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TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!!

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Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!!

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-time-child-ruined-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c0b0955a-7390-4f72-b02c-cb18904dffeaPost:a2f1eef9-b11a-49cb-b2cd-e93b95f8bab2">Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I didn't want kids at my wedding because I wanted it to be an adult event. The same way that I might want to go out to dinner with only adults but be happy to go to the pool with kids. It has nothing to do with thinking they'd ruin things unless "things" include the vibe that I wanted for the reception.
    Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

    I feel exactly the same as this!
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    [QUOTE]Remind me not to post a question about children again.
    Posted by bkel131[/QUOTE]


    Bkel: This post isn't just in response to your question. We get this question A LOT, and many times the poster just acts ridiculous. You are well within your rights not to want kids at your wedding. Some people don't, and that's okay. Lala's right--sometimes kids DO act up and cause problems. This question has just been brought up a lot lately, so I think that's where this thread is coming from. I don't think anyone is making fun of you, specifically.  We're just sharing our own experiences here, and showing that, in a lot of cases, brides' worries that a kid is going to ruin the wedding is vastly exaggerated.
  • I just don't think kids belong certain places. weddings are one of those places, unless you want them there. I won't be taking my kids.

    I also think people who bring their kids to weddings are trying to AW how "cute" their kids are. ugh.
  • I would probably not take Jocelyn to a wedding with me unless there were already going to be a ton of kids there. 

    I did take her to a wedding in October but only because the brides mom begged me to bring her after I didn't include her on the RSVP. 
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    [QUOTE]whenTF did this become a place where you can't not want kids at your wedding? where am I? kids suck. yeah, I said it.
    Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
    I do wonder this as well.
  • I guess I'm with LDY on this in that not having kids just didn't fit in with my family and the style of wedding.  I have a large, close-knit family.  There are so many pictures of me and my cousins from attending weddings and dancing around with the B&G.  I think we've ended up inviting about 20 kids under the age of 5 (although only 1/2 of them at most are coming).   That's just our style.

    Not knocking those who had all adult affairs, just stating why we have done it our way.
  • laladypoetlaladypoet member
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    edited April 2011
    sorry, guys, I haven't been around so I didn't know this had been brought up a lot lately. but I don't think it's cool to make someone feel bad for wanting a kid-free wedding. no one gave me a hard time about it.  this is a wedding site after all. how are posters supposed to know what's been a popular question if this is their first time here?

    ETA: I  had a double-negative, my b :)
  • Stackeye210Stackeye210 member
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    edited April 2011
    lala I can get on board with that.

    ETA:  not the lala post right above, the one before that.  :) 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!! : I do wonder this as well.
    Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

    Really? No one has said this.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!! : yeah, no. I've been to several weddings where kids mucked it up. I've never once been to a reception where an ambulance was needed, and I'm friends with a bunch of drunks who could've easily gotten alcohol poisoning. but excuse me all to hell for admitting kids can ruin weddings. as for the other stuff you mentioned, let me get you a stool. cause you're reaching.
    Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

    <div>That's your opinion, and that's fine.  I've been to plenty of weddings with kids, and never seen anything happen that came close to ruining the wedding.  However I have been to a wedding where someone left in an ambulance because of chest pains.  Also, the new wife of a guy I taught with collapsed during pictures after their ceremony, and had to be rushed to the ER and needed emergency surgery on their wedding day and almost died.  So really, I wasn't reaching that far.  </div><div>
    </div><div>I don't think anything is wrong with people wanting a no kids wedding.  I've already said that.  I just think it's a lame excuse to say they could ruin it, because lots of things could ruin it.</div>
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  • We didn't mind kids coming since it was a very casual wedding with lots of open space for them to run around, but I will say that I was relieved one friend left his kids at home. He lets the younger one run wild, and the kid is scary. Like, tortures little animals and steals from you and breaks stuff on his cousins' heads just for a laugh kind of scary. He needs help, but good luck telling the father that.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!! : I do wonder this as well.
    Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

    this just reminds me of the first and only time I posted a question on cruisecritic. I asked if there were typically lots of kids on cruises in october. the level of righteous indignation from mothers was just vomit-worthy.
  • RU-EEENED!

    Anyone else keep saying it like Stewie?
  • And H and I have already said that when we have kids and have weddings to go to, we will be getting babysitters.  We will want our nights out too.  However, for our wedding, I couldn't imagine not having my little cousins there because I am extremely close with them.  
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  • When I was 3 I was in my aunt's wedding.  I was the flower girl. After the pictures were done at the altar, I decided to go running through the church and try to touch the altar (which is kind of a no no if you are Catholic).  Well, my mom made a passing grab at me when I went by and accidently dislocated my shoulder.   Of course, she learned never to do that particular move again and I was fine after a short ER visit.  They came back to the wedding (insane) and I ran up to my great-grandfather who was smoking a cigar.  He caught in me in the eyebrow with the coal of the cigar.  So, yeah...granted this is a great way to make my parents feel guilty now, it was kind of a bummer then.

