Dog at Ceremony/Reception?

Jen4948 · July 2014

doeydo said:

Jen4948 said:

doeydo said:

Jen4948 said:

To all of these people saying "Your dog is more important than your guests?"

.... YES. YES HE IS.

I have three dogs and they are ALL more important than half of my guests. They are my family and have been for the last 3 years. Not my cousins who I see twice a year. Not my mother who always has a negative word to share. Not my siblings who care more about themselves than me. My dogs are my children, children with unconditional love.

And if my guests can't handle that fact, gtfo.

I understand fears and allergies, but the fact remains. My KIDS will be in my wedding. I don't care if my guests don't like human children - I'm still inviting my toddler and infant siblings (age 4, 3, 9 mo, and 8mo.) And anyone who doesn't like kids can shut their traps.

It's your day, honey. Do what you want.

We're having ours as groomsmen and a bridesmaid. They'll walk down the aisle, escorted by a human attendant, and be kept on a leash through the ceremony. If, for whatever reason, they have an adverse reaction, we have someone there who will handle them until they're taken home after the ceremony. They'll be introduced long before they go down the aisle so that they can meet with guests and acclimate to the situation.

But my fiance and I love them, and we can't imagine getting married without our children. They kept us together through the hard times because we had a family to fight for, and we owe them our relationship. And if they bark? If they rip my dress? If they get in mud and cover me?

THAT IS OKAY TOO. Babies spit up and a dress is just a fucking dress. A piece of cloth. What are you going to do with it afterwards, put it in a closet to covet it and pull it out in thirty years and think back on the "good old days" when you were a size zero and had all the dreams and ambitions in the world?

Please.

Your wedding is about what YOU want. About what is important to you. If Great Aunt Flo, or your cousin Mary Sue are more important than having your dogs there, leave the dogs at home. But if you want them in the ceremony, go for it.

I can, however, understand not having them throughout the entire day (unless you're outdoors and can have a fenced in enclosure, which might be a good idea to think about as well). We were originally going to invite our friends dogs, but we were afraid of tempers flaring with our dogs or other dogs. We're sticking to the ceremony. Down the aisle, a few pictures with them, and back home. And we're obviously having someone on stand-by just in case they need to be removed.
Just make sure you indicate in your invitations that there will be dogs present so those persons who are allergic to dogs or who do not want to be licked, be sniffed, be jumped on, be urinated on, or be crapped on by your dogs can decline the invitation rather than come and be told to GTFO because "it's your day." Oh, yes-grow the hell up while you're at it and recognize that no, it fucking ISN'T "your day." Getting married does not entitle you to treat your guests like shit.

Oh, it'd be great if events with human children had warnings so I could bring some ear plugs, Tylenol, and generally prepare myself for some mayhem, as some children run around like madmen and/or cry and throw temper tantrums.
ETA not to mention the spit ups, pooping, and peeing.

Comparing human children to dogs is like comparing apples and oranges.

The dogs do not have the ability to rein in their instincts to bark, poop, pee, sniff, and jump on strangers whenever and wherever they feel like it. They cannot distinguish between special occasions when it is not appropriate to behave as they normally do. Children who can't be taught to behave properly should also not be brought to weddings.

Really? Dogs who pee and jump on people are just not trained. Same with bratty children that stick their fingers in the cake and throw temper tantrums.

Stuck in box.

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doeydo said:

Jen4948 said:

doeydo said:

Jen4948 said:

To all of these people saying "Your dog is more important than your guests?"

.... YES. YES HE IS.

I have three dogs and they are ALL more important than half of my guests. They are my family and have been for the last 3 years. Not my cousins who I see twice a year. Not my mother who always has a negative word to share. Not my siblings who care more about themselves than me. My dogs are my children, children with unconditional love.

And if my guests can't handle that fact, gtfo.

I understand fears and allergies, but the fact remains. My KIDS will be in my wedding. I don't care if my guests don't like human children - I'm still inviting my toddler and infant siblings (age 4, 3, 9 mo, and 8mo.) And anyone who doesn't like kids can shut their traps.

It's your day, honey. Do what you want.

We're having ours as groomsmen and a bridesmaid. They'll walk down the aisle, escorted by a human attendant, and be kept on a leash through the ceremony. If, for whatever reason, they have an adverse reaction, we have someone there who will handle them until they're taken home after the ceremony. They'll be introduced long before they go down the aisle so that they can meet with guests and acclimate to the situation.

But my fiance and I love them, and we can't imagine getting married without our children. They kept us together through the hard times because we had a family to fight for, and we owe them our relationship. And if they bark? If they rip my dress? If they get in mud and cover me?

THAT IS OKAY TOO. Babies spit up and a dress is just a fucking dress. A piece of cloth. What are you going to do with it afterwards, put it in a closet to covet it and pull it out in thirty years and think back on the "good old days" when you were a size zero and had all the dreams and ambitions in the world?

Please.

Your wedding is about what YOU want. About what is important to you. If Great Aunt Flo, or your cousin Mary Sue are more important than having your dogs there, leave the dogs at home. But if you want them in the ceremony, go for it.

