Dealbreakers

maeday2 · March 2015

Anyone who didn't love this face.

(Sorry that's so big. Not really, he's fucking CUTE)

katiekessler123 · March 2015

All of the obvious things like drug use, criminal record, etc.

But also:

Financial compatibility was important to me. Could never date someone who was careless w/ spending.

I could never date a smoker.

It was important to me to find someone who didn't want to be connected at the hip all the time. I like to have time to have separate interests etc., in addition to mutual interests.

No kids from a previous relationship.

Did not want someone materialistic (big fancy cars and big fancy houses just make me mad).

Lastly, it was super important to me to find someone who wanted to live in the city. I hate the idea of living in the suburbs. And my husband and I did buy a house in the city.

hellosweetie1015 · March 2015

larrygaga said:

hellosweetie1015 said:
Frankly, liking Guy Fieri is a dealbreaker.

Voting conservatively.

Driving a large truck. Something small I can handle, but unless you're a farmer or something, anything larger and I'm thinking you're compensating.

Not liking animals.

Not being kind to service industry workers.

Calling things "gay".

Saying "yolo".

Expecting to get oral but not give oral. I don't like getting oral, but if you're going to ask me to go there, then I expect you to be willing to reciprocate whether or not I actually take you up on it.
I agree with you on all of those and want to add that specifically any man in an f150. Those are not the truck that people who need trucks buy.

It's sexy when a man actually buys the vehicle that he needs and doesn't get stupid about it.

Eh. I'd rather an F150 over a damn Chevy. Screw bowties.

FI drives a Sentra. So there's that.

holyguacamole79 · March 2015

H is an environmental engineer, so we are all about the Hybrids in our family.

My biggest deal breaker would be if he wasn't Catholic.

[Deleted User] · March 2015

minttobemrsb · March 2015

All of the big obvious ones have been said, but abusive, drug user, uneducated, lazy, financially unstable, never wants kids. I Could list more, but they're not as fun.

Some random deal breakers:

-doesn't like cats (or animals in general...but mostly cats)

-isn't willing to sing and dance around the house

-listens to bluegrass music

-wears a backwards baseball hat

-says things like "yolo"

-can't handle crude humor

-doesn't understand sarcasm

-thinks that the Kardashians are actual celebrities

plainjane0415 · March 2015

A lot of mine have already been touched on, but my biggest one (in regards to significant others) is being disrepectful to women. That just really does not fly with me, and if you are going to say sexist things, I want absolutely nothing to do with you... That's so not cool.

I'm pretty open to most things, but that one, is my number 1.

KatWAG · March 2015

Smoker

Liberal

no sense of humor.

likes cats/ doesnt like dogs

Vegan/ gluten free/ paleo etc

emmaaa · March 2015

-Can not smoke

-Not drug use (DH used to smoke pot and experiment with other drugs but stopped when we started dating)

-Can not be a liberal

-Can not drive a little car, or a car at all really

-Must be able to have facial hair

-Has to be able to work on cars, outside, and on my family farm

-Has to get along with my family and friends

flyingfoxes · March 2015

Fun thread!

Not financially stable

Religious

Conservative

Short

Smoker

No sense of humor

Not ambitious

Gamers - nope

I LOL'd at the well done steak comment too! I used to do well done, but now I've realized the error of my ways and have backed off to medium. Still can't do rare.

cupcait927 · March 2015

The heavy hitters have been covered (has a job, not abusive, not into heavy drugs or an alcoholic, etc, doesn't live with mom & dad) but here are my dealbreakers:

Hipsters. Can't deal with that much pretentiousness

Overly confident/cockiness

Car guys - as in guys that constantly work on cars/have project cars/etc

Gamers

No education and no desire to pursue any education

Super religious (or really, having any religion)

Hardcore Republicans. H only redeems himself because he leans liberal/democrat on some social issues. Othewise we don't talk politics because it tends to end in a screaming match. If I had known his political tendencies before we started dating, there's a strong possibility I wouldn't even have given him a chance.

novella1186 · March 2015

mobride2015 said:
Fun thread!
Not financially stable
Religious
Conservative
Short
Smoker
No sense of humor
Not ambitious
I LOL'd at the well done steak comment too! I used to do well done, but now I've realized the error of my ways and have backed off to medium. Still can't do rare.

oooh I don't like short guys either. Not one bit. I'm only 5'1" so it's not like I need to date someone super tall just so I'm not towering over him or something (my tall girl friends tell me this bugs them) but FI is 6'2" and I love it!!!

