Maybe this is no comparison but will hopefully help.
First no need to stress no matter what your weight is you will be beautiful on your special day, and be proud of that.
Second I do understand where you are coming from, My MOH has lost 20lbs, and looks amazing (I am very happy for her), and my other bridesmaids are slim and trim too! I have always been muscular, stocky what ever you want to call it. Which I was excited to get into a size 14 (which was a little big). I have now had to go back and get a size 22 possible 24 dress cause I found out I was pregnant, and will be 8 months when I get married. At this point I have finally gotten over the size ordeal. I have come to realize I am being double blessed this year!
So please keep your head up you will be beautiful no mater what size you or your bridesmaids are!
Try P90X, if you actually do the workout regularly you can lose weight not even sticking to the diet plan that goes with it.... I was training for a triatholon and wanted to gain the strength and endurance so I did P90X with my FI minus the crazy diet...(I love my ice cream and carbs) and lost like 12lbs without even trying to....
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I know exactly what you mean, and I know we've all read and heard those little secrets to weight loss like taking a shot of vinegar before meals-whatever-the only way to lose weight IS commitment. But you know that.
I'd definitely consider trying a different birth control... I get the DEPO shot. I gained a little weight, but it wasn't bad and I've lost it. I'll also really recommend Alli. It does have some side-effects i.e. when I eat fatty foods I get pretty nauseous until it, ya know, passes. But frankly, it feels like more of a motivation not to! Its worked pretty well for me I've lost 25 lbs.
Before I lost the weight I was working out CONSTANTLY and never got anywhere. Its really all about the food. Working out is good for toning while you're losing weight and intervals work you out harder (fast slow fast slow) but it really is all about what you eat.
Try this, my Fiance and I went to this website. Picked out easy healthy meals that sounded good to us, wrote down the ingredients, and went grocery shopping. Buying ONLY things on the list. Go shopping with someone else so you are accountable. Only list items! Have back up quick meals for days that get away from you. Limit going out to eat. Limit it a lot. Not only will you lose weight but you'll save money!!
I too have an affinity for ice cream. Try buying FroYo. Its not the same but the one we get has only 1 gram of fat per serving! Another thing is, instead of/along with counting calories watch the grams of fat you are eating. That really matters. Infact I did a low calorie diet before and it did nothing for me. Low fat is the way to go.
Join a sport. Something you promise to be at weekly. Volleyball or something. Or maybe sign up for a kickboxing class at your gym. Stick to it. Go with a friend.
All in all support is free. I completely understand because out of all my bridesmaids I am I think the heaviest. Now, I'm taller and more chesty buuut I think its possible I am chubbier. They're all gorgeous, too. Its hard. Don't cheat yourself out of feeling the absolute best on YOUR day.
Don't end up regretting that chocolate ice cream (don't buy it!). Its not worth the way you will feel when you put on that dress and have no doubt on who all the attention will be on that day.
You can do it! You already sound like you have it down pat just stick with it. YOU'RE WORTH IT
I think that you have to be happy with yourself first. If you like the way you look then you will be a beautiful bride, but if you are comparing yourself to others then you are not going to look as pretty as you can. Dont let the "skinny" girls win. When i walk down the aisle all i care about it who i am walking down to, my future husband, he is the only one who should care about what you look like.. and come on you are a size 10, dont complain, you will loose the weight, just stay focused and dont compared yourself with others, it will only depress you even more. Good luck!!
I gained 13 lbs after moving in with my (now) fiance. Logging all my food into a website (fitday.com) helped me visualize and control my portions. I lost 12 lbs in 2 months. After a month of no weight loss I did yoga 3 times a week for 3 months and lost 8 more pounds. I havent been under 130 lbs in 10 years!
The birth control is definitely the problem - if you are doing all that and gaining weight, it's the clear culprit.
I had similar issues and when I went off BC - poof! it all went away. Severl girlfriends had the same experience.
I recommend switching to rubbers til after the honeymoon - jsut keep emergency contraception around in case they fail (EC is the same ingredients as birth control, but at least you won't be on a constant intake)
Keep your chin up and just remember on your wedding day the man that loves you is going to marry YOU... a size 4 or size 10 - he will love you no matter what! Stress plays a huge part of it... just keep eating those salads and check out sparkpeople.com - they are awesome recipies... Happy Wedding!
