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strlzfan11 · March 2012

Here's my two cents on the Ciara situation. She's admitted that she has PPD, which obviously means her mind's not in the right place right now, so anything that could be construed as being concerned about her or Edmund, she's taking it as a personal attack because her mind isn't able to go to a place where she is able to say "hey thanks for looking out for us."

Does that make sense?

midgetthemighty · March 2012

I will agree that the AW-ness of anyone coming back is unnecessary. It should just be natural to come in and chat. I still think the repetitive flaming is also unnecessary. I think it will only cause more drama.

Beachy730 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:98901a93-fcf5-440c-bee6-46e502804ad4">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't think the flame was for the coming back necessarily, but more of the AW factor to it all. She posted a dramatic GBCK and a dramatic explaining herself post. Just come back and chat and leave the AW at home.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

<div>I get that, but then I think there are also posters who would have flamed her for coming back like nothing ever happened. Basically it was a lose-lose situation for her in terms of how she came back. </div><div>
</div><div>I can't say I blame her for getting pissed. I don't have kids yet obviously, but if a board of people started questioning me as a parent I would probably lose it on them too. It's totally different for one of the commentors to say how she should have handled herself compared to how she actually did it. But yeah, I'm pretty sure I would have done the same thing if people started questining and attacking me as a parent.</div>

annakb8 · March 2012

Well at least MissySue stuck to her GBCK.

Loopyseven · March 2012

Stlrz - that makes a lot of sense. That's how I've been looking at it as well.

kellyjellybelly · March 2012

And maybe it's just the threads I happen to read, since that is admittedly, like 2.3% of the threads posted. I'm not saying every thread ends up about her, but for real, I'm pretty sure this has been hashed out many times.

Just like anyone else, block her if you don't want to read her posts. I block the people who annoy me.

OliveOilsMom · March 2012

I flame Bellabananas for her response to all the people telling the OP in the "dreaded question, can I bring a guest" thread. She said the posters were not being helpful to the OP, and were being snarky to boot. Not true on all accounts. I also flame the OP in that thread, for not taking into account that some family members might have SO and she didn't want to invite them because she was already over her budget by 48 people!

Beachy730 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:9002d77b-3d4c-4dec-9647-8f33c512d8f9">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Beachy, I've tried the 'cut her some slack' argument already. It didn't work. I think since there is little drama round these parts that I can tell, people need something to focus on. Lately, it's Ciara. It has now been brought up repeatedly for something that happened at least a month ago. Anyway, it's getting old.
Posted by kellyjellybelly[/QUOTE]

<div>Well, duh, we share a brain!</div><div>
</div><div>Adamar there was also a troll that came out in the night threads last week I think who was flaming her for it.</div><div>
</div><div>Anyways, I said my piece and I'm done talking about it. Even defending her, I'm still just continuing the talk. </div>

AdeleDazeem · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:9bf24e36-e3b9-4e35-99dc-a0722570d0da">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Well at least MissySue stuck to her GBCK.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

Why did she GBCK?

adamar15 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:929e26b8-6a12-46fd-97ef-7ad90b11bd81">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Well, duh, we share a brain! Adamar there was also a troll that came out in the night threads last week I think who was flaming her for it. Anyways, I said my piece and I'm done talking about it. Even defending her, I'm still just continuing the talk.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

Gotcha. I'm not around much at night so I guess I missed that.

ErinG93 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:11800e04-b43b-480e-b63a-ee6dfde5891b">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Why did she GBCK?
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>She was consistently "down" and feeling upset. She was always feeling sick, depressed, etc. Her morning threads were very downer-y. </div><div>
</div><div>People were concerned for her health and told her to see a doctor. She didn't like that people were suggesting she get help. I think...

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midgetthemighty · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:f1d327ee-f1f8-4a46-b55a-55932a01298e">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I flame Bellabananas for her response to all the people telling the OP in the "dreaded question, can I bring a guest" thread. She said the posters were not being helpful to the OP, and were being snarky to boot. Not true on all accounts. I also flame the OP in that thread, for not taking into account that some family members might have SO and she didn't want to invite them because she was already over her budget by 48 people!
Posted by OliveOilsMom[/QUOTE]

Totally agreed. Truth does not equal mean or snarky. This is apparently a hard concept for a lot of people to comprehend.

chelseamb11 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:f1d327ee-f1f8-4a46-b55a-55932a01298e">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I flame Bellabananas for her response to all the people telling the OP in the "dreaded question, can I bring a guest" thread. She said the posters were not being helpful to the OP, and were being snarky to boot. Not true on all accounts. I also flame the OP in that thread, for not taking into account that some family members might have SO and she didn't want to invite them because she was already over her budget by 48 people!
Posted by OliveOilsMom[/QUOTE]

I flame anyone who makes comments (especially full threads) about how "mean" we are. Blunt =/= mean. It's ridiculous that we're in a world where we need to hold everyone's hand and give them gold stars at the end of the day regardless of their performance.

adamar15 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:9bf24e36-e3b9-4e35-99dc-a0722570d0da">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Well at least MissySue stuck to her GBCK.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

Not entirely. Didn't she come back to her local and bitch about us, or something like that? I believe Stacks called her on it.

