I am going to interject a different point of view. Yes I understand that photographers are professsionals but to me the no photos during the ceremony is more about the fact that pictures can be ruined.
I want my guests to be apart of the ceremony to truly be in the moment with us during the cermony and if they are taking pictures with their cameras or phones they are not truly in the moment. I know from all of my times at weddings that when I am taking pictures I'm not truly enjoying the moment and can miss out on the experience. This is the main reason why I am having a no photo ceremony and yes I realize some will be upset but I know my photographers will take amazing pictures and get better pictures because of this.
I have already shared this idea with many people involved in the wedding and the main person who has made a fuss is my mom who I DO NOT want taking pictures because I want her to be in the moment. Too often we are worried about catching the perfect picture or moment rather than living it. I want people to live through our wedding and remember it for all the moments rather than the pictures.
I am going to interject a different point of view. Yes I understand that photographers are professsionals but to me the no photos during the ceremony is more about the fact that pictures can be ruined.
I want my guests to be apart of the ceremony to truly be in the moment with us during the cermony and if they are taking pictures with their cameras or phones they are not truly in the moment. I know from all of my times at weddings that when I am taking pictures I'm not truly enjoying the moment and can miss out on the experience. This is the main reason why I am having a no photo ceremony and yes I realize some will be upset but I know my photographers will take amazing pictures and get better pictures because of this.
I have already shared this idea with many people involved in the wedding and the main person who has made a fuss is my mom who I DO NOT want taking pictures because I want her to be in the moment. Too often we are worried about catching the perfect picture or moment rather than living it. I want people to live through our wedding and remember it for all the moments rather than the pictures.
All of these points have been debunked time and again. You can't control adults' behavior. Your mom and others are fully capable of paying attention or "being in the moment" whatever the f that means, while also taking pictures. And if your photographer is any good, they will be able to work around the guests taking photos.
I loathe the "fully present" bullshit. People taking your picture ARE present. So present, in fact, they're trying to capture the moments.
Playing words with friends on your phone? Taking calls? Rude. You can't prevent that.
And I'm one of the people fighting to get my wedding pictures from my "professional." Telling people not to take photos for some bullshit reason is the stupidest thing you can do.
In my opinion, it's NOT rude to ask your guests to not take pictures during your ceremony. It's rude of your guests if they're focusing on snapping pictures instead of paying attention to the two of you on your special day. Last I knew, that's what people hire a photographer for. Now during the reception, I'd say it's fine for your guests to take pictures. But during the ceremony, your guests should be paying attention to the two of you getting MARRIED!
If you're too concerned with people snapping photos with their phone, YOU are not truly in the moment. Stopping worrying about other people and concern yourself with those that matter. Like your FI.
In my opinion, it's NOT rude to ask your guests to not take pictures during your ceremony. It's rude of your guests if they're focusing on snapping pictures instead of paying attention to the two of you on your special day. Last I knew, that's what people hire a photographer for. Now during the reception, I'd say it's fine for your guests to take pictures. But during the ceremony, your guests should be paying attention to the two of you getting MARRIED!
Your opinion is wrong. Most of your guests will never see your professional wedding pictures. Why not be grateful that they care enough about you to want to capture the moment for themselves?
If you're too concerned with people snapping photos with their phone, YOU are not truly in the moment. Stopping worrying about other people and concern yourself with those that matter. Like your FI.
Wow just putting a different point of view out there and you can disagree with me and thats fine we all have different points of view but the manner you have "made your point" is not one I'm not going to bother with.
However, I will say, if you have to chase down your photographer for photos than you did not do your research of the photographer before hand. I'm sorry that your photographer is not being professional and not doing what you paid for them. And I hope that you make sure others are aware that this photographer is not reliable. For me though, I am certain that mine will get me pictures soon after the wedding. And I know she will share them on facebook for my family members who need to see a picture right away.
In my opinion, it's NOT rude to ask your guests to not take pictures during your ceremony. It's rude of your guests if they're focusing on snapping pictures instead of paying attention to the two of you on your special day. Last I knew, that's what people hire a photographer for. Now during the reception, I'd say it's fine for your guests to take pictures. But during the ceremony, your guests should be paying attention to the two of you getting MARRIED!
