Another fun update from drunken aunt land

Nebb · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:895bdc29-1002-4942-8b63-39802d07d0d6">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]Weren't a bunch of people bent out of shape a few weeks ago when some poster shared a story she got from her sister about a student of hers, which had absolutely no identifying details at all?
Posted by LessThanZero[/QUOTE]
No, they were bent out of shape because someone repeated that their sister may have laughed at a student who didnt know what a period was?

EmilyW416 · April 2011

People need to relax, there no details and TK is a nice place to vent.

Steph0871 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:3710093f-2f43-44ea-813d-591503da93a7">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : No, they were bent out of shape because someone repeated that their sister may have laughed at a student who didnt know what a period was?
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

<div>This. And there's a difference between sharing a family story and a teacher sharing a story about a student. HUGE difference.</div>

LessThanZero · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:8dc157c7-c98c-46a1-b870-30354f015eb0">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : This. And there's a difference between sharing a family story and a teacher sharing a story about a student. HUGE difference.
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

Yes, there is a huge difference if you give out actual identifying information about the student. But that's not what happened as far as I remember. The poster never said her name is Larissa and she was born in December of 1999, and goes to such and such school.

But I don't care what anyone posts in regards to their own life. I just don't think that Sucrets was saying "OMG how dare you post that!". I took it more as concern for whether it might backfire one day.

Steph0871 · April 2011

Eh. I still think there's a difference even without identifying information. Plus, like Nebb mentioned- I think it was more the fact that teacher was mocking a scared, naive student. AATB's aunt is an adult, and knows full well the decisions she's making.

I don't think Suc was necessarily going "OHMYGOD YOU CAN'T POST THAT." However, I do think the tone of her posts was a little patronizing... even the "I guess things have changed" comment.

LessThanZero · April 2011

Yeah, I can see that. ; )

Oh well. It sucks about your aunt, AATB. I know those kinds of situations all too well. It's crappy. Maybe they really will try to fix things. You never know...

sucrets4 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:3dfc25c5-a7f6-4482-975f-86c72c103a5d">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]People need to relax, there no details and TK is a nice place to vent.
Posted by EmilyW416[/QUOTE]

Okay, I rarely pull the post count card, but seriously. I think I know how TK works.

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I haven't been around enough to know that other similar things have been posted, but I assure you that I was in no way, shape, or form telling AATB how to post. It seemed to me that she understood my point, so why is there a mountain being made out of a molehill?

I honestly don't really care if she keeps on posting stories or not. I most likely won't be around to read them and even if I was, I'd just skip them. I was just giving her an outside perspective. Again, not really a lot to get all up in arms about.

Steph - it's interesting that you took my text in a patronizing way since I had absolutely no intention of that at all. It was merely a comment on the difference between now and then. I suppose I'm stuck in the past and need to move on.

[Deleted User] · April 2011

Well, this thread got weird. AATB, I'm so sorry that your family is dealing with this. It really takes it's toll. I really hope that your aunt gets the help that she needs.

Maybe it's because I have a little boy the age of your cousin or maybe it's because I was about your cousin's age when my mom started drinking, but I really feel sick to my stomach when I think about the turmoil that that little guy lives in. It's really sad. This is about so much more than just a drunken aunt.

beatlesgirl25 · April 2011

This will probably go over like a lead balloon, but I'm glad someone finally said something about this. I have been really uncomfortable seeing these posts for months now, or for however long they've been posted. And no, I'm not here to tell anyone what or how to post, but as a poster on this forum, I have an opinion on what I read so that's what I'm expressing here.

I think the whole "what if she finds this" question is a valid one, even if, as it was intimated, she would enjoy the attention. But my main issue with these updates is not that. It's the whole tone, which to me is gossipy, derogatory, and AWish, when the problems are very serious and life-threatening. If this was a hated ex-boyfriend or some random frenemy from high school, then I could understand their crazy life being presented in such detail, and for the posters here to be like "holy shitt, what a mess," and to go on FB and get in on the drama and status-posting. Because you don't care about someone like that, and that's why it's entertaining to post shitt about them so that other people can laugh at them and pay attention to you for posting a juicy story.