Matty143 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:fb6cb13d-c94a-4528-88be-8ccfd1a8d831">FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I flame Maggie from the FMIL dress thread yesterday. Holy overreaction batman. I also found it funny when she said people take stuff too seriously in life. Now you go.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

Ditto this. Yeah, I know this is an obvious one but I flame it.

To get that worked up over a typical WR thread was uncalled for. She could have said "OMFG, its a dress. Get over it" and no one would have said anything.
Bringing up world hunger was more ridiculous than the bride being worked up over what the MIL was going to wear.

baystateapple · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:11800e04-b43b-480e-b63a-ee6dfde5891b">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Why did she GBCK?
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
She didn't like people telling her that she needed to get some help or find a way to make her unfortunate living situation more bearable. And then she went over to the Ohio board and said that we thought we owned TK, bashing the E board. Stacks caught her and called her out.

ETA: And I'm about five minutes too late there.

Snippylynn · March 2012

I swear to god, every time I read FFF it's talking about Ciara. Jesus, are we that hard up for crap?

ETA: I see we've moved on to Missy now. *sigh*

Matty143 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:9bf24e36-e3b9-4e35-99dc-a0722570d0da">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Well at least MissySue stuck to her GBCK.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

Did she? I thought Stacks called her out in a thread on their local where Missy was saying she needed a break from E.
I feel like I have seen her since then. Perhaps I missed something?

ahhhitsshannyn · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:aed9cabf-1073-47b4-99e9-4629d78ce432">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I swear to god, every time I read FFF it's talking about Ciara. Jesus, are we that hard up for crap? ETA: I see we've moved on to Missy now. *sigh*
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

Feel free to add something. Or have you gone soft?

dori851 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:d307543d-ef75-4148-8901-8a028823ab79">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : As long as they don't whisper "here comes the bride" as they walk,<strong> I'll take my cheesy sign and be glad for it. :P
</strong>Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

I have a cheesy sign too :)

midgetthemighty · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:8057740b-0f3a-4d8f-ba12-af6486ae88b2">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I flame anyone who makes comments (especially full threads) about how "mean" we are. Blunt =/= mean. It's ridiculous that we're in a world where we need to hold everyone's hand and <strong>give them gold stars at the end of the day regardless of their performance.
</strong>Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

GOLD STARS FOR EVERYONE!

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Snippylynn · March 2012

I have to IRL flames. I know, I'm doing it wrong, but seems there's not much else to talk about anyway.

The first: I just spent $60 on a regular sports bra because Sweden is fuucking expensive, and that's the cheapest one I could find.

Second: H just told me that his coworkers asked if he wanted to do another deep dive study. In Somalia. WTF. Then they said "The projects name is Black Hawk Down." DOUBLE WTF. And no, he doesn't think they are joking.

chelseamb11 · March 2012

This is a generic flame but I flame anyone who signs their name at the bottom of posts. It annoys the crap out of me.

[Deleted User] · March 2012

I don't even really remember who Missy Sue is. Whoops.

strlzfan11 · March 2012

I don't think Missy's been heard from at ALL since then.

AdeleDazeem · March 2012

Interesting about Missy - I missed that entire situation completely.

Snippylynn · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:79fb027f-0737-48fd-89f2-fe881561738b">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Feel free to add something. Or have you gone soft?
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]
Probably. :) Plus, I barely have time to read anything anymore. I've discovered it's a lot easier to get mad about stuff on here when you read a lot of it.

hearthemelody · March 2012

Hey guys, just poking my head in.

There might be a rule about not bringing up your own flame, but I just wanted you to know that I am not trying to make excuses for my family. I simply have been attempting to explain the situation so our collective brain power can do what it does best.

Thank you all for the insights, and I hope you have a lovely day!

andrea2473 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-88?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1aee36f2-caa5-449c-874d-8a1268202e66Post:65ec0c44-1ca4-4cdd-9a78-1c727671ff79">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I flame Andrea for being annoying in TR's thread earlier. Congrats on being unobservant, gold star.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

Accepted. I saw this coming FWIW. I jumped the gun and picked out one thing and made it personal about me. After the fact, I realized it and told TR I understood the point of the thread.

ETA: Aaaand I just re-read your flame and realize I missed the point of it. You were talking about my little story. I guess I was just trying to prove the party line you dislike. I'm usually fairly observant, but I was on a cloud at my wedding. The party line of "you'll never notice" can indeed be true. As a guest, I damn near notice everything. That's all.

Snippylynn · March 2012

You should flame whoever you want. I'm just saying that particular Ciara horse looks more like a piece of jerky it's been beaten, buried, beaten and left in the open for so long.

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