What Your Guests Really Think of Your Honeymoon Registry...

Inkdancer · March 2014

wamboy said:

@NYCBruin You nut job ... I am the one who posted links, no one else on this board has. If your making the argument it is rude and breaks etiquette prove it!!!! What is so hard about that? I posted links that say it isn't rude. Prove me wrong. Proof according to Websters:the cogency of evidence that compels acceptance by the mind of a truth or a fact b : the process or an instance of establishing the validity of a statement especially by derivation from other statements in accordance with principles of reasoning: something that induces certainty or establishes validity

Another TOS violation. Personal attacks are not necessary at all! No one is being mean to you or anything, nobody has attacked you. This is childish behavior.

@KnotPorscha

Inkdancer · March 2014

wamboy said:

@lnkdancer Um, yes they have. If you did a little thing called reading you would see that they have. In fact calling someone rude is an attack! Hmmmm food for thought.

No. Telling someone that they're being rude is not an attack. Nobody has called you names, but you have called us names several times.

Hmm. Food for thought.

FiancB · March 2014

jdluvr06 · March 2014

I've never met a person who didn't think speaking about politics in a gathering is rude. Haven't you heard you shouldn't talk politics or religion as those can be very heated topics and it is easy to offend others.

NYCBruin · March 2014

This is clearly a hopeless cause, so I'll leave you with these

Bless your heart

jdluvr06 · March 2014

NYCBruin said:

This is clearly a hopeless cause, so I'll leave you with these

Bless your heart

I only skimmed before but I went back and read and it does seem like a hopeless cause.

FiancB · March 2014

wamboy said:

@jdluvr06 guess it depends on your group of friends. I tend not to hang around with people who are easily butt hurt. I have better things to do with my time than foster needy friendships with people looking to be offended.

That's why the saying is mixed company. You can talk to your bffs about whatever you want because presumably you have pretty similar views. You don't talk about those things around people you don't know well or just met, hence the "mixed company" disclaimer.

But again

FiancB · March 2014

FiancB · March 2014

LOLZ reading comprehension fail

PS I'm not NYCBruin

FiancB · March 2014

Has this thread reached puppies status? I think so. Only so many gifs of trolls anyway.

NYCBruin · March 2014

FiancB said:

I've been having this debate myself, given the comments about her great grammar (despite using the wrong "your") and reading comprehension (despite quoting articles that make the opposite point she is trying to), I vote:

NYCBruin · March 2014

The puppies are also confused by troll wamboy

FiancB · March 2014

NYCBruin · March 2014

wamboy said:

@NYCBruin No I think they are confused by someone as old as you would still be in high school

I'm not even sure how you're trying to insult me. I'm just going to sit here with my advanced degrees like this:

cruffino · March 2014

wamboy said:
@FiancB Only people who are uneducated and unable to fully and completely communicate resort to such rude behavior as swearing. The rest of us rise about such stupidity.

But you called me an ignorant asshole...

cruffino · March 2014

wamboy said:
@cruffino No I asked if you were ignorant or an asshole ... if you think you are than that is on you, I'm asking if you are, I didn't say you were.

Ah, the semantic clarification. Got it.

cruffino · March 2014

wamboy said:
@cuffino Its not semantics, its fact. When you ask a question it requires a question mark, they look like this ?, and usually requires an answer (if you have manners). When you tell someone something it requires a period, it looks like this ., and is the end of a thought. See whether something is a question or not isn't an opinion it is a fact, established by generations of authorities on the English language. Would you like some references? (that is a question by the way, see the question mark at the end)

I would LOVE some references.

NYCBruin · March 2014

wamboy said:

@NYCBruin Advanced degrees LMAO OMG you'll make me pee myself ... if you think I would believe that with the way you type and read your delusional LOL

I would like to take this opportunity to point out that you (once again) used the wrong "your" in your attack on my intelligence. Thanks for the chuckle.

pinkshorts27 · March 2014

wamboy said:

@NYCBruin Advanced degrees LMAO OMG you'll make me pee myself ... if you think I would believe that with the way you type and read your delusional LOL

*you're

Actually, many of the ladies here do have advanced degrees. I am graduating from Stanford in the spring with a Master of Science degree in Engineering. No one around me here would dream of telling anyone how to dress, and many of them come from a lot higher social circles than my family. (My family wouldn't dream of it either.)

artbyallie · March 2014

From Miss Manners Guide to a Surprisingly Dignified Wedding:

"Dear Miss Manners:

Two close friends are giving my fiancé and me a creative and unusual shower. They have chosen our honeymoon as the theme and have suggested we register at an online honeymoon registry. While the gesture is thoughtful and generous, I am concerned about the propriety of the registry when the guests will essentially be contributing money, not giving a traditional gift.

