Bridesmaids With Tattoos

Re: Bridesmaids With Tattoos

• Dreamergirl8812 member

  

  September 2013

  cmelliott said:

  Ajuliana said:

  Hey everyone lets stop feeding into smelliots ways...she is already trolling the etiquette board on Honeymoon registries too!!!!!
  
  I'm not trolling. I'm having two conversations with people who disagree with what I have to say lol. That's very legal to do here.
  

  Oh good, because if it was illegal here the secret mod police would arrest you. Seriously? It's called TOS.

  TOS says I can't post in two boards at once? Man I'll have to go read the fine print for that.
  

  
  

  
  
  
  

  
  
  
  
  

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• Ajuliana member

  

  September 2013

  cmelliott said:

  
  

  Ajuliana said:

  
  

  cmelliott said:

  cowgirl8238 said:

  Hey everyone lets stop feeding into smelliots ways...she is already trolling the etiquette board on Honeymoon registries too!!!!!
  
  I'm not trolling. I'm having two conversations with people who disagree with what I have to say lol. That's very legal to do here.
  

  Oh good, because if it was illegal here the secret mod police would arrest you.
  
  Seriously? It's called TOS.

  
  

  TOS says I can't post in two boards at once? Man I'll have to go read the fine print for that.
  
  
  [No words to describe how that went over your head]
  
  

  
  

  
  Previously Alaynajuliana

  
  

  
  

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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  September 2013 edited September 2013

  Wow.  This. Entire. Thread.
  
  
  

  
  "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
  
  

  
  

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• GypsyWife_ member

  

  September 2013

  Dreamergirl8812 said:

  
  

  cmelliott said:

  
  

  
  

  Ajuliana said:

  
  

  cmelliott said:

  cowgirl8238 said:

  Hey everyone lets stop feeding into smelliots ways...she is already trolling the etiquette board on Honeymoon registries too!!!!!
  
  I'm not trolling. I'm having two conversations with people who disagree with what I have to say lol. That's very legal to do here.
  

  Oh good, because if it was illegal here the secret mod police would arrest you.
  
  Seriously? It's called TOS.

  
  

  TOS says I can't post in two boards at once? Man I'll have to go read the fine print for that.
  

  
  

  
  
  
  I can't stop staring . I'm going to have nightmares.

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• mikencindy member

  

  September 2013

  I have the same situation.
  I myself have a few small tattoos i am covering up for my wedding but it's not right to ask anyone else to. I have a bridesmaid who i would prefer have cover them but I'm just letting it go
  

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• aurianna member

  

  September 2013 edited September 2013

  @cmelliott
  
  So I missed the part where you answered my question...
  
  If you asked Marc right now (phrased in a completely unbiased manner that didn't point to the answer you're hoping for) if he'd feel more comfortable in traditionally men's or women attire, what do you think he'd say?
  
  And if Marc did end up telling you he'd feel more comfortable in men's attire what can your possible justification be for having one of your closest friends not only cover up a tattoo he uses for expressing himself but also putting him in a dress when he feels more comfortable as a man?
  You can claim I "don't know the situation" but I can't imagine a scenario on earth where that wouldn't be a really crappy and selfish way to treat a friend who's going through what is possibly a very difficult time.
  
  
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  I just went to Sams so I have a lot of troll food.
  

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• cmelliott member

  

  September 2013

  Ajuliana said:

  Ajuliana said:

  Hey everyone lets stop feeding into smelliots ways...she is already trolling the etiquette board on Honeymoon registries too!!!!!
  
  I'm not trolling. I'm having two conversations with people who disagree with what I have to say lol. That's very legal to do here.
  

  Oh good, because if it was illegal here the secret mod police would arrest you. Seriously? It's called TOS.

  TOS says I can't post in two boards at once? Man I'll have to go read the fine print for that.
  

  [No words to describe how that went over your head]

  
  

  aurianna said:

  @cmelliott
  
  So I missed the part where you answered my question...
  
  If you asked Marc right now (phrased in a completely unbiased manner that didn't point to the answer you're hoping for) if he'd feel more comfortable in traditionally men's or women attire, what do you think he'd say?
  
  And if Marc did end up telling you he'd feel more comfortable in men's attire what can your possible justification be for having one of your closest friends not only cover up a tattoo he uses for expressing himself but also putting him in a dress when he feels more comfortable as a man?
  You can claim I "don't know the situation" but I can't imagine a scenario on earth where that wouldn't be a really crappy and selfish way to treat a friend who's going through what is possibly a very difficult time.
  
  
  ETA
  I just went to Sams so I have a lot of troll food.
  

  this whole debate is over. i'm letting it go because it's no one's business and everyone else stopped talking but you. this thread is for tattoos. we can talk about that tattoo if you'd like?
  

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• PandPMeant2B member

  

  September 2013

  I just love when people say things like "It's none of your business!"  Then why did you bring it up on an open forum to a bunch of internet strangers in the first place?!? You could have easily kept this thread on topic by not mentioning things that had absolutely nothing to do with the original post, which opened up a whole new can of worms. I'm glad you did, though.  I did learn a few things thanks to some of the other posters.

