Honeymoon Registry

Re: Honeymoon Registry

• Viczaesar member

  

  May 2015

  rosecoloredglasses81 said:

  Thinking of doing a honeymoon registry. We're in our mid 30's so we already have a house full of crap. Anyone else doing this? I really think this is going to help give us a honeymoon we wouldn't otherwise be able to afford. So I'm gathering a place needs to be reserved already? I'm just worried I'm going to book something that our guests don't buy for us then be stuck paying for it ourselves. What do you all think? 

  Honeymoon registries are just disguised requests for cash and are against etiquette.  It's also a really bad idea to depend on gifts to pay for something you booked - you should be paying for your own honeymoon, and if you are given any cash gifts they can go towards refilling your savings or for extras.  The way to politely indicate that you don't want physical gifts and would prefer money is to just not register at all, or to register for a small number of items (for the people who are not comfortable giving money).  People will get the hint.  Straight out asking for money is rude.

  
  
  
  

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• Jells2dot0 mod

  

  May 2015

  Check out this thread from Pg 3 and a similar one found lower on this page:
  
  http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1049585/honeymoon-fund-website#latest
  
  http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1057190/honeymoon-registries-prepay-for-flight#latest
  
  As you'll see, it's essential to book what you can afford and it's always considered to be against etiquette to ask for money.

   

  

  
  
  
  

  
  
  
  

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  May 2015

  
  

  
  

  Some things you should know about HR

  
  

  1) the company takes a cut of your money.    

  
  

  2)  you are asking for money, NOT the experience.  Your poor little great-aunt thinks she is giving you a $100 dolphins experience.   When reality she is giving you $93 in cash

  
  

  3) you get the money AFTER the event.  If you are planning on a HM directly after the wedding you are screwed since you will not have the money on time.   Also if you plan on flying you will need to have already purchased the tickets.  Some places require partial or full payment BEFORE you on the HM.   Most people do not give wedding gifts until just before or at the wedding.   That doesn't really help you much.

  
  

  4) people know cash is always an option.      Yep, they do.

  
  

  
  

  I will never understand registering for cash, then paying someone 7% of your gifts when someone can just give you the money directly with no fees involved.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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• rosecoloredglasses81 member

  

  May 2015

  That sucks. I get everyone's gist. Guess it'll probably be no honeymoon at all for us then.

   

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  May 2015

  rosecoloredglasses81 said:

  That sucks. I get everyone's gist. Guess it'll probably be no honeymoon at all for us then.

   

  HM do not have to be expensive or taken directly after the wedding.  My BFF (who has money) took a 2 night mini-moon the day after their wedding.  They live in Philly and I think they just drove a few hours away to the Poconos.  It was something simple and not expensive.

  
  

   Then 6 months later they took a 5 week HM to Europe.

  
  

  Think outside the box a little.   If you can't afford a big HM, then go somewhere a few hours away.  Then take a bigger vacation later.

  
  

  FWIW - my brother and his wife did not have a HM. Between school and kids, they couldn't get away.  Not even for a few nights.  They just hit their 20th anniversary and had their first real vacation with no kids.    Ideal?  No.  Doesn't make them any less married though.

  
  

  Good luck.   There are some well travelled users here from all over the world.  We can help you find something to works in your budget.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  May 2015

  rosecoloredglasses81 said:

  That sucks. I get everyone's gist. Guess it'll probably be no honeymoon at all for us then.

   

  Take the honeymoon you can afford.  For us, it was two nights in a hotel in Kansas City.  Twenty five years later, after raising children, we were able to start taking luxury trips.  It was worth the wait.
  Please don't have a honeyfund.  I guarantee that some of your guests will be offended, even if they don't tell you so.
  What is your budget?  We are very good at helping people on a budget find a great honeymoon!
  

  

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• WinstonsGirl member

  

  May 2015

  rosecoloredglasses81 said:

  That sucks. I get everyone's gist. Guess it'll probably be no honeymoon at all for us then.

   

  No boxes...

  
  

  Not necessarily true.  If asked, you tell people you don't have a registry (as mentioned above) and that you are saving for xyz, you'll likely get a lot of cash gifts, which you can then use for a HM.  

  
  

  The last wedding I attended asked for cash for their HM on the invite.  They haven't taken a HM yet (married almost a year) and they received glasses from us.  If someone has a honey fund (which they essentially did) I always give boxed gift

  
  

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• ohmrs2014 mod

  

  June 2015

  Check my post on this exact same topic.  You will be side-eyed for it.

  
  

  If you don't register, then guests will get the hint that you want cash, don't underestimate their thinking abilities.  

  
  

  You can always take a delayed honeymoon.  DH and I went on a cruise (friend was getting married and we wanted a vacation) and then on our 1 year anniversary, we went to Vegas.

  
  

  Or like PP have suggested, honeymoon's don't have to be expensive.  If it were solely up to me, I would have loved to gone to Yellowstone National Park and rented a log cabin for a week.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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