Dry Reception

lyndausvi · January 2014

Ms2MrsViney said:

@lyndausvi no it's just proves people clearly don't mind paying for their drinks

Around and around we go. I have no problem paying for my drinks when I control the when and where.

When I'm invited somewhere I expect to be taken care of. Just like I do when I invite people somewhere. That includes food appropriate for the time of day, beverage of some sort (does not have to include alcohol) and a comfortable environment (places to sit, comfortable temperature, etc). At no time should I open my wallet in order to upgrade the options the host is providing.

Pretty simple requests actually.

ETA - forgot one. To be treated like all the other guests attending the event.

banana468 · January 2014

Point.

You.

manateehugger · January 2014

How old are you?

banana468 · January 2014

Ms2MrsViney said:
@banana498 wasn't an insult just be sure to teach not to call people tacky

We'll cross that bridge when people stop doing and advising others to do tacky things. Until then, I'll have to explain the "do as Mom says and not as others do" rule yet again.

chibiyui · January 2014

Ms2MrsViney said:
@chibiyui and that's your opinion which is fine I've been to weddings and bought drinks and me and others do not consider them bad hosts

Thats just like, your opinion dude.

banana468 · January 2014

chibiyui said:

Ms2MrsViney said:
@chibiyui and that's your opinion which is fine I've been to weddings and bought drinks and me and others do not consider them bad hosts
Thats just like, your opinion dude.

Well, then it must be fact.

MyNameIsNot · January 2014

Ms2MrsViney said:

@lyndausvi and we will keep going around. I don't agree with you and you don't agree with me and it's that simple and it's not going to change no matter the scenario. You think it's improper etiquette a long with the other ladies on here and I don't. I can't convince you otherwise and you can't convince me otherwise point blank period

No one is trying to convince you. You've already established that you're far too hard headed to understand much less open your mind.

But etiquette is not a matter of opinion. It is fact that cash bars are rude. You can choose to have one and not judge hosts that have them, but they are still rude.

CaliMel11 · January 2014

Obviously you are just trolling. If you REALLY did not care like you have claimed SO MUCH in this thread, you would not be posting over and over and over again trying to win this pointless argument.

If you don't care about etiquette, great, goodie for you. But that doesn't somehow make you "right" about the rules not applying, because they do.

You can have a cash bar and people will talk about how rude of a host you are and grumble about it to themselves. Being a bad host isn't something to be proud of.

banana468 · January 2014

Ms2MrsViney said:
Never said it wasn't my opinion and opinion were fact everything here is opinion based just like other boards

Except you act like the concept of proper etiquette is some kind of amorphous glob with no defined rules.

You are DEAD WRONG but refuse to acknowledge it.

MobKaz · January 2014

Ms2MrsViney said: @mynameisnot etiquette was developed how? Who developed it? Clearly people got together and discussed what people should or shouldn't do, which is their OPINION. How is it not? Came out of someone's mouth and people agreed or disagreed on it. I don't justify a cash bar as rude plain and simple I do not care about this etiquette scheme you're throwing it's not universal nor rude or tacky have an open mind to people don't have to do what you say, just because you don't like it doesn't mean it's rude

I will not waste my time attempting to argue with someone who exhibits absolutely no logic. However, if you walk away with anything, I hope it is that you learn to flipping quote, and embrace the concept of punctuation.

MyNameIsNot · January 2014

Ms2MrsViney said:

@mynameisnot etiquette was developed how? Who developed it? Clearly people got together and discussed what people should or shouldn't do, which is their OPINION. How is it not? Came out of someone's mouth and people agreed or disagreed on it. I don't justify a cash bar as rude plain and simple I do not care about this etiquette scheme you're throwing it's not universal nor rude or tacky have an open mind to people don't have to do what you say, just because you don't like it doesn't mean it's rude

I don't fully understand some of this gibberish, but you are confused about how etiquette has come to exist. There was no counsel where a bunch of people decided what everyone should do.

Etiquette has evolved over the years as a set of social standards and rules that people should use to treat each other. It's actually the same method by which "common law" came to be. A set of rules evolved over time that society agrees to abide by. Failure to abide by common law can open you up to legal action, just as failure to abide by etiquette is rude. While you may have an opinion about what the law or etiquette should be, your opinion does not change etiquette any more than it changes law.

Numerous experts over the years have written countless books and manuals on etiquette. They are not making up rules. They are consolidating a body of rules and principles into a simple source.

If you are confused about the basic rules of etiquette, pick up an etiquette guide. You will find that any reputable source prohibits charging guests for anything at a hosted social event.

CaliMel11 · January 2014

Ms2MrsViney said:

@calemel11 I do not care if I have to pay for drinks and I do not care about your opinion. The reason why I keep posting is the same reason why you guys keep posting over and over again with your pointless comments. Like really? Why are you here?

