Bridesmaid with Hot Pink Hair

[Deleted User] · October 2014

AddieCake · October 2014

arkinsol said: I love all of my friends, but 20 years from now I don't want to look at my wedding photos (the only thing I really have from my wedding) and see some decision that one of us made as a twenty something. ****************************************************************** I fucking hate this attitude every time I see it. If I were a bridesmaid in one of these kinds of bride's weddings, you know what I'd think when I looked at the photos 20 years later? Oh, yeah. I was in that wedding, and there's that bitch who cared more about what I looked like in her pictures than she did about ME.

mlt0618 · October 2014

I was my best friends maid of honor this year. At the time we fitted for dresses I had hot pink hair. By time we were taking the dresses home my hair was jade. And honestly it didn't take away from the traditional style of the wedding. So if you love her just let her be her

BrandNewJ · October 2014

mlt0618 said:

I was my best friends maid of honor this year. At the time we fitted for dresses I had hot pink hair. By time we were taking the dresses home my hair was jade. And honestly it didn't take away from the traditional style of the wedding. So if you love her just let her be her

Your hair looks fantastic!

esstee33 · October 2014

mlt0618 said:

I was my best friends maid of honor this year. At the time we fitted for dresses I had hot pink hair. By time we were taking the dresses home my hair was jade. And honestly it didn't take away from the traditional style of the wedding. So if you love her just let her be her

Holy shit, that is GORGEOUS. I could never get my hair that bright when it was green!

AddieCake · October 2014

I can't believe the bride didn't make that other girl cover her tan lines! The pictures are ruined by them! RUINED!

riverabe67 · October 2014

I'm getting married in a month and my best friend just dyed her hair pink. I asked her how long she was planning on keeping it because I didn't want pink hair in my wedding pics. She completely understood and didn't think I was a bitch or bridezilla. Bottom lining it, it is your special day and it doesn't suggest you love your friend any less for not wanting pink hair in pics. The alternative I told her was to pull her hair back in a bun so it did not stick out as much. At the end of the day, she can dye it for one day and change it back the next day, it is really not that serious. I would even be willing to pay for her to change her hair color so it is not an added expense for her. Good luck.

[Deleted User] · October 2014

riverabe67 said:

I'm getting married in a month and my best friend just dyed her hair pink. I asked her how long she was planning on keeping it because I didn't want pink hair in my wedding pics. She completely understood and didn't think I was a bitch or bridezilla. Bottom lining it, it is your special day and it doesn't suggest you love your friend any less for not wanting pink hair in pics. The alternative I told her was to pull her hair back in a bun so it did not stick out as much. At the end of the day, she can dye it for one day and change it back the next day, it is really not that serious. I would even be willing to pay for her to change her hair color so it is not an added expense for her. Good luck.

You really didn't read a single response, did you? Have you ever dyed your hair? It's not that easy to just dye it back for one day then re turn it pink. You say she "completely understood" but my theory is that she's rolling her eyes at you behind your back and probably won't change it at all. She knew your wedding was in a month when she decided to dye her hair. A bride who isn't using her friends as props for her photos wouldn't give a shit that her friend had dyed her hair pink. I hope she leaves her hair pink, ruins all your pictures, then never speaks to you again.

Liatris2010 · October 2014

Your wedding day is the day you commit to sharing your life with another person, not your day to play director of a photo shoot.

alpacalunch · October 2014

Liatris2010 said:

Your wedding day is the day you commit to sharing your life with another person, not your day to play director of a photo shoot.

Oh, shit, really? Well, this changes everything.

slothiegal · October 2014

riverabe67 said:

I'm getting married in a month and my best friend just dyed her hair pink. I asked her how long she was planning on keeping it because I didn't want pink hair in my wedding pics. She completely understood and didn't think I was a bitch or bridezilla. Bottom lining it, it is your special day and it doesn't suggest you love your friend any less for not wanting pink hair in pics. The alternative I told her was to pull her hair back in a bun so it did not stick out as much. At the end of the day, she can dye it for one day and change it back the next day, it is really not that serious. I would even be willing to pay for her to change her hair color so it is not an added expense for her. Good luck.

Bless your heart, try reading the previous posts next time.

lacqueredlover · October 2014

If a friend tried to dictate the color of my hair for her wedding, she would no longer be my friend. I also wouldn't dream of dictating my friends hair for mine. If one of my girls wants to dye her hair rainbow the day before my wedding, I think that's awesome. I love my friends for who they are and want them next to me because they are so meaningful in my life that I can't imagine getting married without them. I don't only love them conditionally for their hair color.

ShesSoCold · October 2014

Can I tell a little story?

I was a BM in my brother's wedding. Apparently I fit into her size/appearance standards. My SIL had (key word - had) a good friend who was a little bigger and had visible tattoos. SIL told her that she didn't want the tattoos in her wedding pictures and didn't ask her to be a BM. Then she asked her to do the makeup for the wedding party. Friend smiled, told her she understood and agreed to do everyone's makeup.

