FFF

jessjo04 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:d9421a70-93b6-49f7-8132-4eb1955897a1">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : ^ This and to me, I just get the feeling that you put the ticker up just to see what reaction you would get from E.
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

I'm pregnant and excited about it. Other people have had pregnancy tickers. I usually post on TB, if your panties are in a twist over my once ticker, you should see it over there.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:abddac36-28ba-4ace-93fc-a9cecd1364e0">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : While I find that a bit insensitive, I'm used to that on this board. Also, <strong>there is a difference between posting about it on a message board and telling everyone IRL.</strong>
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

I don't really see how.

I'm in Salt's judgy boat with early pregnancy announcements.

jessjo04 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:ff9a60c6-abe2-46bb-a530-8b8ea1a84894">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I fail to see how it was insensitive, but whatever. If you didn't want an explanation, you shouldn't have asked for one. I am pretty sure you knew what I was getting at anyway when I posted why it bothered me. We ARE real people over here too, you know. Either way...best of luck with your pregnancy. HI KIKI! I have missed your face too. And the internet. And my sanity.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

Maybe I assumed wrong, but when you said I shouldnt be broadcasting it yet, you were referring to the high miscarrage rate in early pregnancy. Usually when people don't talk about their pregnancy in the early stages, its because they worry about losing the pregnancy.

kikibaby · August 2010

Sooo, you're used to this board's "insensitivity", but you came over here after a long absence to say "OH HAI EVERYONE, I'M PREGNANT!" I agree that you were kinda dipping a toe in to see if you'd get a reaction- you always loved drama.

Annnyway, hope your life gets less hectic, Salty, we need you around here

pinkpinot · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:0c203324-6c08-4021-8e2b-566593948983">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I'm pregnant and excited about it. Other people have had pregnancy tickers. I usually post on TB, if your panties are in a twist over my once ticker, you should see it over there.
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

My panties aren't twisted over the ticker but the amount of time in your ticker. Salt & Mery, is there room in your boat?

jessjo04 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:d9602051-16e6-4623-a269-ed4cfb841ede">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : My panties aren't twisted over the ticker but the amount of time in your ticker. Salt & Mery, is there room in your boat?
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

I didnt realize that my pregnancy was supposed to be a secret... May I have the timeline for when I can tell people?

salt78 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:a74bfed1-aa40-47fc-8773-c32eef10999f">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Maybe I assumed wrong, but when you said I shouldnt be broadcasting it yet, you were referring to the high miscarrage rate in early pregnancy. Usually when people don't talk about their pregnancy in the early stages, its because they worry about losing the pregnancy.
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

<div>My mother has been a neonatal and women's health nurse for 20 years. For me personally I would not discuss a pregnancy so early. </div>

andy71781 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:037358be-6e08-42d7-98ff-d2aab09cc239">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I didnt realize that my pregnancy was supposed to be a secret... May I have the timeline for when I can tell people?
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

Maybe I've been spending too much time over at TN and TB but I see nothing wrong with an early baby ticker. Congrats Jessjo!

salt78 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:7f70ab83-fc98-4023-a2ec-7d2f65b7dd54">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]SAnnnyway, hope your life gets less hectic, Salty, we need you around here :)
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

<div>Ugh me too. It should calm down in a couple weeks when we get through fall promotions. :) </div>

smokeybailey · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:a74bfed1-aa40-47fc-8773-c32eef10999f">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Maybe I assumed wrong, but when you said I shouldnt be broadcasting it yet, you were referring to the high miscarrage rate in early pregnancy. Usually when people don't talk about their pregnancy in the early stages, its because they worry about losing the pregnancy.
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

That's what I thought...I was always told that you don't announce it to anyone until you are in your third month or something like that since the risk is so high for miscarriage in the first couple months (for everyone).

jessjo04 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:65ca4edf-c58d-4384-9dc9-05fee1012c4b">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : That's what I thought...I was always told that you don't announce it to anyone until you are in your third month or something like that since the risk is so high for miscarriage in the first couple months (for everyone).
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

I understand the chances of miscarrage. I don't think people should tell me not to talk about it. Especially since I've been on the bump, I've been talking about my pregnancy before I was pregnant.

kikibaby · August 2010

I've always figured I wouldn't tell anyone but close family until the second tri. I just wouldn't want to have to tell people like co-workers that I had a miscarriage.

salt78 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:097033a2-0f28-4779-9f9c-2f98d1101a16">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I understand the chances of miscarrage. I don't think people should tell me not to talk about it. Especially since I've been on the bump, I've been talking about my pregnancy before I was pregnant.
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

<div>I didn't say you should be muzzled for talking about it. What I said is that I side-eye your decision to do so.</div>

salt78 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:d85ce427-fa5f-4954-b857-ffbbbcb81778">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I've always figured I wouldn't tell anyone but close family until the second tri. I just wouldn't want to have to tell people like co-workers that I had a miscarriage.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

<div>This is me exactly. </div>

jnic0319 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:d85ce427-fa5f-4954-b857-ffbbbcb81778">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I've always figured I wouldn't tell anyone but close family until the second tri. I just wouldn't want to have to tell people like co-workers that I had a miscarriage.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. A girl at work told us all she was pregnant at 7 weeks. At 10 she lost the baby. The next month of people asking and her explaining was a disaster.

pinkpinot · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:037358be-6e08-42d7-98ff-d2aab09cc239">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I didnt realize that my pregnancy was supposed to be a secret... May I have the timeline for when I can tell people?
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

I'd probably wait until around 10 weeks when I could have my first ultra sound before I told anyone.

