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MandyLand29 · February 2015

I'm normally a lurker but I want to tell you not to give any nasty comment another thought. From what I've seen you are sweet and thoughtful person and I'm so sorry you are going through this. You are in my thoughts and I am wishing you all the comfort that can be found during this time. *hugs*

Cookie Pusher · February 2015

Oddly enough, I don't see posts by that particular poster. It showed them as the last poster on the thread a minute ago but I don't see their post. Probably a good thing.

Fran1985 · February 2015

Edited for reasons. Decided to just change it to another message of support towards LL instead.

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pinkcow13 · February 2015

LL, we got your back.

levioosa · February 2015

Cookie Pusher said:

Oddly enough, I don't see posts by that particular poster. It showed them as the last poster on the thread a minute ago but I don't see their post. Probably a good thing.

Same thing happens to me. If people ignore you does that mean you don't see their posts either? That's always confused me. It's probably a good thing. That way I can focus on the people who actually matter, like LL.

novella1186 · February 2015

I missed the vile pm, but it's not something you need to worry about because people like that just drown in their own misery. Anyone who thinks it's cool to be mean and nasty for the sake of being mean and nasty isn't even worth the dirt on the bottom of your shoes.

I feel like your ex FI already had issues and the traumatic event just brought it to the surface, so I agree with PPs that you dodged a major bullet. Anyone who reacts to a tough time by running is not a life partner. Not at all.

Also agree that you are going to get past this and get to an even better place, and be glad things worked out the way they did. My college bf dumped me 4 days before we were going to move across the country together, and it was total hell to go through. I stayed in bed for weeks and was a complete mess. I look back on that all the time and feel so lucky and so glad that it happened. It made me realize what I truly want and need in a partner, and here I am with FI, the guy I was actually meant to be with. I am SO LUCKY that other dude ended things. You have something really amazing in store for you. I promise.

There's not a whole lot to say that could help, but I always tell this quote to people when they're dealing with something really difficult, because it has meant a lot to me whenever I was going through something really difficult:

If you're going through hell, keep going.

-Winston Churchill

dolewhipper · February 2015

I'm never that great at words, but my heart is crying for you and your losses, LL.

princessleia22 · February 2015

Cookie Pusher said:

Oddly enough, I don't see posts by that particular poster. It showed them as the last poster on the thread a minute ago but I don't see their post. Probably a good thing.

Me either and I haven't seen anything by her for a while. I can see it coming up a couple times saying she was the last poster on this thread, but I don't see any posts from her. I don't remember actually blocking or ignoring her in the past, but I'm guessing I'm not missing much and not losing any sleep over it.

holyguacamole79 · February 2015

LL, I opened Pinterest today (I needed a good recipe!) and this was on my feed. I thought it was appropriate.

lacqueredlover · February 2015

Thanks everyone, I'm trying to work out a lot and just take care of myself.

And hey, now I can get a dog!

mikenberger · February 2015

lacqueredlover said:

Thanks everyone, I'm trying to work out a lot and just take care of myself.

And hey, now I can get a dog!

Yaaaaaasssss! Dog!

emmaaa · February 2015

You know, you are a great person and you are going to have some things to work through. Don't let the immaturity and awful words of one person throw you off track.

Chipmunk415 · February 2015

I am so so sorry. Hugs, margaritas and cookies.

Rescue dogs are awesome! Go for it!

princessleia22 · February 2015

lacqueredlover said:

Thanks everyone, I'm trying to work out a lot and just take care of myself.

And hey, now I can get a dog!

Yay! Silver linings are awesome!

lacqueredlover · February 2015

Oh I'm definitely getting a rescue, I would only ever do a rescue, I grew up with rescue dogs. I'm thinking of a bulldog or pug

JennyColada · February 2015

When me and my ex broke up I made an effort to post a "silver lining of the day". It was helpful to try to at least find SOME positive in the day (even if the "positive" was "I can spread out in bed because I have no one to share it with

" ).

hellosweetie1015 · February 2015

I kept seeing her username pop up last night as the most recent commenter, and never actually figured out why since I never saw her comment. I guess now I know.

