Hey , I'm so sorry you r going thru this. Not seeing you on mother's day bc mother in law more important. Nonsense . Sounds like the gf is a chip off old block of mom. Sounds like sons gf is a well....brat. idk best advice other than talk to your soon about how you'd like to be with him more , or make plans to take walks, lunches , etc things that don't break the bank. Invite son and gf or if gf doesn't come just son. Start to do all you can to make effort to be with son away from this so he can make sure it's what he wants . You are his mother , you deserve to be held high
July 12
Re: What did your fiance do for his Bachelor party?
Maybe I'm jaded because I'm from Nevada...so the whole stripper thing is really not a big deal. They don't want to have sex with your future husband they want his money! Your future husbands know what to do and what not to do and if they don't you probably shouldn't be marrying them.
Reasons not to care if they go to a strip club
1. you can't get an std from a lapdance as someone here thought you could. why they thought you could, I have no idea
2. Your boobs are probably real and theirs aren't
3. Hopefully your FH is not a moron and knows that sleeping with a stripper is a bad idea.
4. They get to play with your boobs whenever and fake ones look great aren't fun to play with, so I've been told.
5. You being a control freak and telling him what he can and can't do on that night, is not only rude, dishonest, unfair, untrusting, and disprespectful but is going to make him want to do the things you don't want him to do in the first place.
In the end you need to trust your man to make the right decisions he loves you he is going to make the right choice his friends have nothing to do with it, he's not going to bend to their will (they don't have the force). Don't ask him what he did, don't have a giant "talk" tell your man that you want him to have a blast do what he wants and not feel guilty about looking at someone's boob for 2 seconds at one time because you freaked him out.. let him be the man you are going to marry and let him not have any doubts that he made the right choice in marrying you, because you trust and respect him to make the right decisions.
[QUOTE]2. Your boobs are probably real and theirs aren't 3. Hopefully your FH is not a moron and knows that sleeping with a stripper is a bad idea. 4. They get to play with your boobs whenever and fake ones look great aren't fun to play with, so I've been told. 5. You being a control freak and telling him what he can and can't do on that night, is not only rude, dishonest, unfair, untrusting, and disprespectful but is going to make him want to do the things you don't want him to do in the first place. [/QUOTE]
Hey I LOVE my fake boobs and so does FI! :o)
I agree 100% on the controll thing....
Best of luck to you gals, and go have fun on your bachelorette parties! I know I am.
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"Momma Karly" (step-mom) Nov. 2009
I am a small bit concerned about the Bachelor party. Not because of any strip club insecurities, I could care less. This is his last crazy night of bachelorhood and I can guarantee nothing beyond a lap dance will happen with a stripper or any other women. I totally expect crazy stories to come out of this and I am happy to hear them. However, why I am a bit concerned is because after watching "The Hangover", all of the guys including my fiancé now are dead set on having the bachelor party in Vegas. I have attempted to lay down rules such as:
That is my list so far! It is still growing as potential major catastrophes come to mind!
[QUOTE]...My guy likes video games, doesn't drink, is pretty mellow. I think they'll just go to a pal's house and play rock band.
Posted by fabshelly[/QUOTE]
This sounds like mine. :) I imagine he, the groomsmen, and my brother will all spend the night drinking, eating pizza, and playing Call of Duty: Modern Warfare 2. Sadly....if I know my bridesmaids, we'll probably be doing the same thing...and have a blast. Haha! Such is life when gamers get married.
[QUOTE] Unfortunately the more handsome your FI is, the trashier the strippers will be. They hear "Groom" and start trouble. If your FI goes to a strip club I guarantee it will be out of control. And if he is cute those girls have no class and will go all out just for fun. Not to mention if his friends are throwing money around. Just not a good situation to be in. Herpes and chlamydia rudding up on your man. UGH. Sux that men have to disrespect their future wife with whores to have a good time. Seems like just an excuse to act single. Not good. Good thing my handsome FI is playing golf :D
Posted by bttrfly82b[/QUOTE]
so what you're saying is that
A. unless you're 100% sure that all women think your fiance is a dog, he shouldn't be allowed to go to a strip club
B. lap dances somehow translate to herpes
C. you actually believed the 'golf' story your fiance told you to cover up for his strip-club hopping bachelor party
good thing MY fiance and his buddies are spending THEIR bachelor party at Crate & Barrel picking out some lovely home furnishings for our new home.
My fiance and I are having our bachelor/bachelorette parties on the same night. His group is going paintballing, then to the bars, and then possibly to a strip club. I am completely fine with this. I trust him and that is why I am marrying him. If they want to go watch a few girls dance around that's fine with me. It's not like we don't like looking at guys every once in awhile
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My finance's best man already booked a weekend in Vegas for his bach party. I'm fine with this. I trust him completley and I trust the best man. The other groomsmen though I don't trust as much. I'm trying not to worry about it, since I have a tendancy to do so. Ours will be the same weekend because I didn't want to stay home alone. We're getting married in our hometown, so I'll be going back there for the weekend to finish wedding details and have my party. I'm actually more concerned about mine than his! My MOH tends to do what she thinks would be fun and I don't want a drunken night at the bars, strippers, or anything too wild. I've love to just have a spa day! As for rules, the only rule I had for my fiance and his best man was that the party had to be over a week before the wedding. No Hangover situation here!
[QUOTE]In my opinion, if what they are doing to him wouldn't be considered okay in any place other than a strip club, then it's not okay period.[/QUOTE]
EX-ACT-LEE.