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  • This wasn't at the wedding but a week before; my FI's sister was the one getting married. So the bride and groom were at FI house and FI was telling them that he might be late to the wedding because he might have to work that morning. Groom says, while laughing "don't worry you'll probably catch the next one". Bride punched groom. He was making a joke that this was her 3rd wedding and probably wouldn't be the last. So far they have stayed married for 8 months. 


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  • The giggalo aspect is what blows my mind about that story, and the fact that he passed out escort cards....wow.

    What's wrong with just attending a wedding by yourself? You don't have to hire a date, there are worse things that could happen to you than not having a date for a wedding.



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  • sheknows6 said:

    The giggalo aspect is what blows my mind about that story, and the fact that he passed out escort cards....wow.


    What's wrong with just attending a wedding by yourself? You don't have to hire a date, there are worse things that could happen to you than not having a date for a wedding.
    To be clear, the card thing wasn't hugely public. I didn't know about it until the drive home. Someone in my immediately family was part of the conversation where this interaction happened.

    Isn't the biggest part of hiring an escort discretion?
  • NotTheOnlyOneNotTheOnlyOne member
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    Anyone is allowed. No one kicked her out or punched her in the face. She was allowed and they finished and the whole thing happened. I am here to tell you it was one of the worst things I've had to watch at a wedding, as this is what this thread is about.

    If the room would have been into it and enjoying the whole thing, maybe I wouldn't remember, or would have been cheering her on. If she was actually someone's grandma it might have been funny and entertaining. The people who participate in these things are generally couples who know if one catches the other one will too, or eager teenage girls. She knew one person (the bride) and thought she should jump in and grab the bouquet knowing that 95% of the guys in line had their girlfriends there. Was ok with one of the guys putting a garter on her in front of all these people and his girlfriend. The guy that finally did had his fiancé there. Awkward, even if she was 25. The age was not really the point, but it made it much worse.

    This whole tradition is stupid, but it is there at every wedding since I was a kid. There are times when it is appropriate to participate and others when it is not.

    I have nothing against catching bouquets, I plan to toss mine to ALL women, not just single ones. But it will be clear there is no garter show or toss. I have to have the DJ specifically announce it because it will be expected and I don't want the married or older women to miss out because they think that might be in their future.

    Again, this mom KNEW there was a garter show. The escort ended up having to put the garter on her because people were so uncomfortable.

    I have to say the giggolo thing is not common. That was at least 15 years ago and the only time I have been aware of one.

    I'm confused. First it was an engaged guy, then it was the giggolo. Who exactly put the garter on?
    I had 2 garter show stories.  Only one had a mom and an escort. 

    The other one had the guy with fiance.
  • chibiyui said:

    I went to a wedding a couple years ago where the officiant had a ten minute prayer for all the doomed unborn children in this country. At the request of the bride and groom. It was uncomfortable to say the least.

    I feel the sudden need to make a donation to planned parenthood.
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  • levioosa said:

    I went to a Catholic wedding once where the bride was just over 2 hours late to the ceremony.  The priest announced that if she wasn’t there in the next ten minutes, he was out.  He even removed his stole.  She just barely made it.  He did not do the traditional mass or barely anything at all.  They were married in under 4 minutes.

    The most cringey thing EVER was when the MOB, whose date was clearly being paid to be there, caught the bouquet.  I mean, I can’t tell you how much this was not cute or sweet or in any way appropriate.   This was YEARS ago and I will never forget the second hand embarrassment. 

    At another more recent wedding the bride, who works in retail, decided to invite a single older co-worker because she had an open slot and the lady was very nice.  She was maybe in her 50’s but her demeanor and attire made her look way older.  Like, she could be your grandma.  When she caught that bouquet, all the under 30 dudes who were waiting on the dance floor to catch the garter were sweating and trying to escape back to their seats but it was clearly too late.  The best man took one for the team and received no competition. The lady takes a seat in the designated chair and pulls up her long skirt to reveal knee high SUPPORT HOSE. The only thing I could think of was Mama’s Family.  SO UNCOMFORTABLE TO WATCH.
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    I don't judge the older lady for wearing support hose, but sure as hell judge the bride and groom for subjecting her and the guests to that incredibly fucking tacky invented "tradition" of putting the garter on a guest. They're the only ones who should be embarrassed. 
    I honestly had never even heard of that tradition until TK, and I am horrified by it.  Who the hell decided that was a good idea?  It seems so incredibly awkward, inappropriate, and embarrassing for all involved.   
    I went to a wedding where this slimeball caught the garter and a 12 year old caught the bouquet.  The girl was sitting on a chair on the dance floor, about to die of embarrassment before her mother intervened and prevented the guy from putting the garter on her.  I still shudder when I think about it.
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    Holy shit. I am embarrassed for everyone involved in, or attending, that wedding. That is just. so. awkward. WHY?

