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  • VulgarGirlVulgarGirl Desert Oasis member
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    MagicInk said:

    MagicInk said:

    That is my opinion.  Feel free to look up the word opinion in a dictionary.

    My opinion is that all Mexican people are lazy. It's not racist, it's just my opinion. 


    *note I do not actually think that all Mexican people are lazy. I'm making a point. Again I don't actually think this. I'm not a shitty person. Please don't yell at me*



    I definitely had to double take at this @MagicInk

    Then I saw your note on the bottom and was like "phew"

    Aw hell, Wifey is half Mexican and between the two of us...I'm the lazy ass one.
    But she DID get stuck under the bed. Just the lazy Mexican half though. Her hardworking Irish side was free. And drunk.
    That reminds me of a friend of mine who is also Irish/Mexican and she said once "Yep, I build something, get drunk, get angry, then fall asleep". And I was like, me too! Except the building something. 
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  • littlepep said:

    Oh, LORD JESUS. This is the lint trap penis situation all over again.Because, you know, men CAN'T do laundry. Their penis will get stuck in the lint trap and the world will will end, right?


    What exactly is it about their genitals that makes men "more needy". Is it their testicles? I hear testicles are pretty needy.

    STOP FUCKING GENDER STEREOTYPING.

    And here is the thing about opinions: Your right to have them doesn't make them not really fucked up and gross. Like the opinion that proximity to poor people makes an area a bad neighborhood. Or the opinion that black people are generally thieves. Or the opinion that gay people are somehow lesser humans. 
    I think it is the testicles.  Having that vulnerable body part just makes them inherently needy.

    But seriously, how to men ride bikes without squishing their balls?  I can't seem to figure that out and it's been bothering me.
    I feel like in general balls on the outside wasn't a good choice, you know? I mean they are super vunerable. 
    There's actually a reason for that! Sperm are sensitive to temperature. Balls being on the outside keeps them cooler.

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  • littlepep said:

    Oh, LORD JESUS. This is the lint trap penis situation all over again.Because, you know, men CAN'T do laundry. Their penis will get stuck in the lint trap and the world will will end, right?


    What exactly is it about their genitals that makes men "more needy". Is it their testicles? I hear testicles are pretty needy.

    STOP FUCKING GENDER STEREOTYPING.

    And here is the thing about opinions: Your right to have them doesn't make them not really fucked up and gross. Like the opinion that proximity to poor people makes an area a bad neighborhood. Or the opinion that black people are generally thieves. Or the opinion that gay people are somehow lesser humans. 
    I think it is the testicles.  Having that vulnerable body part just makes them inherently needy.

    But seriously, how to men ride bikes without squishing their balls?  I can't seem to figure that out and it's been bothering me.
    I feel like in general balls on the outside wasn't a good choice, you know? I mean they are super vunerable. 
    There's actually a reason for that! Sperm are sensitive to temperature. Balls being on the outside keeps them cooler.
    But why haven't sperms evolved enough to handle hotter temperatures so the balls can stay inside? 
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  • OP, is anybody in your life, including you, happy about your engagement? 

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  • Hey OP - where'd you go?

    By the way, I notice that you have two previous posts from 2014 titled "Mother not happy about engagement" and "Not excited about engagement". This has sooooo much badness written all over it!

    OP, come back and get some inspiration from all the cool Knotties (not me) so you can get what you deserve in life and be happy! Or at least join the conversation about dicks and balls on bicycle seats, because a good cringe-worthy laugh is good for everyone in every situation.
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  • littlepep said:

    Oh, LORD JESUS. This is the lint trap penis situation all over again.Because, you know, men CAN'T do laundry. Their penis will get stuck in the lint trap and the world will will end, right?


    What exactly is it about their genitals that makes men "more needy". Is it their testicles? I hear testicles are pretty needy.

    STOP FUCKING GENDER STEREOTYPING.