Let me tell you what has worked for me.. When I got engaged my dress size was a 20/22... More like 22.. that was March of this year.. Since then I limit my calories to 1200-1350 a day.. watch my carbs and fats.. I've been doign the subway diet for the most part.. but now I am replacing for different food.. Anyways.. I have lost 20lbs since May 11th.. And now I am comfortably in a size 18 dress.. And a 16 is two inches away from zipping all the way up.. I've done that in less then two months.. And really just watching what I eat and working out 3-4 times a week.. You need to switch up your work outs.. Like if you do cardio then weights do the opposite! Start off with weights and do cardio after.. That worked for me.. Also there is a website called fitclick.. you can track your food and exercise.. weight and measurements.. and its FREE. I swear by it.. people who log their food lost two times the amount of weight of those who dont! And strust me I know how it feels to think you're going to be the ugly one! All my wedding party is smaller then me. Thats why I am working so damn hard to be hotter!! ha ha.. You can do it!!
My fiance and I bought 10 class passes to our local Bikram yoga studio 3 weeks ago, and have gone 1-2 times per week, 90 minutes each session. It sounds lame, but we have both noticed significant changes in our bodies after just 5 classes. Depending on your size, you can burn anywhere from 700-1400 calories per class! That pretty much cancels out all my caloric intake!
I am in the same boat as you ladies. The only 2 things in my life that I am addicted to is 1. sex and 2. FOOD. I work for a Real Estate office and we are constantly getting food served and only thing that is helping me this far is at work I have a picture of my dress posted around my desk (that is were I have lunch) and I change the location of it weekly so that way the picture of my dress does not become part of the desk landscape. For home I have a picture of what I think is the most unflattering parts of my body on the fridge and in the living room were I usually sit and have my snack that is not part of my Menu for the day. Just started doing all that at the beginning of June and I have already lost 7lbs. Plus, my fiance encourages me, not for the wedding but for the honeymoon (Hawaii) , and I don't want to be a whale out on those beaches and I don't want to think back to my wedding and honeymoon and think I wish I wasn't so heavy. Oh, and lots of cardio-I bike for 20 minutes a day (so far) and go all out for that 20. Hope this helps!
I totally feel your pain, except I am using that frustration as my motivation. I lost 25 lbs over the last year for my wedding this October. Went from being the large one, to the smallest. Problem is now, my ladies want to look good too. ARGH! So they have now all started really losing weight and 2 are smaller than me now! I am trying to keep at it, logging calories is the best, that way you actually have to account to yourself and others if you make a group. That will stop you from eating those muffins...or you just won't get dinner....Last resort I am using an actual corset to make me as small as possible the day of! ;-)
Okay first relax!! You know how to lose weight, watch what you eat, etc. Good you're ahead of the game. BC sucks I hate it, it makes me hungry!!! My solution is water, I drink it like it's going out of style. I also started INSANITY! work out program from Beachbody. You won't be disappointed, it's super intense and it's a ton of cardio, it's hard. You will see results. Don't be so hard on yourself and don't pressure yourself because of your BM. You're going to look Fabulous!!! Good Luck!
Drink at least 96 oz. of water a day, an "average" person can lose up to 10lbs in a year just by drinking this much water. Get your omega threes and eat lots of protein. Protein fills you up and keeps you full longer. Change your eating to 200-300 calories 5 times a day...keeps your metabolism going. Hope this helps, it will if you try it! AND, remember, muscle weighs more than fat...if you started working out a lot more since you got your dress you may have gained 10 pounds in muscle.
Don't think too much about what you should look like. Your fiance proposed to you because he wanted to marry YOU, not your bridesmaids. Focus on what makes YOU special and unique! In my opinion, you should look like yourself on your wedding day, not a stick version of yourself. The last thing you want people to comment on is how gaunt you look in your wedding dress (one of my friends lost 20 pounds for her wedding and this is all people talked about--not to mention that she spent the whole night pulling her strapless dress up). Also, it's a good thing that your bridesmaids will look pretty, for yourself as much as for them (it will make your wedding more beautiful if you are lucky enough to have beautiful bridesmaids!)