    My favorite is the dude in the foreground who is visibly shocked and trying to keep (presumably) his kid from hearing the song.
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  • I always hated the garter toss = whoever caught the bouquet has to have it put on their leg.

    I went to one wedding where everyone clearly knew what was going to happen and were uncomfortable with it. Looking back I think the girl who caught the bouquet was a very young teen so this is probably what brought on this reaction by the decent guys there who didn't' want to feel like creeps. The groom had to throw the garter twice because all the guys jumped back from it the first time, and then the second time they forced the guy who it fell closest to to pick it. They then paraded the young girl out, who didn't seem to know her fate, and then pushed the guy out there to put it on her leg. It was all very uncomfortable.
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  • Snaps816Snaps816 member
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    I wasn't there for this one, but my parents were guests at this wedding and told me the story.

    The bride's father had died when she was a child. (This is a sad thing and I am not mocking the family, I want to be clear -- just the way this went down). The father had died of an illness, and knowing he was dying, wrote a letter for his daughter on her wedding day. The family had kept the letter,of course, and the bride didn't know. During toasts portion of the reception, a relative explained that they had this letter and proceeded to read it in front of everyone. It was, obviously, really sad and moving.The bride ended up full-on crying, not like some little tears but sobbing. Most of the guests cried as well. My parents said it felt like a funeral, and took a long time to get the mood back to celebratory.

    I think the letter is a beautiful thing, but it seems like it would be more appropriate to give it to her the morning of so she could read it in private. I think we all expect some tears at a wedding, but not like, ruin-your-makeup, puffy-eyes, takes-an-hour to recover crying. Plus, if that were me, I'd want to read the letter in private to truly take it in without a hundred people watching me. 
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  • The bride and groom have been dating since high school (I met them about 3 years ago when they were in their 2nd engagement period), and they have broken up and gotten back together at least 3/4 times since then. If they weren't broken up, they were engaged and pushing the wedding back after all their fights and break ups. 

    Neither my boyfriend or myself got an invitation to the wedding before.. until I got a Facebook message (from the bride to be) a couple days ago inviting me to her bachelorette party (which took place in 15 minutes). I went because I'm a nice person and had to deal with a very drunk bride. She ended up getting sick 3 times and passing out 2; one of which was in the hallway outside her apartment, leaving me and another person to drag her passed out drunk ass back inside. Before she passed out the first time, she decided to finally invite me and my bf to the wedding.
    The day of, the bride looked horrified during the ceremony. Neither family really gave a crap, I doubt they thought it would actually happen. Their first dance was a song talking about "not getting things right the first time" and she wasn't in the mood for any of his happy shenanigans, so she would walk away.  
    They had a dollar dance (which I had never seen before) and only their families and bridal party partook in it. My bf and I were sitting with the grooms grandparents for both the ceremony and the reception since they didn't assign tables. The groom came over to talk to them and he apologized for NOT SENDING THEM AN INVITATION, apparently they forgot..I think they didn't send out any physical invitations since they didn't know if it was going to happen. The grandfather said that they understood things get rocky to which the groom replied; "Yea; well everything about this wedding has been rocky."
    It wasn't super bad aside from that. I got my cake (which was actually the best cake I've ever had at a wedding), and the grooms grandmother said she wishes she had me as a daughter, that she wants to attend my wedding, and that she'll give us a really good gift.

    *Excuse the terrible grammar, I've always had problems with it*
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    I wasn't there for this one, but my parents were guests at this wedding and told me the story.


    The bride's father had died when she was a child. (This is a sad thing and I am not mocking the family, I want to be clear -- just the way this went down). The father had died of an illness, and knowing he was dying, wrote a letter for his daughter on her wedding day. The family had kept the letter,of course, and the bride didn't know. During toasts portion of the reception, a relative explained that they had this letter and proceeded to read it in front of everyone. It was, obviously, really sad and moving.The bride ended up full-on crying, not like some little tears but sobbing. Most of the guests cried as well. My parents said it felt like a funeral, and took a long time to get the mood back to celebratory.

