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Am I wrong or is he?
Back story: I bought a wrap wedding band that doesnt fit perfectly with my engagement band (bought from different places) so I need a new simple "tiffany" style engagment ring of a specific milimeter to make them fit.
So I bought a new engagment band off ebay (new) from some jeweler in anojther country. It was supposed to be 2.5mm and white gold. It arrived and it does not fit my wedding band, which is supposed to hold a 2.5mm ring, and its very obviously yellowish in color, esp next to my very white wedding. I contacted him back and he disagreed on the mm width, saying it 2.5 "on the dot" and that if I wanted a whiter ring I should have asked them to rhodium plate it.
What??? You have to request a white gold ring to be plated? I've never heard of such a thing and the ebay listing made no mention of this. He made some comment about the cost of rhodium being really high so jewelers dont plate white gold unless you request it.
They have a return policy but they will only refund 80% of the purchase price and I have to pay to ship it back internationally... ugh
am I just an idiot? I figured there was yellow gold- that looked yellow; white gold- that looks white; and rose gold which.... well I dont even really know what rose gold looks like!
I want to disupte the sale on ebay but not if I'm the one who is misinformed and just didnt realize that "white gold" isnt an across the board thing.
So I bought a new engagment band off ebay (new) from some jeweler in anojther country. It was supposed to be 2.5mm and white gold. It arrived and it does not fit my wedding band, which is supposed to hold a 2.5mm ring, and its very obviously yellowish in color, esp next to my very white wedding. I contacted him back and he disagreed on the mm width, saying it 2.5 "on the dot" and that if I wanted a whiter ring I should have asked them to rhodium plate it.
What??? You have to request a white gold ring to be plated? I've never heard of such a thing and the ebay listing made no mention of this. He made some comment about the cost of rhodium being really high so jewelers dont plate white gold unless you request it.
They have a return policy but they will only refund 80% of the purchase price and I have to pay to ship it back internationally... ugh
am I just an idiot? I figured there was yellow gold- that looked yellow; white gold- that looks white; and rose gold which.... well I dont even really know what rose gold looks like!
I want to disupte the sale on ebay but not if I'm the one who is misinformed and just didnt realize that "white gold" isnt an across the board thing.
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Re: Am I wrong or is he?
"So I sing a song of love, Julia"
06.10.10
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Ya know, I really don't like seeing "retarded" used this way. I do think it's offensive and, as reluctant as I feel about coming in here just to scold, I'm doing it anyway.
I honestly don't care about your ring or your refund.
you know, the people at ARC wouldn't be happy about you using that word.
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However, white gold is yellow gold mixed with other metals. Over time, it can change colors and can be rhodium plated to make the metal "whiter" or brighter. Obviously yours is either older, or doesn't have a high content of the whiter metals in it to make it so.
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[QUOTE]Some random person had a post between Mandy's and Damaless. It was really lame to delete.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I noticed that too and I wanted to quote to reply because they said something about white gold rings tarnishing. I didn't see anything delete-worthy in the post, either, so it's kind of weird. Anyway, I don't think it's that white gold tarnishes. It's that white gold is naturally a little bit yellow and the reason it starts out looking white is because of the rhodium plating, which fades a bit over time and you have to get it redone to restore the plating and the white look. This is normal, I was informed of this by my jeweler and still chose to wear a white gold engagement ring and wedding band. I'm not worried about $50 every year or two.
I guess that's what you get when you buy off e-bay from another country.
You could probably just take it to a local jeweler and pay them to rhodium plate it. I just got my wedding band done. It was free, since it was the jeweler who sold it to me, but it looks whiter now.
White gold will yellow over time; I guess your ring had just been sitting somewhere for a while.
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[QUOTE]ok ok I'll edit the r-word.... didnt even cross my mind!
Posted by golden1215[/QUOTE]
Just remember it next time.
As a functioning adult, you should remember which words are PI and which ones aren't. Ask Scooby.
You know, you could've saved that money and fed starving children, right?
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and two, the "other country" was Canada....
As to the size it might really be 2.5 & just not fit. Really you need to get this custom done to fit perfectly.
I think you are in the wrong here.
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[QUOTE]ok ok I'll edit the r-word.... didnt even cross my mind!
Posted by golden1215[/QUOTE]
How? Do you not think about using it in public in your daily life? I mean, yes, I used it here too a couple months ago, but I knew the repurcussions.
Plus, you're not exactly new to the board...
Well, I was trying to save a good 60% off local jeweler prices so I could give it to Feed My Starving Children.
And no, I am not a teacher.
[QUOTE]ok ok I'll edit the r-word.... didnt even cross my mind!
Posted by golden1215[/QUOTE]
that's cause you're retarded.
"It's shart week." -georgiabride
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[QUOTE]You know, you could've saved that money and fed starving children, right?
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]
Moose, FTW.
...And P2, I thought the same thing. I'm hardly here and I recognize her sig.
[QUOTE]Update- I know that yellow white gold "yellows" over time, but I wasnt expecting a new ring to be so yellow and two, the "other country" was Canada....
Posted by golden1215[/QUOTE]
So instead of just saying Canada in your OP, you said "another country"? I'm judging you.
And now you know that white gold also yellows over time. YW.
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06.10.10
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Gold itself is yellow. It's a metal occuring in nature.
White gold is not a natural metal. It's an alloy of gold - the yellow metal and a whiter metal like nickel. The two metals will not have the lustre of gold or platinum. Most white gold you see is actually plated with rhodium. The rhodium is not white gold -it's just a coating that wears off and has to be replated or "redipped" over time.
Rose gold is an alloy of gold and a pinker metal like copper.
Then there are metals like palladium and platinum. They both look like rhodium however you can buy jewelry that is solid of these materials. Platinum is quite strong and palladium has many of the same properties as platinum at a fraction of the cost.
I'd try to solve your issues by going to a local jeweler.
But in the meantime, learn more about precious metals and stop using the r word.
When you purchased the ring from ebay, did the seller include a photo of the item?
If so, and if the item that you received is not exactly as pictured by the seller, then you can file a dispute with ebay, for the entire cost plus shipping.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Am I wrong or is he? : So instead of just saying Canada in your OP, you said "another country"? I'm judging you. And now you know that white gold also yellows over time. YW.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]
so its okay for everyone to judge the country and say I shouldnt have bought from there if its say.... taiwan.... but if its canada then no?
interesting....
[QUOTE]This is why you don't buy jewelry online, from an international jeweler. At a reputable jewelry store you would not have to request white gold to have the rhodium plating in it. If you buy from a jeweler who is not reputable this is usually what happens. BTW I voted be happy you will recover 80% back.
Posted by spechtholdn[/QUOTE]
This.
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The rhodium plating may wear off leaving you looking at the actual white gold metal under the plating. The metal doesn't change color at all. The issue is that the plating will not be permanent.
IMO if you have the money up front, I'd go with platinum or palladium if you want the look of rhodium plated white gold. After all, if all you want to do is look at something plated in rhodium, why spring for white gold? Just spend the money on the metal you'll actually see.