KPP's?

Brie2010 · July 2010

Yeah, mine doesn't really impact my confidence because it's easily concealed, but it is pretty painful and is degenerative to the point where I may have to get major skin grafting done someday and/or my mobility could be compromised. Which sucks. I was all excited that it was going to get better when I lost weight...and nope, it just got worse.

louisvillebride21 · July 2010

I was on tryicycln when it went crazy on me. I switched to something, didn't work, then to Lo Estrin Fe and it was GREAT, but $50 a month and I couldn't afford that and then on the the ring. I LOVE it so far as the whole 'set it and forget it' mindset. My bff has the same mindset and I just don't get it. I mean, you can't really see the pill working, you just have to remember to take one every day. This is INSIDE YOUR BODY AT ALL TIMES, so it's gonna work!

Birdie1483 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:2db962b1-c025-43f2-96a1-1b0324337b3d">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]Birdie- that Silver Bullet is my BEST FRIEND. Was that a Pure Romance party? I've hosted one of those before. They're so fun!
Posted by akhensley81[/QUOTE]

Yes that was it! I couldn't remember the name. It was a lot of fun but my friends were all too timid to really buy anything. I did buy this one thing that ended up being way too much for me to handle when I got home. I think the cocktails we were drinking made me a little too ambitious. ;-)

FutureMrsTR · July 2010

So for those of you who use a vibrator with your FI/H, how did you introduce it? I'm afraid FI will be insulted or get his feelings hurt and I don't want to be like, "Well, none of my past boyfriends could get me off either" because who wants to talk about THAT? But I want him to know it's not him, it's me.

kikibaby · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:1827a236-62d4-4b7f-adf7-df87b53a4e8b">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]I"m so TMI today, but am relating to so many of you. I have psoriasis on my scalp, behind and in my ears, and on my eyebrows. It's whever ever hair grows, no matter how small the hair. I use a lot of moisturizer every day so my eyebrows haven't been a problem for awhile, but my scalp really bothers me and makes me self conscious. I'm always afraid people notice. I feel like I'm too young to have this. I've only seen old men have it on their arms and stuff before. I know it's genetic because my dad had the same problem.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

You're not alone! My scalp and eyebrows get all flaky and it's so gross/embarassing. The moisturizer on my eyebrows helps a lot, as does getting them waxed regularly. I've also recently started using Aveda Scalp Benefits shampoo and condition and it's worked miracles. I highly recommend it!

Bubbalub · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:357fb071-a091-4aa7-bbb4-be93af741f29">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]This is mine from KPS. Judge away.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

co-signed: Bubba

polichik · July 2010

Alix, I have awful rosacea on my cheeks as well. If somebody pinches my cheeks or if they rub against something, they turn bright red, get really hot, and throb for hours. I've worn tinted moistruizer on them since I was 10

I also have severe keratosis pilaris on the back of my arms, which doesn't help my arm image. It's so gross and there's no cure, which sucks. I'm trying to find makeup to put on them for the wedding, but I'm terrified of it rubbing off onto my dress or FI's tux.

kikibaby · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:cb9146d4-d64d-4bc8-b3c0-7b7a1cc862a6">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]So for those of you who use a vibrator with your FI/H, how did you introduce it? I'm afraid FI will be insulted or get his feelings hurt and I don't want to be like, "Well, none of my past boyfriends could get me off either" because who wants to talk about THAT? But I want him to know it's not him, it's me.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

So, for us... I was a little drunky on my birthday a couple of years ago, so I suggested we go to an adult store near us. When we got near the vibes, I was like "ooh, look at this!". He actually ended up buying one for me! (Which was awesome, because those suckers are pricey)

louisvillebride21 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:cb9146d4-d64d-4bc8-b3c0-7b7a1cc862a6">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]So for those of you who use a vibrator with your FI/H, how did you introduce it? I'm afraid FI will be insulted or get his feelings hurt and I don't want to be like, "Well, none of my past boyfriends could get me off either" because who wants to talk about THAT? But I want him to know it's not him, it's me.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]
H knew I used one way before we ever got together. We went to the fun store and were looking around and it just kinda happened. Like...hmm, this could be fun for you to use on me!

alixzafiris · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:cb9146d4-d64d-4bc8-b3c0-7b7a1cc862a6">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]So for those of you who use a vibrator with your FI/H, how did you introduce it? I'm afraid FI will be insulted or get his feelings hurt and I don't want to be like, "Well, none of my past boyfriends could get me off either" because who wants to talk about THAT? But I want him to know it's not him, it's me.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

Just bring it up - at a time when you're not getting all into it - and be frank about it. It's not an uncommon problem and I believe has little to do with his performance, from what I've heard; and I mean, if it's going to make it even better for you, who is he to scoff or be insulted?

temerityjane · July 2010

While I am extremely self-conscious about my body, I am more self-conscious about the fact that I do not understand how to gracefully insert myself into this type of conversation.

