~ From a long time friend who found out my engagement ring was my mother's - "You got engaged with somebody else's ring? Lame." In my family, we call than an heirloom.
~ From my coworker - "You're not planning to wear a white dress, are you?" She scoffed and walked away when I said yes.
~ From the same co-worker - "After you divorce, you said you were never getting married again." Uhm...that was 7 years ago. People change.
~ From my mom when she learned I was doing a DIY wedding - "I just don't want you to have a trailer trash wedding like your aunt's." Is this where I remind her she was not AT my aunt's wedding?
~ From my mom when I told her we weren't having cake - "You have to. People like pretty cakes, you know."
~From my mom when I told her we hired a barbershop quartet- "You need to have a harp. Harps are memorable." Guess she forgot my sister had a harp.
~ From his mom - "I think you should just go to Vegas and skip having a wedding." In her defense, she's a strict Catholic who doesn't approve of us living together.
~ From his niece about our date - "That's too close to my wedding." No it's not. There's 3 months between them.
~ From people here - "You have to do ________." Uhm...no I don't.
And the winner so far:
From my FI's best friend's wife. "Dick will be in Europe so I'll be bringing Jane and my plus 1." There are so many things wrong with this.
1.) The invite was addressed to you and Dick and you and Guest.
~ From a long time friend who found out my engagement ring was my mother's - "You got engaged with somebody else's ring? Lame." In my family, we call than an heirloom.
~ From my coworker - "You're not planning to wear a white dress, are you?" She scoffed and walked away when I said yes.
~ From the same co-worker - "After you divorce, you said you were never getting married again." Uhm...that was 7 years ago. People change.
~ From my mom when she learned I was doing a DIY wedding - "I just don't want you to have a trailer trash wedding like your aunt's." Is this where I remind her she was not AT my aunt's wedding?
~ From my mom when I told her we weren't having cake - "You have to. People like pretty cakes, you know."
~From my mom when I told her we hired a barbershop quartet- "You need to have a harp. Harps are memorable." Guess she forgot my sister had a harp.
~ From his mom - "I think you should just go to Vegas and skip having a wedding." In her defense, she's a strict Catholic who doesn't approve of us living together.
~ From his niece about our date - "That's too close to my wedding." No it's not. There's 3 months between them.
~ From people here - "You have to do ________." Uhm...no I don't.
And the winner so far:
From my FI's best friend's wife. "Dick will be in Europe so I'll be bringing Jane and my plus 1." There are so many things wrong with this.
1.) The invite was addressed to you and Dick and you and Guest.
2.) Jane is FI's ex-wife!
Re: the bolded: What??? I can't believe someone would even think of bringing your fi's ex to your wedding!
We all had a crabby weekend last week. My mother asked me if I was sure, really sure, that I wanted to marry "that man". LOL I told her if he can put up with me when I'm being a bitch then I can deal with him when he's being an jackass.
@blueeyes90 I'm in Mississippi. Home & FI are in Texas. We're getting married (finally, after 11 years together) this June- it's the break between my 2nd & 3rd years.
Speaking of school-related rude comments....
I made this comment on the Students board, but it should be added to the "rudest things" list too.
Whenever the topic of my impending nuptials arises in a conversation with someone that's not family or close friend, the line of questioning inevitably gets to "So when is your FI moving to Mississippi?". When I inform them that he is not relocating and that I've only got 2 more years, their first reaction is that damned "oh bless your heart" look, but you can see the wheels turning in their head to say something that they consider to be "positive advice". The very next thing out of their mouths is always something to the extent of "Oh, well that's probably better anyway! You wouldn't want to him to distract you from your studies! Vet school needs all of your attention, and you don't want to lose sight of your goals."
Look here tootsie, FI and I have been in college in some capacity since 2002... Between the two of us, we have two Bachelors, two Masters, a teacher's certification, a PhD, and half of a veterinary doctorate. I'm pretty sure in the last 12 years together, we figured out a way to "keep sight of our goals" without distracting each other. Thanks for making us feel like we're a pair of 14 year-olds in our first relationship and with no idea of how to control ourselves.
I had people say stuff like this. And I had people ask me if I was going to quit school when we got married! I had a year and a half to go on my degree when we got married. I couldn't believe people would ask me that. I mean, I have always been pretty vocal about how committed I am to finishing. Quitting was never even on the table or up for discussion, ever. If H had wanted me to quit, I would have seriously re-considered my relationship with him.
In fact, H has been the most supportive person of my degree from when we first started dating. My mom wasn't supportive at first. Several of my extended family members on my dad's side tends to not think too much of liberal arts degree (they're mostly sciencey/engineers.)
