female point of view

jadabride · April 2011

Disturbing? I'm sorry if that's how it's coming across. I simply asked the question to start this post what would you think if your fiancee told you he liked to dress like a woman. I wasn't "luring" everyone into my bridal scenario.

That is not my intent at all.

NcsuPsych · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:64403c68-b169-4cd9-aa9a-f60586f95ee1">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]I misused the term "fantasy". I meant it more as something I had dreamed of for a long time, just like the brides on this site. If the issue with the term "bride" is because I'm already married, I can understand that.
Posted by jadabride[/QUOTE]

Wouldn't the dream still = Fantasy then?
Ps... not all of us dream about our weddings for a long long time (side note)

And apparently you can't understand the use of the term "bride" since it's taken 3 flippin pages to get that terminology across to you.

jadabride · April 2011

I'd love to wear my wife's wedding gown, but she's a size 6 and it wouldn't fit. And no, my mom didn't paint my toenails when I was 6.

Hellokatie0517 · April 2011

Definition of "bride" courtesy of dictionary.com

a woman who has just been or is about to be married .

You are not a woman. You are not getting married. You are not a bride.

whiterabbit5 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:9d80491f-1940-4446-8a23-22df15af36a4">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: female point of view : This is exactly what I was referring to. You are married man looking to roleplay as a bride. That's fine as long as it happens within the context of your own relationship and between consenting adults; no one is judging you for that! But when you take it to a public message board like this, you use real people who have not consented to participate in your fantasy as props in said fantasy. You have to expect that that is going to make some people uncomfortable or cause them to doubt your motives.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

<div>THIS. I am absolutely an open person and I applaud that you and your wife have such an open relationship. However, I'm not sure why you are bringing all of us in to this, dream, fantasy, whatever it is. Are you posting merely for reaction sake? Like "well played sir" and a pat on the back or are you trying to stir up trouble. As PP's have stated, to me this seems to be more of a "sexual" thing / fantasy. I don't believe any of us agreed to play a part in it.</div>

jadabride · April 2011

OK. I won't refer to myself as a bride. I am taking on the role of a bride and will think of myself as a bride, but I understand that technically I am not a bride.

NcsuPsych · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:3ca0c269-5001-49e2-81bc-dc85d6b335f0">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]OK. I won't refer to myself as a bride. I am taking on the role of a bride and will think of myself as a bride, but I understand that technically I am not a bride.
Posted by jadabride[/QUOTE]

Soo you're role playing on the boards. Awesome. . .

I'm very open minded and as others have said, congrats to you and your wife for being so open together, but I don't feel that pulling strangers into your fantasy/dream/whatever in is appropriate at all for these boards. However, I'm sure you're getting a real kick out of all of this and so when you think about it, that in itself is kind of disturbing.

But then again, to them their own

jadabride · April 2011

and I have never once asked for a pat on the back, or any opinions on me wanting to wear a wedding dress. I simply asked the question what your thoughts would be if your finance wanted to dress up. This thread took on a different angle, but I never set up this or any posting to bring everyone into my "fantasy". Again, I meant I have dreamt of being a "bride" (or acting the role of a bride) ever since I was a little girl, just like many (but not all), brides to be have.

NcsuPsych · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:6b8e98a1-0f5f-4efa-9f27-ae333afb7573">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]and I have never once asked for a pat on the back, or any opinions on me wanting to wear a wedding dress. I simply asked the question what your thoughts would be if your finance wanted to dress up. This thread took on a different angle, but I never set up this or any posting to bring everyone into my "fantasy". Again, I meant I have dreamt of being a "bride" (or acting the role of a bride) <span style="font-weight:bold;">ever since I was</span> <strong>a little girl, </strong>just like many (but not all), brides to be have.
Posted by jadabride[/QUOTE]

Slip of the tongue??

maratea · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:6b8e98a1-0f5f-4efa-9f27-ae333afb7573">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]and I have never once asked for a pat on the back, or any opinions on me wanting to wear a wedding dress. I simply asked the question what your thoughts would be if your finance wanted to dress up. This thread took on a different angle, but I never set up this or any posting to bring everyone into my "fantasy". Again, I meant I have dreamt of being a "bride" (or acting the role of a bride) <strong>ever since I was a little girl</strong>, just like many (but not all), brides to be have.
Posted by jadabride[/QUOTE]
Say what now? I thought you were a man.

Celles · April 2011

Dude. You were never a little girl.

You've identified yourself in every thread you've started as a married man who enjoys crossdressing, which implies heterosexual and transvestite. Now you're claiming to be transgender, which would make you a lesbian -- execept then you would identify yourself as a married woman, not a married man.

At first I thought you were attempting to insinuate yourself into a bridal community as a part of your roleplay, possibly for sexual gratifiication. (Which is creepy, btw. Not because I'm judging your kink, per se, but because I certainly didn't volunteer to participate in said kink.)

Now I think you're just trolling.

jadabride · April 2011

I am not "role playing" on the boards. I made it clear up front I was a male. Many didn't agree with me saying I was a bride, that's all.

As for the "little girl" line, when I'm in bridal mode, I often refer to myself in the female form.

jadabride · April 2011

I'm not trolling or trying to be a jerk. I'm a hetero male crossdresser. I just often think/refer to myself as a female when I'm dressed or in bridal mode.

maratea · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:7e21a52f-e21b-4558-b4fe-392f373cb98a">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm not trolling or trying to be a jerk. I'm a hetero male crossdresser. I just often think/refer to myself as a female when I'm dressed or in bridal mode.
Posted by jadabride[/QUOTE]
Just go buy your damn dress, have your PPD with pictures and accessories and go along your merry way. Nobody gives a fuuck anymore.

jadabride · April 2011

Is that really necessary? wow.