But this is not one of those kinds of people. This is a family member who is supposedly loved and cared about, but I would hardly guess that from reading the "updates" on her. It seems like they have become more for the purpose of entertainment to all the readers in Knotland. Anyone is entitled to hate their aunt, uncle, mother, kid, whoever, and I won't judge that. But don't pretend to love them and want to help them, and then blast the destruction of their personal lives all over the internet for laughs. I can't remember how many times I've seen comments like, "I love reading updates about your crazy aunt. What a trainwreck," and just in this OP the aunt was called a bitch. I'm sorry, for me, one side just doesn't mesh with the other.

That all said, AATB, I know how stressful, painful, and angering it is to have a relative struggle with substance abuse and be dramatic and drag everyone in the family through the ringer. You have every right to feel upset at what your aunt's drinking has cost you and/or your family members, and I'm sorry that your family is going through this. I just feel like, if you really love someone and are scared for their lives, you wouldn't want to present them in this way, in this type of forum, in this much painful detail, on a regular basis, and allow for people to call this person crazy or a bitch or a trainwreck. Most of us wouldn't allow anyone to call our husband an asshole if we came here to complain about something they did, unless we were ready to divorce them, so why should this be any different? I know you have had a lot of support around this from the girls here, both on and off TK, and I'm glad for that. I wish you and your aunt the best.

Steph0871 · April 2011

The only weird thing going on in this thread is the ganging up on AATB.

AATB can speak for herself, of course. I've always gotten the vibe that she's kind of done everything she thinks she can do to help her aunt, and has finally given up. Like she said, she doesn't put her name out there. I dunno. I just kind of guessed that 'venting' here was a way to make light of an awful, uncomfortable situation.

beatlesgirl25 · April 2011

I don't really see the ganging up on AATB, at all. I do see people needlessly rushing to her defense when no one was telling her what to do. This doesn't have to be personal to AATB, it's okay.

Steph0871 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:4bbeed46-247a-4876-b644-d9b915091ea1">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]This will probably go over like a lead balloon, but I'm glad someone finally said something about this. <strong>I have been really uncomfortable</strong> seeing these posts for months now, or for however long they've been posted. And no, I'm not here to tell anyone what or how to post, but <strong>as a poster on this forum</strong>, I have an opinion on what I read so that's what I'm expressing here.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

<div>If it's been so uncomfortable for you, why didn't you say something about it?</div><div>
</div><div>And, you're not really here that much anymore. Same with Suc. I think that's what caught me off guard by Suc's post before. It was the whole "I don't post here at all anymore, but let me come in for one day, AW my kid (which by the way, I think it's far worse to plaster pictures of your kid on a public forum than talking about an aunt.) Then I'm going to come in and reminisce about how when I was around, people didn't post things like this. tsk tsk tsk."</div>

[Deleted User] · April 2011

Good grief. I didn't get past your first line, Steph. Way to get all defensive over nothing. Who the fuuck is ganging up on her? If anything, I saw a bunch of rushing in to stick up for her (when she wasn't even being attacked).

beatlesgirl25 · April 2011

I didn't say anything because I was trying to be compassionate, because it's a fucked up situation and I felt bad for AATB. But after awhile when the posts got more AWish and contradictory in tone, I got more uncomfortable, so now I decided to say something. And yeah, I'm not here a ton anymore, but my point was that I'm someone who reads what someone else posted, thus I have an opinion about it. I was trying to avoid the "don't tell people how to post" argument. I can say what I feel.

Another reason I didn't post about this earlier was because I thought it might end up just like this, with people not reading what I'm saying and getting defensive just because it's AATB.

Steph0871 · April 2011

I'm not being any more defensive than anyone else is being 'attacking.'

No one else thinks it's weird that Suc comes in and pulls the 'post count card' within the same thread she mentions that the board isn't the same as when she used to post here?

This is part of the reason I don't really hang out here as much anymore. It's annoying to have people that used to be around all the time come in and talk about how the board used to be, or how they want to see things posted, or not posted.... that's totally fine, but it's just kind of annoying to the girls who DO post here often (and, no, I'm even talking about myself.)

