Irritations (rational/irrational)

pokepoke27 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irritations (rational/irrational) : There are month long wait lists at the no kills, if you can get in. Most county shelters in the south are kill shelters. Cats are in an over abundance. Sad fact of life.
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

<div>And if you give even half a shiiiit about the life of another creature then you will wait that month. Or drive a little out of the way. Or try to find it a home yourself in the meantime. You can also go to places like PetsMart to get the names/numbers of the animal shelters that they work with. </div><div>
</div><div>There are other options. </div>

Maggie0829 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irritations (rational/irrational) : Sneaky sneaky. I love not having a house phone.
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

Maybe, if not every single telemarketer uses the same name to try and get a conversation started. That and me having to say "hello" twice before anyone responds.

I understand that it is their job, but they just must not give a crap.

StefffiC · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irritations (rational/irrational) : Yes, it is difficult to rehome an adult cat but I don't think euthanizing the cat is a better option. I side eye anyone who is willing to rehome or euthanize a pet for such silly reasons but I would think giving the cat a chance to find a new home would be the better option. The shelter isn't the only option, there is foster care, other family members, really anything to show you realize that you understand you are responsible for that animal and it's life means something.
Posted by calixtine[/QUOTE]

I'm a crazy cat lady with 7 cats - 5 of which were adults when they moved in with me. 3 of which were special needs adults.

However, my will states if I drop dead and my husband can't/won't keep them our special needs cats will be euthed and I've put funds aside to take care of it and appointed someone to do the deed. I do not want any of my animals to end up in shelters. The others can be rehomed, if my friend who would take our animals can find a spot for them. If she cannot and opts to euth them, I do not have a problem with that. There are far worse ends than dying peacefully in my vets office. Far worse.

I do not believe in euthing for convience, don't take that wrong. But, most people would just dump the cat at the county shelter instead of having it PTS. Both are really crappy and I would not want either person for a friend.

brandichamberlain · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irritations (rational/irrational) : There are month long wait lists at the no kills, if you can get in. Most county shelters in the south are kill shelters. Cats are in an over abundance. Sad fact of life.
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

<a href="http://www.nokillnetwork.org/d/North-Carolina/" rel="nofollow">http://www.nokillnetwork.org/d/North-Carolina/</a>

Here is a list of no kill shelters in NC if anyone you know ever needs one.

pokepoke27 · July 2012

Rachers - is it owned by one of the guys doing the roof or is there a corporate office you can complain to? That does not sound very professional at all.

Maggie - I knew someone that briefly worked for a telemarketing company. Briefly because she got fired for refusing to call the same house more than once a day.

Girlie1030 · July 2012

Rachers, I'd be furious. I'd be putting up online reviews of them for sure after the job is done.

midgetthemighty · July 2012

Rach, they really shouldn't be leaving their tools on your roof. That's a huge liability issue for them, I would think. I really hope the weather cooperates and they get it finished tomorrow.

Steffi, shelters aren't the only answer. Heck, the cat usedto roam the entire house including the basement so I really don't understand why they couldn't just do that again. Or find a family member or friend interested in taking him. Automatically jumping to killing him is just cruel. Even if they do have a legitimate reason why the cat couldn't free roam as he did before, killing is not the answer.

CFM102012 · July 2012

My FSIL adopted an adult cat. Before that she pretty much hated cats. he's not the friendliest cat there is and I'm sure he was at the shelter for a while because of that. He ended up going to one of the pet adoption things at a Petco or Petsmart and that's where she found him while buying something for her mom's dog.

Girlie1030 · July 2012

Steffi, please stop adopting cats.

ErinG93 · July 2012

I'm always pretty polite to telemarketers. I make a lot of collection calls with my job and it really sucks when someone yells at you for being the messager. If someone was being a real ass, sure, I'd probably be rude back. For the most part though, I'm polite but firm with telemarketers.

StefffiC · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irritations (rational/irrational) : You know there are more shelters out there besides the one in your county, right?
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

I know of no true no kills in my state.

There are some advertised as no kills, but once the animal is there 6 months it is euthed.

Honest truth.

dumdumfroggie · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Steffi, please stop adopting cats.
Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]

<div>Seconded.</div>

willywally5 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irritations (rational/irrational) : I was just thinking the same thing. And I adopted my first ever pet, my sweet Leonardo, as an adult cat from the shelter. So it does happen.
Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]

<div>I concur. And my Emmie Cat was an adult when we got her. Getting her was one of the best things we've ever done. Love that furry beast!</div>

StefffiC · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irritations (rational/irrational) : Is there some reason your husband wouldn't keep them? My parents just adopted a four year old cat from the shelter and she is the sweetest thing.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

If I died tomorrow I don't know that he wouldn't. I think it's only fair that he have the option of keeping them or not.

If we both die then they will be euthed - my attorney will see to that.

LeiselEB · July 2012

Steffi, I guess North Carolina hates cats. I don't really know what else to gather from the information you're giving us.

baystateapple · July 2012

Steffi, instead of making a plan to euthenize your cats in the event of your death, why don't you...I don't know...start looking for people who would be willing to adopt them and care for them? Or just stop adopting cats that you can't provide for in case of that tragedy?

Seriously. There are better answers.

StefffiC · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irritations (rational/irrational) : Seconded.
Posted by dumdumfroggie[/QUOTE]

Why? Because I took on a dear friends family of cats at her death? And wouldn't saddle my husband who's on the road with 7 cats?