    Although, at this same wedding, the groom and his groomsmen were dancing on the table when it collapsed off the pedestal and one groomsman had to get stitches.  It was a crazy time.  lol
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!! : That's your opinion, and that's fine.  I've been to plenty of weddings with kids, and never seen anything happen that came close to ruining the wedding.  However I have been to a wedding where someone left in an ambulance because of chest pains.  Also, the new wife of a guy I taught with collapsed during pictures after their ceremony, and had to be rushed to the ER and needed emergency surgery on their wedding day and almost died.  So really, I wasn't reaching that far.   I don't think anything is wrong with people wanting a no kids wedding.  I've already said that.  <strong>I just think it's a lame excuse to say they could ruin it, because lots of things could ruin it.</strong>
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

    who are you to say what would and wouldn't ruin a wedding for any given bride?
  • Look, I think that with the amount of people on here who haev gotten KU has changed the way people respond to this post.  That's it.  Before, people were allowed to do whatever.  But lately, it's been very finger-waggy.  "You can do it, but people won't like it!"
  • My thinking is that if you want an adult-only wedding - which I did - then man up and have your party the way you want. There's no need to try to convince people that you HAVE to have one because children RUIN things.

    And please stop being such a drama queen as to think that someone a noise during your ceremony - which is a common concern, babies crying - will ruin your whole wedding. It won't. Really. It's not ideal, but you will not collapse in a corner and cry for the rest of the night as a result.

    THAT is my issue with some of these posts, the attitude of whiny princess-ness. It's not the adults-only sentiment.
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    [QUOTE]RU-EEENED! Anyone else keep saying it like Stewie?
    Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

    YES.
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  • We had an adults-only wedding because that's what we wanted.  We wanted loud music, lots of alcohol, and a grown-up night (no chicken fingers being served, etc.).  We didn't think kids would ruin the wedding, we just thought that our vision for our wedding was not going to be kids-appropriate.  It's sort of like taking kids to fancy restaurants.  I don't think it's fair to the other people paying $100/pp to have a nice night out to have a screaming child at the next table.  That was my and H's choice.  And people respected that.  I'm sure some of our guests RSVP'd no because they had a lot of kids and couldn't find a babysitter for the 3 days to travel out to CA, but again, we made that decision unapologetically.


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    [QUOTE]Look, I think that with the amount of people on here who haev gotten KU has changed the way people respond to this post.  That's it.  Before, people were allowed to do whatever.  <strong>But lately, it's been very finger-waggy.  "You can do it, but people won't like it!"</strong>
    Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

    I hadn't noticed that, but I see where you're coming from if that's what you've seen.

    To be honest, I don't usually read all the follow-ups on threads about this topic because it's annoying and has been overdone lately, so I don't know what the tone has been.
  • laladypoet you seem to be the only one getting indignant, no one said you shouldn't have children at your wedding, they just said they didn't feel the same way

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!! : YES. cool-w h ip.
    Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

    Was just going to write this.  Eye to eye.
  • But again, if you're going to let small things ruin a day that's supposed to be about you and your loved ones, you probably aren't going to be happy about everything anyway.

    that's right up there with "if you don't know how to do a budget, you shouldn't be getting married anyway" in the smug department. my ass just twitched involuntarily.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!! : YES. cool-w h ip.
    Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

    **LIKE**
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    [QUOTE]laladypoet you seem to be the only one getting indignant, no one said you shouldn't have children at your wedding, they just said they didn't feel the same way
    Posted by ahebert159[/QUOTE]
    you know me so well.
  • My niece/FG (21 months old at the time) refused to wear her dress shoes because they hurt her feet. So she wore her pink sneakers with her ivory dress instead. And then she had the gall to dance with one of DH's boy cousin's (about the same age) before we had our first dance. They were so cute, they stuck by each other for the rest of the night. Until they fell asleep.

    I think having kids or not not having them is a personal choice. Just like everyone has a different vision for their colors or food or wedding dress, people can have great weddings with and without kids.
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  • I prefer that kids aren't at weddings, either.

    And they weren't at mine.

    Some people like kids at weddings. That's cool.

    Some people don't. That is ALSO cool.

    And that's what I have to say about that.
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  • I don't think that's true Snippy. 

    I've had a kid the entire time I've been a poster and I've never once thought my kid SHOULD be welcomed every where I'm welcomed.  I've also never believed that having an adult only reception is bad. 

    I even wanted an adult only wedding (including not having my daughther there), but as I was planning my wedding plans didn't really shape up to be a formal affair where kids would be out of place. 

    I think people are entitled to have the option of their guest list.

    This thread was not supposed to get all up in arms.  It was supposed to be fun.  Whether we were talking about ruined weddings or not ruined weddings. 

    It's really not that serious. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!! : who are you to say what would and wouldn't ruin a wedding for any given bride?
    Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

    <div>I really don't get why you're getting so annoyed about what I'm saying.  I already said I have no problem with people who want to have a no-kids wedding.  I just think there are a ton of things that could ruin a wedding, and trying to plan around them is ridiculous.  It's different for each person though, and for what kids you have that would or wouldn't be invited.  For me, the risk of something happened wasn't enough for me not to have my little cousins there.  But we didn't extend the kids invite to all of our friends kids because I didn't want 30 kids at our wedding.  </div>
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