Ya'll are bunch of bridezilla bullies. Ladies, put down your Emily Posts- there is life after wedding. @courtneyandjohn2014, congrats on you upcoming nuptials. Your guests love you, and are coming to support and celebrate your new chapter of life, gap or not.
Maggie0829 - The church is 20 min from the hotel. The hotel is 20 min from the mansion where I am having my reception.
So, my fiancé and I have little experience attending weddings, and those that we have been to all had gaps. So back when we made our bookings, we put a gap in, thinking nothing of it at all since we were used to this in our own wedding guest experience. Now, after perusing the knot, I find that it is one of the most loathed things a bride can do. Now that everything's locked in, invites out, no options for getting rid of the gap at all, is there anything I can do for my guests during the gap that will prevent me from being seen as a totally rude monster?
I'm amazed at how rude people are being to you!! I'm catholic as well, and I will most definitely have a gap. It's not rude or selfish. My sister-in-law's father offered to have snacks and drinks at his diner so people have a place to go in between. I've never been to a wedding where there isn't a gap, besides when the ceremony/reception were in the same spot. I'm shocked that people are being so weird in this forum about it.... Do what you think feels right, if there's a gap, so be it. If that influences whether or not guests come, then they don't belong there in the first place!
I think you can do whatever feels best to you and your fiance. All these people crying out "rude" and "insensitive" are just obnoxious. If that's the way you feel, please feel absolutely free to RSVP NO to the wedding; just less annoying people to have to feed who are only going to be negative about the whole thing anyway. To make you feel better, my ceremony is at 1 and my reception starts at 6. and like I said, if someone doesn't like it, please just say no. I'll have a better time without them there. I prefer not to rush anything, it has nothing to do with pictures or any sort of feel or theme, just the way things worked out.
I'm thinking many of these people aren't considering that it's Catholic wedding. You almost always have to have the ceremony around 2:00 in order to have everyone out in time for 4:00 pm Mass. It seems ridiculous to have the reception or even a cocktail hour start immediately after that. Plus, if you're doing the traditional thing of having the groom not see the bride until after the ceremony, then you have to have a gap between in order to take pictures in between. The wedding day is for the bride and groom. They get to do what they want. I really don't think it's an inconvenience to have a gap between the ceremony and reception. In fact, I don't ever think I've been to a wedding where there wasn't a gap in between. Go wander the town. You'll survive for an hour on your own.
Gaps ARE inevitable in some cases! And I don't believe you're saying to your guests that you don't care about them at all. That is crazy. I've been a bridesmaid nearly a dozen times and have attended more weddings that I can count. When you have an early ceremony and a late reception - the message is clearly "We want to party! If you can make the ceremony, great! If not, we'll see you on the dance floor!" There's nothing worse than the bride and groom not enjoying themselves on the dance floor because they missed the cocktail hour while taking pictures. If the ceremony and reception are not at the same venue, I have always appreciated a little time in between to get checked in to the hotel, drop our stuff and yes - freshen up your makeup, hair, etc.! No, you're not running a marathon, but yes, it could be SO incredibly hot outside that you feel like you did! We have a few hours in between our ceremony and cocktail hour...but we are also getting married on NYE. So I think our guests understand that if you make the ceremony - great. If not, then we can't wait to ring in the new year together! There are ways to make it convenient for your guests no matter what. Our reception is in a hotel, the same that everyone will stay in. So everyone will be settled in their rooms and ready to enjoy the night - not have to worry about going to get their bags later or find their room. It's about what works best for the couple and their family! If everyone is excited for you, they will make the day work however they need to!