You've just lost any help or support you might have gotten here with that last statement, I believe.
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I love you Missy. Even though you are not smart enough to take online quizzes to find out really important information. ~cew
I don't know of many people who WANT to work. But, they're mature enough to find an occupation that is as enjoyable as possible, and they utilize their remaining free time to do the things they enjoy. If you can't comprehend that. . . I don't know what to tell you. Learn how to take care of yourself and make yourself happy. Until you do, nobody else will be able to do it for you either.
The more you post, the lesser I think of you. I have honestly not heard this much idiocy coming from one person in a while.Grow the F up, get over it, and suck it up. Its called being an ADULT. You are 20 and by the way you talk, i really dont think youre there yet.
I planned on working at an high school art teacher after college, but my FI explained that with his job it wouldn't be necessary. It wasn't like I decided it was my goal to be dependent on something. I still plan on working as a freelance photographer if there is any demand for it in the area we are stationed. When I say I'm sick of working I didn't necessarily mean a paying job. I've just had to help take care of people and such since I was 7 and I'm emotionally drained.
I agree with everyone. Dating is hard....divorce is harder. If you are miserable now, you will be miserable when you are married. You will be divorced with no job experience and no money. Needing time alone to express yourself =/=marrying someone who doesn't know if he wants you. He disappears to "think" because he finds a new thrill for a week or two. But I am not going to tell you that you are too young to get married...I think you have too many self-esteem and mental health issues to get married. You shouldn't marry this guy even if you were 40. Even if you date you will not find a good guy if you feel so poorly about yourself. I am not trying to be mean. I had a very hard life too, and I spent many years engaging in self destructive behaviors and thought patterns. You need to help yourself. No man will ever make you happy if you are not happy.
Unless he is a higher up officer in the military, it is usually necessary for the wife to work. They do not make that much money. Your boyfriend is delusional.
Ok. So. Game plan.Step 1. Get off the BC.Step 2. Poke holes in the condom.Step 3. Have lots of sex.Step 4. Free support FOEVAH!!!Voila, I just solved your problem for you. You're welcome!
[i]I've just had to help take care of people and such since I was 7 and I'm emotionally drained.[/i] Entering into a marriage with a guy that's not 110% committed to you (the plural you) will be more emotionally taxing than you could possibly imagine. Find your own way. Don't rely on someone for it. You will be a happier, healthier perso in the end.
Yeah...none of us wanted to work and at 20 I don't buy your "I've worked so hard my whole life" story. Maybe I'm wrong and you have had a shitty life, but a lot people have shitty childhoods without using it as an excuse to be a bum. If I married my bf at 20 I would have probably been divorced by 30. We had constant fights about everything, but then we "realized how much we loved each other and it would be ok". Um yeah, not so much. It took me 3 years to finally get the courage to leave that douche because I was more willing to be miserable with him than to take the chance of being on my own. As far as the military thing goes, I think that's even more reason to wait. Let him be deployed and do what he needs to do and then get married if being LD works out for you both. Dh has told me a lot of stories of what married and unmarried military guys do while deployed, and from the comments in this thread I gather your fi would be the perfect candidate for some of these horror stories. (Obviously I'm not refering to our military knotties)
If I wasn't sure if she was fake before, now I'm 100% positive. Not many people WANT to work. We're just not big enough of babies to admit that and hope to ride on someone else's cheating lying commitment phobic delusional user coattails.
Do not mess in the affairs of dinosaurs because you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup.
I love you Missy. Even though you are not smart enough to take online quizzes to find out really important information. ~cew
[i]I still plan on working as a freelance photographer if there is any demand for it in the area we are stationed. [/i] Yes and I'm sure that if you create "art" as awesome as your "engagement photo" that you will be in extremely high demand.
You are kidding yourself if you think you can live off of his earnings from the military. My dad was in the military for 20 years and I remember when I was a kid that both of my parents had to work 2 jobs just to make ends meet
He gets allowances from a trust. He doesn't get all his income from work.I didn't ask to not work. It was offered. I planned on working. He doesn't think its necessary. Maybe it will be necessary... I don't know yet.
Um yeah, my husband is the identical twin of Gerard Butler.Hehehe.Why on earth would you give up your plan (to teach art) just because he says you don't "need" to. Just because you may not need it financially doesn't mean you don't need it for your own emotional health and happiness. My FI makes enough to support both of us but I'd go BSC if I didn't work.Well..maybe you already are BSC so you don't have to worry about that.(P.S. I don't think you're real either.)
Now you are reminding me of one of my old associates.She came to our store at age 26, prior to getting an $8/hour cashier job, she hadn't worked since she was a cashier at age 16. When she was 16 she met "the love of her life" and since he was in the army he told her she never had to work again. So she didn't, and when she was 19 they had their first kid. He handled all the finances so she didn't see how incredibly in debt they were becoming. Then at 25 he left her with the kid and suddenly she had to get a job. Turns out when you haven't worked for years at such a young age it's really hard to get a decent job to support yourself, and pull yourself out of the crazy debt that dear old husband put you into.
Okay, so assuming you're for real and all your money and not working prayers have really been answered, it still doesn't address the whole 'he treats you like crap' aspect of the whole thing.
Get a prenup. A decent family law attorney runs about $250 an hour these days. I'm quite sure he won't want to be paying that out of his "trusts"This just keeps getting better and better.
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