Because my views are different than yours?

ErinG93 · July 2012

Steffi, wouldn't it be better to try and find someone who would take the cats if you died? I've asked my mom to keep Fox if I were to get hit by a bus.

I feel so fortunate that our shelter is 100% no kill, ever.

ETA: I suppose ever isn't really correct. The shelter here will put down an animal given extreme circumstances like the animal is dying from cancer or something.

Maggie0829 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm always pretty polite to telemarketers. I make a lot of collection calls with my job and it really sucks when someone yells at you for being the messager. If someone was being a real ass, sure, I'd probably be rude back. For the most part though, I'm polite but firm with telemarketers.
Posted by ErinG93[/QUOTE]

Don't get me wrong, I am nice the first few times they call but after asking repeatedly to please take me off their list and to stop calling and they don't I tend to get a bit unhappy.

Also, it probably didn't help that this particular telemarketer decided to wake me out of a nice peaceful sleep on a Sunday morning. It doesn't matter who you are you are going to get the "I have just been woken up for no good reason" b*tchy Maggie.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

You actually have it in your will that if you die, sorry, cats, you have to die too? What.the.fhuck. That is so completely awful.

baystateapple · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irritations (rational/irrational) : Why? Because I took on a dear friends family of cats at her death? And wouldn't saddle my husband who's on the road with 7 cats? Because my views are different than yours?
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]
My H and I are estranged, but I tell you this, if something happened to me, he would not for one instant begrudge me the task of finding a home for my cats. Not for an instant, not when things were going great, and not now that they're less than ideal.

It doesn't matter that they're "your" cats. When you get married, IMO, pets become universal. "Love me, love my dog", that sort of thing.

LeiselEB · July 2012

Erin and Rach, I agree.

willywally5 · July 2012

I am irritated that the guys doing the curbing/landscaping borders in our yard are really freakin' noisy. And that I had to get up earlier than normal to go talk to them about where all said borders are going. However, they look amazing and this is one step closer to grass so it's totall stupid for me to be irritated by it.

Also irritated that I got Super Glue all over my fingers and it's just so damn sticky. Gah.

JessAndTrav · July 2012

So, Steffi, you and your H were to die, and you had family members that wanted to take in the cats, would they be overridden by what your will states?

This whole thinking in nuckin' futs.

In regards to telemarketers, if I get ONE MORE effing phone call from this "free home security" thing on my cell phone, I'm going to lose my mind. It's the same guy every time, and I keep telling him to quit calling me.

I was a majorbitch last time I talked to him, so hopefully he's done calling me.

adamar15 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Also, if Mr. Cfas and I both kicked the bucket, I have a feeling that there would be a fight over who got to keep Ruby.
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

Me, duh. I think Ruby and Sadie would LOVE each other.

dumdumfroggie · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irritations (rational/irrational) : Why? Because I took on a dear friends family of cats at her death? And wouldn't saddle my husband who's on the road with 7 cats? Because my views are different than yours?
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

<div>Why? </div><div>
</div><div>Because you skipped over trying to find someone to take them right to killing them. And THAT is fvcking awful.</div><div>
</div><div>Have you read nothing anyone else has said?</div><div>
</div><div>
</div>

StefffiC · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Steffi, wouldn't it be better to try and find someone who would take the cats if you died? I've asked my mom to keep Fox if I were to get hit by a bus. I feel so fortunate that our shelter is 100% no kill, ever.
Posted by ErinG93[/QUOTE]

Of my 7 I have two that are to be euthed, 5 that have homes, with money to go with them, and 2 horses with homes and money to go with them.

Does anyone else have their animals and funds for them in their wills?

No one would take the two I'd be euthing except maybe DH or my mom.

LeiselEB · July 2012

Also, I have to admit I'm getting irritated by the word "euth". Just spell the whole word! In general, unnecessary abbreviations irritate me, but this one is my current irritation.

calixtine · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irritations (rational/irrational) : I'm a crazy cat lady with 7 cats - 5 of which were adults when they moved in with me. 3 of which were special needs adults. However, my will states if I drop dead and my husband can't/won't keep them our special needs cats will be euthed and I've put funds aside to take care of it and appointed someone to do the deed. I do not want any of my animals to end up in shelters. The others can be rehomed, if my friend who would take our animals can find a spot for them. If she cannot and opts to euth them, I do not have a problem with that. There are far worse ends than dying peacefully in my vets office. Far worse. I do not believe in euthing for convience, don't take that wrong. But, most people would just dump the cat at the county shelter instead of having it PTS. Both are really crappy and I would not want either person for a friend.
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

Can't you put funds aside to instead convince someone else to take on the cats? Look, I know sometimes there is no choice but to euthanize a pet; I had to put a dog to sleep over aggression issues in the past. but this was after I spent untold amounts of money on consulting with animal behaviorists, trainers, and put in a lot of work trying to train the aggression out of him. I still feel guilty, like there was something else I could have done even after exhausting all my resources. I can't even imagine how I would feel if my attitude had just been, "oh well, lets just put him to sleep" after the first sign of trouble.

Girlie1030 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irritations (rational/irrational) : Why? Because I took on a dear friends family of cats at her death? And wouldn't saddle my husband who's on the road with 7 cats? <strong>Because my views are different than yours</strong>?
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

We're not discussing if gladiator sandals are attractive or not here. You're saying you choose to kill your cats rather than rehome them should something happen to you. It's a horrible "view" to have.

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