Oh yes, god forbid that people that love you want to take a few pictures of such a big moment in your life so they can look back on them and remember such a wonderful occassions. God people can be such assholes.
Wow just putting a different point of view out there and you can disagree with me and thats fine we all have different points of view but the manner you have "made your point" is not one I'm not going to bother with.
However, I will say, if you have to chase down your photographer for photos than you did not do your research of the photographer before hand. I'm sorry that your photographer is not being professional and not doing what you paid for them. And I hope that you make sure others are aware that this photographer is not reliable. For me though, I am certain that mine will get me pictures soon after the wedding. And I know she will share them on facebook for my family members who need to see a picture right away.
Wow just putting a different point of view out there and you can disagree with me and thats fine we all have different points of view but the manner you have "made your point" is not one I'm not going to bother with.
However, I will say, if you have to chase down your photographer for photos than you did not do your research of the photographer before hand. I'm sorry that your photographer is not being professional and not doing what you paid for them. And I hope that you make sure others are aware that this photographer is not reliable. For me though, I am certain that mine will get me pictures soon after the wedding. And I know she will share them on facebook for my family members who need to see a picture right away.
They still don't get to see all the pictures. Maybe they want one of the first kiss, but that isn't one of the 20 that your photographer puts up on Facebook. And I haven't "made these points", other posters have, over and over and over again to everyone who thinks they have a "special circumstance" which somehow makes rude things okay.
I've been to a few weddings where the couple has politely asked people not to take photographs by asking them to be in the moment with them, and not through the lens of a camera/phone.
I've been to a few weddings where the couple has politely asked people not to take photographs by asking them to be in the moment with them, and not through the lens of a camera/phone.
I've been to a few weddings where the couple has politely asked people not to take photographs by asking them to be in the moment with them, and not through the lens of a camera/phone.
Would you ask the same of people at your birthday party? Please don't take pictures while people sing Happy Birthday to me because I want you to be in the moment. Do you realize how fucking ridiculous that sounds? And the only people required to be in the moment at a wedding ceremony is you, your FI and the officiant.
I've been to a few weddings where the couple has politely asked people not to take photographs by asking them to be in the moment with them, and not through the lens of a camera/phone.
I think it's super weird when a bride says "We want you to be fully present with us" I don't know why but it's like nails on a chalkboard to me... Fully present? What does that even mean?
I am fully against the "unplugged" ceremonies. I want people to take photos/videos if they want. I can have that footage instantly. The footage from my photographer will take 3-6 months to get back and I don't want to have to wait that long to see a single picture from my wedding.
I think it is incredibly rude to stand up, walk around or crouch in front of other guests while taking pictures for your own album. Not to mention posting them online.
Put your iphones away!!! The wedding ceremony is not about you and your pictures!
Totally ok to ask guests to refrain from picture taking during the ceremony, this could be done in a light and funny way right before the ceremony.
Just because you have a difference of opinion doesn't mean you have to shoot down someone else who is trying to provide a resource to another bride.
But the thing is, you are trying to control your guests. And controlling people because you want them "present in your moment" is just rude. So yes you can have a difference of opinion, but know that when that opinion is ridiculously rude you will be called out for it.
Just because you have a difference of opinion doesn't mean you have to shoot down someone else who is trying to provide a resource to another bride.
If I'm going to say it's a bad idea when the OP posts it, I'm also going to say it's a bad idea when you post it. The OP may take your resource because it's what she wants to hear, because no one can stop her, but by golly it will be said that it's a bad idea.
I think it is incredibly rude to stand up, walk around or crouch in front of other guests while taking pictures for your own album. Not to mention posting them online.
Put your iphones away!!! The wedding ceremony is not about you and your pictures!
Totally ok to ask guests to refrain from picture taking during the ceremony, this could be done in a light and funny way right before the ceremony.
Signs are a tad forbidding though.
Yea, no. You're being the rude one. It's not ok to tell your guests how to act, dress, or use their cell phones. Not cool. You didn't pay for that iphone so you have no right to tell your guests to not use it.
