what are you "sorrynotsorry" about?

smalfrie19 · May 2014

jdluvr06 said:

We're not having anything with beef either. Do people really care about that?

IDK ...but people will be disappointed at my wedding too then, because we are having turkey and ham and "thanksgiving" fixings

#sorrynotsorry.

VulgarGirl · May 2014

HisGirlFriday13 said:

@beethery -- You're welcome!

I can't take credit for it, though -- it's an old Polish proverb: 'not my circus, not my monkeys.' (Orig. 'Nie mój cyrk, nie moje małpy')

I made a painting with that proverb and hung it up by my work station. I point to it every so often.

Kauris · May 2014

HisGirlFriday13 said:

@beethery -- You're welcome!

I can't take credit for it, though -- it's an old Polish proverb: 'not my circus, not my monkeys.' (Orig. 'Nie mój cyrk, nie moje małpy')

This has basically become my mantra, as of late. Several of my friends have also adopted it. When people irritate me, it makes me smile and makes it easier to let things just roll away. So thanks for this.

AddieCake · May 2014

SorryNotSorry that I had an empty chair for my late mother and invited some people's kids and not others.

Cookie Pusher · May 2014

lolo883 said:
Why do so many people even still think this is a thing? More often than not, people don't follow those old rules. Someone was asking about our plans the other day and I said we had everything done except the rehearsal dinner, because we're having a hell of a time finding the right combination of location (close proximity to either the venue or the hotel), price ($1000 or under) and capacity (45 people). She looked at me and said "why are you worrying about that anyway? That's his parents' job."

Seriously. We are paying for the wedding ourselves. We only picked people we wanted to be in the wedding party and participate in the ceremony. I declined showers and bachelorette parties. FI declined a bachelor party. We aren't doing toasts or speeches. We didn't dictate ridiculous attire (I bought the BM dresses - they both ended up liking the same dress, GM in black suits/white shirts and bought them ties, parents wearing whatever they want). The attendants only obligation is to show up at the wedding, and I don't think either of us would make a huge deal if someone doesn't for whatever reason (we might be annoyed/disappointed, but definitely no tantrum throwing).

I literally have no fucks to give about anything else other than being married at the end of the day, which is apparently completely unacceptable!

mrscaty · May 2014

I'm sorrynotsorry that we're having only immediate family and friends at our wedding. All the time I hear "but you end up making more money that way" uuuuuugggghhhh its not about that, people. Its about being surrounded by the people you love, not great aunt sally you've never met.

VulgarGirl · May 2014

Sorrynotsorry neither of us are wearing big white dresses. I've been told it "won't look like a real wedding" because neither of us will be big white dresses. Well, we're just gonna have to live with that.

mariobride · May 2014

Sorrynotsorry that we are not having a dollar dance. I had never heard of one until FMIL asked if we were doing it. Apparently they are the norm on her side of the family. Great big nope to that one. If I wanted someone to pay me to dance, I'd work somewhere with a pole.

phira · May 2014

MagicInk said:

Sorrynotsorry neither of us are wearing big white dresses. I've been told it "won't look like a real wedding" because neither of us will be big white dresses. Well, we're just gonna have to live with that.

If it doesn't look like a real wedding, then how will your wedding photos become highly popular on Pinterest?!

VulgarGirl · May 2014

phira said:

MagicInk said:

Sorrynotsorry neither of us are wearing big white dresses. I've been told it "won't look like a real wedding" because neither of us will be big white dresses. Well, we're just gonna have to live with that.

If it doesn't look like a real wedding, then how will your wedding photos become highly popular on Pinterest?!

Guess we'll have to do a re-do!

sophhabobopha · May 2014

Sorrynotsorry, we're having a 14 person wedding, including us!

JaxInBlue · May 2014

Sorrynotsorry that we:

didn't have a church service.
didn't invite all 7 gazillion second cousins DH has and wouldn't recognize if he fell over.
picked food that we liked. We had stuff for the no red meat eaters, the vegetarians, the low sodium crowd, and the GF crowd but not the I don't like anything other than plain baked chicken and a baked potato. Really, asparagus gets you all worked up?
didn't have a special role for every member of our immediate families. There are almost two dozen of you. I can't get that creative without making someone the bathroom attendant.

d2va · May 2014

I'm sorrynotsorry that

We / my parents are not spending 60k on the wedding and that my venue is on Calle Ocho and not some swanky ultra luxurious hotel or venue, but it is a nice stand alone hall that we rented for the whole evening.