If we are still revealing non-body related things as well, though, I had been thinking about submitting a secret recently about how ashamed I can get about being so reliant on Buddy in day to day life, but I figured that for some people who have been here a while, it would have been obvious that it was me. Especially if I called him Buddy.

Birdie1483 · July 2010

I was afraid how he would react the first time I talked to him about it and sometimes still get embarrassed. However, he's all about it because we went 2+ years with no big O for me and he felt like it was his fault and he was failing. He tells me he's all for it because he wants me to enjoy everything too. I tell him I do no matter what but he only sees the end result. I use a bullet, so he gets some enjoyment from it too. I just have to have a tv on or something so I don't get distracted by the buzzing.

The momentary embarrassment I have when I turn it on is quickly forgotten though!

louisvillebride21 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:3fd66bce-fce4-4d9f-b027-7c2e98b569fc">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPP's? : So, for us... I was a little drunky on my birthday a couple of years ago, so I suggested we go to an adult store near us. When we got near the vibes, I was like "ooh, look at this!". He actually ended up buying one for me! (Which was awesome, because those suckers are pricey)
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]
Haha ditto! I said my first one happened in Jan. I had been on a 2 week cruise with my parents and by the time I got home, I was super 'excited'. We talked dirty all through dinner and decided to skip the movie and go to the store. He bought me one and then that night was my first time. Fan freaking tastic.

louisvillebride21 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:0a927bcd-7ba8-4dbd-9047-eab6a6221562">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]While I am extremely self-conscious about my body, I am more self-conscious about the fact that I do not understand how to gracefully insert myself into this type of conversation. If we are still revealing non-body related things as well, though, I had been thinking about submitting a secret recently about how ashamed I can get about being so reliant on Buddy in day to day life, but I figured that for some people who have been here a while, it would have been obvious that it was me. Especially if I called him Buddy.
Posted by temerityjane[/QUOTE]
Or had a dog as your background. :p

danieliza1127 · July 2010

TJ - that was funny.

Well Fische, you sure did start a very interesting post!

temerityjane · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:e978f60b-39ea-4525-8ccd-e021f977b374">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPP's? : Or had a dog as your background. :p
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

Ha. See. This is why I have submitted no secrets.

MattsPenguin · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:c1651ed3-cc50-482a-9303-2d34c59d839e">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]I was afraid how he would react the first time I talked to him about it and sometimes still get embarrassed. However, he's all about it because we went 2+ years with no big O for me and he felt like it was his fault and he was failing. He tells me he's all for it because he wants me to enjoy everything too. I tell him I do no matter what but he only sees the end result. I use a bullet, so he gets some enjoyment from it too. I just have to have a tv on or something so I don't get distracted by the buzzing. :) The momentary embarrassment I have when I turn it on is quickly forgotten though!
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

Tell me about it. I hate when I don't O and he just rolls over mopey and feeling like a failure. I try to explain that women are difficult, and I still enjoyed everything, but he just wants me to finish. I guess women have it a bit easier in that men are so easy to please.

kikibaby · July 2010

I never thought I would be discussing my vibrator on this board.

georgia_bride09 · July 2010

Ok, so I just want to tell each and everyone of you in this thread that I think you're beautiful. And I sincerely mean that. So, yeah. And I feel the same way as all of you (re: body image issues and wanting to lose weight), but I also know that everyone feels that way, so I don't dwell on it, and I do plan to work on it, but for baby-making purposes moreso than anything else. I want to be as healthy as I possibly can before I stop taking my pills {this fall}.

Also, regarding the toy issue, my H and I also went to the adult store together and got one. I think we were both curious, because I'd never had one before. And he was up for it. He also got one of those vibrating rings (TMI) but we trashed that pretty quick- it didn't do anything. The store was one of those cheesy ones of the side of the Interstate and we were coming home from somewhere and just decided to stop and go in.

Birdie1483 · July 2010

TJ - I struggled with that too when I moved away from my hometown to be with FI. I got into a car accident the weekend I was moving there and didn't know who to call. I felt ashamed that I had to call him crying asking him to get home as fast as he could (he was OOT) because i needed help. I didn't like how I only knew him in town, had to tag along with him and his friends when I wanted to go out, and worried what would happen if our relationship didn't work out. I wanted to be all independent female and such.