  
  

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• cmelliott member

  

  September 2013

  PandPMeant2B said:

  I just love when people say things like "It's none of your business!"  Then why did you bring it up on an open forum to a bunch of internet strangers in the first place?!? You could have easily kept this thread on topic by not mentioning things that had absolutely nothing to do with the original post, which opened up a whole new can of worms. I'm glad you did, though.  I did learn a few things thanks to some of the other posters.

  it was relevant in the post that was directed towards me. but no even if i told you that i'm forcing marc in dress, stilettos, and a thong, it's still none of your business. even if i chose to share it. cause it's my info to share. and of course i understand what can happen if i share but still, it's none of your business and i can do what i want with my info. but i am very glad you learned some things about the tattoo discussion. i hope if it comes up for you again you make the choice that best fits you.
  

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• NYCBruin member

  

  September 2013

  cmelliott said:

  PandPMeant2B said:

  I just love when people say things like "It's none of your business!"  Then why did you bring it up on an open forum to a bunch of internet strangers in the first place?!? You could have easily kept this thread on topic by not mentioning things that had absolutely nothing to do with the original post, which opened up a whole new can of worms. I'm glad you did, though.  I did learn a few things thanks to some of the other posters.

  it was relevant in the post that was directed towards me. but no even if i told you that i'm forcing marc in dress, stilettos, and a thong, it's still none of your business. even if i chose to share it. cause it's my info to share. and of course i understand what can happen if i share but still, it's none of your business and i can do what i want with my info. but i am very glad you learned some things about the tattoo discussion. i hope if it comes up for you again you make the choice that best fits you.
  

  FFS you were the one that posted all this shit.  You can't get mad when people respond.  You don't get to dictate what people respond to or how they respond.  If you were to ask us whether you should charge your guests $50 to attend your wedding or $100, we would tell you that you shouldn't charge them anything because it's rude.  I'm not going to let you walk around with lipstick on your teeth even though you only asked me about your eyeliner.  You should know that you have lipstick on your teeth. 

  
  

  People on here were just pointing out how your friend probably is feeling in this situation, hoping that maybe you would realize how unintentionally awful you had been acting towards Marc and try to do some damage control once you realized how hurtful what you had done/said was.  I always appreciate the candid advice on here, since it makes me realize that I was considering doing something hurtful or rude.  Because of the ladies on here, I've avoided accidentally hurting a lot of feelings.

  Don't worry guys, I have the Wedding Police AND the Whambulance on speed dial!

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• cmelliott member

  

  September 2013

  NYCBruin said:

  cmelliott said:

  PandPMeant2B said:

  I just love when people say things like "It's none of your business!"  Then why did you bring it up on an open forum to a bunch of internet strangers in the first place?!? You could have easily kept this thread on topic by not mentioning things that had absolutely nothing to do with the original post, which opened up a whole new can of worms. I'm glad you did, though.  I did learn a few things thanks to some of the other posters.

  it was relevant in the post that was directed towards me. but no even if i told you that i'm forcing marc in dress, stilettos, and a thong, it's still none of your business. even if i chose to share it. cause it's my info to share. and of course i understand what can happen if i share but still, it's none of your business and i can do what i want with my info. but i am very glad you learned some things about the tattoo discussion. i hope if it comes up for you again you make the choice that best fits you.
  

  FFS you were the one that posted all this shit.  You can't get mad when people respond.  You don't get to dictate what people respond to or how they respond.  If you were to ask us whether you should charge your guests $50 to attend your wedding or $100, we would tell you that you shouldn't charge them anything because it's rude.  I'm not going to let you walk around with lipstick on your teeth even though you only asked me about your eyeliner.  You should know that you have lipstick on your teeth. 

  
  

  People on here were just pointing out how your friend probably is feeling in this situation, hoping that maybe you would realize how unintentionally awful you had been acting towards Marc and try to do some damage control once you realized how hurtful what you had done/said was.  I always appreciate the candid advice on here, since it makes me realize that I was considering doing something hurtful or rude.  Because of the ladies on here, I've avoided accidentally hurting a lot of feelings.

  excerpt from my last post- "i understand what can happen if i share".
  

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• PandPMeant2B member

  

  September 2013 edited September 2013

  So much for the whole debate being over.  The point we are trying to make is that just because you THOUGHT you were being compassionate and you didn't MEAN to be rude, doesn't mean you weren't! We're not telling you you don't give a shit about Marc; we're telling you your actions don't send that message and we're trying to help you be a better friend/person.  Who wouldn't want to be a better friend to those they love?

  
  

  ETA: And yes, you CAN do whatever you want with your info; you're a free person. No one is forcing you to take our advice... you've made it pretty clear that you won't. But it never hurts to hear and consider other perspectives.

  
  

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• cmelliott member

  

  September 2013

  PandPMeant2B said:

  So much for the whole debate being over.  The point we are trying to make is that just because you THOUGHT you were being compassionate and you didn't MEAN to be rude, doesn't mean you weren't! We're not telling you you don't give a shit about Marc; we're telling you your actions don't send that message and we're trying to help you be a better friend/person.  Who wouldn't want to be a better friend to those they love?

  
  

  ETA: And yes, you CAN do whatever you want with your info; you're a free person. No one is forcing you to take our advice... you've made it pretty clear that you won't. But it never hurts to hear and consider other perspectives.

  absolutely. and i've considered all perspectives already. thank you for your input.
  

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