Having H support me, believe in me, brag about me on occasion is like the best encouragement in the world and the best thing to push me forward. I also can not understand, at all, why getting married is a reason to quit college.
When I got engaged, I told my sisters before I told my parents. Mistake bc one of them told my mom before I got to it. When she saw the ring on my finger she told me I was "playing grown up". I will never ever forget that. Since then we got a place together and have been living together for the last 2 years. Are we still "playing"?
@DanielleLatrice Playing grown up? Wha? This is something you say to a little girl wearing mom's clothes, not adults who are engaged and getting ready to start their life together. Does your mom have issues with you growing up and not being her little girl anymore? That is the only way I could even think to make sense of that comment.
I'm not even engaged yet & I think my coworker (who doesn't know me & has been with the company less than 2 months) gets the award for rudest comment!
I've been dating this guy for almost two years now. We talk about getting engaged (he's started to look for rings), marriage, weddings, kids, houses etc. When Valentine's Day rolled around my coworker asked me what my BF was getting me- I said I don't know, because I didn't. He asked how long we had been together and then proceeded to be rude & out of line. He said he wanted to take an office (small company only 10 employees) poll on whether or not people thought I was getting a ring for Valentine's Day. And then he proceeded to say that if I did get a ring he wanted to take another office poll on how long that marriage would last. This coworker and I had spoken maybe 4 times prior to this (he works out of town). "Wow" and a slew of profanities were all I could really think-
When a co-worker of mine found out she was not invited to the wedding - she kept going on and on and on about it, I had to tell her - she turned around and said it wasn't gay enough for her anyway. Two women getting married; I'm sure that's pretty much as gay as you can get. But no, because other than one other couple, FI and I will be the only gay people there, it's not gay enough. I couldn't help it, I actually laughed in her face, it was just ridiculous. Needless to say, she's no longer talking to me now.
My two cousins that are bridesmaids are convinced that my family is loaded and keep nagging me to pay for their hair and makeup. I can't freaking afford it! Now they are asking my mom.
MY FI's stepmom finds it necessary to say, "my dress was only $65" every time the wedding is brought up - regardless of the subject. I want to say, "well, that was 30 years ago and the second wedding for both of you, so it's really not the same thing..." but I don't. She also has no idea if my dress was $5 or $10,000 so I wish she would just shut up.
My other favorite is that because we're from the Midwest, but are getting married in the South - everyone finds it funny to make jokes about me wearing a seersucker dress, doing a Gone with the Wind theme, or complaining about how hot it's going to be, etc. Eye roll.
MY FI's stepmom finds it necessary to say, "my dress was only $65" every time the wedding is brought up - regardless of the subject. I want to say, "well, that was 30 years ago and the second wedding for both of you, so it's really not the same thing..." but I don't. She also has no idea if my dress was $5 or $10,000 so I wish she would just shut up.
My other favorite is that because we're from the Midwest, but are getting married in the South - everyone finds it funny to make jokes about me wearing a seersucker dress, doing a Gone with the Wind theme, or complaining about how hot it's going to be, etc. Eye roll.
Adjusted for inflation, that's still like $300 for a dress. IMHO, wedding dresses have gone up in price faster than inflation. Like college.
When a co-worker of mine found out she was not invited to the wedding - she kept going on and on and on about it, I had to tell her - she turned around and said it wasn't gay enough for her anyway. Two women getting married; I'm sure that's pretty much as gay as you can get. But no, because other than one other couple, FI and I will be the only gay people there, it's not gay enough. I couldn't help it, I actually laughed in her face, it was just ridiculous. Needless to say, she's no longer talking to me now.
Whaaaaaat?? I really want to know how you could make the wedding "more gay"? Does she think that gay couples only have gay friends? I HAVE NO WORDS.
I thought of this thread today when my coworker decided to grill me AGAIN for the 800 billionth time about "ARE YOU SURE YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED? ARE YOU REALLY SURE? ARE YOU SURE YOU'RE SURE? ARE YOU SUUUUUUREEE HE'S THE ONE!? YOU DON'T NEED TO GET MARRIED, WHO WANTS TO GET MARRIED. IT'S SO SOON! ARE YOU SURE! HOW DO YOU KNOW HE'S THE ONE!? ARE YOU REALLY SURE!?"
It seriously went on for like 5 minutes. She just kept asking over and over and I pretty much ignored her the whole time ,said "yes, I am sure" and left it at that.
But seriously? What the heck is wrong with people.
Only partially wedding related but, my mid-40s male coworker, on my birthday: "Oh you're 29? That's good. That means you're getting married before you turn 30. Most girls worry about getting married before they're 30 because they're eggs are gonna shrivel and dry up."