Secondly, if you really do want to lose weight, try Calorie Count on the About.com website (do a google search). It's a free way to count your calories, and you may be surprised about how much you're really eating! (e.g. the milk in your cereal in the morning, the sugar in your coffee, the handful of nuts, the latte from Starbucks--these things all add up! If I were you, I would worry a lot more about what you eat than how much exercise you do. Running for an hour at a good pace will burn about 600 calories, and eating spaghetti and meatballs will put on 600 calories. Save the meatballs and some of the pasta, and go running for 20 minutes (much more sustainable!)
you could also do the dukan diet. i'm currently waaaay over where i want to be for my wedding, but i've lost close to 5 lbs in 3 days, so just a suggestion
I am working on loosing weight myself, as my BM's are all skinny (size 2's uck) and have the same issues (a street size 14). My sweet tooth is subsided by Jello whipped dark chocolate pudding. It is sooo good and only has 60 cals (saves me from the chocolate ice cream attacks). I also started a blog where I have to post my weight to cyber land. Taking responsibility for my eating and weight has made me be way more honest with myself. Since I started blogging, I've lost 18 lbs and am almost a size 10, but I also yoyo alot because of stress.
Have you thought about how your hair, accessories can make you really stand out from your BM's. You can't control the dresses now, but putting them in flats and super simple hairstyles (just a chic ponytail) can really tone them down and make you the star.
You will be fierce no matter what, and nobody will be looking at your entourage, they'll be oohing and ahhing over you!
What are you saying to yourself when you eat that muffin or go out with your friends? Is it something like, "I deserve this, I'm under a lot of stress and am working out like crazy..."? If it is, maybe you can find some other way to treat yourself, i.e. get a regular massage or mani-pedi, go out to the movies, or maybe buy those shoes you really want. Even make regular time to watch tv or read a book everyday, something that relaxes you. You are under a lot of stress and have a great workout routine, more than me! Make sure you take some time for you in a way that won't hurt your waistline!
I am in the same boat. I found my dress a year before my wedding, which will be Jan. 15, 2010. I have since gained 10 lbs. What I have noticed is portion control is my issue. I have been exercising 45-90 min. 6 days a week and have been gaining. Now that I have tried to pay attention to portion sizes my weight has started to slowly drop.
Good luck, I know you can do it, and no matter what, you will look great on your wedding day.
Honey, don't worry about it. It's your wedding day, people are coming to see you and your future husband, not to oogle your bridesmaids, and if they are, then they aren't there for the right reasons and probably shouldn't be invited. I'm sure there will be a few slimy guys at your wedding checking out the bridesmaids, but they do that anyway...a few of my fiance's friends are trying to figure out who my bridesmaids are and see if they can romance them...it's the fate of bridesmaids.
You will look beautiful no matter what...brides always do! I have seen brides who dressed their bridesmaids in hideous dresses because they thought it would make them look better, but it just looked tacky and immature, and good taste is more important than who is anorexically skinny. My waist is about a size 36, and I'm constantly fluctuating from a size 8 to a size 12 and I used to be a size 16. I know you've only got about a month to go, so here's my suggestion, drink a milk chocolate slim fast shake in the morning (about 200 calories of protein), have a slim fast meal bar for lunch (they taste like chocolate covered oreos and are about 100 calories) and have a salad or Subway sandwich for dinner. The key is to take in less calories than you use, and women shouldn't have more than 2,000 calories a day in general. You can even have a Slim Fast 100 calorie peanut butter crunch type snack bar that tastes like a butterfinger or a healthy choice fudgecicle. My mom is a size 22 and has already lost 10 pounds in 3ish weeks from this! I hope it works out, and even if it doesn't, you'll look wonderful!
Oh sweetie that sucks! Just rest assured, no matter how hot your wedding party is, no one can ever (and I mean EVER) eclipse the bride. Try not to stress about losing the weight - stress contributes to weight gain, so its really the last thing you want to do. If you need sweet snacks at work, try berries and yogurt or something... its super sweet and tasty, and you wont go for the 1000 cal muffin. And just so you know that its not awesome on the other end of the spectrum, I am by far the smallest member of my wedding party. all my BMs have HUGE boobs and are wearing low cut dresses (I let them pick). Although I dont mind the low cut styles, i do feel a little inadequate and i think I look like a 9 year old next to them! But i just keep telling myself what I told you - NO ONE ECLIPSES THE BRIDE :-) hehe. good luck hon!