    And here is the thing about opinions: Your right to have them doesn't make them not really fucked up and gross. Like the opinion that proximity to poor people makes an area a bad neighborhood. Or the opinion that black people are generally thieves. Or the opinion that gay people are somehow lesser humans. 
    I think it is the testicles.  Having that vulnerable body part just makes them inherently needy.

    But seriously, how to men ride bikes without squishing their balls?  I can't seem to figure that out and it's been bothering me.
    I feel like in general balls on the outside wasn't a good choice, you know? I mean they are super vunerable. 
    There's actually a reason for that! Sperm are sensitive to temperature. Balls being on the outside keeps them cooler.
    But why haven't sperms evolved enough to handle hotter temperatures so the balls can stay inside? 
    Staying cold in the balls keeps them sort of sleepy. The warmth of a vagina wakes them up and makes them swim faster!

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  • littlepeplittlepep South Carolina member
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    littlepep said:

    Oh, LORD JESUS. This is the lint trap penis situation all over again.Because, you know, men CAN'T do laundry. Their penis will get stuck in the lint trap and the world will will end, right?


    What exactly is it about their genitals that makes men "more needy". Is it their testicles? I hear testicles are pretty needy.

    STOP FUCKING GENDER STEREOTYPING.

    And here is the thing about opinions: Your right to have them doesn't make them not really fucked up and gross. Like the opinion that proximity to poor people makes an area a bad neighborhood. Or the opinion that black people are generally thieves. Or the opinion that gay people are somehow lesser humans. 
    I think it is the testicles.  Having that vulnerable body part just makes them inherently needy.

    But seriously, how to men ride bikes without squishing their balls?  I can't seem to figure that out and it's been bothering me.
    I feel like in general balls on the outside wasn't a good choice, you know? I mean they are super vunerable. 
    There's actually a reason for that! Sperm are sensitive to temperature. Balls being on the outside keeps them cooler.
    But why haven't sperms evolved enough to handle hotter temperatures so the balls can stay inside? 
    Staying cold in the balls keeps them sort of sleepy. The warmth of a vagina wakes them up and makes them swim faster!
    Scientifically, I know it makes sense. Just seems like poor planning. Aesthetically and otherwise. ;)
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  • ashley8918ashley8918 Chicago Suburbs member
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    MagicInk said:

    I once heard a comedian say a man's genitals "looked like God was tying a bow and the phone rang". 

    Welp, thanks for the pee pants-almost.
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  • OP, I don't like the way this sounds. I too have had issues with my FI acting a little spoiled and taking his crankiness out on me when I had nothing to do with it. But I talked to him. I told him straight up that wasn't fair and it needed to stop. And it did. Now we make efforts to spoil each other and meet each other's needs. When he's cranky, he doesn't take it out on me, instead he acknowledges my efforts to make him feel better and shows me his appreciation.

    I'm telling you this because if you don't think your FI would react in a similar way to your expressing your concern, that should raise a lot of red flags. My relationship isn't perfect, and neither are we as individuals, but we've found ways to work through our problems like adults. You shouldn't have to spend your time worrying about when he's going to grow up.
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  • Why in the name of all that is divine and glittery are you with, let alone even considering marrying a needy douchebag who will never admit when he is wrong.

  • MadHops21MadHops21 Buried in blankets member
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    I know we were talking about gender-ists and racism, but guys, I can't be racist.

    I have a black president. 
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  • MadHops21 said:

    I know we were talking about gender-ists and racism, but guys, I can't be racist.


    I have a black president. 
    FI sent me a picture of a truck he saw today that had an anti-Obama sticker and one that said, "Nuts to Diversity. Celebrate America." I think that guy starts a lot of sentences with, "I'm not a racist, but..."
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  • littlepeplittlepep South Carolina member
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    MagicInk said:

    I once heard a comedian say a man's genitals "looked like God was tying a bow and the phone rang". 

    OMG I am crying laughing at work. 
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  • littlepep said:

    Oh, LORD JESUS. This is the lint trap penis situation all over again.Because, you know, men CAN'T do laundry. Their penis will get stuck in the lint trap and the world will will end, right?


