Who or what are you side-eyeing?

ShesSoCold · March 2016

I'm side-eyeing myself today.

I hate my job. I've wanted to get a different job for like three out of the five years I've been here. They keep screwing me and I keep bending over and taking it.

But I keep rationalizing that the pros outweight the cons. And I'm not a good interviewer and I have anxiety about getting out of my comfort zone.

I need to make an actual pro/con list and update my resume.

I also side-eye myself for taking full advantage of our laid back office. I never wear makeup, spend like 4 minutes on my hair and only wear dress pants when there's a meeting. This morning I was out of bed and gone in 12 minutes.

Wanderlust543 · March 2016

Seriously side-eyeing my coworker's PPD. She says it's an "Anniversary Party and Vow Renewal," but has openly said she's doing it so everyone can see them "get married" and bring them lots of gifts. She's not wearing a traditional wedding dress, but is planning to do a cake cutting and dances. This is right after she told a good friend that she would not attend said friend's vow renewal with her husband of 10 years because she's already married "so it doesn't count or matter anyway."

thefanciestbeckler · March 2016

ShesSoCold said:

I'm side-eyeing myself today.
I hate my job. I've wanted to get a different job for like three out of the five years I've been here. They keep screwing me and I keep bending over and taking it.
But I keep rationalizing that the pros outweight the cons. And I'm not a good interviewer and I have anxiety about getting out of my comfort zone.
I need to make an actual pro/con list and update my resume.
I also side-eye myself for taking full advantage of our laid back office. I never wear makeup, spend like 4 minutes on my hair and only wear dress pants when there's a meeting. This morning I was out of bed and gone in 12 minutes.

This is me currently. I don't have a customer-facing job so I've become so lazy when it comes to how I look. I hate it! But then again, I hate my job, so there's little motivation to fix myself up.

ShesSoCold · March 2016

I can't quote, @thefanciestbeckler but that's me too. Having to actually care about my appearance is one of the reasons I'm reluctant to try to get a new job. But I also feel like if I got off my ass, brushed my hair, spent 4 minutes on makeup and maybe did a sit up or two, I'd feel better about myself.

Also, I hope you get your new job!!

short+sassy · March 2016

@Wanderlust543, (part of the "can't quote" club)

I had a previous coworker who was having a 10-year Anniversary Party/Vow renewal...that she was planning exactly like a wedding. Guest list of over 300. Attendants. Big, poufy white wedding dress and everything.

JIC anyone is assuming it is because "she and her H got married at the JOP the first time around and she was regretting not having more of a to-do"...you would be wrong. They had a big wedding with 250 guests the first time around. She is just one of the biggest attention-w****s I have ever met. She even told me they were having such a big party for their vow renewal because she had loved being a bride so much, she wanted to relive it.

thisismynickname2 · March 2016

short+sassy said:

@Wanderlust543, (part of the "can't quote" club)
I had a previous coworker who was having a 10-year Anniversary Party/Vow renewal...that she was planning exactly like a wedding. Guest list of over 300. Attendants. Big, poufy white wedding dress and everything.
JIC anyone is assuming it is because "she and her H got married at the JOP the first time around and she was regretting not having more of a to-do"...you would be wrong. They had a big wedding with 250 guests the first time around. She is just one of the biggest attention-w****s I have ever met. She even told me they were having such a big party for their vow renewal because she had loved being a bride so much, she wanted to relive it.

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Wanderlust543 · March 2016

short+sassy said:

@Wanderlust543, (part of the "can't quote" club)
I had a previous coworker who was having a 10-year Anniversary Party/Vow renewal...that she was planning exactly like a wedding. Guest list of over 300. Attendants. Big, poufy white wedding dress and everything.
JIC anyone is assuming it is because "she and her H got married at the JOP the first time around and she was regretting not having more of a to-do"...you would be wrong. They had a big wedding with 250 guests the first time around. She is just one of the biggest attention-w****s I have ever met. She even told me they were having such a big party for their vow renewal because she had loved being a bride so much, she wanted to relive it.

Eew! My friend who had the 10-year anniversary vow renewal didn't have it as a wedding, but wow...I feel like that's a lot of expense and trouble to go through! My coworker's budget started at $3000, then went to $5000, now it's gup to $15000 so they can invite more people and get more gifts.