The biggest thing you need to do is make a journal and LOOK at what you are doing. The average woman needs to only ingest between 1200-1400 calories a day to maintain a good healthy diet. I know it is old fashioned, but if you count your calories ( especially beverages, cause most people do not include them) you will find areas where you can trim and dispose of unnecessary calories. Only ingest things that you know you can burn off. If you are needing a boost, only ingest between 1000 - 1200 calories a day.(Only for a short period of time ) If in one work out you know that you burn 300 calories and you are only doing that work out 3 times a week then increase your work outs to balance for the extra calories you are eating and drinking. ( This allowing for those ice cream days ) If you stay between 1000-1400 calories a day and you are buring about 300 calories a day in exercise then by doing the math you can see that you will loose weight. Your body will have no choice but to do so. Personally, when I cust out my beverages I started loosing more weight again. It is stupid how many calories I was waisting a day by drinking them. Personally I'd like to eat my calories! And water also fills you up. Chug a glass right before you eat and right after. It will decrease the need to snack.
As for exercise... take advantage of stairs, parking far away from the door to any entrance forcing you to walk. Instead of using a shopping cart, use a handle held cart . all free exercise and great for toning your arms! Walk, bike, rollerblade, swim. whatever you like. Stand vs sitting and always suck in that tummy and push back your shoulders... its all about posture to get that core exercise! Its summer. take advantage of the outdoors. go for a hike, work your little tush into submission. And a key thing that works for me, is even when I'm tired I still work out. There is no need for excuses! After the workout you'll feel like you have accomplished something! The only failure is you if you don't push yourself. Do you want to be Hot on your wedding day. Will you need a mop to clean up your grooms drool. I certainly want that!
The best advice I was ever given was by a customer/client of mine is this; If you stay his girlfriend for life he'll always only have eyes for you. Be the hottie that you were when you met and fight for is attention the way we all do before we get that ring on our fingers. We are only as good as we allow our selfs to be!
Congrats on the wedding and I wish you luck. I am in the same boat and let me tell you . I am a warrior and this is a battle I will win! You will too
You need to go to beachbody.com and order either P90X...a 90 day workout that will transform ur body OR if you are super dedicated get INSANITY...you will not believe ur body in one month but it is very hard.
Hey rbtrumpet, I was in the same place when I got engaged, 30lbs heavier than I have ever been! I feel your pain! That was in January, and since then I have lost 15 lbs of it with very little excercise and not starving myself. Some things that helped me were to take the stairs instead of elevators every time possible. If you work at a desk and are able to listen to music, move your body to the music! It may look silly, but it is easy excercise that burns calories. Also, take a daily multivitamin. I started taking the target brand weight defense vitamins and lost four lbs in a month. It's not a diet pill or anything, just regular vitamins, green tea, and cayenne pepper powder. Along with eating healthier, these things got me down in pounds. Hope this helps! You can do it!
If you go low carb you will lose the weight. It's hard to do, but once you get started you'll feel better about yourself and you'll lose about 2 pounds a week to start. I've lost weight and my belly is flatter and i really did was change my diet.
1. only drink water. no pop, beer or coffee 2. no white flour - no white rice, white bread, white pasta 3. no wheat flour - no wheat bread, no whole grain, no wheat pasta. BROWN rice is OK. 4. NO fast food.
Live off chicken, shrimp, taco, or steak salads with no heavy dressing - just use salsa or a homemade dressing. Baked chicken is awesome. Taco salads without the shell. Chicken lettuce wraps. Vegetable steamers. Shrimp, talapia, any type of fish. But not fried fish though. Fruit is ok, but only eat in the a.m.
Your workout regimen should be mostly cardio and ONLY do weights like 2 x a week if that and dont do heavy weights. ONly do light weights and like 15 reps, 3 sets.
If you aim for 2 pounds a week, in about 2 months you'll be at your desired weight. ONce you reach your weight goal then you can allow yourself a cheat day where maybe you can have a cookie or two or eating out at a restaurant.
If you believe you can do it - you can do it! Good luck!!
my advice to you is to go and join sparkpeople.com i got down 15lbs in 3 weeks and i have remained at roughly that weight for a month. I still want to loose more weight before my wedding in september but it is a stressful period and Im not going to stress about that too. My other advice to you is when you go grocery shopping stay along the outter walls. Basically the grocery store i go to you walk in and you are in the produce dept. if you go through there you walk to the meat section. from there you go to the dairy section and from there you go to fresh breads. If you stay on the outter walls it is the "healthy food" dont be tempted to go down a middle isle just cuz you know there is potato chips down there, or pop or whatever. You need to have self control to lose weight. If you are only exercising and not really worrying about what you are eating its not going to really do any good for yourself. Loosing weight is something you need to WANT really bad if you just say you want it but arent willing to do anything extra to achieve it then you dont really want it. It is all about self control and it is hard but If you are getting married soon like i am ( september) then you just need to do something positive to keep yourself on track... for me my motivation is wanting to look beautiful and be skinnier in my wedding photos. My goal after the wedding is to be at a healthier weight so that i can have a healthier pregnancy ( when we get pregnant). So think about the future and things you want to stay motivated or think about different things you want and use those as motivators such as getting your hair dyed or getting a manicure or getting a new pair of shoes, whatever you like to do ( minus unheathly habits) and use that as your motivation. Tell yourself you cant have it until you get to a certain weight. You can set small goals like a hair cut or something for every 10lbs lost and when you get to bigger goals like 20 lbs, 50lbs. etc. go and get yourself a new outfit head to toes or something. Good luck and hope I helped a little!
