Dealbreakers

ErinG93 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Oh, and, I couldn't date someone that chewed tobacco. Just.no. I dated a guy once that did and he had spit cups/bottles everywhere. Gross.
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This is a HUGE one for me. I had completely forgotten about this. Chewing tobacco makes me gaggy.

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specialk84 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dealbreakers : Well in other threads they're usually picking on someone's appearance or saying something stupid like fat people shouldn't eat at buffets.
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]

<div>*chucklesnort*</div><div>
</div><div>I think it's one thing if someone says they don't find a particular physical characteristic attractive IN GENERAL. It crosses the line if someone says, "Damn, Special [or any other individual called out specifically], you look like a damn parade float."</div>

Megbo2012 · July 2012

H and I are Maxxinistas. I couldn't date someone who wasn't a Maxxinista.

Ok now I'm being silly.

specialk84 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Oh, and, I couldn't date someone that chewed tobacco. Just.no. I dated a guy once that did and he had spit cups/bottles everywhere. Gross.
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

<div>BARF.</div>

angelstar975 · July 2012

Yeah, chewing tobacco is disgusting. My ex used to do it occasionally and I used to find it and flush it down the toilet, because at 21, that seemed like a constructive solution to the problem.

aragx6 · July 2012

I'm a light smoker (like a pack a week) and even I think chewing tobacco is disgusting.

mica178 · July 2012

I wouldn't date a smoker or a person who did drugs on a regular basis. I probably wouldn't seriously date a person with whom I couldn't hold an intelligent conversation or who didn't like international travel. That tends to mean I date people with high levels of education, although I wouldn't rule out a well-read, adventurous person who didn't do tons of formal education.

Megbo2012 · July 2012

Did anyone say a previous cheater? Because I don't think I'd ever be with someone who I knew cheated.

mica178 · July 2012

As an ex-cheater who stopped cheating once I hit my mid-20s, I could forgive an ex-cheater. H used to be horrible at monogamy, and now, he can't imagine wanting to be with anyone but me.

aragx6 · July 2012

Question for those still around: A lot of people said not wanting have kids would be a dealbreaker and I agree. I'm curious if anyone would find an inability to have kids a dealbreaker? I have zero issue with adoption so I coudn't care less, but I know not everyone feels that way.

aragx6 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Did anyone say a previous cheater? Because I don't think I'd ever be with someone who I knew cheated.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

I think I'd have to know the circumstances, but as a rule I'm going to say yes.

ErinG93 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Question for those still around: A lot of people said not wanting have kids would be a dealbreaker and I agree. I'm curious if anyone would find an inability to have kids a dealbreaker? I have zero issue with adoption so I coudn't care less, but I know not everyone feels that way.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Not a problem for me, I think we would adopt or just have dogs.

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Megbo2012 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Question for those still around: A lot of people said not wanting have kids would be a dealbreaker and I agree. I'm curious if anyone would find an inability to have kids a dealbreaker? I have zero issue with adoption so I coudn't care less, but I know not everyone feels that way.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

<div>I would prefer to have biological children, but it definitely wouldn't be a dealbreaker.</div><div>
</div><div>Mica: I can see that. I think I would just be too paranoid, KWIM?</div>

dumdumfroggie · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Question for those still around: A lot of people said not wanting have kids would be a dealbreaker and I agree. I'm curious if anyone would find an inability to have kids a dealbreaker? I have zero issue with adoption so I coudn't care less, but I know not everyone feels that way.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

<div>I had this discussion with FI before we got engaged. He really wants kids, but it's going to be very difficult if not impossible for me to have one. Luckily, it wasn't a dealbreaker for him.</div><div>
</div><div>I don't think it would be a dealbreaker for me either.</div>

rsanna · July 2012

I couldn't be with someone who wants kids or who doesn't like cats. No drugs or heavy drinking or smoking either. I mean, those are things that have leeway that I could get past, but I can't imagine myself being happy about that. Luckily, I doubt FI will drink because of bad experiences from his dad. But if he does, I know he won't let it control him. Another dealbreaker for me is someone that takes themselves too seriously and can't ever have fun.

ErinG93 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>Mmmm..I guess it depends on the circumstances of the cheating - like how long ago it was, how old they were, that sort of thing. Cheated on a GF in HS? Not as big of a deal to me as if he had cheated on a long-term 'adult' relationship. But I don't know about that one. </strong> Re: inability to have children. Not a dealbreaker. I'd be down to adopt.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This.

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LeiselEB · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Question for those still around: A lot of people said not wanting have kids would be a dealbreaker and I agree. I'm curious if anyone would find an inability to have kids a dealbreaker? I have zero issue with adoption so I coudn't care less, but I know not everyone feels that way.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

<div>I wouldn't see that as a deal breaker at all. But on the flip side, I could never be with someone who DID see the inability to have kids as a deal breaker. </div>

heb557 · July 2012

I couldn't marry someone shorter then me and not in shape. Financial stability is also a must.

Thankfully H has his sh i t together.

KatWAG · July 2012

Dealbreakers:
- has kids
- uses drugs
- liberal/ democrat
- our families dont get along
- no sense of humor

heb557 · July 2012

Chewing Tobacco is so gross. My dad has done it my whole life, so I am used to it, however that is a huge dealbreaker.

Megbo2012 · July 2012

Rach that makes sense too. I was thinking of a more serious cheating offense.

Nickivegan · July 2012

Republican. Wanted bio kids. Unable to grasp that concept that my last name will not change. Smelly. Short. Unfunny. Non outdoorsy. Not artsy.

calixtine · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Question for those still around: A lot of people said not wanting have kids would be a dealbreaker and I agree. I'm curious if anyone would find an inability to have kids a dealbreaker? I have zero issue with adoption so I coudn't care less, but I know not everyone feels that way.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

Nope, this wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me. I would be willing to have a combination of adopted and biological kids. I think H would only be willing to adopt if we weren't able to have children on our own.

MyUserName1 · July 2012

I think just because someone has cheated in their past does not make them more likely to cheat now. It depends somewhat on circumstances, but both H and I have cheated in the past. Unless someone has personal issues, people in happy/good relationships don't tend to cheat.

wrigleyville · July 2012

Midge - I'm suuuuuper late with this, but I think your H would look really good with a goatee.

Megbo2012 · July 2012

I couldn't date someone who wasn't ok with my infrequent leg shaving.

ArynBaker · July 2012

I'm late to this game but wanted to play anyway.

Deal breakers:

Lack of motivation/drive/general laziness

Bad with finances

Rude to others. You can bet your sweet ass if he's rude to others, one day he'll be rude to you.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dealbreakers : Prada and Dior both have tie dye purses. Just sayin'
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]
Ha, I don't think I'd spend more than $50 on a bag.

aragx6 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I couldn't date someone who wasn't ok with my infrequent leg shaving.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Amen.

Megbo2012 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dealbreakers : Ha, I don't think I'd spend more than $50 on a bag.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

<div>It's just kind of funny. I wouldn't expect it from them. But I also wouldnt expect this </div>
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