I'd better not be a last minute addition to the guest list for that one, the friend she snubbed is definitely invited, haha! And this SS is seriously expecting a bachelorette party and a work bridal shower, "because I missed out on that when we decided to get married in Vegas at the last minute."

Makes me sick!

short+sassy · March 2016

I don't even understand why anyone would expect to receive gifts for a vow renewal/anniversary. Is that typical? I'm not saying that snarky, I'm genuinely curious. If someone invited me to an anniversary party, I might bring a small gift. Like a bottle of wine or something like that. But I don't really see those kinds of parties as being gift giving events and I definitely wouldn't give cash.

OurWildKingdom · March 2016

short+sassy said:

I don't even understand why anyone would expect to receive gifts for a vow renewal/anniversary. Is that typical? I'm not saying that snarky, I'm genuinely curious. If someone invited me to an anniversary party, I might bring a small gift. Like a bottle of wine or something like that. But I don't really see those kinds of parties as being gift giving events and I definitely wouldn't give cash.

Right? I remember we took a family trip for my grandparents' 50th wedding anniversary years ago, but I don't recall any other gifts, nor do I recall gifts at previous or subsequent celebrations, not even at their 70th.

WinstonsGirl · March 2016

Wanderlust543 said:

short+sassy said:

@Wanderlust543, (part of the "can't quote" club)
I had a previous coworker who was having a 10-year Anniversary Party/Vow renewal...that she was planning exactly like a wedding. Guest list of over 300. Attendants. Big, poufy white wedding dress and everything.
JIC anyone is assuming it is because "she and her H got married at the JOP the first time around and she was regretting not having more of a to-do"...you would be wrong. They had a big wedding with 250 guests the first time around. She is just one of the biggest attention-w****s I have ever met. She even told me they were having such a big party for their vow renewal because she had loved being a bride so much, she wanted to relive it.

Eew! My friend who had the 10-year anniversary vow renewal didn't have it as a wedding, but wow...I feel like that's a lot of expense and trouble to go through! My coworker's budget started at $3000, then went to $5000, now it's gup to $15000 so they can invite more people and get more gifts.

I'd better not be a last minute addition to the guest list for that one, the friend she snubbed is definitely invited, haha! And this SS is seriously expecting a bachelorette party and a work bridal shower, "because I missed out on that when we decided to get married in Vegas at the last minute."

Makes me sick!

Or you know, they could just buy themselves $15 000 worth of shit. But I guess they wouldn't get the attention then

InLoveInQueens · March 2016

short+sassy said:

I don't even understand why anyone would expect to receive gifts for a vow renewal/anniversary. Is that typical? I'm not saying that snarky, I'm genuinely curious. If someone invited me to an anniversary party, I might bring a small gift. Like a bottle of wine or something like that. But I don't really see those kinds of parties as being gift giving events and I definitely wouldn't give cash.

Same as housewarming parties, you get a card or a bottle of wine or something, not anything that's really a true "gift" like you'd give for a wedding.

I don't understand grown ass adults who would do what @Wanderlust543 's coworker is doing. There's no way on any planet that they'll get enough gifts to warrant a budget 5 times their original budget for a freaking party, and how many extra people are they going to force themselves to invite just for the gifts/$$. How many more people are they inviting that they need to times their budget by 5?

They're going to be really disappointed when they realize they should have just spend the extra 12gs on stuff they want and still have a really fun anniversary party.

emmaaa · March 2016

OurWildKingdom said:

short+sassy said:

I don't even understand why anyone would expect to receive gifts for a vow renewal/anniversary. Is that typical? I'm not saying that snarky, I'm genuinely curious. If someone invited me to an anniversary party, I might bring a small gift. Like a bottle of wine or something like that. But I don't really see those kinds of parties as being gift giving events and I definitely wouldn't give cash.

Right? I remember we took a family trip for my grandparents' 50th wedding anniversary years ago, but I don't recall any other gifts, nor do I recall gifts at previous or subsequent celebrations, not even at their 70th.

For my great uncle and aunt's 50th wedding anniversary, their children threw them a party. They received cards, a few bottles of wine, and maybe some picture frames (that were probably never used).

ShesSoCold · March 2016

I made my grandparents a card for their 50th. I think I even used glitter and smelly markers.