Celles · April 2011

Yeah, I'm done rewarding this kind of behavior with attention.

I really like that shade on you, Mara. I know you weren't a fan of the style, but you look hot!

whiterabbit5 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:6b8e98a1-0f5f-4efa-9f27-ae333afb7573">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]and I have never once asked for a pat on the back, or any opinions on me wanting to wear a wedding dress. I simply asked the question what your thoughts would be if your finance wanted to dress up. This thread took on a different angle, but I never set up this or any posting to bring everyone into my "fantasy". Again, I meant I have dreamt of being a "bride" (or acting the role of a bride) <strong>ever since I was a little girl,</strong> just like many (but not all), brides to be have.
Posted by jadabride[/QUOTE]

<div>See....this is EXACTLY why this is all a game and no one is taking your comments seriously.</div>

jadabride · April 2011

That's fine - but why when I'm talking about wanting to be a bride wouldn't I refer to myself as a female?

whiterabbit5 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:8595759e-0946-43d7-9066-0be830f1a3f8">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]That's fine - but why when I'm talking about wanting to be a bride wouldn't I refer to myself as a female?
Posted by jadabride[/QUOTE]

<div>CAUSE YOU'RE MALE!! Ugh...seriously?! </div>

NcsuPsych · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:8595759e-0946-43d7-9066-0be830f1a3f8">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]That's fine - but why when I'm talking about wanting to be a bride wouldn't I refer to myself as a female?
Posted by jadabride[/QUOTE]

I can't honestly take you serious any more. You're wanting attention, whether it be good or bad, and that comment proves it because you can't seem to drop the subject.

and your roll playing on TK is just getting creepier and more sketch.

jadabride · April 2011

I'm a male shopping for a wedding dress and all the accessories. that's a female outfit, so it makes me feel feminine, so I referred to myself in the feminine.

Cynthia1207 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:24dee7e9-e1c4-47a1-9d9b-4c457cb41966">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: female point of view : I can't honestly take you serious any more. You're wanting attention, whether it be good or bad, and that comment proves it because you can't seem to drop the subject. <strong>and your roll playing on TK is just getting creepier and more sketch.
</strong>Posted by NcsuPsych[/QUOTE]

Ditto that's the reason why I never commented on this ''bride's'' threads.

NcsuPsych · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:bd549627-c22a-4189-b42c-f4997bb15752">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm a male shopping for a wedding dress and all the accessories. that's a female outfit, so it makes me feel feminine, so I referred to myself in the feminine.
Posted by jadabride[/QUOTE]

Who has a stick and two berries?? YOU DO!

Men can be feminine, but they're NOT females.

jadabride · April 2011

Ok. Point taken. Sorry everyone if you think i crossed a line. I never meant to.

Denise91980 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:1d338835-8d95-4712-bd9b-78b5a2242092">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm a little disturbed by the fact that you're hung up on semantics and ignoring the larger ethical issue of whether or not it's appropriate to draft Internet strangers into your sexual fantasy.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

<3
Exactly!

maratea · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:72466edb-1122-4303-ad08-f1f4291604d3">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, I'm done rewarding this kind of behavior with attention. <strong>I really like that shade on you, Mara. I know you weren't a fan of the style, but you look hot!</strong>
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]
Thanks! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-kiss.gif" border="0" alt="Kiss" title="Kiss" />

Denise91980 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:6b8e98a1-0f5f-4efa-9f27-ae333afb7573">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]and I have never once asked for a pat on the back, or any opinions on me wanting to wear a wedding dress. I simply asked the question what your thoughts would be if your finance wanted to dress up. This thread took on a different angle, but I never set up this or any posting to bring everyone into my "fantasy". Again, I meant I have dreamt of being a "bride" (or acting the role of a bride) ever since<strong> I was a little girl</strong>, just like many (but not all), brides to be have.
Posted by jadabride[/QUOTE]

Troll! I thought you said you were a man!

jadabride · April 2011

As I indicated a little earlier, I am a man. I just referred to myself in that post as a female since I was talking about dreaming about a wedding gown. I am a male and not a troll

Denise91980 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_female-point-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:05b730e2-c2a3-4c52-b7f8-e968efa0b0e5Post:a36bf1b8-c369-43a2-ad29-86c7b795f32c">Re: female point of view</a>:
[QUOTE]As I indicated a little earlier, I am a man. I just referred to myself in that post as a female since I was talking about dreaming about a wedding gown. I am a male and not a troll
Posted by jadabride[/QUOTE]

OK....I believe you!

<img src="http://img.printfection.com/14/45235/MJhg9.jpg" alt="" />

Ooops...I mean Dress on fire!

jadabride · April 2011

No need for anyone to reply - this thread probably needs to close. I just want to try to make things better. I truly apologize if anyone was insulted or felt I crossed a line.

I truly am a male shopping for a wedding gown, shoes, bridal lingerie, jewelry, hair, nails, makeup - the whole deal - and then will get professional photos taken. I just came here for some advice in earlier threads and then to raise a question today. I meant no disrespect to all the brides here. I truly respect all of you and that is why in some of my earlier posts, I wanted to get a feel for how I would be taken in a bridal salon or beauty salon - the last thing I want is to make any real bride uncomfortable.

Again, I truly apologize. I will cease any postings for the near future. I hope when the day comes and I have my gown and all the accessories and photos, I might be welcomed to give a brief posting as to how things went and maybe post a photo if they turn out nice.

Sorry if I was taken as a troll, or my story as MUD, I truly am legitimate.

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