My wedding isn't untill May 2011. But I still worried that I won't lose the weight in time. I have changed Jobs and this one is less active and I notice it everyday! The shift work and the long hours are really getting to me. I try and eat healthy, but there is just no motivation at all. (other then the wedding) I have gained at least 15 lbs since I bought my dress about 4 months ago! i've moved away from everyone I know, other then my fiance as he moved with me. He says I'm beautiful and he likes me the way I am, which sad to say isn't helping at all.
The most beautiful things in the world are not seen nor touched. They are felt with the heart.
-- Helen Keller
Get a personal trainer! Expensive yes, but so worth it having someone to actually stand over you and force you to do those crunches when you want to quit. I have lost about 20 pounds but has taken FOREVER, like 8 months and I was up and down and stress makes it so much harder to lose weight, but my trainer kept me going, he would make me text him my weight every Saturday morning (ugh). I am also doing the EAT CLEAN diet right now and it works quite well. BTW I have lost way more inches than weight, go figure. Don't stress you will look awesome. (That's what I tell myself at night) LOL. My big day is one month exactly and at this point, I have to be satisfied, I will be in the gym everyday until the wedding with my fiance and we will be eating healthy. You should get your guy on board to help you as much as possible, its way better to work out with your partner.
Good Luck!
P.S. A plus size bride never looks plus size to me on her wedding day, she just looks beautiful.
P.S.S. rbtrumpet you are a size 10...I wish. Only one of my bridemaids is my size (12) the other bridesmaids are 00, 0, and 0. But they are my friends and I love them and I know I will look better then they will. lol. just kidding.
Re: I can't lose weight!!!! (long/help/vent)
Maybe this is no comparison but will hopefully help.
First no need to stress no matter what your weight is you will be beautiful on your special day, and be proud of that.
Second I do understand where you are coming from, My MOH has lost 20lbs, and looks amazing (I am very happy for her), and my other bridesmaids are slim and trim too! I have always been muscular, stocky what ever you want to call it. Which I was excited to get into a size 14 (which was a little big). I have now had to go back and get a size 22 possible 24 dress cause I found out I was pregnant, and will be 8 months when I get married. At this point I have finally gotten over the size ordeal. I have come to realize I am being double blessed this year!
So please keep your head up you will be beautiful no mater what size you or your bridesmaids are!
Try P90X, if you actually do the workout regularly you can lose weight not even sticking to the diet plan that goes with it.... I was training for a triatholon and wanted to gain the strength and endurance so I did P90X with my FI minus the crazy diet...(I love my ice cream and carbs) and lost like 12lbs without even trying to....
I had similar issues and when I went off BC - poof! it all went away. Severl girlfriends had the same experience.
I recommend switching to rubbers til after the honeymoon - jsut keep emergency contraception around in case they fail (EC is the same ingredients as birth control, but at least you won't be on a constant intake)
Stress plays a huge part of it... just keep eating those salads and check out sparkpeople.com - they are awesome recipies...
Happy Wedding!
Oh, and lots of cardio-I bike for 20 minutes a day (so far) and go all out for that 20. Hope this helps!
All I'm saying
Good luck and stick in there!
Good luck, I know you can do it, and no matter what, you will look great on your wedding day.
You will look beautiful no matter what...brides always do! I have seen brides who dressed their bridesmaids in hideous dresses because they thought it would make them look better, but it just looked tacky and immature, and good taste is more important than who is anorexically skinny. My waist is about a size 36, and I'm constantly fluctuating from a size 8 to a size 12 and I used to be a size 16. I know you've only got about a month to go, so here's my suggestion, drink a milk chocolate slim fast shake in the morning (about 200 calories of protein), have a slim fast meal bar for lunch (they taste like chocolate covered oreos and are about 100 calories) and have a salad or Subway sandwich for dinner. The key is to take in less calories than you use, and women shouldn't have more than 2,000 calories a day in general. You can even have a Slim Fast 100 calorie peanut butter crunch type snack bar that tastes like a butterfinger or a healthy choice fudgecicle. My mom is a size 22 and has already lost 10 pounds in 3ish weeks from this! I hope it works out, and even if it doesn't, you'll look wonderful!