Yeah, dude. Thanks. It sure is a good thing I bagged a man while I'm still fertile. 'Cause it's not like I care about whether we love each other or anything.
I thought of this thread today when my coworker decided to grill me AGAIN for the 800 billionth time about "ARE YOU SURE YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED? ARE YOU REALLY SURE? ARE YOU SURE YOU'RE SURE? ARE YOU SUUUUUUREEE HE'S THE ONE!? YOU DON'T NEED TO GET MARRIED, WHO WANTS TO GET MARRIED. IT'S SO SOON! ARE YOU SURE! HOW DO YOU KNOW HE'S THE ONE!? ARE YOU REALLY SURE!?"
It seriously went on for like 5 minutes. She just kept asking over and over and I pretty much ignored her the whole time ,said "yes, I am sure" and left it at that.
But seriously? What the heck is wrong with people.
I would break.
"You know what, you're right. I have definitely rushed into this! In the past 7 years with my FI, I haven't gotten to know him enough, and he's probably not the guy for me! I'll call him and break his heart right now. Thanks!" And then give her my craziest smile while I pretend-dial my phone.
I will admit, my Dad asked both DH and I if we wanted to do this at the rehearsal. But he did it with a grin, and we knew he was kidding. He did it again right before he and I walked down the aisle, and asked if he had time to get a drink. I told him he could go get his drink, I was marrying DH, and good luck catching up with me. As a result, there are several photos of us approaching the aisle with our heads together, grinning. Very sweet
I get the "are you sure?" comments all the time from my FMIL. I know she's only joking so I ignore it but the comments that have annoyed me to no extent are all the comments from her about how glad she is that we are not doing a Catholic wedding (I am catholic) Because she wouldn't sit through it.... a little back story:
My FH is atheist and I am catholic but have always wanted to get married outside so I suggested just getting married through a JoP. FH told me he really wanted to get married in a church (shocking news to me) so I told him that of we were going to have a church wedding, it had to be catholic (both he and his mother suggested churches of other faiths and I said it made no sense because neither of us belonged to those faiths and I am catholic). Eventually my FMIL convinced my fiancé to do an outdoor wedding with a JoP, like I had originally wanted but she STILL makes comments about catholic weddings and when I told her that I had a great aunt who is a nun and cousins that are archbishops she said "oh wow, you really are invested in the mafia... don't worry, I won't say anything to your family". I sure hope not. Lol
She's also made some comments about how she and her husband don't wear their wedding rings and make jokes about it all the time because I had told my fiancé that I would like him to wear his ring when he is not working (he can't wear it more often then not at work). Most of it is just annoying than anything.
Here is another goodie....My e-ring needs some repair after only a few months (snagged a tiny stone on my mittens) but the jeweler that needs to fix it is really far away, and the insurance for the ring hasn't gone through so I'm not going to mail it until after the insurance. Basically I'm stuck putting my ring in a safe box, and everyone assumes right away that I broke up with my FI. We have been together for 8 years. It hurts my feelings but I shouldn't let it.
My FMIL, who I am very close to, told me she doesn't care what we do for the wedding and she doesn't want to hear about it because she is sick of weddings. Two of her kids were married in the last few years. Good thing I have my own ma to oogle wedding stuff with.
I also had a friend who got married a few years ago, and during the entire process while she was working on the plans and the DIY stuff, she would ask her FI for help. He would always wheedle out of it by saying things like "It's your day, do what you want" and "I'm not good at that kind of stuff". Those are not even remotely good excuses. I felt so bad for her that I ended up helping her with all those little things. My FI promised he would never do that to me. I told him that if he doesn't help me then we are going to get married in the courthouse
There is only one comment that is acceptable to say about someone's ring, and that is "Beautiful". That's it. Everyone needs to know this and I will throat punch the next person who care more about the size of my ring than the fact that im getting married.
I have been getting the "you plan things so fast! What's the rush?!" a ton. I am 6 1/2 months away...when would you like me to start planning? 2 months before?
I went BM dress hunting with the girls. My MOH spent the entire time texting her SO. Her sister, a BM, told her sarcastically, "you better get a dress with pockets since apparently you'll be texting SO while walking down the aisle." To which MOH replied, "No, I won't be texting because SO will be with me at the wedding." ...Gee thanks. So glad that's the only reason.
When we went in to pick up the engagement ring, we had an older saleslady exclaim, "Oh, you two will have the prettiest mixed babies!" She was really sweet, if misguided, so we smiled and thanked her, but we took a 5-minute laughter break as soon as we stepped outside.
