Oral is your friends, ladies. I am a sad, sad girl without it. Also, @smichek - your husband has no teeth? Did I miss something? I don't think I knew that.
This thread seriously made me LOL.
I don't take BC, NFP/condoms for us. I actually can't take the hormone based stuff because of my family history of blood clots. Turns out I don't like BC anyway (I took it for awhile in college) and NFP is actually super easy if you have a regular cycle/do it right.
Can you enlighten my dim knowledge and tell me what NFP is?
raissyrais- absolutely! It is natural family planning. Basically, you can only really get pregnant for a few days out of the month. There are different methods, but I take my temp every day when I wake up and chart it on an app on my phone (Fertility Friend, if you are interested) and basically pay attention to your body for signs of ovulation. We don't use protection during the month except for the few days before and after ovulation. When you actually start paying attention, I find that I can tell the days I am ovulating without even consulting the chart.
It is very common in the Catholic church to use NFP because the church doesn't believe in birth control. We are Catholic, but use it because it is more convenient (and fun.....!!). Plus, I have a lot of history of blood disorders in my family and my gyno doesn't recommend hormone-based BC.
I actually recommend NFP- H and I are very happy with it so far. That said, we would be ok getting pregnant in the next couple months anyway, so it is fairly low-risk for us.
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Ah ok thank you for explaining it to me! I see now. It seems like too much work for someone like me so I'll just gladly pop my little pill that I've been taking since 2007. And FI and I don't want kids so we don't wanna take any risks. I'm glad it works for you though!
Nothing is as perfect as a detachable shower head. D is great, oral is great, right hand is great, but that shower head is the go-to for when FI is on nights and I haven't even seen him in 4 days.
TMI confession: Fi and I have never used toys except, like, scarves and handcuffs. Maybe time to change that, with the way you ladies talk about your electronic best friends.
"I'm not a rude bitch. I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."
TMI confession: Fi and I have never used toys except, like, scarves and handcuffs. Maybe time to change that, with the way you ladies talk about your electronic best friends.
I would highly recommend it. It's a game changer. The rabbit is not reserved for solo use--in fact we use it way more together than I do alone.
You can also get a bullet which is easy to use during the sexytimes. It has a remote control.
FI was my first with that stuff. But I was only 22 when we got together and only had 2 boyfriends before, so it's not like I had much experience at all.
I will say that it's really fun and keeps it exciting to be a little kinky. I was always pretty closed off, sexually (I wanted lights off missionary haha), and it has helped me open up a lot, which in turn helps our relationship. Wine helps a lot when trying new things
Also, some things are a miss. The sex swing? Overhyped. Dressing in slutty lingerie and doing it in random places around the house? Awesome.
FI and I have never used toys together either. We've thought about it, gotten wrapped up in what we were doing, and then realized later, "I forgot to get the thing out of the drawer."
It's sort of a Valentine's Day tradition for us to hit up the adult store after dinner and find things to play with at home. Things we like stay around. Things we don't get buried in the closet, never to be seen again.
Bullets, sometimes called eggs, are amazing. You can use them for outside stimulation or inside with your partner.
We will insert the bullet and then FI will follow it in. Pretty good for both of us. Of course then FI can't enter in as deep but still good!
OMG I would be terrified it would get stuck in there. I mean, I used to use NuvaRing and I know logically it has nowhere to go... but does it have like a handle or something to pull it out?! Don't you just think about it the whole time it's in there? I had a friend who had to go to the doctor because her diaphragm got stuck!
And this is why I need to be online more at night....
For the person (I lost who this was) that said going solo didn't work for them:
Hitachi Magic Wand.
Thank me later.
Oh my gosh! I just googled that, and the Amazon description says, "Non phallic appearance." BAHahaha.
But...so...do you just use it outside?
Rabbit all the way for me. It covers all the bases
It looks a bit like a power tool. Actually feels a bit like one too. Mostly outside but there are attachments if you desire.
I bought it on a recommendation while single and have since recommended it to many others. I keep it around for solo time but FI still thinks it's pretty awesome. If using it together, it makes your body vibrate....
Bullets, sometimes called eggs, are amazing. You can use them for outside stimulation or inside with your partner.
We will insert the bullet and then FI will follow it in. Pretty good for both of us. Of course then FI can't enter in as deep but still good!
OMG I would be terrified it would get stuck in there. I mean, I used to use NuvaRing and I know logically it has nowhere to go... but does it have like a handle or something to pull it out?! Don't you just think about it the whole time it's in there? I had a friend who had to go to the doctor because her diaphragm got stuck!
**Stuck In The Box (THAT"S WHAT SHE SAID HAHAHA**)
Mine has a cord. Bullet one end, controller at the other. Plus there is a wireless remote. But, basically it would be tethered in there.
We haven't actually tried this, but I think I know we're doing Saturday night now!