Wanderlust543 · March 2016

InLoveInQueens said:

short+sassy said:

I don't even understand why anyone would expect to receive gifts for a vow renewal/anniversary. Is that typical? I'm not saying that snarky, I'm genuinely curious. If someone invited me to an anniversary party, I might bring a small gift. Like a bottle of wine or something like that. But I don't really see those kinds of parties as being gift giving events and I definitely wouldn't give cash.

Same as housewarming parties, you get a card or a bottle of wine or something, not anything that's really a true "gift" like you'd give for a wedding.

I don't understand grown ass adults who would do what @Wanderlust543 's coworker is doing. There's no way on any planet that they'll get enough gifts to warrant a budget 5 times their original budget for a freaking party, and how many extra people are they going to force themselves to invite just for the gifts/$$. How many more people are they inviting that they need to times their budget by 5?

They're going to be really disappointed when they realize they should have just spend the extra 12gs on stuff they want and still have a really fun anniversary party.

But ladies, then she doesn't get the pictures!!!! Or the whole bridal experience!!! ::Sarcasm::

The initial plan was an anniversary party at a local firehouse or something along those lines, guest list hasn't changed, but they decided to do the whole dog and pony show at a fancy banquet hall so that more than tripled the budget. Then add in fancy DJ and photographer...

I don't get it either, but at least they've been completely upfront about already being married and aren't saying it's their real wedding!

InLoveInQueens · March 2016

Wanderlust543 said:

InLoveInQueens said:

short+sassy said:

I don't even understand why anyone would expect to receive gifts for a vow renewal/anniversary. Is that typical? I'm not saying that snarky, I'm genuinely curious. If someone invited me to an anniversary party, I might bring a small gift. Like a bottle of wine or something like that. But I don't really see those kinds of parties as being gift giving events and I definitely wouldn't give cash.

Same as housewarming parties, you get a card or a bottle of wine or something, not anything that's really a true "gift" like you'd give for a wedding.

I don't understand grown ass adults who would do what @Wanderlust543 's coworker is doing. There's no way on any planet that they'll get enough gifts to warrant a budget 5 times their original budget for a freaking party, and how many extra people are they going to force themselves to invite just for the gifts/$$. How many more people are they inviting that they need to times their budget by 5?

They're going to be really disappointed when they realize they should have just spend the extra 12gs on stuff they want and still have a really fun anniversary party.

But ladies, then she doesn't get the pictures!!!! Or the whole bridal experience!!! ::Sarcasm::

The initial plan was an anniversary party at a local firehouse or something along those lines, guest list hasn't changed, but they decided to do the whole dog and pony show at a fancy banquet hall so that more than tripled the budget. Then add in fancy DJ and photographer...

I don't get it either, but at least they've been completely upfront about already being married and aren't saying it's their real wedding!

Honestly, I find that even more ridiculous. At least with a liar the whole big fancy to-do doesn't seem out of place. This would just seem absolutely over the top to do for an anniversary party.

banana468 · March 2016

Can I add that I'm side eying that

1) DH was asked to buy a $1000 suit for his best friend's wedding

2) That he's FUCKING CONSIDERING IT.

Ok, maybe this is way more than side eye.

kimmiinthemitten · March 2016

I hate when news stations interview mourning parents. Seriously, what good does it do to air a sobbing woman who just lost her toddler? Enough. It's awful!

ILoveBeachMusic · April 2016

KeyToHisHeart2017 said:

An old friend that I went to high school with is having a housewarming party. Her and her husband have been married for 4 years. They bought a house shortly after the wedding and had a housewarming party. They separated about 6 months later for almost a year and and have been back together for just a little over a year now off and on. They recently bought another house together and posted on Facebook asking who would like to come to their housewarming party and to PM addresses. (I did not send my address or express interest in going) My cousin got an invitation and they REGISTERED at 3 different places!!
We just bought a house and this makes me not want to have a housewarming party because people may think we are expecting gifts!

I was ok with the housewarming party until you said they register for gifts! How absurd. There was another thread about housewarming parties (maybe it was earlier on this one). I'm ok with parties just not the expecting gifts part.