[Deleted User] · April 2011

I agree, Beats. I feel like it's gone from a my aunt needs help, how do I help her type thing to a let's laugh at my trainwreck aunt. To be honest, it's probably healthy that you've cut off your aunt, AATB. Sometimes it's the only way to keep yourself sane. And who knows, maybe this is how you deal with the pain. But I will admit that I've noticed the tone change and it makes me sad for everyone involved. Especially the little boy.

Steph0871 · April 2011

Beats- I'm not sure why you think I wasn't reading your post. I read it completely. I never said I agreed with as much as AATB was saying, but I also don't think it's the same as a teacher coming in and mocking a student.

Nor do I think it's fair that, just because Sucs said something, J and you come in at the same time and say something (after AATB said she'd stop posting about it.) What's that saying that gets overused around here? Something about a dead horse?

[Deleted User] · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:335697e8-04b6-4431-8dec-56f8de717ecc">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm not being any more defensive than anyone else is being 'attacking.' No one else thinks it's weird that Suc comes in and pulls the 'post count card' within the same thread she mentions that the board isn't the same as when she used to post here? This is part of the reason I don't really hang out here as much anymore. It's annoying to have people that used to be around all the time come in and talk about how the board used to be, or how they want to see things posted, or not posted.... that's totally fine, but it's just kind of annoying to the girls who DO post here often (and, no, I'm even talking about myself.)
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

Maybe we are just both reading way too much into it. I read Sucrets's post in a helpful way. I didn't think she was pulling her post count at all. I felt like people just jumped all over her for having an opinion that wasn't the same as theirs.

And so what if people want to talk about the way things used to be? How is bitching about that not the same as telling people how to post?

Nebb · April 2011

I find it rather convenient that after the umpteenth post about AATB's aunt, now a whole group of people come forward about what an issue it is. Where were you after the 2nd or 3rd post? I dont mean to say anything you feel is invalid, just seems a bit weird that all of a sudden a whole group is coming out of the woodwork to say its a problem...

beatlesgirl25 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:335697e8-04b6-4431-8dec-56f8de717ecc">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm not being any more defensive than anyone else is being 'attacking.' No one else thinks it's weird that Suc comes in and pulls the 'post count card' within the same thread she mentions that the board isn't the same as when she used to post here? This is part of the reason I don't really hang out here as much anymore. <strong>It's annoying to have people that used to be around all the time come in and talk about how the board used to be, or how they want to see things posted, or not posted....</strong> that's totally fine, but it's just kind of annoying to the girls who DO post here often (and, no, I'm even talking about myself.)
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

I feel like you're taking one statement Sucrets made and applying it to this whole thread topic. I don't get it. And I'm not sure what you're trying to insinuate by how "weird" Sucrets' post supposedly was.

Sometimes I come on TK at night when I get off work, and I read some posts from the day. And this one was at the top of the page and had a lot of posts, and it was that old familiar AATB aunt theme that had been bothering me. And I posted. The end. How odd that I had an opinion about a bunch of posts from a popular reg here and decided to say something about it. Holy crap, there must be SOMETHING ELSE GOING ON. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

Steph0871 · April 2011

<div>[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : Maybe we are just both reading way too much into it. I read Sucrets's post in a helpful way. I didn't think she was pulling her post count at all.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]</div><div>
</div><div>She said it herself:</div><div>
</div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:42e4b2d3-9540-495e-954a-9944c08e95e9">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : Okay, I rarely pull the post count card, but seriously. I think I know how TK works.
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

[Deleted User] · April 2011

What is convenient about it? It's not uncommon for people to voice something and then others agree. That's pretty much exactly what happened in that Kate C thread. For me, I've been trying to just avoid the topic because I didn't want to make AATB feel bad about an already fuucked up situation.

