Groomswoman at Bachelor party?
Help.. Not sure what to do. My groom has a female friend as a groomswoman. His best man which is also the groomswoman ex-boyfriend is starting plans for the bachelor party. I do not think it’s appropriate for her to attend the bachelor party. They are going away to a pre-season football game in Atlanta. She is a big football fan as well. I just think it’s a guy’s trip and if the other guys find out a girl is coming along, they wouldn’t be themselves and none of them will want to room w/ her and would be inappropriate for her to share a bed w/ anyone. And I’m sure a strip club will be involved in the plans. I’ve already invited her to my bachelorette party. Of course my groom doesn’t care. There is nothing in planning our wedding he actually does care about. Groom’s brother & best man also agree w/ me. I just think my groom should give her the heads up nicely that she can't attend. Thoughts, ideas?
Re: Groomswoman at Bachelor party?
Butt out. It's between him and whoever throws the party who attends and what happens there. None of it is any of your business. If the other guys are uncomfortable with having a girl there, they can speak for themselves.
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It's not your place to tell your fiance or the best man who can be invited to the bachelor party, or what activities can and cannot take place.
It's not your place to dictate how these men or this woman lead their lives. They are all adults and they can certainly speak up if they are uncomfortable with a decision ... they don't need you to make that decision for them. You are not their mommy.
If you are SO unnerved by any of these factors (meaning, if you view this woman as a threat to your marriage or if you think the presence of a female at the bachelor party would lead your fiance to do something you don't agree with), then you need to put the wedding plans on hold and work out these issues. The issues are the real problem here, not this woman herself. If you trust your fiance and if you recognize that everyone else is not your responsibility, there is absolutely no reason on earth why you should be objecting to this.
In short, butt out.
[QUOTE]Help.. Not sure what to do. My groom has a female friend as a groomswoman. His best man which is also the groomswoman ex-boyfriend is starting plans for the bachelor party. I do not think it’s appropriate for her to attend the bachelor party. They are going away to a pre-season football game in Atlanta. She is a big football fan as well. I just think it’s a guy’s trip and if the other guys find out a girl is coming along, they wouldn’t be themselves and none of them will want to room w/ her and would be inappropriate for her to share a bed w/ anyone. And I’m sure a strip club will be involved in the plans. I’ve already invited her to my bachelorette party. Of course my groom doesn’t care. There is nothing in planning our wedding he actually does care about. <strong>Groom’s brother & best man also agree w/ me. I just think my groom should give her the heads up nicely that she can't attend. </strong>Thoughts, ideas?
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</div><div>I have a question - has anyone told you this girl is invited to the bachelor party? It sounds like you're getting all upset about something that isn't even a problem yet, and might not be a problem. You should probably relax a little and let things actually happen before getting upset. If the Best Man agrees with you and is hosting the party, I'm assuming that means he's not inviting her, so why worry? If you get all worked up about it, people will think you're insecure. </div><div>
</div><div>Also, it would be extremely rude for your FI to tell her specifically that she's not invited unless she asks. I'm pretty sure this will all be a non-issue.</div><div>
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[QUOTE]That's nonsense and it shouldn't be your decision. If she's closest to him, why wouldn't she go with the guys? I've been to many a football game and strip club. And why would she have to share a bed with anyone? If she's uncomfortable surely she can get her own room.
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</div><div>All of this^^^
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[QUOTE]By the way, DH had two women at his bparty. And they gasp smoked cigars and played poker and one of them even stayed at our home with him that night UNSUPERVISED. And yeah, it was fine.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
ahem....I threw the freakin bachelor party for one of my BFFs when I was the Best Woman.