The average woman needs to only ingest between 1200-1400 calories a day to maintain a good healthy diet. I know it is old fashioned, but if you count your calories ( especially beverages, cause most people do not include them) you will find areas where you can trim and dispose of unnecessary calories. Only ingest things that you know you can burn off. If you are needing a boost, only ingest between 1000 - 1200 calories a day.(Only for a short period of time ) If in one work out you know that you burn 300 calories and you are only doing that work out 3 times a week then increase your work outs to balance for the extra calories you are eating and drinking. ( This allowing for those ice cream days
If you stay between 1000-1400 calories a day and you are buring about 300 calories a day in exercise then by doing the math you can see that you will loose weight. Your body will have no choice but to do so.
Personally, when I cust out my beverages I started loosing more weight again. It is stupid how many calories I was waisting a day by drinking them. Personally I'd like to eat my calories!
As for exercise... take advantage of stairs, parking far away from the door to any entrance forcing you to walk. Instead of using a shopping cart, use a handle held cart . all free exercise and great for toning your arms!
Walk, bike, rollerblade, swim. whatever you like. Stand vs sitting and always suck in that tummy and push back your shoulders... its all about posture to get that core exercise!
Its summer. take advantage of the outdoors. go for a hike, work your little tush into submission. And a key thing that works for me, is even when I'm tired I still work out. There is no need for excuses! After the workout you'll feel like you have accomplished something! The only failure is you if you don't push yourself. Do you want to be Hot on your wedding day. Will you need a mop to clean up your grooms drool. I certainly want that!
The best advice I was ever given was by a customer/client of mine is this; If you stay his girlfriend for life he'll always only have eyes for you. Be the hottie that you were when you met and fight for is attention the way we all do before we get that ring on our fingers. We are only as good as we allow our selfs to be!
Congrats on the wedding and I wish you luck. I am in the same boat and let me tell you . I am a warrior and this is a battle I will win! You will too
Kind Regards,
Taunya
I was in the same place when I got engaged, 30lbs heavier than I have ever been! I feel your pain! That was in January, and since then I have lost 15 lbs of it with very little excercise and not starving myself. Some things that helped me were to take the stairs instead of elevators every time possible. If you work at a desk and are able to listen to music, move your body to the music! It may look silly, but it is easy excercise that burns calories. Also, take a daily multivitamin. I started taking the target brand weight defense vitamins and lost four lbs in a month. It's not a diet pill or anything, just regular vitamins, green tea, and cayenne pepper powder. Along with eating healthier, these things got me down in pounds. Hope this helps! You can do it!
1. only drink water. no pop, beer or coffee
2. no white flour - no white rice, white bread, white pasta
3. no wheat flour - no wheat bread, no whole grain, no wheat pasta. BROWN rice is OK.
4. NO fast food.
Live off chicken, shrimp, taco, or steak salads with no heavy dressing - just use salsa or a homemade dressing. Baked chicken is awesome. Taco salads without the shell. Chicken lettuce wraps. Vegetable steamers. Shrimp, talapia, any type of fish. But not fried fish though. Fruit is ok, but only eat in the a.m.
Your workout regimen should be mostly cardio and ONLY do weights like 2 x a week if that and dont do heavy weights. ONly do light weights and like 15 reps, 3 sets.
If you aim for 2 pounds a week, in about 2 months you'll be at your desired weight. ONce you reach your weight goal then you can allow yourself a cheat day where maybe you can have a cookie or two or eating out at a restaurant.
If you believe you can do it - you can do it! Good luck!!
My wedding isn't untill May 2011. But I still worried that I won't lose the weight in time. I have changed Jobs and this one is less active and I notice it everyday! The shift work and the long hours are really getting to me. I try and eat healthy, but there is just no motivation at all. (other then the wedding) I have gained at least 15 lbs since I bought my dress about 4 months ago! i've moved away from everyone I know, other then my fiance as he moved with me. He says I'm beautiful and he likes me the way I am, which sad to say isn't helping at all.