(Who else is gonna reach the high up shelves for me?)

buttercup1958 · March 2015

It's funny how some people say short is a deal breaker. V and I are kinda short people, I'm 5'4 and I think he is 5'6 or 5'7. We are slender built too, so we always joke that we could be hobbits. We always sink when we sit in booths.

flyingfoxes · March 2015

buttercup1958 said:
It's funny how some people say short is a deal breaker. V and I are kinda short people, I'm 5'4 and I think he is 5'6 or 5'7. We are slender built too, so we always joke that we could be hobbits. We always sink when we sit in booths.

I'm 5'9" - there are lots of short men out there - I just can't do it!

ashley8918 · March 2015

-religious, really at all. NOPE.
-conservative
-gun nut (my autocorrect REALLY wanted to change that to gun butt)
-says anything even remotely intolerant of any race, sexual orientation, etc.
-intimidated by sex toys/porn
-Too into his mom/sister/whatever
-doesn't like kids
-really fucking loves animals (because, sorry, I just tolerate them and don't want 7000 of them)
-hates on my vegetarianism
-cooks fish in my house
-wets the bed (listen, I know a guy)
-lives with his parents on purpose (as in, not out of temporary financial necessity)
-is into water sports (no, I don't mean skiing)
-is more into video games than life itself

I could do this all day.

ETA:
-wants to drink my pee
-is "pro-life", and protests outside of planned parenthood. Or even if he doesn't. No pro-lifers ever.

LabLove86 · March 2015

I love pretty much all of these!

Except I will admit I love trucks/SUV's. Fi had a sedan when we started dating and I HATED it. Now he has a Kia Sorrento (SUV) and its pretty fantastic. I have nothing against trucks -but I do feel like they would more difficult as a 'family' vehicle.

Side note - I've dated guys with big trucks and big penises. So I don't believe in that. But Fi does (I haven't corrected him) and he always says "Sorry about your small dick!" Whenever we see a big truck. It still makes me laugh.

bethsmiles · March 2015

buttercup1958 said:
It's funny how some people say short is a deal breaker. V and I are kinda short people, I'm 5'4 and I think he is 5'6 or 5'7. We are slender built too, so we always joke that we could be hobbits. We always sink when we sit in booths.

Haha, SO always tells me I could be a hobbit, I'm 5' but he's not that tall at 5'8" he just looks tall next to me!

@larrygaga - I love that you included uses internet explorer. I have a friend who does and every time he clicks it I want to shove him out of his chair and show him how to properly use the internet!

My Dealbreakers:

Doesn't like dogs

Doesn't liking camping/hiking/rafting/super fun outdoor activities

Smokes/Drug use (even pot because the smell of it makes me sick)

Drives a lifted truck - just no. I'm short I'm not taking a running jump to get into your damn truck.

Hipsters

Doesn't like Harry Potter

emmaaa · March 2015

LabLove86 said:
I love pretty much all of these!

Except I will admit I love trucks/SUV's. Fi had a sedan when we started dating and I HATED it. Now he has a Kia Sorrento (SUV) and its pretty fantastic. I have nothing against trucks -but I do feel like they would more difficult as a 'family' vehicle.

Side note - I've dated guys with big trucks and big penises. So I don't believe in that. But Fi does (I haven't corrected him) and he always says "Sorry about your small dick!" Whenever we see a big truck. It still makes me laugh.

DH says they same thing when we see a stupid jacked up truck. He drives a GMC 2500 Z71, so it's a big truck with big tires but not obnoxious. Plus he works on the farm with my brother and needs it for his work. If we see a huge truck, he yells that.

Like this:

VulgarGirl · March 2015

Can't be straight.

Not abusive.

Doesn't steal shit then blame me.

Can't be stupid.

[Deleted User] · March 2015

VulgarGirl · March 2015

pinkrevenge said:

buttercup1958 said:
It's funny how some people say short is a deal breaker. V and I are kinda short people, I'm 5'4 and I think he is 5'6 or 5'7. We are slender built too, so we always joke that we could be hobbits. We always sink when we sit in booths.
That's not that short. I'm 5'4" and I'm friends with a couple who are both shorter than me. I think the guy might be closest, but I'm still taller than him.

Fuck you both. I'm 5' and my wife is "taller" at 5'3". High shelves are an actual issue in our house.

lovegood90 · March 2015

Everyone's said all of my big ones, and the obvious ones (ie abuse, disrespectful to women, etc).

- Needs to be taller than me

- Not religious. It's okay if you're "spiritual/believe in a higher power" but any major participation in organized religion will get a fuck no from me. I will NAHT be married in a church of any kind.