    I think the letter is a beautiful thing, but it seems like it would be more appropriate to give it to her the morning of so she could read it in private. I think we all expect some tears at a wedding, but not like, ruin-your-makeup, puffy-eyes, takes-an-hour to recover crying. Plus, if that were me, I'd want to read the letter in private to truly take it in without a hundred people watching me. 
    This is so painful. I can't imagine how the bride felt. 
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    I wasn't there for this one, but my parents were guests at this wedding and told me the story.


    The bride's father had died when she was a child. (This is a sad thing and I am not mocking the family, I want to be clear -- just the way this went down). The father had died of an illness, and knowing he was dying, wrote a letter for his daughter on her wedding day. The family had kept the letter,of course, and the bride didn't know. During toasts portion of the reception, a relative explained that they had this letter and proceeded to read it in front of everyone. It was, obviously, really sad and moving.The bride ended up full-on crying, not like some little tears but sobbing. Most of the guests cried as well. My parents said it felt like a funeral, and took a long time to get the mood back to celebratory.

    I think the letter is a beautiful thing, but it seems like it would be more appropriate to give it to her the morning of so she could read it in private. I think we all expect some tears at a wedding, but not like, ruin-your-makeup, puffy-eyes, takes-an-hour to recover crying. Plus, if that were me, I'd want to read the letter in private to truly take it in without a hundred people watching me. 
    This is so painful. I can't imagine how the bride felt. 
    OMG. I can't even imagine how bad that must have been. I think I would have even preferred to read this letter like the day before my wedding. Because it would be so emotional and it would give me more time to get an even keel. But never in the middle of a reception with tons of people around.
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  • I wasn't there for this one, but my parents were guests at this wedding and told me the story.


    The bride's father had died when she was a child. (This is a sad thing and I am not mocking the family, I want to be clear -- just the way this went down). The father had died of an illness, and knowing he was dying, wrote a letter for his daughter on her wedding day. The family had kept the letter,of course, and the bride didn't know. During toasts portion of the reception, a relative explained that they had this letter and proceeded to read it in front of everyone. It was, obviously, really sad and moving.The bride ended up full-on crying, not like some little tears but sobbing. Most of the guests cried as well. My parents said it felt like a funeral, and took a long time to get the mood back to celebratory.

    I think the letter is a beautiful thing, but it seems like it would be more appropriate to give it to her the morning of so she could read it in private. I think we all expect some tears at a wedding, but not like, ruin-your-makeup, puffy-eyes, takes-an-hour to recover crying. Plus, if that were me, I'd want to read the letter in private to truly take it in without a hundred people watching me. 
    Both of my parents died when I was a child at different times.  If anything like that had existed I would have wanted to see it WEEKS before the wedding!
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  • edited April 2015
    I haven't gone to this wedding yet, but I'm in a friend's wedding next month and she has no idea what she is doing but will not take anyone's advice. 

    -She isn't doing RSVP cards.
    I asked because there wasn't one with the invite. She told me that because so many people didn't RSVP to the bridal shower that she wasn't going to waste her time collecting them for the actual wedding. I tried to tell her that she needs a number for her caterer, but she said she has enough food for 100 people  (150 invited) and "SOME PEOPLE WON'T EAT." Ummmmm a wedding from 5:00 - 12:00 and you don't think everyone will want dinner? aaahhhhhh. I just cant get through to her.

    -She included a honey fund website on her invite. Not just hidden in the text, but a separate piece of paper that says, and i quote "Our honey fund account is www._____, and there will also be a money tree set up at the ceremony." I'm like dude.. people usually give you money anyways. You can't beg for it regardless.. its really really blunt and I just hope her guests take it as lightly as I did.

    -No vegetarian options. Just BBQ ribs. I'm a vegetarian so I will have to bring my own dish. Which is fine. But I am spending a good amount of money to be in the wedding, you think she would accommodate one plate for me. But again, its not a big deal I can pack a dinner. 

    I wish she would listen to me.. this is probably going to be a disaster. at least the food thing. 
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  • I haven't gone to this wedding yet, but I'm in a friend's wedding next month and she has no idea what she is doing but will not take anyone's advice. 


    -She isn't doing RSVP cards.
    I asked because there wasn't one with the invite. She told me that because so many people didn't RSVP to the bridal shower that she wasn't going to waste her time collecting them for the actual wedding. I tried to tell her that she needs a number for her caterer, but she said she has enough food for 100 people  (150 invited) and "SOME PEOPLE WON'T EAT." Ummmmm a wedding from 5:00 - 12:00 and you don't think everyone will want dinner? aaahhhhhh. I just cant get through to her.

