do blood tests and everything.
It's for people who need to lose a lot of weight, which I do.
I also hate to sightsee.
And unless I'm meeting someone in Orlando somewhere, I hate disneyworld and land and will never set foot there again.
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and from your picture you don't look heavy AT ALL, but i know it's all a matter of personal perception.
I didn't like Friends either, so it's probably not that unpopular of an opinion.
I do not blame Angelina for the Jen/Brad divorce.
HAH! what about those mothers on the AP board who are upset when their 5 year old doesn't want to breast feed anymore, so they decide to "dream feed" him aka wait till he's asleep, and then breastfeed to get him hooked back on the boob? you don't side-eye that? if not, I seriously side-eye you.
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Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]
Just because it's medically supervised, doesn't necessarily mean it's healthy.
Can you not do some sort of modified bariatric diet with real food? I would think that plus exercise would be a better way to go.
But then again, I'm not judging and I don't expect you not to do it if you're already planning on it.
[QUOTE] HAH! what about those mothers on the AP board who are upset when their 5 year old doesn't want to breast feed anymore, so they decide to "dream feed" him aka wait till he's asleep, and then breastfeed to get him hooked back on the boob? you don't side-eye that? if not, I seriously side-eye you.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
WTF.
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[QUOTE]<strong>I hate Twilight, and I fail to understand why perfectly intelligent people think the book is actually well-written. It's not. It doesn't deserve its popularity at all.</strong> I didn't like Friends either, so it's probably not that unpopular of an opinion. I do not blame Angelina for the Jen/Brad divorce.
Posted by perfectvelvet[/QUOTE]
I highly doubt that most adults who read/like Twilight think it's well-written. Unless their normal reading material consists of Cosmo and coloring books. I enjoy a lot of things that aren't well written or well scripted or well acted. They're called guilty pleasures.
Even Harry Potter isn't that well written, gramatically speaking (although it's as creative as can be).
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[QUOTE]Lala is still breast fed.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
not since your mom and I broke up, 'member?
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[QUOTE]2. I hate when people give the side-eye to attachment parenting and/or extended breastfeeding. I think parenting decisions like those are personal to the parent and there's no right or wrong answer (CIO, formula-feeding are fine too - it depends on the parent). HAH! what about those mothers on the AP board who are upset when their 5 year old doesn't want to breast feed anymore, so they decide to "dream feed" him aka wait till he's asleep, and then breastfeed to get him hooked back on the boob? you don't side-eye that? if not, I seriously side-eye you.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
Wouldn't that be an extreme example of attachment parenting though? The basic tenets of the theory aren't necessarily that extreme.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : Wouldn't that be an extreme example of attachment parenting though? The basic tenets of the theory aren't necessarily that extreme.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]
she said there is no "wrong" in child-raising. I'm pointing out that there is.
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[QUOTE]2. I hate when people give the side-eye to attachment parenting and/or extended breastfeeding. I think parenting decisions like those are personal to the parent and there's no right or wrong answer (CIO, formula-feeding are fine too - it depends on the parent). <strong>HAH! what about those mothers on the AP board who are upset when their 5 year old doesn't want to breast feed anymore, so they decide to "dream feed" him aka wait till he's asleep, and then breastfeed to get him hooked back on the boob? you don't side-eye that? if not, I seriously side-eye you.</strong>
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
I've never even heard of that before to be honest. At risk of sounding like a massive hypocrite, I do side-eye "dream feeding". I think both participants need to be willing - and the child is definitely not willing if they're sleeping.
And not every attachment parent does that. I would have to say that they are probably the very small minority, because I've never heard of that before.
[QUOTE]I hate Twilight, and I fail to understand why perfectly intelligent people think the book is actually well-written. It's not. It doesn't deserve its popularity at all. I didn't like Friends either, so it's probably not that unpopular of an opinion. I do not blame Angelina for the Jen/Brad divorce.
Posted by perfectvelvet[/QUOTE]
I love Twilight and I laugh at people who think it's well-written. The <em>characters</em> are well developed and written and that can't be discounted. The book(s) is not.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : she said there is no "wrong" in child-raising. I'm pointing out that there is.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
Ah I see, I thought you were only responding specifically to attachment parenting, but I get it now. I'm a bit slow today.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : I've never even heard of that before to be honest. At risk of sounding like a massive hypocrite, I do side-eye "dream feeding". I think both participants need to be willing - and the child is definitely not willing if they're sleeping. And not every attachment parent does that. I would have to say that they are probably the very small minority, because I've never heard of that before.
Posted by xyrius[/QUOTE]
I was fascinated by the AP board for awhile. you wouldn't believe some of the threads I've read.
in one thread, a woman asked how they have sex with a child in the bed. this one woman said that when her 3-year-old gets fussy when her and her husband are having sex, she breast-feeds him.
not right.
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i majorly side-eye attachment parenting and extended bf-ing, so i guess xy hates that.
i don't know that h nor i is head of our household. we mostly make big decisions together and don't tend to butt heads. i can be a pushy broad though when we disagree. i'm pretty much in charge of decorating the house, since we agreed before moving in together that i would be. and also since i'm paying for everything and put the down payment on the house. but i don't really do anything major without runnning it by him first. for example, i love shabby chic and he hates it. so we compromised and i'm keeping the shabby chic to the guest bedroom.
[QUOTE]I hate Twilight, and I fail to understand why perfectly intelligent people think the book is actually well-written. It's not. It doesn't deserve its popularity at all.
Posted by perfectvelvet[/QUOTE]
<div>I love Twilight. So do many of my completely intelligent friends. And I think we all agree that it's not well written. </div>