Incredibly, I've heard this same comment at least 3 times from both friends and strangers. On the one hand, thanks for the compliment? On the other hand, how did that make it through your brain-to-mouth filter?
@CookiePusher Yay! I'm glad it's not just us. FI is naturalized from one country but has an accent from another, so it makes people curious. They throw in the "mixed babies" comment when they find out his "real" nationality, so maybe it's their way of showing support (that's the way I've been rationalizing it, at least).
When we went in to pick up the engagement ring, we had an older saleslady exclaim, "Oh, you two will have the prettiest mixed babies!" She was really sweet, if misguided, so we smiled and thanked her, but we took a 5-minute laughter break as soon as we stepped outside.
Incredibly, I've heard this same comment at least 3 times from both friends and strangers. On the one hand, thanks for the compliment? On the other hand, how did that make it through your brain-to-mouth filter?
I feel like you should just play dumb and watch them get flustered after you say, "Mixed?? Whatever do you mean?". Because seriously, no one gets to be that rude. Good for you for having and amazing attitude about it though!
Re: S/O: What is the rudest comment someone has made about your wedding?
~ From a long time friend who found out my engagement ring was my mother's - "You got engaged with somebody else's ring? Lame." In my family, we call than an heirloom.
~ From my coworker - "You're not planning to wear a white dress, are you?" She scoffed and walked away when I said yes.
~ From the same co-worker - "After you divorce, you said you were never getting married again." Uhm...that was 7 years ago. People change.
~ From my mom when she learned I was doing a DIY wedding - "I just don't want you to have a trailer trash wedding like your aunt's." Is this where I remind her she was not AT my aunt's wedding?
~ From my mom when I told her we weren't having cake - "You have to. People like pretty cakes, you know."
~From my mom when I told her we hired a barbershop quartet- "You need to have a harp. Harps are memorable." Guess she forgot my sister had a harp.
~ From his mom - "I think you should just go to Vegas and skip having a wedding." In her defense, she's a strict Catholic who doesn't approve of us living together.
~ From his niece about our date - "That's too close to my wedding." No it's not. There's 3 months between them.
~ From people here - "You have to do ________." Uhm...no I don't.
And the winner so far:
From my FI's best friend's wife. "Dick will be in Europe so I'll be bringing Jane and my plus 1." There are so many things wrong with this.
1.) The invite was addressed to you and Dick and you and Guest.
2.) Jane is FI's ex-wife!
My other favorite is that because we're from the Midwest, but are getting married in the South - everyone finds it funny to make jokes about me wearing a seersucker dress, doing a Gone with the Wind theme, or complaining about how hot it's going to be, etc. Eye roll.
It seriously went on for like 5 minutes. She just kept asking over and over and I pretty much ignored her the whole time ,said "yes, I am sure" and left it at that.
But seriously? What the heck is wrong with people.
Only partially wedding related but, my mid-40s male coworker, on my birthday: "Oh you're 29? That's good. That means you're getting married before you turn 30. Most girls worry about getting married before they're 30 because they're eggs are gonna shrivel and dry up."
Yeah, dude. Thanks. It sure is a good thing I bagged a man while I'm still fertile. 'Cause it's not like I care about whether we love each other or anything.
I would break.
"You know what, you're right. I have definitely rushed into this! In the past 7 years with my FI, I haven't gotten to know him enough, and he's probably not the guy for me! I'll call him and break his heart right now. Thanks!" And then give her my craziest smile while I pretend-dial my phone.
I get the "are you sure?" comments all the time from my FMIL. I know she's only joking so I ignore it but the comments that have annoyed me to no extent are all the comments from her about how glad she is that we are not doing a Catholic wedding (I am catholic) Because she wouldn't sit through it.... a little back story:
My FH is atheist and I am catholic but have always wanted to get married outside so I suggested just getting married through a JoP. FH told me he really wanted to get married in a church (shocking news to me) so I told him that of we were going to have a church wedding, it had to be catholic (both he and his mother suggested churches of other faiths and I said it made no sense because neither of us belonged to those faiths and I am catholic). Eventually my FMIL convinced my fiancé to do an outdoor wedding with a JoP, like I had originally wanted but she STILL makes comments about catholic weddings and when I told her that I had a great aunt who is a nun and cousins that are archbishops she said "oh wow, you really are invested in the mafia... don't worry, I won't say anything to your family". I sure hope not. Lol
She's also made some comments about how she and her husband don't wear their wedding rings and make jokes about it all the time because I had told my fiancé that I would like him to wear his ring when he is not working (he can't wear it more often then not at work). Most of it is just annoying than anything.
"Yeah, 30-something days until its a lot harder to break up. Ya know, because it will be all legal and stuff."