Day of, friend doesn't show up. On purpose. She was so offended (understandably so) that SIL cared more about the pictures than her as a person and cut her off as a friend. Getting 6 girls' makeup done when no one has any makeup with them was fun. At least, I thought so because SIL was totally wrong with what she did to her friend.

Moral of the story: don't be a dick. Accept your friends. Period.

mikenberger · October 2014

riverabe67 said:

I'm getting married in a month and my best friend just dyed her hair pink. I asked her how long she was planning on keeping it because I didn't want pink hair in my wedding pics. She completely understood and didn't think I was a bitch or bridezilla. Bottom lining it, it is your special day and it doesn't suggest you love your friend any less for not wanting pink hair in pics. The alternative I told her was to pull her hair back in a bun so it did not stick out as much. At the end of the day, she can dye it for one day and change it back the next day, it is really not that serious. I would even be willing to pay for her to change her hair color so it is not an added expense for her. Good luck.

I wish I could just shake you and make you understand HOW.WRONG.YOU.ARE. Just because it's your wedding day doesn't give you carte blanche to be a complete overbearing monster. It is HER HAIR. ON HER HEAD. ON HER BODY. Chances are she spent some major time on that hair and you're all nonchalant "Oh, she can just dye it for a day and dye it back!" No. No. Noooooooo. Infuriating. "But I'm willing to pay for it!" Oh, so you're going to pay for the hair damage, because there's going to be hair damage and you're going to pay for the possible multiple trips to the salon to make sure that the pink is covered and doesn't come through the new color you've so lovingly chosen? Sure you will, because it's YOUR day. Pfft. You're ridic.

ShesSoCold · October 2014

Also, this post is making me wonder if I'm the only one who doesn't wake up in the morning and decide what color I'd like my hair to be, as if it's the same thing as picking out what I'm wearing that day. Because these SS makes me think that this is the way it is for a lot of people.

[Deleted User] · October 2014

bellemanuel · October 2014

I had this very same issue, and I do believe the bride should dictate - to a degree of course. It is YOUR day, not theirs. My bridesmaid had blue hair (my wedding is in December) and I simply asked what colour it would be for the wedding. She said either red (more auburn really) or brown. And I just simply asked if she wouldn't mind not being blue for the wedding. Since I was polite about it, she was completely okay with it. She didn't get offended or anything, just said she like changing her hair. It is currently platinum blonde so I can handle that.
Just ask her nicely if she wouldn't mind doing temporary dye for the wedding to a more neutral colour. If she loves you - and she does if she's in your wedding - she shouldn't fight you on it:)

lacqueredlover · October 2014

I wouldn't dream of even telling my bridesmaids if they should wear their hair up or down or curled or straight. I am really shocked how many women would try to dictate hair color.

Makes me very grateful for my friends.

southernbelle0915 · October 2014

bellemanuel said:

I had this very same issue, and I do believe the bride should dictate - to a degree of course. It is YOUR day, not theirs. My bridesmaid had blue hair (my wedding is in December) and I simply asked what colour it would be for the wedding. She said either red (more auburn really) or brown. And I just simply asked if she wouldn't mind not being blue for the wedding. Since I was polite about it, she was completely okay with it. She didn't get offended or anything, just said she like changing her hair. It is currently platinum blonde so I can handle that.
Just ask her nicely if she wouldn't mind doing temporary dye for the wedding to a more neutral colour. If she loves you - and she does if she's in your wedding - she shouldn't fight you on it:)

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hellohkb · October 2014

bellemanuel said:
I had this very same issue, and I do believe the bride should dictate - to a degree of course. It is YOUR day, not theirs. My bridesmaid had blue hair (my wedding is in December) and I simply asked what colour it would be for the wedding. She said either red (more auburn really) or brown. And I just simply asked if she wouldn't mind not being blue for the wedding. Since I was polite about it, she was completely okay with it. She didn't get offended or anything, just said she like changing her hair. It is currently platinum blonde so I can handle that.
Just ask her nicely if she wouldn't mind doing temporary dye for the wedding to a more neutral colour. If she loves you - and she does if she's in your wedding - she shouldn't fight you on it:)

Why won't you read the PPs

BrandNewJ · October 2014

hellohkb said:

I had this very same issue, and I do believe the bride should dictate - to a degree of course. It is YOUR day, not theirs. My bridesmaid had blue hair (my wedding is in December) and I simply asked what colour it would be for the wedding. She said either red (more auburn really) or brown. And I just simply asked if she wouldn't mind not being blue for the wedding. Since I was polite about it, she was completely okay with it. She didn't get offended or anything, just said she like changing her hair. It is currently platinum blonde so I can handle that.
Just ask her nicely if she wouldn't mind doing temporary dye for the wedding to a more neutral colour. If she loves you - and she does if she's in your wedding - she shouldn't fight you on it:)
Why won't you read the PPs

I think it's a symptom of Snowflake-itis. It doesn't matter what others think, it only matters what I want.

hellohkb · October 2014

@BrandNewJ‌ I think so too.

