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Ughhh so mad at my bridesmaids!!!!!!
Okay, So I have been engaged for just about a year now, but I created a new account today because my old account had my full name. 
So I chose my bridesmaids a while back and they all said yes!!! I asked them all for $350 and for their sizes. I think I am being nice by doing all the hard work of getting their dresses, shoes and hair stuff. But they all are being so rude... Advice?
So I chose my bridesmaids a while back and they all said yes!!! I asked them all for $350 and for their sizes. I think I am being nice by doing all the hard work of getting their dresses, shoes and hair stuff. But they all are being so rude... Advice?
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Re: Ughhh so mad at my bridesmaids!!!!!!
[QUOTE]Okay, So I have been engaged for just about a year now, but I created a new account today because my old account had my full name. :( So I chose my bridesmaids a while back and they all said yes!!! <strong>I asked them all for $350 and for their sizes. I think I am being nice by doing all the hard work of getting their dresses, shoes and hair stuff. But they all are being so rude... Advice?</strong>
Posted by LovinLife11[/QUOTE]
i had to read this about 10 times to make sure i read that correctly.
you ASKED them for $350? yes, you ARE being rude. if you require certain shoes or hair pieces, those you must pay yourself.
you should have asked each girl in PRIVATE what their budget is, then picked a dress that was fine for the lowest. you don't get I'M THE BRIDE GIVE ME MONEY!
first off, i would be nervous that you would buy everything and pocket what was left over. also, just 'giving you a size' does not mean that when it comes to the dress thats what size they are. different styles can affect sizing.
i would be very angry if i was a bridesmaid and this happened. i am a bridesmaid in a wedding october 15, and if this was done i'd be out
Yes, I am real! Geez... Thought I was being nice and helping them. I know the are busy.
[QUOTE]I dont know what a dollar dance is and a money tree?
Posted by LovinLife11[/QUOTE]
<div>And that just solidified your trollness. Anyone who has been around these boards knows at least what a dollar dance is. Sorry, you lose. Go away now.</div>
[QUOTE]Um they are rude because they keep saying they won't due it and they want me to buy it.
Posted by LovinLife11[/QUOTE]
<div>You need to ask what each individual budget is.</div>
I do not feel like I am rude to ask for money from the bridesmaids. And sorry if I spelled something wrong, my bad.
[QUOTE]Okay, so I looked up a <strong>money dance and a dollar tree</strong>. I am not doing that. We are not having dancing. And I am not asking guests to give me money. I do not feel like I am rude to ask for money from the bridesmaids. And sorry if I spelled something wrong, my bad.
Posted by LovinLife11[/QUOTE]
<div>You're just pathetic. </div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ughhh so mad at my bridesmaids!!!!!! : You need to ask what each individual budget is.
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]
Okay thanks. I will ask how much they can afford to give me.
[QUOTE]Okay, so I looked up a money dance and a dollar tree. I am not doing that. We are not having dancing. And I am not asking guests to give me money. I do not feel like I am rude to ask for money from the bridesmaids. And sorry if I spelled something wrong, my bad.
Posted by LovinLife11[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>Yes, its expected that BMs need to pay for a dress, but you don't set an amount without asking, ESPECIALLY that high. Obviously they can't afford that since they are not complying, so either lower your standards or pay for the $350 dresses yourself.
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M's BM gowns were $350 but I picked up the cost after $200
You should offer that at least
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ughhh so mad at my bridesmaids!!!!!! : Okay thanks. I will ask how much they can afford to give me.
Posted by LovinLife11[/QUOTE]
They don't "give" you anything. You go shopping together, they pay for the dress, not you.