I fully recommend busting out some toys together. We might have a small box (medium sized really) with them.
And remember...they aren't just for him to use on you, there are plenty of fun things for you to use on him.
Our local "adult shop" might have staff that recognizes us. What? It's been 10 years and we still wanna bang each other. That's good in my book.
Amen to that. We still like each other after 11 years and still think the other is sexy, go figure. And then when you consider our point of comparison is our cute little high school selves, it's even more impressive!
"I'm not a rude bitch. I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."
Bullets, sometimes called eggs, are amazing. You can use them for outside stimulation or inside with your partner.
We will insert the bullet and then FI will follow it in. Pretty good for both of us. Of course then FI can't enter in as deep but still good!
OMG I would be terrified it would get stuck in there. I mean, I used to use NuvaRing and I know logically it has nowhere to go... but does it have like a handle or something to pull it out?! Don't you just think about it the whole time it's in there? I had a friend who had to go to the doctor because her diaphragm got stuck!
**Stuck In The Box (THAT"S WHAT SHE SAID HAHAHA**)
Mine has a cord. Bullet one end, controller at the other. Plus there is a wireless remote. But, basically it would be tethered in there.
We haven't actually tried this, but I think I know we're doing Saturday night now!
I go to bed early for one night, go to work early to feel accomplished and crap, and you guys post this thread....I feel left out.
Im on minastrin (bcp) and hate it. Trying to get dr to switch me. I keep missing periods and freaking out. I also get the side effect of swollen ankles if im wearing heels. Bc we all know, you look great in heels with bcp induced cankles.
Dh does not go down on me at all. Squicks him out and im ok with that- he just has to give me extra attention in other ways. He used to really enjoy my giving him oral, but seems to not be as crazy about it- now he prefers (TMI WARNING) an activity involving my chest, his D and some lubricant.
Dh and I also have different position preferences but we try to compromise. Right now we are both working on getting back in shape- realized we were intimate more often and for longer time frames when we were both healthier and weighed less. Yes ladies, we are exercising for the purpose of more sexytimes, more o's, and longer times where I get the d.
I fully recommend busting out some toys together. We might have a small box (medium sized really) with them.
And remember...they aren't just for him to use on you, there are plenty of fun things for you to use on him.
Our local "adult shop" might have staff that recognizes us. What? It's been 10 years and we still wanna bang each other. That's good in my book.
Amen to that. We still like each other after 11 years and still think the other is sexy, go figure. And then when you consider our point of comparison is our cute little high school selves, it's even more impressive!
Right!?
There are like a million and one jokes about LBD, or lesbian bed death. IE: when two women is together for a long time they stop wanting to bang each other because of reasons. Usually something stupid and sexist like women don't really enjoy sex (bull fucking shit), or we just want to communicate all the time. Lemme tell you, the best time to communicate is when you're both naked and touching each other's fun bits. Awesome way to discuss your feelings. Like that feels good. I like when you touch that. No don't touch that, that feels bad. See, feelings.
I fully recommend busting out some toys together. We might have a small box (medium sized really) with them.
And remember...they aren't just for him to use on you, there are plenty of fun things for you to use on him.
Our local "adult shop" might have staff that recognizes us. What? It's been 10 years and we still wanna bang each other. That's good in my book.
Yep, he's down for a little bullet on the balls during head. But all the toys we see geared toward guys besides the pocket pussy involve butt stuff. Neither of us are in to that.
Bullets, sometimes called eggs, are amazing. You can use them for outside stimulation or inside with your partner.
We will insert the bullet and then FI will follow it in. Pretty good for both of us. Of course then FI can't enter in as deep but still good!
OMG I would be terrified it would get stuck in there. I mean, I used to use NuvaRing and I know logically it has nowhere to go... but does it have like a handle or something to pull it out?! Don't you just think about it the whole time it's in there? I had a friend who had to go to the doctor because her diaphragm got stuck!
**Stuck In The Box (THAT"S WHAT SHE SAID HAHAHA**)
Mine has a cord. Bullet one end, controller at the other. Plus there is a wireless remote. But, basically it would be tethered in there.
We haven't actually tried this, but I think I know we're doing Saturday night now!
I have both a remote/cordless one and the one that has the controller attached. The cordless one still has a cord on it kind of like a tampon.
When we were still doing the long distance thing, I bought the cordless one. When he got off the plane and I picked him up, I just handed the remote to him and kissed his cheek. Dinner was pretty interesting and we didn't even make it back to my house that night...
I go to bed early for one night, go to work early to feel accomplished and crap, and you guys post this thread....I feel left out.
Im on minastrin (bcp) and hate it. Trying to get dr to switch me. I keep missing periods and freaking out. I also get the side effect of swollen ankles if im wearing heels. Bc we all know, you look great in heels with bcp induced cankles.
