For the newbies on here: a little history. My husband and I have been married for six months. It's the second marriage for both of us. I don't have any kids of my own, but he has three awesome kids.
My husband owns a house in NJ that was damaged by hurricane Sandy. When he and his ex got divorced he let his ex and the kids stay there. He pays the mortgage and maintains the property since he's the sole owner. In a couple of weeks his ex and the kids have to move out because the house has to be elevated. His ex REFUSES to work. She hasn't worked in over a decade! Since she refuses to work she can't afford a place, so it falls on H. She has family in the area who have said that she and the kids could stay there, but she hates them. It falls on H to find them a place. He's been trying to find rentals that offer short term leasing, but they all only offer 1 year leasing. They would not have to be out of the house for that long. His contractor says the house should be done and ready to move back in in 4-6 months. The state offers rental assistance, but only if a lease is signed. Long term hotels are too expensive. He would have to pay that out of pocket.
Here's the kicker: he wants the kids AND THE EX to stay with us, as a last resort! He's trying to sweeten the pot by saying that he wouldn't give her the child support since it would be more expensive bills and bigger food bills. I don't care about the money! H and I have good paying jobs. I love the kids. I wish we could take them forever, but her too???? I understand she doesn't want to be separated from them, but her also living here with me and H? I can't wrap my head around this! I love H and the kids, but all I see is trouble on the horizon! I think our marriage will go up in flames!
I need some advice. My friends and family think this is nuts. Even his ex thinks this is insane. Should I consider this as a last resort, and suck it up in case there's no other option, or should I keep telling H that if he can't find anything that she won't have any other choice but to go to her mother's house? I never, in my wildest dreams, thought I'd be in a situation like this.

