Pre-wedding Parties
Trying not to go Bridezilla on my MOH/little sister...HELP!
My MOH is my 19yr old little sister who is still into wild partying. She and my cousin are planning my bachlorette party. My cousin has finally been able to talk her out of strippers for which I am very grateful. But they want to do the BP like the weekend before and get me "totally smashed" (their words) cause they think that's the whole point...neither of them have been married. Anyways this is a problem because two of my BM live 5-6 hours away and I know they will be upset if they can't go to the BP but I also know finanically and schedule wise they just can't come down two weekends in a row. I've told my MOH that I want the BP the night before (cause I like the tradition of it being your last single night) and that going out is fine but that I don't want to get trashed I just want to have a good time with my girls. But she just keeps talking about doing it her way and everytime I try to tell her that's not what I want she just sighs and says "well then I just don't know what to do cause that won't work."
How do I tell her that it's my day and I don't want to do it that way without sounding like a huge bridezilla and be able to get her to listen?
How do I tell her that it's my day and I don't want to do it that way without sounding like a huge bridezilla and be able to get her to listen?
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Re: Trying not to go Bridezilla on my MOH/little sister...HELP!
Although, if you don't want to decline, perhaps you could mention to your sister that she, and you, will probably not want to have horrible hangovers the morning of your wedding (since you're doing the b-party the night before.) Tell her you appreciate her willingness to throw you a b-party, but you'd like to keep things a bit more low-key since you'll be extremely busy the next day.
It's not okay to plan your own party or demand that anyone plan one for you, but it sounds like your MOH/sister and cousin are already trying to plan something for you. It's fine to tell them your preferences, especially if what they're planning is something you would not enjoy at all (strippers and wild intoxication when your friends aren't there, for example).
If,however, she'd like to make this memorable for you in some other way, then you might be able to give her a few ideas--the poster above was way more eloquent than I could ever be. X is out, A, B, or C could be in. You pick, little sis.
Second is, most underaged, and I am assuming here, think it is cool to get someone trashed. If you are old enough to get married, you control what goes in your mouth so whether or not you get trashed is up to you. I would set her down, explain that it is cost prohibitive for people you want to be there and unreasonable to expect people to give up two weekends in a row for your wedding festivities. It cost a lot to be in a wedding, in most cases, and she probably has no experience in this.
As pp said, you are not obligated to accept her BP offer.
Anyways, I tried to talk to her about it and tell her one more time that I do not want to do the things that she likes to do. She says I'm going to like it and everything will be fine and that if I bring it up one more time she will make sure to do everything I don't want her to do :-( I want to believe and trust her but with that attitude it's kind of hard.
I really didn't want to not except the BP cause it is literally the only one of her MOH responsiblties that she says she will do but, it's starting to look like i'm going to have to just plan this on my own too. which sucks but whatever. my mom keeps telling me to demote her but I just can't do it.
thanks for all of y'alls advice
Wish me luck!!