There's nothing to be ashamed about though. If a couple is going to get married and start a life together, they start it as "one" IMO. You have to rely on him and he has to rely on you. It doesn't make you any less of an independent woman.

temerityjane · July 2010

I appreciate that, Birdie. I think my situation is somewhat different than you are imagining, but the sentiment is there.

Birdie1483 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:8bb8ddc3-b94e-4fac-8bce-bd9cfbaccb62">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]I never thought I would be discussing my vibrator on this board.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

I know I really hope this doesn't end up on FFF tomorrow. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-foot-in-mouth.gif" border="0" alt="Foot in mouth" title="Foot in mouth" />

MISSCOURTNEY20 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:3e026849-6444-4242-a5f2-c5807e4c703b">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPP's? : Court, I think you are adorable. And I think we know the real secret behind your great skin: black don't crack
Posted by Moneypenny424[/QUOTE]

Aww thanx, Penny. I love your siggy pic.
You know that was going to be my first response, but I didn't know how in love we were yet. LOL!! But I do think that taking naps has something to do with it.

louisvillebride21 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:a180b930-c679-473d-8434-86f3ffa7fbca">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPP's? : I know I really hope this doesn't end up on FFF tomorrow.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]
Oh, I'm sure it will. But you have to really think about what you're being flamed for. If I'm not flamed for being an asshat, I just brush it off. If I am being an asshat, then I reevaluate my behavior. Vibrator talk =/= asshat.

smokeybailey · July 2010

I would like to support doing whatever you need to to help you out to feel good about you. I've had botox, microdermabrasions, implants, bleached my teeth, etc.

I'm sorry that there are women here who don't feel good about themselves. When I was in my 20's, I was pretty insecure, but in my 30's I came into my own and there is no stopping me now. For reals.

You ladies are beautiful, witty and fun to be "around."

Now my secret-I love FFF and am always hoping to get flamed. I want to get all indignant and say something funny to defend myself. Alas, there is never a flame for me. Well, actually, I have been flamed twice but they weren't very good. Oh well.

georgia_bride09 · July 2010

Okay, ladies that don't O. It is time to TAKE CHARGE.

You do NOT have to go through life without having orgasms. If you are happy, your H is happy. Even if you think it'll hurt his feelings to introduce things (oral, toys, different positions), the first time you are super duper happy, he'll never want to go back to before again. For us, I'm always first. That's just what works for us. If my H can help me first, he knows that I'll then do whatever he wants (not whatever, but you know what I mean).

If you don't O from penetration, then incorporate what works for you into foreplay and then after you go, y'all can move into what works for him.

You CAN have an orgasm EVERYTIME. You just have to figure out what works for you. Once you figure that out, then you are good to go.

Make it happen, ladies.

/sex ed

sarah0725 · July 2010

I'm a little suspicious of toys, and I think they made things a lot more complicated for me. Before I ever used one, I was pretty happy with my sex life, and its results, and such. After I used one, though, I realized there was something else out there, and it has kind of messed with my head, to the point that I way overthink things now and thus am unhappy. Being in an LDR has made it worse because for the past few years, it's either been a complete drought for a month or all intimacy all the time for a few days, and thus I am a total mess. Plus, being in a messy environment kills my mood, and FI's apartment is always super messy. I'm hoping that living together will help us to straighten things out.

And that is the most explicit you will ever hear me get in a TMI thread.

akhensley81 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:a180b930-c679-473d-8434-86f3ffa7fbca">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPP's? : I know I really hope this doesn't end up on FFF tomorrow.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

Someone with a lot of ballls would have to flame a dozen of us all at once, if that was the case. I think we're safe. :)

My FI actually bought me my first vibrator. I was really hesitant at first... until I realized how well they work! Now we have a selection... some for me, some for him, and a few that we can use together. LOL! (And I'll admit I'm blushing a little at my desk right now.)

FutureMrsTR · July 2010

Thanks for all of the suggestions

I'm glad we're sharing today, haha.

Brie2010 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:37ca98d9-b9bf-40ae-9f1b-a52d84548866">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]Okay, ladies that don't O. It is time to TAKE CHARGE. You do NOT have to go through life without having orgasms. If you are happy, your H is happy. Even if you think it'll hurt his feelings to introduce things (oral, toys, different positions), the first time you are super duper happy, he'll never want to go back to before again. For us, I'm always first. That's just what works for us. If my H can help me first, he knows that I'll then do whatever he wants (not whatever, but you know what I mean). If you don't O from penetration, then incorporate what works for you into foreplay and then after you go, y'all can move into what works for him. You CAN have an orgasm EVERYTIME. You just have to figure out what works for you. Once you figure that out, then you are good to go. Make it happen, ladies. /sex ed
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

I am picturing you dressed up like Oprah right now and it's totally making my day.

Also, what she said, times a squillion.

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