When I relayed the hosts' suggestion to my mother, she balked, saying that it's inappropriate to "solicit cash." Since these sites allow guests to buy specific gifts (i.e., dinner at a bistro in Paris), it doesn't seem exactly like soliciting cash to me, though the waters are a bit murky for someone who is trying to follow the etiquette rules pretty strictly.

Gentle Reader:

Doesn't seem too murky to us. Paying for your Paris dinner is still soliciting cash; you've just provided a time and place for it. Encourage your hosts to abandon this atrocious idea (or ask your mother to use her authority to run interference) and use their creativity for decorations instead. If the guests wish to participate in the theme, they can get you honeymoon-related trinkets instead."

Though I truly don't expect that to make this troll STFU. By the way, I've also got a passage from Miss Manners that explains how you don't give your guests a dress code.

pinkshorts27 · March 2014

wamboy said:

@blueeyes90 Your point? Just because someone wouldn't "dream of telling you" meaning what???? Trying to decide how educated you are to say something so rude as to bring up class ... hmmm i think that is an etiquette breach

You were laughing that we had advanced degrees, I was informing you that many of us did. I also pointed out that these people come from more money than me. They have parents that are oil company owners and high up in society, which I am clearly not. Etiquette is important to them and their families host parties all of the time, for people with a lot more money than I have. They know it would be rude to demand their guests follow a dress code or tell their guests what to wear. They "wouldn't dream of it" because it is so rude that they wouldn't even think of it as a possibility of what to do.

And I am not saying I'm high class, quite the opposite actually. I'm effectively a "scholarship kid" here. I was pointing out that people who follow stricter social standards than I do know it is rude.

I come from a family that thinks pot-luck weddings are "fun and cute." They still wouldn't give a dress code to their guests.

pinkshorts27 · March 2014

wamboy said:

@artbyallie Thank you! Now I agree that a honeymoon fund may be against etiquette. However, I am not offended by it still and don't see a difference between that and gifts if people are being honest with the honeymoon fund money. (This last sentence is an opinion) But based on it being against etiquette I get why some may be offended. (SEE, was that SOOOOO hard)

Considering I'm supposed to be studying for my last round of finals, I don't have time to look up something that is so much common sense. She gave the exact answer that the lovely ladies here did.

Cookie Pusher · March 2014

Yea, I'm pretty sure Miss Manners has made it clear that honeymoon registries, as they are asking for cash, are against etiquette:

http://books.google.com/books?id=gSggUrFCgNsC&pg=PA63&lpg=PA63&dq=miss+manners+honeymoon+registry&source=bl&ots=pWK-fOUeKC&sig=_R-FseT1BIzhNwKV7j3ItEnXH9w&hl=en&sa=X&ei=rPUoU9nNCs6CyAH9p4HgCw&ved=0CDIQ6AEwAQ#v=onepage&q=miss manners honeymoon registry&f=false

FiancB · March 2014

It's a forum, not a peer reviewed journal. And if it were, you can sure as hell bet no one would be using Yahoo for a source. Etiquette is pretty in line with common sense most of the time, so "proof" is pretty redundant. Notice Miss Manners says the exact same thing everyone else did.

And *you're and *catty and commas are a real thing.

APDSS22 · March 2014

@KnotPorscha I'm pretty sure there are TOS violations here you should be aware of.

jdluvr06 · March 2014

@wamboy it isn't anyone's job to provide proof for you. The information is easily attainable and you could have easily found it on your own.

NYCBruin · March 2014

wamboy said:

@FiancB EXACTLY!!!!! Not a review forum. So unless someone asks a question, shut the hell up and keep your comments to yourself!

Are you familiar how a forum works? You seem confused as to what the purpose of an online forum is.

FiancB · March 2014

Or what a peer reviewed journal is.

NYCBruin · March 2014

wamboy said:

@NYCBruin I'm not confused. Someone posted a question, they were looking for opinions. I stated mine and gave a suggestion. Whether or not anyone agree with that opinion I don't care about, I didn't ask you. I know what an online forum is, I also know its not a place to try and browbeat others into sharing your opinion because you don't like it. And so what if you think I am rude to my guests, my guests and family don't, so who asked you, I didn't

You most definitely are confused. When you post on a forum like this one, it's ridiculous to say that you didn't ask for anyone's opinion on what you said. The very act of posting on a forum is the equivalent of asking for people's opinions. If you don't care what we think, then why are you here?

NYCBruin · March 2014

Look up the origins of the word forum. The whole idea is to exchange ideas freely. And then read the terms of service of this website. You will see no rule stating that you may only share your opinion when asked, but you will find that many of your posts have violated the terms of service.

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