    -She included a honey fund website on her invite. Not just hidden in the text, but a separate piece of paper that says, and i quote "Our honey fund account is www._____, and there will also be a money tree set up at the ceremony." I'm like dude.. people usually give you money anyways. You can't beg for it regardless.. its really really blunt and I just hope her guests take it as lightly as I did.

    -No vegetarian options. Just BBQ ribs. I'm a vegetarian so I will have to bring my own dish. Which is fine. But I am spending a good amount of money to be in the wedding, you think she would accommodate one plate for me. But again, its not a big deal I can pack a dinner. 

    I wish she would listen to me.. this is probably going to be a disaster. at least the food thing. 
    Is this wedding June 5th in Michigan? My good friend at work is a BM in a shit show that day that promises good stories and I thought it might be the same. 27 yo bride on her 3rd marriage?
  • edited April 2015

    I haven't gone to this wedding yet, but I'm in a friend's wedding next month and she has no idea what she is doing but will not take anyone's advice. 


    -She isn't doing RSVP cards.
    I asked because there wasn't one with the invite. She told me that because so many people didn't RSVP to the bridal shower that she wasn't going to waste her time collecting them for the actual wedding. I tried to tell her that she needs a number for her caterer, but she said she has enough food for 100 people  (150 invited) and "SOME PEOPLE WON'T EAT." Ummmmm a wedding from 5:00 - 12:00 and you don't think everyone will want dinner? aaahhhhhh. I just cant get through to her.

    -She included a honey fund website on her invite. Not just hidden in the text, but a separate piece of paper that says, and i quote "Our honey fund account is www._____, and there will also be a money tree set up at the ceremony." I'm like dude.. people usually give you money anyways. You can't beg for it regardless.. its really really blunt and I just hope her guests take it as lightly as I did.

    -No vegetarian options. Just BBQ ribs. I'm a vegetarian so I will have to bring my own dish. Which is fine. But I am spending a good amount of money to be in the wedding, you think she would accommodate one plate for me. But again, its not a big deal I can pack a dinner. 

    I wish she would listen to me.. this is probably going to be a disaster. at least the food thing. 
    I can't even wrap my head around the fact that she won't even try to get an accurate read on people attending her wedding.  I would not be going.  Who's to say anyone will get food, her?  the groom? her parents?  and elderly person with diabetes? You spend so much money to attend someone else's wedding and they are okay with you sitting there for HOURS watching someone else eat.  That made me so ragey. I would be pissed. That person would be lucky to get a card from me.
  • No kmmssg, different wedding but i cant believe someone else has a similar back story. its your wedding day.. you would think people would use the internet a little to search "why is rsvp necessary" or "is it okay to ask your guests for money on the invite". I know she wants to make enough money to have her honeymoon covered and its a bit ridiculous. 
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  • One of my BM's is a vegan and I actually had to make sure to have a special dish there specifically for her to be able to eat- my mother told the caterer "it's ok, she can just eat salad".....uhm, actually mom, vegans don't live off just iceberg lettuce and croutons.

    I could understand not specifically accommodating a vegetarian/vegan diet for all your guests since most food lines include non-meat options, but to not even offer some sort of special consideration for you AS A BRIDESMAID is just rude.

    I can't believe you have to bring your own plate to be able to eat. That's a big crock of shit if you ask me.



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  • sheknows6 said:

    One of my BM's is a vegan and I actually had to make sure to have a special dish there specifically for her to be able to eat- my mother told the caterer "it's ok, she can just eat salad".....uhm, actually mom, vegans don't live off just iceberg lettuce and croutons.


    I could understand not specifically accommodating a vegetarian/vegan diet for all your guests since most food lines include non-meat options, but to not even offer some sort of special consideration for you AS A BRIDESMAID is just rude.

    I can't believe you have to bring your own plate to be able to eat. That's a big crock of shit if you ask me.
    Agreed. We have a good friend who's vegetarian and we'll be making sure there's an option for her at our reception. We've even joked around about hitting up her favorite place for a to go meal for her if our caterer can't come up with something.
  • I'd call you out on those shenanigans if you did something like that.   
  • I'm vegan, and I go to a ton of weddings every year. I have been served a specifically vegan dish once, and it consisted only of vegetables. No protein, no starch. It was beautiful and delicious, but those calories were long gone after a half hour of dancing, let alone the all night fiesta that followed dinner.

    The normal vegan food at a wedding is salad, and hopefully there is a dressing like plain oil and vinegar. Croutons (at least commercially sold ones) are frequently not vegan. Most veggie side dishes contain butter, lots now have bacon, and most starches are likewise out of bounds. Rolls tend to have milk or egg glaze, again usually the commercially purchased ones.