My photographer shared this article a few months back on his facebook page in favor of unplugged ceremonies.
Sure, professional photographers should be able to roll with situations and find work arounds, but they're not miracle workers. If people set off a dozen flashes at once and you look completely washed out and ghostly in all your pictures coming down the aisle, there's nothing they can do in the moment or in post-production to fix it. If there's one rude person in the aisle, they or the second shooter will probably be able to find a different angle to shoot from, but the story is different if its five people all hopping around.
All of the hand-wringing about "telling adults what to do" is absolutely ludicrous. I am an adult and I am told what to do for the safety and courtesy of others dozens of times a day without it being an affront to my adultly dignity. Sometimes people need a gentle reminder, and even if it won't stop the determinedly rude, it WILL stop the courteous who might otherwise forget their manners when they're caught up in the moment. At the end of the day, I am paying a photographer hundreds or thousands of dollars for their skills and expertise, and I want him to be able to do his work to the best of his ability. So yes, I'm having my officiant make a (non-twee) announcement that the ceremony will be unplugged, and probably putting a note in the programs as well.
If images of guests taking pictures doesn't bother you then by all means, don't do the same. But OP very obviously WOULD be bothered about it and this brow-beating about "telling adults what to do!!!" like any reminder about good behavior is akin to a spanking is ridiculous.
My photographer shared this article a few months back on his facebook page in favor of unplugged ceremonies.
Sure, professional photographers should be able to roll with situations and find work arounds, but they're not miracle workers. If people set off a dozen flashes at once and you look completely washed out and ghostly in all your pictures coming down the aisle, there's nothing they can do in the moment or in post-production to fix it. If there's one rude person in the aisle, they or the second shooter will probably be able to find a different angle to shoot from, but the story is different if its five people all hopping around.
All of the hand-wringing about "telling adults what to do" is absolutely ludicrous. I am an adult and I am told what to do for the safety and courtesy of others dozens of times a day without it being an affront to my adultly dignity. Sometimes people need a gentle reminder, and even if it won't stop the determinedly rude, it WILL stop the courteous who might otherwise forget their manners when they're caught up in the moment. At the end of the day, I am paying a photographer hundreds or thousands of dollars for their skills and expertise, and I want him to be able to do his work to the best of his ability. So yes, I'm having my officiant make a (non-twee) announcement that the ceremony will be unplugged, and probably putting a note in the programs as well.
If images of guests taking pictures doesn't bother you then by all means, don't do the same. But OP very obviously WOULD be bothered about it and this brow-beating about "telling adults what to do!!!" like any reminder about good behavior is akin to a spanking is ridiculous.
There are a few photographers on these boards who will tell you in a heartbeat that any photographer sharing this article is making excuses for being a crappy photographer. It's BS.
What do the guests need to be reminded of? Nothing. They don't. Their picture-taking will not actually keep them from paying attention. It is not "bad behavior" to be taking pictures.
Just because you have a difference of opinion doesn't mean you have to shoot down someone else who is trying to provide a resource to another bride.
Etiquette isn't opinion. This isn't a question of whether this dress looks good, or if colors go together, it's a question of how do I make an incredibly rude thing, not rude. And the answer is, there's no way to make this not rude.
My photographer shared this article a few months back on his facebook page in favor of unplugged ceremonies.
Sure, professional photographers should be able to roll with situations and find work arounds, but they're not miracle workers. If people set off a dozen flashes at once and you look completely washed out and ghostly in all your pictures coming down the aisle, there's nothing they can do in the moment or in post-production to fix it. If there's one rude person in the aisle, they or the second shooter will probably be able to find a different angle to shoot from, but the story is different if its five people all hopping around.
All of the hand-wringing about "telling adults what to do" is absolutely ludicrous. I am an adult and I am told what to do for the safety and courtesy of others dozens of times a day without it being an affront to my adultly dignity. Sometimes people need a gentle reminder, and even if it won't stop the determinedly rude, it WILL stop the courteous who might otherwise forget their manners when they're caught up in the moment. At the end of the day, I am paying a photographer hundreds or thousands of dollars for their skills and expertise, and I want him to be able to do his work to the best of his ability. So yes, I'm having my officiant make a (non-twee) announcement that the ceremony will be unplugged, and probably putting a note in the programs as well.