    What exactly is it about their genitals that makes men "more needy". Is it their testicles? I hear testicles are pretty needy.

    STOP FUCKING GENDER STEREOTYPING.

    And here is the thing about opinions: Your right to have them doesn't make them not really fucked up and gross. Like the opinion that proximity to poor people makes an area a bad neighborhood. Or the opinion that black people are generally thieves. Or the opinion that gay people are somehow lesser humans. 
    I think it is the testicles.  Having that vulnerable body part just makes them inherently needy.

    But seriously, how to men ride bikes without squishing their balls?  I can't seem to figure that out and it's been bothering me.
    I feel like in general balls on the outside wasn't a good choice, you know? I mean they are super vunerable. 
    There's actually a reason for that! Sperm are sensitive to temperature. Balls being on the outside keeps them cooler.
    I know this is scientifically the reason they are on the outside, but I can't think of a single time that FI's balls felt cooler than the rest of his body.

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  • MadHops21 said:

    I know we were talking about gender-ists and racism, but guys, I can't be racist.


    I have a black president. 
    FI sent me a picture of a truck he saw today that had an anti-Obama sticker and one that said, "Nuts to Diversity. Celebrate America." I think that guy starts a lot of sentences with, "I'm not a racist, but..."
    I will never get over the irony of a white person bitching about foreigners in America. I cannot.
    Jack White said it best (in Icky Thump); "Why don't you kick yourself out, you're an immigrant too." 
    Yep. Pilgrims were the first boat people. There went the neighborhood.
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  • Sounds like you need to take a serious look at your relationship with your FI and is this behavior something you are willing to accept for the rest of your life. Don't count on it changing. If he's needy now, what is he going to be like down the road if you have a child together and he has to share you? My advice is to continue not to plan the wedding but to really take a look at his behavior and day to day actions. No making excuses for him. Just because you have a bad relationship with your mother, doesn't mean you shouldn't get help from him and get positive attention from him. Yes, it can be embarassing to call off an engagement, but better to do that then end up divorced.
  • Erikan73 said:

    Sounds like you need to take a serious look at your relationship with your FI and is this behavior something you are willing to accept for the rest of your life. Don't count on it changing. If he's needy now, what is he going to be like down the road if you have a child together and he has to share you? My advice is to continue not to plan the wedding but to really take a look at his behavior and day to day actions. No making excuses for him. Just because you have a bad relationship with your mother, doesn't mean you shouldn't get help from him and get positive attention from him. Yes, it can be embarassing to call off an engagement, but better to do that then end up divorced.

    To the bolded-- I have a shit relationship with my dad and sister (meaning pretty much non-existent or we're at each other's throats). This has no bearing on the way FI treats me. He never claims I'm asking too much to compensate for the lack of love from my own family. And never for 1 second do I feel like I'm not loved, appreciated, or spoiled by him.

    He has needy moments, but so do I. It's not a one-sided thing. 

    Family relationships have nothing to do with your relationship with your significant other. If you feel like you need more from him, it's not your mom's fault and it's not due to the type of relationship you have with your mom. That's his issue. That's his shortcoming. You need more from HIM, not anyone else. His blaming it on your mom is kind of awful. 
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  • jenna8984jenna8984 clam bakes & patriots member
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    I don't know if OP is coming back but @novella1186 that text exchange killed me! I love you!

                                                                     

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  • jenna8984 said:

    I don't know if OP is coming back but @novella1186 that text exchange killed me! I love you!

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  • WinstonsGirlWinstonsGirl The Cold North member
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    I think it is the testicles.  Having that vulnerable body part just makes them inherently needy.

    But seriously, how to men ride bikes without squishing their balls?  I can't seem to figure that out and it's been bothering me.

    I have asked DH this in the past.  Actually, I've asked him a lot about his balls and penis and where they go when he does certain things.  I also don't understand how they don't get in the way all the time, swinging around all free down there.  

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