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Is it rude to say no pictures??

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Re: Is it rude to say no pictures??

  • Wow, a bunch of incredibly rude people acting like nothing can be done to stop people from being rude. I'm shocked.
    Taking pictures during your ceremony isn't rude. So you don't have to stop them.
  • Is this in the newsletter or something? Why the onslaught of special snowflakes all of sudden?

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  • My photographer shared this article a few months back on his facebook page in favor of unplugged ceremonies.

    OMG not this fucking article again!
    Ok, who's going to say they feel sorry for our Hs/FIs/SOs so I can get a bingo??
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  • Is this in the newsletter or something? Why the onslaught of special snowflakes all of sudden?

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    This thread was in the latest email sent out, that's whats bringing people here.
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  • Guys...I just realized...my parents weren't "truly in the moment" at any of my graduation ceremonies! There are so many pictures of me graduating that...that...they couldn't have been "truly in the moment"!!!!!! 

    Oh god...my birthdays too, and so much of my childhood. Guys...MY PARENTS DON'T LOVE ME!!!

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    Shit, that's a good point! I should probably re-enact all of my graduations, starting with Kindergarten. 
    Just think of how many birth re-enactments need to occur. Man, this is going to get ugly.

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  • I live in a small town and went to school with the photographer so not worried about not getting the photos at all and I am prepared that I might have to wait a while but she is pretty good at sharing at least one or two photos within the days following the wedding. 

    I have decided to not worry about it and I love the idea of blocking off the aisle but even that might not happen. If I have free time and extra materials then I might but I am not going to stress over it and make it a priority. 
    Please, please, please make sure you have a proper contract with this person - I was in the same situation with the woman who made our wedding cake, thinking 'everything will be easy because we all know each/went to school together/are still facebook friends' etc - she was a nightmare! Eventually I had to threaten to sue her just to bring the situation she caused to an end. And even if (s)he genuinely tries to fulfil what you have both agreed, outside forces can crop up and potentially disrupt things so it is always so much better to have a contract.
  • I guess I'm going to go against the grain here and say if you want to ask people not to take pics on their cell phones, go right ahead! I read an article recently (wish I could find it now, but I can't) written by a photographer about some things that hinder photographers from being able to get the perfect shots and ways that brides can help avoid them. One of them was guests taking photos on their cell phones (flash overexposed her shots which can't be fixed) and getting out of their seats to get the best shot (These moments go by fast. If Great Uncle Bob is standing in the way during the first kiss, you don't get a do-over). I found a really nice sign that says something along the lines of "Please turn off all mobile phones and enjoy this moment with us." I don't see how this is a rude statement??
  • I guess I'm going to go against the grain here and say if you want to ask people not to take pics on their cell phones, go right ahead! I read an article recently (wish I could find it now, but I can't) written by a photographer about some things that hinder photographers from being able to get the perfect shots and ways that brides can help avoid them. One of them was guests taking photos on their cell phones (flash overexposed her shots which can't be fixed) and getting out of their seats to get the best shot (These moments go by fast. If Great Uncle Bob is standing in the way during the first kiss, you don't get a do-over). I found a really nice sign that says something along the lines of "Please turn off all mobile phones and enjoy this moment with us." I don't see how this is a rude statement??

    Did you read ANY of the prior comments before posting? 
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  • I guess I'm going to go against the grain here and say if you want to ask people not to take pics on their cell phones, go right ahead! I read an article recently (wish I could find it now, but I can't) written by a photographer about some things that hinder photographers from being able to get the perfect shots and ways that brides can help avoid them. One of them was guests taking photos on their cell phones (flash overexposed her shots which can't be fixed) and getting out of their seats to get the best shot (These moments go by fast. If Great Uncle Bob is standing in the way during the first kiss, you don't get a do-over). I found a really nice sign that says something along the lines of "Please turn off all mobile phones and enjoy this moment with us." I don't see how this is a rude statement??

    Re: the first bolded - Spot on, @Kahlyla.

    If you would like to see how it is a rude statement, perhaps you could start by reading the thread.

  • I guess I'm the strange one because I totally agree with you. I am letting my guests know that we are having an "unplugged" wedding. Photos will be permitted after the dances and cake cutting. And none during the ceremony. If my guests don't like it, then don't come. Guests should also respect the wishes of the bride and groom. I also feel that while looking at my pictures, I don't want to see iPads or iPhones or cameras taking pictures. I want my guests to be present and take in everything from the wedding as I do. I say do it.
  • This is hilarious. I think I've read every comment on this thread, and one response after another would indicate nothing but a thread dominated *by* bridezillas. It's your wedding; it's your money. Do what you want. Rude, not rude, whatever. There are plenty of nice ways to ask anything you want. It's your day and your dime. If they don't like it, don't let the door hit'em in the ass on the way out.
  • I'm really getting concerned about the lack of reading comprehension skills.
  • Are there any happy ladies here? How sad.
  • At my sister's wedding the photographer actually asked the minister to request no photography. Turns out one of their favorite photos was by the groom's godfather, it's now framed on their mantle.  
  • At my sister's wedding the photographer actually asked the minister to request no photography. Turns out one of their favorite photos was by the groom's godfather, it's now framed on their mantle.  
    One of my favorite photos from my wedding was taken by a guest as well - my FIL kissing the top of my head after I served him tea during the tea ceremony. The photographer got it from a different angle, but my friend's picture was absolutely perfect. 
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  • To be fair, it can be very difficult for a professional photographer to get certain shots if half a dozen guests all pop out into the aisle to grab a photo of a particular moment in the ceremony. It's rude, of course, but it still happens.

    Unfortunately, as noted, there's not much to be done about it. Perhaps an advance reminder to someone known as a repeat offender, but even that's skirting the line. A blanket admonition is right out.


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  • Wait until Saturday guys, it's going to get worse.

    *Going back to chit chat*
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  • No its not rude. Just be mindful how you ask. There are more polite ways. In fact I've seen photography blogs wlon this subject and they would rather guests not take photos...wouldnt you rather walk down the aisle to smiling faces then cell phones taking pictures?
  • I've been to 2 weddings in the last few years where the officiant actually made a point of telling everyone to refrain from taking pictures during the ceremony. They would say that the bride and groom have professional photographers there, and the reason was to ensure they are able to get as many beautiful shots as possible, instead of spending time trying to dodge people. But they did have specific moments when the group was invited to move around to take pictures. I remember one was when they were signing the papers.

    So that's an option, ask that people stay seeated until the officiant invites them to move around and take pictures for a few minutes at different times. You get to let people move around, but not throughout.

  • kittybo said:
    No its not rude. Just be mindful how you ask. There are more polite ways. In fact I've seen photography blogs wlon this subject and they would rather guests not take photos...wouldnt you rather walk down the aisle to smiling faces then cell phones taking pictures?
    Another one bites the dust.  Why do people not read pp?!
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