Unless noobs all of a sudden can't see posts but I'm guessing that is highly unlikely.

mikenberger · October 2014

"Since I was polite about it, she was okay with it."

Stop. The. Madness. You mean all I have to do is be nice and you won't take offense to anything I say? Even if you should?

I think that you should never post advice on this board ever again. I mean, you seem like a nice girl, but you gave the worst advice ever on having someone change their hair. Please and thank you. Have a great day!

princessofgenovia · October 2014

bellemanuel said:

I had this very same issue, and I do believe the bride should dictate - to a degree of course. It is YOUR day, not theirs. My bridesmaid had blue hair (my wedding is in December) and I simply asked what colour it would be for the wedding. She said either red (more auburn really) or brown. And I just simply asked if she wouldn't mind not being blue for the wedding. Since I was polite about it, she was completely okay with it. She didn't get offended or anything, just said she like changing her hair. It is currently platinum blonde so I can handle that.
Just ask her nicely if she wouldn't mind doing temporary dye for the wedding to a more neutral colour. If she loves you - and she does if she's in your wedding - she shouldn't fight you on it:)

Bless your heart, you can't read can you? That's a damn shame.

If you loved her, really loved her, and you do if she's in your wedding, you wouldn't care if she shaved her head bald.

Liatris2010 · October 2014

hellohkb said:

I had this very same issue, and I do believe the bride should dictate - to a degree of course. It is YOUR day, not theirs. My bridesmaid had blue hair (my wedding is in December) and I simply asked what colour it would be for the wedding. She said either red (more auburn really) or brown. And I just simply asked if she wouldn't mind not being blue for the wedding. Since I was polite about it, she was completely okay with it. She didn't get offended or anything, just said she like changing her hair. It is currently platinum blonde so I can handle that.
Just ask her nicely if she wouldn't mind doing temporary dye for the wedding to a more neutral colour. If she loves you - and she does if she's in your wedding - she shouldn't fight you on it:)
Why won't you read the PPs

Trolls can't read, they have plastic beads for eyes! Frankly, I'm surprised they can type!

themosthappy91 · October 2014

If one of my friends asked me to change my hair color to something more natural for their wedding, I would absolutely do it.

Then I would invite them to be in my own wedding and ask that they please dye their hair literally the most heinous, unnatural color I could possibly think of. It's hard to think of a color that would be universally unflattering, but I would find it. How could they say no, I did it for them after all!

I really hope some of these brides' friends take this approach.

ETA: Brides who have advocated on here for brides having control over bridal party hair colors, tell me honestly if you would be okay with spending hundreds of dollars on bleaching your hair and dying it lime green, if your friends wanted "that look" for their wedding party. I will still think you are unreasonable and mean, but I will respect you SLIGHTLY for not being a total hypocrite.

hellohkb · October 2014

themosthappy91 said:
If one of my friends asked me to change my hair color to something more natural for their wedding, I would absolutely do it.

Then I would invite them to be in my own wedding and ask that they please dye their hair literally the most heinous, unnatural color I could possibly think of. It's hard to think of a color that would be universally unflattering, but I would find it. How could they say no, I did it for them after all!

I really hope some of these brides' friends take this approach.

Muahaha. The evil in me likes this idea very much.

holyguacamole79 · October 2014

bellemanuel said:

I had this very same issue, and I do believe the bride should dictate - to a degree of course. It is YOUR day, not theirs. My bridesmaid had blue hair (my wedding is in December) and I simply asked what colour it would be for the wedding. She said either red (more auburn really) or brown. And I just simply asked if she wouldn't mind not being blue for the wedding. Since I was polite about it, she was completely okay with it. She didn't get offended or anything, just said she like changing her hair. It is currently platinum blonde so I can handle that.
Just ask her nicely if she wouldn't mind doing temporary dye for the wedding to a more neutral colour. If she loves you - and she does if she's in your wedding - she shouldn't fight you on it:)

Riddle me this, @bellemanuel‌ - what if your bridesmaid said she planned on keeping HER hair blue for "YOUR day"? What would you do then?

misshart00 · October 2014

I'm guessing this thread was in the newsletter?

[Deleted User] · October 2014

Bridesmaid with Hot Pink Hair

Re: Bridesmaid with Hot Pink Hair

Your wedding day is the day you commit to sharing your life with another person, not your day to play director of a photo shoot.

Your wedding day is the day you commit to sharing your life with another person, not your day to play director of a photo shoot.

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