We chose chicken for everyone! (Except the 2 vegetarians)

am not covering the walls / ceiling with tulle because everyone can see how outdated and gaudy the walls are ( that's how i like it) and that that's why i have uplighting!

The party will end at 12:30 am and not just until the last person leaves.

JennyColada · May 2014

This isn't nearly as mean and rude as it seems but…

We are going to be serving food that WE like, and if you don't like the food then #sorrynotsorry.

blabla89 · May 2014

I'm sorrynotsorry

-That we're not inviting all of my FMIL's family that we aren't close to (however, I'm terribly sorry that this is causing stupid drama for FI)

-That I'm not inviting the second cousin who rudely implied that she expected to be invited (but my family dgaf)

-That we're getting married in the city where I live now, because I'm excited to host my family here

JCbride2015 · May 2014

lolo883 said:

Cookie Pusher said:

Sorrynotsorry that we are not following the traditional who-does-what at our wedding. We're eschewing the obligatory inclusion-of-everybody-and-their-mother-in-the-wedding-party BS - the people we're including are people we WANT to include, not people who feel that we HAVE to include.

Why do so many people even still think this is a thing? More often than not, people don't follow those old rules. Someone was asking about our plans the other day and I said we had everything done except the rehearsal dinner, because we're having a hell of a time finding the right combination of location (close proximity to either the venue or the hotel), price ($1000 or under) and capacity (45 people). She looked at me and said "why are you worrying about that anyway? That's his parents' job."

I just had basically this same conversation with my grandma who bought my dress (dad's mom, I call her Tutu). She loves talking about money and generally I don't mind because she knows a lot about investment and money management. So we went out to lunch and we were chatting about the wedding. She mentioned that my dad will probably surprise me and come up with some money and I said that would be great, but we have it handled and we aren't expecting it.*

Tutu: well, how much are Fi's parents contributing?

Me: They've generously offered to host the whole RD, which is awesome because if it were up to us we'd all be eating tacos or BBQ.

Tutu: But they're supposed to do that anyway. That's their job. Are they volunteering anything OVER what they're already SUPPOSED to do anyway?

Me: Well, according to that logic Dad would be paying for the whole reception. And we know that isn't happening.

ETA: just to clarify, I think she's delusional on this point. My dad is very controlling about money and he disapproves of our big party wedding. He's not offering any money, and if he did, I'd have to think hard about whether we even want it.

cupcait927 · May 2014

phira said:

cupcait927 said:

Sorrynotsorry I'm not having a bridal party. I cannot believe the amount of side eye I've gotten over this decision.

BUT THEN IT WON'T BE A REAL WEDDING

I get a re-do then, duh! All part of my master plan

CamiSelene · May 2014

I'm sorrynotsorry:

-for our venue. Like @chibiyui we chose a halfway point for our families so we're all from OOT.

-my bridesmaids will be wearing knee-length ivory dresses and different coloured bouquets. I get so many "but they can't wear ivory! You are!".... too bad! I think people will know I'm the bride :P

-that we don't have a set "colour scheme"... we don't discriminate against colours! lol

-even though we are not having a religious ceremony, I will be having my grandmother's rosary wrapping the stem of my bouquet (she had it at her wedding 62 years ago and it's my own little way of having my grandpa with me)

-that our wedding is on a Monday. It's an important day to me (grandparents anniversary... we were extremely close)

-that I had most of the details planned by Christmas. I had a few comments about how "eager" I was... Yeeeaaaah, I'm a k/1 teacher. My job only gets busier and harder as the year progresses so I'm getting shit done while I can!