- Pro-choice (but that goes with the respecting women thing, so)

- If you're obnoxiously into crossfit/paleo/gluten free shit I won't deal with you

- Haven't seen this one mentioned yet (or maybe it was, sorry if I missed it): STANDS UP FOR ME/MUST BE ON MY SIDE. Sounds obvious, but my ex never had my back, was never on my side (won't get into the whole story) and it was so, so exhausting and isolating. Never again.

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novella1186 · March 2015

bethsmiles said:
It's funny how some people say short is a deal breaker. V and I are kinda short people, I'm 5'4 and I think he is 5'6 or 5'7. We are slender built too, so we always joke that we could be hobbits. We always sink when we sit in booths.

Haha, SO always tells me I could be a hobbit, I'm 5' but he's not that tall at 5'8" he just looks tall next to me!

@larrygaga - I love that you included uses internet explorer. I have a friend who does and every time he clicks it I want to shove him out of his chair and show him how to properly use the internet!

My Dealbreakers:

Doesn't like dogs

Doesn't liking camping/hiking/rafting/super fun outdoor activities

Smokes/Drug use (even pot because the smell of it makes me sick)

Drives a lifted truck - just no. I'm short I'm not taking a running jump to get into your damn truck.

Hipsters

Doesn't like Harry Potter

I dated a guy who was totally anti-outdoors, like never had that experience growing up so it was super foreign to him.

I grew up on Lake Michigan and spent summers at my grandma's lake cottage sleeping in tents, not to mention on vacations we would always do things like white water rafting.

Taught the guy to kayak, and he thought it was this huge exciting adventure. It didn't last. I don't judge him for it, cuz not everyone has to like the outdoors, but it made us incompatible for sure.

VulgarGirl · March 2015

pinkrevenge said:

MagicInk said:

pinkrevenge said:

buttercup1958 said:
It's funny how some people say short is a deal breaker. V and I are kinda short people, I'm 5'4 and I think he is 5'6 or 5'7. We are slender built too, so we always joke that we could be hobbits. We always sink when we sit in booths.
That's not that short. I'm 5'4" and I'm friends with a couple who are both shorter than me. I think the guy might be closest, but I'm still taller than him.
Fuck you both. I'm 5' and my wife is "taller" at 5'3". High shelves are an actual issue in our house.
You would LOVE his family's cabin, then. The whole lot of them are short so they had all the cabinets custom made lower to the ground.
I'm told if you're 6ft you will have to get on your knees to rinse shampoo out of your hair, because the shower faucet is also much lower. And they hang shit from the ceiling that will hit you in the face. Basically you can't be tall in this cabin.

Yay! A cabin for me! Finally!!

ashley8918 · March 2015

MagicInk said:
Can't be straight.

BUT YOU SAID YOU LOVED ME.

minttobemrsb · March 2015

pinkrevenge said:

pinkrevenge said:

You would LOVE his family's cabin, then. The whole lot of them are short so they had all the cabinets custom made lower to the ground.
I'm told if you're 6ft you will have to get on your knees to rinse shampoo out of your hair, because the shower faucet is also much lower. And they hang shit from the ceiling that will hit you in the face. Basically you can't be tall in this cabin.

This! I never noticed how short my shower head was because for me, it's just right. Then one day I got a text from FI (in the bathroom) with this picture.

VulgarGirl · March 2015

ashley8918 said:

MagicInk said:
Can't be straight.
BUT YOU SAID YOU LOVED ME.

I thought we established you are probably a lesbian. Who married a dude. Happens all the time.

levioosa · March 2015

MagicInk said:

pinkrevenge said:

buttercup1958 said:
It's funny how some people say short is a deal breaker. V and I are kinda short people, I'm 5'4 and I think he is 5'6 or 5'7. We are slender built too, so we always joke that we could be hobbits. We always sink when we sit in booths.
That's not that short. I'm 5'4" and I'm friends with a couple who are both shorter than me. I think the guy might be closest, but I'm still taller than him.
Fuck you both. I'm 5' and my wife is "taller" at 5'3". High shelves are an actual issue in our house.

The irony is that being short doesn't protect you from from getting stuck under beds either.

SO and I are also short people. I'm 5'1" and he's 5'7". If he's not around I'm screwed. I have a friend who's house has been specially made for tall people. The counters are all 48" high (standard counter height is 36"). She asked me to help her cut veggies one night when we were making dinner and I was like, lol, no, the counter is shoulder height.

ashley8918 · March 2015

MagicInk said:

ashley8918 said:

MagicInk said:
Can't be straight.
BUT YOU SAID YOU LOVED ME.
I thought we established you are probably a lesbian. Who married a dude. Happens all the time.

Right, of course. I'm just a pretend straight.

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