Celles · August 2010

I don't know who Jessjo is and I don't have a horse in this race, BUT --

BPS has pretty much convinced me that everyone on The Bump is insane, so I'm not sure I'd use what's considered "normal" over there as some kind of barometer.

salt78 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:795e4c66-958b-4a06-b897-823bf0446e76">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]BUT -- BPS has pretty much convinced me that everyone on The Bump is insane, so I'm not sure I'd use what's considered "normal" over there as some kind of barometer.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah I've lurked over there occasionally and pretty much figured out that it would NOT be a good fit for me whenever I decide to have a baby.</div>

kikibaby · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:795e4c66-958b-4a06-b897-823bf0446e76">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't know who Jessjo is and I don't have a horse in this race, BUT -- BPS has pretty much convinced me that everyone on The Bump is insane, so I'm not sure I'd use what's considered "normal" over there as some kind of barometer.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

*insert thumbs up symbol here*

smokeybailey · August 2010

I think we can all agree:

The Bump = Let's go crazy

And not in the good Purple Rain Prince way.

jessjo04 · August 2010

Ok, then if I have a m/c you can all say 'I told you so'.

salt78 · August 2010

I have that song on my iPod. I think I'll listen to it on my way home.

salt78 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:a614d475-a306-45a8-b4ef-aebce0181e9e">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok, then if I have a m/c you can all say 'I told you so'.
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

<div>Um no because that would be a sick and mean thing to say. </div><div>
</div><div>EDIT: Personally I just prefer to never be put in a position where I might have to feel sadness like that for someone at some point. Hence why I wouldn't tell anyone until I was further along. </div><div>
</div><div>But it's your poppyseed, so broadcast it all you like. </div>

georgia_bride09 · August 2010

The Bump makes Britney Spears/ the cast of Celebrity Rehab/ David Hasselhoff/ Alec Baldwin seem sane.

jessjo04 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:b64e56f0-f194-4c45-b9c5-3c7b72a24275">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Um no because that would be a sick and mean thing to say. EDIT: Personally I just prefer to never be put in a position where I might have to feel sadness like that for someone at some point. Hence why I wouldn't tell anyone until I was further along. But it's your poppyseed, so broadcast it all you like.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

Well thats how I took what you said earlier. Like "well, you'll probably miscarry anyway, so why announce it now?" Hormones do crazy things, its not like I'm not thinking about it most of the time anyway.

kikibaby · August 2010

We're not complete a-holes, jessjo. I'm pretty sure we also said "congrats" and "good luck". You think anybody here is wishing bad things on you/your baby? Not at all.

smokeybailey · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:a3eaa88b-e393-449c-9785-48653fdc402c">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I have that song on my iPod. I think I'll listen to it on my way home.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

I had two choices of a post to quote. I chose the first and then ignored it because it was just TOO morbid and went with this one.

So when u call up that shrink in Beverly Hills
U know the one - Dr Everything'll Be Alright
Instead of asking him how much of your time is left
Ask him how much of your mind, baby.

Indeed. How much of your mind IS left?

I love Prince more than enything. If it was 1984 I would totally have a Purple Rain themed wedding. I would make Mark wear the ruffled shirt with the purple jacket. I would do the big Apollonia hair. It would be all shades of purple awesome.

salt78 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:0466b8af-b9e3-4a73-83d0-42f1fe9452c6">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Well thats how I took what you said earlier. Like "well, you'll probably miscarry anyway, so why announce it now?"
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh no. That is not at all how I meant it. And I really hate to be having this conversation too if that tells you anything else about how I feel about it. I would never want to think of anyone miscarrying...real life friend or not.</div>

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-40?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef2b606f-cd70-46ff-b7bf-33616432238ePost:037358be-6e08-42d7-98ff-d2aab09cc239">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I didnt realize that my pregnancy was supposed to be a secret... May I have the timeline for when I can tell people?
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

Most people wait until the end of the first trimester.

This isn't all about you. I have a friend from high school who announced her pregnancy on FB at three weeks and I judged that. (I don't even know how one knows they are pregnant at 3 weeks.)

And don't go around pretending to be a victim and crying that we're wishing a miscarriage on you. That's so far from what anyone said that it's actually crazy.

quotequeen · August 2010

I flame MacFreitas for deciding to register after going on and on and on about how registries are the tackiest thing ever and she would never do one over on R&G. And for deleting the posts where she said all of those things.

FFF

Re: FFF

Choose Another Board

Search Boards