    I learned years ago to eat a big meal before a wedding, which is fine. The food situation just continues to surprise me.
  • I'm vegan, and I go to a ton of weddings every year. I have been served a specifically vegan dish once, and it consisted only of vegetables. No protein, no starch. It was beautiful and delicious, but those calories were long gone after a half hour of dancing, let alone the all night fiesta that followed dinner.

    The normal vegan food at a wedding is salad, and hopefully there is a dressing like plain oil and vinegar. Croutons (at least commercially sold ones) are frequently not vegan. Most veggie side dishes contain butter, lots now have bacon, and most starches are likewise out of bounds. Rolls tend to have milk or egg glaze, again usually the commercially purchased ones.

    I learned years ago to eat a big meal before a wedding, which is fine. The food situation just continues to surprise me.

    Despite being an omnivore, I have a whole slew of friends that fall everywhere on the dietary restriction spectrum from vegan to gluten free to nut allergy. FI and I have learned to be sensitive to those needs and I've gotten much more creative with my cooking. You can imagine all our guests will be accommodated, whatever their preferences.
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  • sheknows6 said:

    One of my BM's is a vegan and I actually had to make sure to have a special dish there specifically for her to be able to eat- my mother told the caterer "it's ok, she can just eat salad".....uhm, actually mom, vegans don't live off just iceberg lettuce and croutons.


    I could understand not specifically accommodating a vegetarian/vegan diet for all your guests since most food lines include non-meat options, but to not even offer some sort of special consideration for you AS A BRIDESMAID is just rude.

    I can't believe you have to bring your own plate to be able to eat. That's a big crock of shit if you ask me.
    Agreed. We have a good friend who's vegetarian and we'll be making sure there's an option for her at our reception. We've even joked around about hitting up her favorite place for a to go meal for her if our caterer can't come up with something.

    That bride:

    "Thank you soooooo much for being such a supportive friend with suggestions to improve my bad etiquette that I will totally ignore because it's MY DAY, spending your hard-earned money on a bridesmaid's dress, and clearing your schedule to be there on my wedding day..BUT you need to bring your own food because it's just too hard/stressful/expensive to ask the caterer to make one friggin' special plate and make sure that you're fed! Love ya!"

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  • sheknows6 said:

    One of my BM's is a vegan and I actually had to make sure to have a special dish there specifically for her to be able to eat- my mother told the caterer "it's ok, she can just eat salad".....uhm, actually mom, vegans don't live off just iceberg lettuce and croutons.


    I could understand not specifically accommodating a vegetarian/vegan diet for all your guests since most food lines include non-meat options, but to not even offer some sort of special consideration for you AS A BRIDESMAID is just rude.

    I can't believe you have to bring your own plate to be able to eat. That's a big crock of shit if you ask me.
    Agreed. We have a good friend who's vegetarian and we'll be making sure there's an option for her at our reception. We've even joked around about hitting up her favorite place for a to go meal for her if our caterer can't come up with something.
    My best friend actually did something like that- she was having a BBQ reception, but had a few vegetarians/vegans attending, so she ordered a couple of meals from a local restaurant and I picked them up for her on my way to her wedding since I was passing right by the restaurant to get there anyway.
  • RezIpsa said:

    I'm vegan, and I go to a ton of weddings every year. I have been served a specifically vegan dish once, and it consisted only of vegetables. No protein, no starch. It was beautiful and delicious, but those calories were long gone after a half hour of dancing, let alone the all night fiesta that followed dinner.

    The normal vegan food at a wedding is salad, and hopefully there is a dressing like plain oil and vinegar. Croutons (at least commercially sold ones) are frequently not vegan. Most veggie side dishes contain butter, lots now have bacon, and most starches are likewise out of bounds. Rolls tend to have milk or egg glaze, again usually the commercially purchased ones.

    I learned years ago to eat a big meal before a wedding, which is fine. The food situation just continues to surprise me.

    That sucks! FI is vegan and there are 3 caterers in our area that will cater to us for vegan additions. It's up to the bride and groom to make sure that all guests are covered. I have several food allergies and have always been accommodated at weddings.
  • Quick question for those of you that are vegan, what would you like to see at a wedding as a dish? I have some friends who are vegan and some that are veg. and all I know is what they get at restaurants- which is usually just a plate of sides. Our town blows for anyone that has a dietary restriction/preference so I know that's probably just because of that. 
    Are there any other suggestions you guys have that are delish?
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