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How would you take this?

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  • Did he say what they talk about?
  • He said they talk about work, problems with her soon-to-be ex-husband, etc.  I don't call anyone I work with at home/on cell to talk about work. 
  • GAH!  That just got me even more angry Rajah.  Even if it were just a friendship, but he knew it would make you upset, why would he encourage it!?   Aren't you more important than some Brittany?  And, way to go trying to turn it around and make you sound like the bad guy for being nosy...douche.
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  • I am waaay late to this. But I had a friend of mine suspect her bf of cheating so she got a transcript of his texts, word for word. I highly suggest doing this, It may cost a few dollars, but then you can see what they were texting and have concrete evidence. I am so sorry you are going through this, it sucks.
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  • I don't call anyone I work with at home/on cell to talk about work. I do.  Even some males I work with.BUT my husband knows about it, I talk to them in front of him, and I would never erase messages from them or try to hide it in any way.  The point is not that he's talking to a woman he worked with, the point is that he's HIDING it from you.And yeah, call her now before he does.

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  • What an idiot.  If your wife is "suspicious and nosy", the last thing you should do is have secret conversations with a girl she doesn't know.  Even if that were true, the fact he's telling some girl he hardly knows that about you is quite a betrayal.  I think it's time to destroy something he loves.
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  • So he acted suspicious because you get suspicious? Damn, that would seal it for me. If you leave take anything with you that you want to keep. If this goes as far as divorce anything you have in possession is more likely to be yours in the end. I let my ex tell me that we could "negotiate later" about far too much.
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  • well that settles it, it's obviously your fault.  way to go.   sorry, but your H is an asshat
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  • I just called Verizon to ask how I should go about getting the actual texts that were sent/received, and they said the only way they can provide that information to me is to be provided with a subpoena from my lawyer.  Apparently that's their policy now.I do want to call this Brittany girl, but I am such a wuss.  I don't know what I would say.  "Hey bittch, are you fuccking with my husband?"  I don't want to be WT.  And if he is cheating on me, is it worth the confrontation or to fight for him?  I don't know. 
  • I'm so sorry to hear all of this.  But I ditto monj on the text messages.  A friend of mine paid a service and got print outs of all the texts.
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  • Here's the thing about her knowing if he is married or not: I asked him why he would try to erase the messages on his phone or have her send him private messages on facebook, and why she would be worried about it "being safe" in the first place. He apparently told her I am suspicious and nosy, and that he didn't want to cause any trouble for her. Other women do not get to take priority over your wife, period, ever. At BEST, he chose her convenience over honesty to his wife.  To quote Exp, SCUMBAG.
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  • that was a s s h a t by the way.
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  • Call her asap.
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  • Only call her if you think you can be calm.  Remember that she's not the one to blame in this situation.  The responsibility lies squarely on your H's shoulders.  Yeah, she might be a whore down the road for going after a married man, but your H is the one who decided to start talking to her on the sly.
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  • Not that I'm letting her off the hook in any way, but whether she knows she is married or not, HE made those vows to you, not her.Yes, I personally would call her and find out what she has to say, but the brunt of my wrath would be on the H. It sounds like she is young and looking for a replacement no matter if he is married or not.
  • 1) on the subject of getting the texts, is the subpoena policy applying because yours is not the name on the account?  Can he request transcripts without a lawyer?  If so, I'd insist he do so, and I would not take no for an answer, if he wants you to believe nothing is going on.2) on the subject of calling, I'd steer clear of the "are you ***ing my H.  I'd go with "My h told me about your relationship, and I wanted to know what your intentions are, now that I know.Or something that leaves it open for her to do the talking. 
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  • I'd call her, not to fight for my husband, but to say "hey, woman to woman, just be honest so I can make a decision. What has happened between you and my husband?"Whoever said she might be honest is right, especially if she thinks it would expedite your breakup and get them together, which is what she seems to be expecting to happen eventually anyway, with her "patience."Your husband appears to be doing the "tell the mistress I'm leaving my wife for her, but don't necessarily have plans to do so" schtick.
  • Don't listen to Cali.  Biitch her out, make her cry.  she's half to blame for being a hoarface.
  • Groomz, we have a family share plan, and the service is only in my name, not his.  The phone line he uses is the extra one for $9.99 a month.  I did get a little crazy with the Verizon guy...."Why the hell do I need a subpoena for my own dammn phone?!"  He said that it's their policy, end of story.  I am trying to find my balls and call this whore.
  • Very wise Groomz is.
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  • Groomz wise is.  
  • Better yet dont call her. Pay her a little visit, not to beat the snot out of her. But only to talk to her about this face to face. Maybe she will show you the texts.Then you can beat the truth out of her.
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  • i'd be really civil during the convo with her. but seriously, i'd do it SOON. before he gets ahold of her and coaches her on what to say to you.  
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  • I tried to call her cell phone and she did not answer.  I called the hotel where she works, and she doesn't come into work today until 3.  That's only 30 minutes from now, so I'll probably call back before I lose my nerve.
  • Not having read ALL the post because there are SO many of them..  Could it be that since she doesn't know you, that is her way of asking him if you are possessive and would be upset if he got an email from another woman... Not necessarily that there is anything going on, but I've had guys that I have worked with briefly ask if my FI would be mad if they added me as their friend on FB... I think it is more out of courtesy for you... and with his response of "totally" is saying that you are a cool person and would not be upset.. But I don't know the whole story and if you have reason to be suspicious... and since you posted it on here and have had over 150 responses, maybe he doesn't realize it would upset you as it most definitely has...
  • well don't be shocked if she doesn't go into a huge amount of detail. I mean, she is at work and all. but I wouldn't let that deter me from calling. just don't act all crazy-psycho-b!tch. I would guess she'd turn defensive, and it would reinforce her mentality that he and she are an alliance against Team Crazy Wife. but i'd be asking what the nature of their relationship is, and what sorts of things they talk about. I'm guessing her answers will vary from his.
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  • We need to set up a conference call number for this call.I think you are more likely to get more information out of her if you approach the conversation as Groomz suggested.
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  • Stout sounds like she should be supplying excuses to cheating husbands.
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