Dh does not go down on me at all. Squicks him out and im ok with that- he just has to give me extra attention in other ways. He used to really enjoy my giving him oral, but seems to not be as crazy about it- now he prefers (TMI WARNING) an activity involving my chest, his D and some lubricant.
Dh and I also have different position preferences but we try to compromise. Right now we are both working on getting back in shape- realized we were intimate more often and for longer time frames when we were both healthier and weighed less. Yes ladies, we are exercising for the purpose of more sexytimes, more o's, and longer times where I get the d.
How do you do that without getting a rash? FI's mentioned it recently but never actually asked but past ex's have been into it-- and I end up with a nasty rash. I'm normally game for anything but have avoided it because of the neckline on my wedding dress. It doesn't seem to be the lube that causes problems but the combination of things.
I go to bed early for one night, go to work early to feel accomplished and crap, and you guys post this thread....I feel left out.
Im on minastrin (bcp) and hate it. Trying to get dr to switch me. I keep missing periods and freaking out. I also get the side effect of swollen ankles if im wearing heels. Bc we all know, you look great in heels with bcp induced cankles.
Dh does not go down on me at all. Squicks him out and im ok with that- he just has to give me extra attention in other ways. He used to really enjoy my giving him oral, but seems to not be as crazy about it- now he prefers (TMI WARNING) an activity involving my chest, his D and some lubricant.
Dh and I also have different position preferences but we try to compromise. Right now we are both working on getting back in shape- realized we were intimate more often and for longer time frames when we were both healthier and weighed less. Yes ladies, we are exercising for the purpose of more sexytimes, more o's, and longer times where I get the d.
How do you do that without getting a rash? FI's mentioned it recently but never actually asked but past ex's have been into it-- and I end up with a nasty rash. I'm normally game for anything but have avoided it because of the neckline on my wedding dress. It doesn't seem to be the lube that causes problems but the combination of things.
We also like this, and nope, never gotten a rash. And I have pretty sensitive skin, too. Usually it's not for a really extended period of time-- maybe that's why?
ETA: but if you've had a rash in the past and your wedding is in a month... nopenopenope! Can you imagine explaining that one?
"I'm not a rude bitch. I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."
I fully recommend busting out some toys together. We might have a small box (medium sized really) with them.
And remember...they aren't just for him to use on you, there are plenty of fun things for you to use on him.
Our local "adult shop" might have staff that recognizes us. What? It's been 10 years and we still wanna bang each other. That's good in my book.
Amen to that. We still like each other after 11 years and still think the other is sexy, go figure. And then when you consider our point of comparison is our cute little high school selves, it's even more impressive!
Right!?
There are like a million and one jokes about LBD, or lesbian bed death. IE: when two women is together for a long time they stop wanting to bang each other because of reasons. Usually something stupid and sexist like women don't really enjoy sex (bull fucking shit), or we just want to communicate all the time. Lemme tell you, the best time to communicate is when you're both naked and touching each other's fun bits. Awesome way to discuss your feelings. Like that feels good. I like when you touch that. No don't touch that, that feels bad. See, feelings.
Re: It's TMI time (there is so much more than BC going on in here)
I'm the fuck out.
For the person (I lost who this was) that said going solo didn't work for them:
Hitachi Magic Wand.
Thank me later.
But...so...do you just use it outside?
Rabbit all the way for me. It covers all the bases
You can also get a bullet which is easy to use during the sexytimes. It has a remote control.
I will say that it's really fun and keeps it exciting to be a little kinky. I was always pretty closed off, sexually (I wanted lights off missionary haha), and it has helped me open up a lot, which in turn helps our relationship. Wine helps a lot when trying new things
Also, some things are a miss. The sex swing? Overhyped. Dressing in slutty lingerie and doing it in random places around the house? Awesome.
I'm the fuck out.
I bought it on a recommendation while single and have since recommended it to many others. I keep it around for solo time but FI still thinks it's pretty awesome. If using it together, it makes your body vibrate....
Amen to that. We still like each other after 11 years and still think the other is sexy, go figure. And then when you consider our point of comparison is our cute little high school selves, it's even more impressive!
Im on minastrin (bcp) and hate it. Trying to get dr to switch me. I keep missing periods and freaking out. I also get the side effect of swollen ankles if im wearing heels. Bc we all know, you look great in heels with bcp induced cankles.
Dh does not go down on me at all. Squicks him out and im ok with that- he just has to give me extra attention in other ways. He used to really enjoy my giving him oral, but seems to not be as crazy about it- now he prefers (TMI WARNING) an activity involving my chest, his D and some lubricant.
Dh and I also have different position preferences but we try to compromise. Right now we are both working on getting back in shape- realized we were intimate more often and for longer time frames when we were both healthier and weighed less. Yes ladies, we are exercising for the purpose of more sexytimes, more o's, and longer times where I get the d.
You can all thank me later.