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salt78 · November 2009

I wish you could email cheesecake.

lillianchameleon · November 2009

ndo- Yes, we talked about it while I visited him. We decided we would hold off wedding plans, but then over the weekend all we talked about was "our future" and we realized, nothing between us had really changed and we still wanted to get married and be together as much as we did before, if not more.

shellydiane820 · November 2009

Is this Mandy's troll?Has anyone figured out her troll yet?

salt78 · November 2009

Yeah you should totally believe absolutely everything your "delusional" boyfriend says.

scoetto · November 2009

Best. Cheesecake. Ever. Everybody gets a slice! (Unless J decides to eat it all - he just went back for 2 more slices. That's 3 total in 5 minutes)IMYOTDSOTM, I really think these ladies are giving you sound advice. Take some time and work on yourself before trying to "fix" others. I've seen what a sh!tty marriage can do to friends who married too young for the wrong reasons. Please heed these words.

mwhitson14 · November 2009

and we realized, nothing between us had really changedHE TOLD YOU HE DIDN'T WANT TO BE WITH YOU! THAT IS A CHANGE!

janedoe1113a · November 2009

We decided we would hold off wedding plans, but then over the weekend all we talked about was "our future" and we realized, nothing between us had really changed and we still wanted to get married and be together as much as we did before, if not more.Oh FFS!

lillianchameleon · November 2009

I don't understand why people are saying "You're young, date people..." I never found dating to be enjoyable experience.

agk0125 · November 2009

we realized, nothing between us had really changed and we still wanted to get married and be together as much as we did before, if not more.Last I checked having my heart broken by the person I trust most in the world would make me want to marry him significantly less. NOT more.He basically caused your life to cave in around you for NO REASON and you're letting him back in without even the bat of an eye. If you let him off the hook this easily you're basically giving him PERMISSION to do it again..and again.If you insist on staying with him (which it seems we can't talk you out of it) at least lay down the mutha-fucckin law on his azz with some sort of probation period. For all you know in two weeks you're going to realize how mad at him you actually are. Take some time for yourself to let the reality of this whole crazy situation to sink in.

smokeybailey · November 2009

You are just 20. Dating as a teenager is a different ball game than dating as a mature, self actualized woman. If you think it's the same thing, that's part of the problem.

agk0125 · November 2009

I don't understand why people are saying "You're young, date people..." I never found dating to be enjoyable experience.I think you're going to find getting divorced because you didn't want to shop around even less enjoyable.

lyndausvi · November 2009

I didn't say date around. I said live. You are not living right now. You have convinced yourself that staying with a loser is better than being alone. I'm saying it's not. Besides you even admited nothing has changed. You are not happy now, can you imagine yourself in 40 years.

Nebb · November 2009

I have NO idea whats going on, but I said from the beginning this chick was cracked. I stand by my previous statement.

betrothed123 · November 2009

I don't understand why people are saying "You're young, date people..."It's not so much "date people," as it is "don't settle." There's a difference. Why would you settle for someone who has already told you he doesn't want to be with you? If you just go back to him he will do it again, because he knows he can. all he has to do is apologize and tell you he loves you and you're back.

scoetto · November 2009

I have NO idea whats going on, but I said from the beginning this chick was cracked. I stand by my previous statement. Nebb, I totally less than three you.

fangsiting · November 2009

I wasn't a huge fan of dating either, but that didn't mean I married the first loser I met.

smokeybailey · November 2009

And we have a winna, winna, winna....Step right up, Fang and get your prize.

Nebb · November 2009

That took me WAY too long to figure out sco, I think there is something wrong with my brain. I thought you meant you like me less than the number 3. I get it now

lillianchameleon · November 2009

One thing to keep in perspective is that its not like my FI and I have all the time in the world to decide whether or not we want to get married. He's in the military and will be sent who knows where for long periods of time... and I either will decide to marry him and go with him, or go to grad school because I am graduating next year (so if I decide to go to grad school the time to apply is approaching).

redheadfsu · November 2009

Please get yourself counseling b/f you start wedding planning again. You need time & healing, then look at your relationship. You need to understand why you put up with someone that treats you like this before you can even start to fix your relationship with him. This much drama now & believe me you will be getting a divorce. I would bet money on it.

scoetto · November 2009

Nebb that makes me giggle :)tlv - you are wise.

lyndausvi · November 2009

One thing to keep in perspective is that its not like my FI and I have all the time in the world to decide whether or not we want to get married. He's in the military and will be sent who knows where for long periods of time... and I either will decide to marry him and go with him, or go to grad school because I am graduating next year (so if I decide to go to grad school the time to apply is approaching).Do you read what you post?You know there are people who do both right? Marry military and go to grad school. Some live LD, others just pick a grad school closer to their FI/DH.

J&K10910 · November 2009

For serious? SO you're going to rush into dating a guy that was a total jerk to you just because he's in the military?! That's the worst idea I've ever heard. And I worked with criminals. I've heard a lot of bad ideas.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · November 2009

Dammit, now I'm craving cheesecake.

sarah0725 · November 2009

I'm just going to say that I'm really glad that I didn't marry the guy I thought I wanted to marry when I was 20. Sure, I'm only 25 now, but being in that other relationship before getting together with FI taught me a lot about what I was worth, and what I should put up with in a relationship, and what should make me leave. It was good for me to learn those things.I know it feels really patronizing to have people tell you that you're too young or that you don't know what you're doing, but it comes out of experience. I think you're doing the right thing by seeing a therapist. Hopefully everything else will work itself out.

redheadfsu · November 2009

Please do mot rush into marriage b/c of the military. PLEASE! He has been a jerk. This is why I will always have a job doing divorces.

janedoe1113a · November 2009

Just because he's in the military does not mean you need to marry him immediately. My FI and I had a 16 month engagement and he's in the military. No rush here!And if you want to go to grad school, you need to do that. You do not need to get married and move and not go to grad school because you will most likely not do it later in life. Apply to grad school and if it's meant to be, he'll wait for you.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · November 2009

Wait what?If you are thinking about not going to grad school only because you might get married, you need to rethink your life.Or are you thinking about grad school because your friends are doing it and you aren't really sure what you want to do with your career? If that's the case, you should put off marriage AND grad school until you figure more stuff out.

bintmejnuna · November 2009

OK. I feel compelled to post after the "we have to get married because he's military" comment. NO YOU DON'T! There's this thing you can do, it's called a long distance relationship. And if you don't think the relationship will survive one, how the hell do you expect to get through deployments?! Take some time and think this over! This is the mentality that leads to so many military marriages failiing.

lillianchameleon · November 2009

Yeah, I know I can do both. But I don't really want to go to grad school at this point in my life. I would really love to be a stay at home wife for awhile and make art.. and figure out what direction I want to go with it from there. That would be my ideal situation.

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