As far as the Duggars I think the younger ones are going to ""rebel". I think they will see their older siblings lives and think "F' that".
Mom can't have many (if any) more kids, so they will not be 'buddies' to anyone.
What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests. Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated.
No matter how many studies come out that show that spanking your child will only increase the behavior you are trying to prevent - or cause more problem behaviors to evolve, people will still spank their kids. I don't get it.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_talk-to-me-peoplenight-thread?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:89565b5a-8bd7-4ed2-a8b4-fe55e4279d89Post:d797b888-f104-4024-a82e-82b2bec72e6f">Re: Talk to me people...Night Thread</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Talk to me people...Night Thread : I'm sure it isn't easy, but what can anyone do about it? Well, besides to not watch their show. Posted by RupertPenny[/QUOTE]
Oh I'm not judging them, I'm just pointing out that those defending them say "If the kids don't like it they can just leave the family" But it's not always as simple as I'm going to pack my bags and walk away.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_talk-to-me-peoplenight-thread?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:89565b5a-8bd7-4ed2-a8b4-fe55e4279d89Post:f2dcc3f8-367c-44bc-b9c5-3a35f7356590">Re: Talk to me people...Night Thread</a>: [QUOTE]Move your trip, any! Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
<div>If I hadn't already taken the time off, and my family's big GTG wasn't the weekend we get there, I would. You are going to be there the first weekend of August right, I added that correctly?</div>
I am not saying it does or doesn't fish, just stating my anecdote. I really don't think it did shiiit though. My parents had a decidedly non-physically threatening way of disciplining me after that so I learned the terror of a "I'm very disappointed in you" statement.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_talk-to-me-peoplenight-thread?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:89565b5a-8bd7-4ed2-a8b4-fe55e4279d89Post:f607ad75-5090-4106-adb9-b0c377f15906">Re: Talk to me people...Night Thread</a>: [QUOTE]UGH. You don't need to HAVE kids to have a belief system on how o raise them. Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
That's funny you say that because a lot of people with kids will point out that people without kids, "just don't know until they have some of their own."
I was never spanked in any way and don't ever plan on doing that to my kids. But I also see a difference between a single light swat and repeatedly hitting your kid for five minutes or using spanking as a threat or means of control. We learned in a psych class that if you want to teach a kid a lesson you can't smack them out of anger, and should only do it once. Doing it more and when you're angry just makes them resentful. I don't know how true that is, but I see how there's a difference.
"The Look" was terrifying in our house, Mom would look over her glasses and then you'd know you were in trouble. The fact that she kept so calm was the scariest.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_talk-to-me-peoplenight-thread?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:89565b5a-8bd7-4ed2-a8b4-fe55e4279d89Post:f6393d13-e98e-4cfd-91d9-b4d3f4b44872">Re: Talk to me people...Night Thread</a>: [QUOTE]I am not saying it does or doesn't fish, just stating my anecdote. :) I really don't think it did shiiit though. My parents had a decidedly non-physically threatening way of disciplining me after that so I learned the terror of a <strong>"I'm very disappointed in you" statement. </strong> Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]
<div>My mom made me cry a couple times just by uttering those words. Talent. I don't cry easily. </div>
I think I was reduced to tears if I heard "I'm really disappointed in you". I knew I was in SERIOUS fuckingshit then. And it sucked to feel like I disappointed them.
Then again, Fish and I are in the minority who think that the dad with the laptop shooting was absofucking horrifying.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_talk-to-me-peoplenight-thread?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:89565b5a-8bd7-4ed2-a8b4-fe55e4279d89Post:b48b10c9-aa6c-4c75-8921-5545a294ac5a">Re: Talk to me people...Night Thread</a>: [QUOTE]Gun laptop dude is a fool. Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
<div> </div><div>For reals. It blows my mind that people think otherwise, truly. </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_talk-to-me-peoplenight-thread?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:89565b5a-8bd7-4ed2-a8b4-fe55e4279d89Post:b48b10c9-aa6c-4c75-8921-5545a294ac5a">Re: Talk to me people...Night Thread</a>: [QUOTE]Gun laptop dude is a total fucking asshole. Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]<div> </div><div> </div><div>FTFY.</div><div>
Re: Talk to me people...Night Thread
Mom can't have many (if any) more kids, so they will not be 'buddies' to anyone.
Vacation with Alix, Andy, Mandy, and FLORENCE. AND HER MACHINE.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Talk to me people...Night Thread : I'm sure it isn't easy, but what can anyone do about it? Well, besides to not watch their show.
Posted by RupertPenny[/QUOTE]
Oh I'm not judging them, I'm just pointing out that those defending them say "If the kids don't like it they can just leave the family" But it's not always as simple as I'm going to pack my bags and walk away.
Vacation with Alix, Andy, Mandy, and FLORENCE. AND HER MACHINE.
The Margarita Evolution
[QUOTE]Move your trip, any!
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
<div>If I hadn't already taken the time off, and my family's big GTG wasn't the weekend we get there, I would. You are going to be there the first weekend of August right, I added that correctly?</div>
Vacation with Alix, Andy, Mandy, and FLORENCE. AND HER MACHINE.
The Margarita Evolution
[QUOTE]UGH. You don't need to HAVE kids to have a belief system on how o raise them.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
That's funny you say that because a lot of people with kids will point out that people without kids, "just don't know until they have some of their own."
"Halloween may have loose women scantily clad...
But Christmas has a pregnant virgin.
Way cooler." - anna.oskar
Vacation with Alix, Andy, Mandy, and FLORENCE. AND HER MACHINE.
The Margarita Evolution
"Halloween may have loose women scantily clad...
But Christmas has a pregnant virgin.
Way cooler." - anna.oskar
[QUOTE]I am not saying it does or doesn't fish, just stating my anecdote. :) I really don't think it did shiiit though. My parents had a decidedly non-physically threatening way of disciplining me after that so I learned the terror of a <strong>"I'm very disappointed in you" statement. </strong>
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]
<div>My mom made me cry a couple times just by uttering those words. Talent. I don't cry easily. </div>
Vacation with Alix, Andy, Mandy, and FLORENCE. AND HER MACHINE.
The Margarita Evolution
"Halloween may have loose women scantily clad...
But Christmas has a pregnant virgin.
Way cooler." - anna.oskar
Vacation with Alix, Andy, Mandy, and FLORENCE. AND HER MACHINE.
The Margarita Evolution
Vacation with Alix, Andy, Mandy, and FLORENCE. AND HER MACHINE.
The Margarita Evolution
[QUOTE]Gun laptop dude is a fool.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>For reals. It blows my mind that people think otherwise, truly. </div>
Vacation with Alix, Andy, Mandy, and FLORENCE. AND HER MACHINE.
The Margarita Evolution
I heard of gun laptop guy way after the fact.
I don't get it when parents, who are supposedly adults, try to make points by acting out the same way as their teenagers.
[QUOTE]Gun laptop dude is a total fucking asshole.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>FTFY.</div><div>
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