LL, my heart is aching for you. I missed the PM itself, but I don't have to see it to know it was totally, 100%, completely wrong. The words used in it were wrong, and certainly don't describe you. The reason behind the message was wrong and reprehensible.

I highly recommend shelter/rescue dogs. I doubly recommend shelter/rescue corgis.

***(blue means clicky)

MairePoppy · February 2015

I'm sorry, LL.

.

Soon, you'll be spoiling your new companion.

Chipmunk415 · February 2015

If I weren't on my phone, id attach a link, but the youtube video "dog says hello" posted by john freefor with the little boston terrier is sure to make you grin....as is the one of the weeks old boxer pup trying to howl :-)

NowIAmSyp · February 2015

For you, LL

(P.S.- I am a crazy pug owner- I definitely, definitely recommend adding a pug to your life!)

ETF: gif

peachy13 · February 2015

SO sorry. My rescue pup is cuddled up next to me and we're sending virtual hugs to you. oo

theartistformerlyknownas · February 2015

You just deserve so, so much better. Better than a spineless sack of shit who runs from trouble, better than say, oh I don't know, off the top of my head... a car thief.

KatWAG · February 2015

lacqueredlover said:

Wow, got this message in my inbox this morning from @butterscotchjbeans . Some people are just cruel and unnecessary and @butterscotchjbeans you disgust me.

Sorry edited to get rid of the vile PM I received

What a horrible person. I did notice that someone had "loved" Lacquered's orginal post. No surprise that it was butter.

My curiosity is getting the best of me. What did she say?

KatWAG · February 2015

I am sorry, I posted before reading. I didnt realize the TOS voilation.

I am so glad you are going rescue a dog!!!

Hugs!!

littlemushroom · February 2015

OP I am so very sorry you are going through this. No one deserves to have something like this happen. All the best to you.

As for the new development, I don't see BSB's posts either. I definitely didn't block/ignore her posts and I don't think I ever commented on any of her previous posts or said anything to her, so I doubt I am blocked/ignored by her. Must be some other reason we can't see them.

plainjane0415 · February 2015

soontobesyp said:

For you, LL

(P.S.- I am a crazy pug owner- I definitely, definitely recommend adding a pug to your life!)

ETF: gif

----BOX----

I second the decision to add a pug into your life. I don't have a full blooded pug, but I have a mix (Puggle) who is really the best little thing. I have several friends who have Pugs and they make the best pets! So loving.

loveislouder · February 2015

I don't know how to GIF so I'm just going to post a link to a GIF.

http://i.imgur.com/cGxdHMi.gif

If this makes you laugh as much as it does me, you should definitely go with a pug. Puggles are cute too. Or a Pomsky!

FiancB · February 2015

I am so sorry. I've been through a wedding call-off as well but your situation sounds incredibly frustrating.

You marry someone to be with them for the rest of your life. You know bad things will happen in that lifetime- especially parent deaths. That is almost a given. That's why we choose life partners- because it's tough to go it alone. No one can make sure that everything will be hunky dory forever. So you are absolutely right that it's disturbing to know that someone's first impulse is to bail. You don't want to worry about that every time something bad happens.

I haven't seen BSCbeans in a while, says a lot about her that she's just lurking and waiting for someone she doesn't like to post bad news so she can rub their nose in it. Like I've posted on forums for a long time and have seen some really odd behavior, but that really takes the cake for being just utterly pathetic. And I've known a member that faked their own suicide for attention. Jesus.

Also yay silver linings!

mrsdee15 · February 2015

I am so, so sorry to hear this. I have been through the end of an engagement as well, if you ever want to talk feel free to PM me. It sucks really bad, and it just sort of starts to suck less. For me, the worst was seeing all his stuff gone, I broke down. Good friends came over and helped me slowly piece my life back together, and that helped a lot. That was when things started sucking less, and I starting dating FI two months later. You never know how things will go. I don't know if all that was helpful, I'm trying to think of encouraging things to say. But what others have said is right - the right guy is out there. We are all here for you, please don't go.

Also, dogs are rad. Puppies make the world better. And our rescue pets are the sweetest souls, Team Rescue forever!

ETA: I don't know what Butterscotchjellywhatever said but I cannot imagine a person with any compassion would make any cruel comments to someone going through such a devastating time. Please don't pay attention to it.

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