I can, however, understand not having them throughout the entire day (unless you're outdoors and can have a fenced in enclosure, which might be a good idea to think about as well). We were originally going to invite our friends dogs, but we were afraid of tempers flaring with our dogs or other dogs. We're sticking to the ceremony. Down the aisle, a few pictures with them, and back home. And we're obviously having someone on stand-by just in case they need to be removed.
Just make sure you indicate in your invitations that there will be dogs present so those persons who are allergic to dogs or who do not want to be licked, be sniffed, be jumped on, be urinated on, or be crapped on by your dogs can decline the invitation rather than come and be told to GTFO because "it's your day." Oh, yes-grow the hell up while you're at it and recognize that no, it fucking ISN'T "your day." Getting married does not entitle you to treat your guests like shit.

Oh, it'd be great if events with human children had warnings so I could bring some ear plugs, Tylenol, and generally prepare myself for some mayhem, as some children run around like madmen and/or cry and throw temper tantrums.
ETA not to mention the spit ups, pooping, and peeing.

Comparing human children to dogs is like comparing apples and oranges.

The dogs do not have the ability to rein in their instincts to bark, poop, pee, sniff, and jump on strangers whenever and wherever they feel like it. They cannot distinguish between special occasions when it is not appropriate to behave as they normally do. Children who can't be taught to behave properly should also not be brought to weddings.

Really? Dogs who pee and jump on people are just not trained. Same with bratty children that stick their fingers in the cake and throw temper tantrums.

Training does not guarantee that either dogs or children will refrain from doing these things at a wedding, where it is not appropriate regardless of what training the dogs or children have had.

charlottesmom0626 · July 2014

Jen4948... just my two cents....I think everyone fully understands your opinions on this issue. The OP asked for everyone's experiences and opinions on dogs at weddings. I feel like you're so passionate about not having dogs at weddings that you're getting away from the original reason for this thread, to get multiple opinions.

lovesclimbing · July 2014

I have a friend who had her dog be the ring bearer and had him at the reception as well. I was unable to attend the wedding, but from the pictures and what I was told, it went off without a hitch. Some of the video from it shows the dog just chilling sitting in the corner during the reception.

I think it's ok as long as you have a decently trained dog. I would not mind a dog at a wedding at all.

Jen4948 · July 2014

taylorann0626 said:

Jen4948... just my two cents....I think everyone fully understands your opinions on this issue. The OP asked for everyone's experiences and opinions on dogs at weddings. I feel like you're so passionate about not having dogs at weddings that you're getting away from the original reason for this thread, to get multiple opinions.

Sorry, @taylorann0626, but the bolded is your problem and not mine. You are not entitled to tell others how to post. I am allowed to be as passionate about my views here as you or anyone else is, and I might add that others have expressed exactly the same views as me, here and in other threads on the subject, even more passionately in some cases.

The OP is not entitled to expect everyone to rubber-stamp her idea, especially when we feel that it isn't a good one. If you can't handle that, this forum ain't for you.

artbyallie · July 2014

taylorann0626 said: Jen4948... just my two cents....I think everyone fully understands your opinions on this issue. The OP asked for everyone's experiences and opinions on dogs at weddings. I feel like you're so passionate about not having dogs at weddings that you're getting away from the original reason for this thread, to get multiple opinions.

ETF because TK hates boxes.

Here's the thing, though. The potential for allergies/getting bitten/what have you trumps (or should trump, if one cares at all about their actual human guests) any reasons in favor of the dogs. If one person might get sick, or hurt, that's reason enough to leave the animals at home.

charlottesmom0626 · July 2014

artbyallie said:

taylorann0626 said:

Jen4948... just my two cents....I think everyone fully understands your opinions on this issue. The OP asked for everyone's experiences and opinions on dogs at weddings. I feel like you're so passionate about not having dogs at weddings that you're getting away from the original reason for this thread, to get multiple opinions.

ETF because TK hates boxes.

Here's the thing, though. The potential for allergies/getting bitten/what have you trumps (or should trump, if one cares at all about their actual human guests) any reasons in favor of the dogs. If one person might get sick, or hurt, that's reason enough to leave the animals at home.

EDIT because TK seriously hates boxes AND paragraphs.

Bolded: Noted, I'll be sure to tell my immediate family and groom to stay home if they have a cold on our wedding day.

Seriously though: I wasn't trying to be offensive with my previous comment, I just feel that this is an issue that has two very different opinions and everyone isn't going to unanimously agree. You're both definitely entitled to feel the way that you do, and I don't suggest people ignore these facts that you're pointing out about the dangers and problems of having dogs at weddings. I was visiting this thread to see multiple/other peoples opinions or experiences, and I just noticed Jen4948 responding individually to everyone with mostly the same information/points. End rant, and I'll stop visiting this thread.

[Deleted User] · July 2014

One of my close friends had her pit bull at her son's 1st birthday party about a month ago. She was so happy and wagging her tail all day and loving all the attention she was getting. Over the next few days she was acting funny so she went to the vet. The poor girl was so happy she wagged her tail until it sprained. No one wants a sprained tail.

mysticl · July 2014

awitmer77 said:

One of my close friends had her pit bull at her son's 1st birthday party about a month ago. She was so happy and wagging her tail all day and loving all the attention she was getting. Over the next few days she was acting funny so she went to the vet. The poor girl was so happy she wagged her tail until it sprained. No one wants a sprained tail.

That is a new one.

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