ETA: missing words.

ashley8918 · May 2014

Sorrynotsorry:

---It's on a Sunday and the Bears will be playing while the ceremony is happening. (Suck it up and check the score on your phone, fellow Bears fans)

---It will not be in a church (Get over it, FI's grandma. You can't make me Catholic)

---I will have a man of honor, and yes, he will be bringing his boyfriend (MYOB conservative old folks)

JennyColada · May 2014

Oh also…

I'm sorrynotsorry that I don't want a bachelorette party, wedding shower, etc. etc. If you MUST spend money on me, just take me out to lunch privately instead. Trust me, it means a lot more to me than the $50 bowl you'd buy me at my wedding shower.

Kristen625 · May 2014

Sorrynotsorry

-We did NOT have a bouquet toss, garter toss, or money dance
-We did have silver mason jars decorated and used as centerpieces (they turned out great btw)
-We did NOT have a photobooth, because I too think they are stupid
-H and I only had one attendant each

Peaseblossom55 · May 2014

Sorry not sorry having a full catholic mass, yes it will be about an hour...

smalfrie19 · May 2014

ashley8918 said:

Sorrynotsorry:

---It's on a Sunday and the Bears will be playing while the ceremony is happening. (Suck it up and check the score on your phone, fellow Bears fans)
---It will not be in a church (Get over it, FI's grandma. You can't make me Catholic)
---I will have a man of honor, and yes, he will be bringing his boyfriend (MYOB conservative old folks)

I could NEVER get married during a Seahawks game... its like...sacrilege!

phira · May 2014

Fortunately, Sox season will be over by the time we get married. Although at this rate, Sox season will be over in, like, July.

LadyMillil · May 2014

Sorrynotsorry that we had a "long" religious ceremony instead of a short JOP. I wanted the ceremony to be about US not just "are there any objections - vows - kiss - license signing and done" Sorrynotsorry we had a traditional wedding, but didn't do the bouquet/garter toss or have RG/FG Sorrynotsorry I invited only my 5 year old cousin and my BFF's 3 week old infant, and NOT all your kids, especially when your attitude is "kids cry, deal with it"

PrincessOfHavoc · May 2014

Sorrynotsorry that we are "outrageously" catering to my will be 7 months pregnant MOH. I don't care what she wears, I want her to be comfortable and whatever baby demands for supper will occur for MOH. I don't even care if she feels like she needs to step down. I. Do. Not. Care.

Sorrynotsorry I'm using black faux flowers. I like them.

Sorrynotsorryintheleast that the cake will be chocolate. If you don't like, more cake for me!

larrygaga · May 2014

sorrynotsorry I refuse to get a wedding band. My e-ring can do double duty. FI doesn't get two rings, why should I? I want equality from the get-go.

beharrington · May 2014

I was Sorrynotsorry:

- I had a full Catholic mass

- The reception was done by 10pm because I didn't have a gap

- I had sunflowers as the bridesmaids bouquets

- The music at the reception was music that DH and I love and enjoy dancing to

- That we did an anniversary dance and gave the winner my bouquet instead of doing a toss

FutureMrsN3312 · May 2014

Sorrynotsorry:

-I had a full Catholic Mass (That was the most important part of the wedding for me so get over it)

-That I had "so many" photographers (Many people commented about it. That's what we paid for and wanted)

-I went to my own cocktail hour (yea they had food for us in the bridal suite but I wanted to see the whole thing and visit with my guests)

-No one had ever heard our first dance song before (I could care less. It was about what WE wanted)

-We used the hotel shuttles provided to get from the venue to the hotel after (why pay limos to sit around?)

-We played fun dance music (WE wanted to celebrate. Our DJ is also known on the radio and as a club DJ and that's what WE wanted)

-Having a flip flop basket (A LOT of people knocked the idea but the baskets were empty by the time dinner was done and many guests said it was the best thing they've seen)

-Hotel bags (Yea I did them...yea it was extra work and an expense but the guests that stayed really enjoyed them)

grumbledore · May 2014

We are having a dessert buffet instead of a cake, sorrynotsorry.

We are skipping the tosses, money dance, and a lot of other tacky wedding "traditions" that we don't care for, sorrynotsorry.

We are not getting married in the Catholic church, that's a sorrynotsorry for FI's mom.

We are not hiring a professional photographer, sorrynotsorry, don't like getting my picture taken and can't justify the expense. A friend will snap some nice shots of us after the ceremony.

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