Maybe you should ask yourself that? I really don't understand why you hijacked someone elses thread.

AddieCake · January 2014

I want to buy Banana a drink.

banana468 · January 2014

I am wondering if this is an issue of entitlement or intelligence.

CaliMel11 · January 2014

Ms2MrsViney said:

Again claimel11 why do u care? Find something better to do I stated an opinion on here and you and others came back with your directed towards me I didn't hijack anything thank you

Again, telling me to "find something better to do" could be said for yourself. And yes, actually you did hijack this thread. It's supposed to be about a dry reception, not if cash bars are acceptable or not. You took over the whole thread from the OP with your arguments and calling us names and are still doing it now.

MairePoppy · January 2014

AddieL73 said:

I want to buy Banana a drink.

The next round is on me.

Maggie0829 · January 2014

@Ms2MrsViney are you arguing just to argue?

And if I had a dollar for every time the word "opinion" was stated in this thread I could possibly buy myself a lovely Chanel bag.

manateehugger · January 2014

I'll just invite Banana to my wedding (you know, the event I'm hosting) so she can hit up our open bar.

MobKaz · January 2014

banana468 said:

I am wondering if this is an issue of entitlement or intelligence.

I fear we have a combo platter here.

Jen4948 · January 2014

@Ms2MrsViney are you arguing just to argue?

And if I had a dollar for every time the word "opinion" was stated in this thread I could possibly buy myself a lovely Chanel bag.

Sure sounds like it!

banana468 · January 2014

PDKH said:
I'll just invite Banana to my wedding (you know, the event I'm hosting) so she can hit up our open bar.

Thank you! Unfortunately and fortunately (if all goes well) won't be partaking of open bars for the next 7 mos or so.

Maggie0829 · January 2014

So @Ms2MrsViney what kind of cake are you having at your wedding?

chibiyui · January 2014

Ms2MrsViney said:
@calemel11 I do not care if I have to pay for drinks and I do not care about your opinion. The reason why I keep posting is the same reason why you guys keep posting over and over again with your pointless comments. Like really? Why are you here?

WHATEVEA, WHATEVA I DO WHAT I WANT.

someone please post some Cartman gifs. I'm on my phone and can't.

MobKaz · January 2014

manateehugger · January 2014

banana468 said:

I'll just invite Banana to my wedding (you know, the event I'm hosting) so she can hit up our open bar.
Thank you! Unfortunately and fortunately (if all goes well) won't be partaking of open bars for the next 7 mos or so.

Congrats! I'll save a bottle of wine for you when you're ready then!

MairePoppy · January 2014

That's wonderful, banana468. Another Chiquita added to your bunch : )

JoanE2012 · January 2014

Ms2MrsViney said:

@joane2012 it has nothing to do with affordability either. Some people choose bars to sometimes cut back on alcohol intake whereas in some places open bars get out of hand. Some have it cause they don't drink but they give their guests the option to and not on their dime so what. Couples do not owe their wedding guests anything it's not about if this is comfortable if this should taste like this if this should be in the menu, it's about celebrating a union and celebrating it WITH the couple not individual guest preference on everything they do, if that's the case people should send out surveys before they get married since you care so much. You shouldn't be attending a wedding based on food drinks anything that's materialistic for that matter cause that is not what it's about

I really thought you were a troll. I was hoping you were. Until I saw you have a Honeyfund set up. You clearly don't understand etiquette.

chibiyui · January 2014

Ms2MrsViney said:
@joane2012 talk about a troll and low key stalker huh? Why is it that how i choose to go about my wedding concern you? I've been to plenty with honey fund accounts and happily gifted them. Hmmm I wonder why honey fund has so many members? Oh cause people are using it. My wedding will be across the country and already I have my own home, let me know how people carry wedding gifts on airplanes... that's right they don't. I'm not going to register for things I don't need and cant even take back with me after my wedding its a waste of money and pointless if people don't give gifts its nothing but a hair flip honey. Are you really that mad and are you really that INVESTED in me you have to search me! What a compliment. Honey pleeeeease get a life my wedding does not and will never concern YOU.

No. Honeyfunds are popular because people are stupid with money.

banana468 · January 2014

Plenty of people do things that aren't smart. The companies just have a new way of getting money. That people do this doesn't make it right.

Your logic assumes a business would only do the right thing. Bernie Madoff and ENRON come to mind as examples that put more holes in your Swiss Cheese.

chibiyui · January 2014

Ms2MrsViney said:
@chibiyui facts please? No? Ok thanks

If you are using a service that charges either yourself or your guests a 3-5% transaction fee, for an event where many people already give money, you are handling your money stupidly.

Thats just common sense. You are LOSING money by using Honeyfund.

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