Hi Everyone! This is my first official post!
We are still quite a ways out (almost 11 months), but my fiancé has already asked the guys he wants to be his groomsmen to be in the party. It all happened really suddenly, and now these guys are just SOEXCITEDDD to go to Vegas for the bachelor party (several of them have small children). But I digress. Anyway, I went to college at UCSB, where I lived with the same group of ladies, more or less, for my sophomore - senior years. I still talk with two fairly frequently, but every so often hear from four others. I have been thinking a lot about who to ask to be in my bridal party (I know I'm some ways out and won't officially make the decision for a few months), but I am seriously considering asking the two I still speak with often. I don't want this to make the others feel like I don't care as much about them, and I really value all of their friendships, and they will all be invited to the wedding. Can I do this properly within etiquette and within reason? I don't want to upset anyone.
Also as a side note, one of the two I would like to ask said she would be happy if she was never a bridesmaid again. That was far before we got engaged. Am I basically making her miserable by asking her? She's really important to me and I don't want to cause any problems.
Thank you in advance!! I really appreciate all insight.