[Deleted User] · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:795f08b9-bf7c-453d-a15a-764feda8ab84">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]She said it herself: In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land :
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

Ha! I'm a dumbass. That's what I get for skimming.

beatlesgirl25 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:3cd52ce0-e795-4ce3-9f73-bb857268eb6d">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]Beats- I'm not sure why you think I wasn't reading your post. I read it completely. I never said I agreed with as much as AATB was saying, but I also don't think it's the same as a teacher coming in and mocking a student. Nor do I think it's fair that, <strong>just because Sucs said something</strong>, J and you come in at the same time and say something (after AATB said she'd stop posting about it.) What's that saying that gets overused around here? Something about a dead horse?
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

What on earth led you to this conclusion? Have I never posted an original thought on this board in all my years here? Is it so hard to believe that a whole 3 people would think alike on a topic that probably a thousand people have read about on TK by now? This is what I'm talking about it getting unnecessarily personal. Running with your implication, I feel you're here defending AATB's posting about her aunt <strong>just because</strong> it's AATB, and Blue and Nebb posted about it. So the groupthink card goes both ways here.

Steph0871 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:ad66d01f-0bff-41a9-bf1c-14bd3158dc15">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : I feel like you're taking one statement Sucrets made and applying it to this whole thread topic. I don't get it. And I'm not sure what you're trying to insinuate by how "weird" Sucrets' post supposedly was. Sometimes I come on TK at night when I get off work, and I read some posts from the day. And this one was at the top of the page and had a lot of posts, and it was that old familiar AATB aunt theme that had been bothering me. And I posted. The end. How odd that I had an opinion about a bunch of posts from a popular reg here and decided to say something about it. Holy crap, there must be SOMETHING ELSE GOING ON.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I don't think there was anything cryptic behind my thought that Suc's post was weird. It was. She hasn't posted on here in months (that I've noticed?) and she pops in to AW her daughter and tell AATB to not post about her aunt. It was weird, that's all.</div><div>
</div><div>This isn't the first time I've noticed this from a few of you 'older regs', but I usually don't comment because I don't catch the threads until the next day.</div><div>
</div><div>I didn't SOMETHING ELSE IS GOING ON, did I?

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Steph0871 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:a21bcb08-9edc-4cd4-9e75-d36306d395a1">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : What on earth led you to this conclusion?
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

<div>The fact that you said it's been bothering you for awhile... but you didn't speak up about it until it already been voiced.</div>

beatlesgirl25 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:403e606c-a6b9-4c0e-98c2-2e433644a916">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]I agree, Beats. I feel like it's gone from a my aunt needs help, how do I help her type thing to a let's laugh at my trainwreck aunt. To be honest, it's probably healthy that you've cut off your aunt, AATB. Sometimes it's the only way to keep yourself sane. And who knows, maybe this is how you deal with the pain. But I will admit that I've noticed the tone change and it makes me sad for everyone involved. Especially the little boy.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

This is exactly what I was trying to say. I think it's a tough decision to have to cut someone off, but a healthy one in the end. And it sucks that AATB has had to do that. And yeah, everything about this situation makes me sad.

Steph0871 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:66be4367-d126-472e-99bd-1b75ea66ddb9">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : Ha! I'm a dumbass. That's what I get for skimming.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

<div>I figured. ;)</div><div>
</div><div>ETA: That you skimmed. I certainly don't think you're a dumbass. I just didn't want you to think I was whining about a post count, either. I really couldn't care less about how many posts someone has... but if someone uses that as a 'defense', I think it's lame.</div>

[Deleted User] · April 2011

But that's not really tthat weird, Steph. So, Sucrets had a few extra minutes and posted some pics of her baby and then after posting them, she decided to read through and comment on a few threads. It happens a lot. I know I'm guilty of it because I don't spend as much time on here as a I used to.

sucrets4 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_another-fun-update-drunken-aunt-land?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b6dbb2bf-770f-4003-8127-149dd202fb96Post:9147155f-df8d-4888-9a80-86e1c4789b2f">Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : Maybe we are just both reading way too much into it. I read Sucrets's post in a helpful way.<strong> I didn't think she was pulling her post count at all</strong>. I felt like people just jumped all over her for having an opinion that wasn't the same as theirs. And so what if people want to talk about the way things used to be? How is bitching about that not the same as telling people how to post?
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

I did, to the newb who was telling me that TK was for venting. I would never do that to anyone else, but it was just funny that a newb was telling me how TK works. It was in no way directed at any other regs here. Thought that was clear.

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