If images of guests taking pictures doesn't bother you then by all means, don't do the same. But OP very obviously WOULD be bothered about it and this brow-beating about "telling adults what to do!!!" like any reminder about good behavior is akin to a spanking is ridiculous.
Of course your photographer posted that article! He's part of the wedding industry! If he can't move around the *few* people snapping quick iphone pics at your ceremony, then there's bigger problems than having an unplugged ceremony.
Re: Is it rude to say no pictures??
I am going to interject a different point of view. Yes I understand that photographers are professsionals but to me the no photos during the ceremony is more about the fact that pictures can be ruined.
I want my guests to be apart of the ceremony to truly be in the moment with us during the cermony and if they are taking pictures with their cameras or phones they are not truly in the moment. I know from all of my times at weddings that when I am taking pictures I'm not truly enjoying the moment and can miss out on the experience. This is the main reason why I am having a no photo ceremony and yes I realize some will be upset but I know my photographers will take amazing pictures and get better pictures because of this.
I have already shared this idea with many people involved in the wedding and the main person who has made a fuss is my mom who I DO NOT want taking pictures because I want her to be in the moment. Too often we are worried about catching the perfect picture or moment rather than living it. I want people to live through our wedding and remember it for all the moments rather than the pictures.
Wow just putting a different point of view out there and you can disagree with me and thats fine we all have different points of view but the manner you have "made your point" is not one I'm not going to bother with.
However, I will say, if you have to chase down your photographer for photos than you did not do your research of the photographer before hand. I'm sorry that your photographer is not being professional and not doing what you paid for them. And I hope that you make sure others are aware that this photographer is not reliable. For me though, I am certain that mine will get me pictures soon after the wedding. And I know she will share them on facebook for my family members who need to see a picture right away.
Everyone loves a good schooling by a novice.
I think it's super weird when a bride says "We want you to be fully present with us" I don't know why but it's like nails on a chalkboard to me... Fully present? What does that even mean?
I am fully against the "unplugged" ceremonies. I want people to take photos/videos if they want. I can have that footage instantly. The footage from my photographer will take 3-6 months to get back and I don't want to have to wait that long to see a single picture from my wedding.
Just because you have a difference of opinion doesn't mean you have to shoot down someone else who is trying to provide a resource to another bride.
Yea, no. You're being the rude one. It's not ok to tell your guests how to act, dress, or use their cell phones. Not cool. You didn't pay for that iphone so you have no right to tell your guests to not use it.
Sure, professional photographers should be able to roll with situations and find work arounds, but they're not miracle workers. If people set off a dozen flashes at once and you look completely washed out and ghostly in all your pictures coming down the aisle, there's nothing they can do in the moment or in post-production to fix it. If there's one rude person in the aisle, they or the second shooter will probably be able to find a different angle to shoot from, but the story is different if its five people all hopping around.
All of the hand-wringing about "telling adults what to do" is absolutely ludicrous. I am an adult and I am told what to do for the safety and courtesy of others dozens of times a day without it being an affront to my adultly dignity. Sometimes people need a gentle reminder, and even if it won't stop the determinedly rude, it WILL stop the courteous who might otherwise forget their manners when they're caught up in the moment. At the end of the day, I am paying a photographer hundreds or thousands of dollars for their skills and expertise, and I want him to be able to do his work to the best of his ability. So yes, I'm having my officiant make a (non-twee) announcement that the ceremony will be unplugged, and probably putting a note in the programs as well.
If images of guests taking pictures doesn't bother you then by all means, don't do the same. But OP very obviously WOULD be bothered about it and this brow-beating about "telling adults what to do!!!" like any reminder about good behavior is akin to a spanking is ridiculous.
There are a few photographers on these boards who will tell you in a heartbeat that any photographer sharing this article is making excuses for being a crappy photographer. It's BS.
What do the guests need to be reminded of? Nothing. They don't. Their picture-taking will not actually keep them from paying attention. It is not "bad behavior" to be taking pictures.
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