ILoveBeachMusic · April 2016

I'm side eyeing a friend who is trying to tell her son and his fiance to ask for cash/set up a fund for cash instead of registering for gifts. They do want cash. I told her that setting up a fund would mean people pay a percentage to the company and that they just shouldn't register or have a small registry so that people would give them money. My son and his fiance were there too during the conversation. I will have to make sure they don't do that kind of thing! UGH!

ShesSoCold · April 2016

I'm side-eyeing my distant cousin on FB who announced that she's going to be a grandma again today. I'm 98% sure it's an April Fools and that shit is not funny.

kimmiinthemitten · April 2016

ShesSoCold said:

I'm side-eyeing my distant cousin on FB who announced that she's going to be a grandma again today. I'm 98% sure it's an April Fools and that shit is not funny.

I side eye all of April Fools Day all of the time.

ShesSoCold · April 2016

I can't quote, but another friend put on FB that he's engaged. He's been single for like 1,000 years so I think that's funny. I wished him and pizza a lifetime of happiness.

[Deleted User] · April 2016

kimmiinthemitten said:

ShesSoCold said:

I'm side-eyeing my distant cousin on FB who announced that she's going to be a grandma again today. I'm 98% sure it's an April Fools and that shit is not funny.

I side eye all of April Fools Day all of the time.

I like the idea of silly innocent pranks. Like putting clear nailpolish on a bar of soap, short-sheeting a bed, stuff like that. But I haven't been on facebook yet today. I'm scrd.

sparklepants41 · April 2016

adk19 said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

ShesSoCold said:

I'm side-eyeing my distant cousin on FB who announced that she's going to be a grandma again today. I'm 98% sure it's an April Fools and that shit is not funny.

I side eye all of April Fools Day all of the time.

I like the idea of silly innocent pranks. Like putting clear nailpolish on a bar of soap, short-sheeting a bed, stuff like that. But I haven't been on facebook yet today. I'm scrd.

I do too. I hid the coffee this morning before I left work work. H works from home on Fridays so he was just getting up as I was leaving the house. Apparently it took him over a half hour to find it.

OliveOilsMom · April 2016

Can't quote. But I will be skipping FB today. I can't take all the fake pregnancy jokes. Especially since we have been trying for almost 2 years and we recently had some bad news on the TTC front. I won't be able to take it.

I've told this story before, but I had a friend growing up and her brother, who was in college (about 3 hours away) at the time, got his GF pregnant. They never told my friend's parents and the parents never suspected, even when they saw the GF because even till the end she was super tiny and did not look pregnant. So the baby is born, when, you guessed it - today! So the brother calls up the parents to tell them they are grandparents and they refused to believe him. This was probably 20 years ago now, I was in grade school at the time. The brother is trying to convince his parents, when the baby started crying in the back ground. They believed him real quick after that.

madamerwin · April 2016

OliveOilsMom said:

Can't quote. But I will be skipping FB today. I can't take all the fake pregnancy jokes. Especially since we have been trying for almost 2 years and we recently had some bad news on the TTC front. I won't be able to take it.
I've told this story before, but I had a friend growing up and her brother, who was in college (about 3 hours away) at the time, got his GF pregnant. They never told my friend's parents and the parents never suspected, even when they saw the GF because even till the end she was super tiny and did not look pregnant. So the baby is born, when, you guessed it - today! So the brother calls up the parents to tell them they are grandparents and they refused to believe him. This was probably 20 years ago now, I was in grade school at the time. The brother is trying to convince his parents, when the baby started crying in the back ground. They believed him real quick after that.

Honestly, I did not know this was a thing until I saw an article about fake pregnancy announcements (and why you shouldn't do it) this morning. If I see anyone put a fake pregnancy announcement on FB today, I plan to comment with a link to the article.

H and I have also been TTC, and I had a miscarriage in February after years of fertility problems. Hearing anything about other people's pregnancies (including fake ones) is really, really hard when TTC with no success. I am so sorry you got bad news, I'll be sending you good thoughts. Hugs.

WinstonsGirl · April 2016

My Dad won the 50/50 at the hockey game one year. Mom and I were on vacation, and he told us over the phone on April 1. We didn't believe him until we finally got home and he showed us the cheque, cos we thought it was his idea of an April Fool's joke. Glad it wasn't though

InLoveInQueens · April 2016

madamerwin said:

OliveOilsMom said:

Can't quote. But I will be skipping FB today. I can't take all the fake pregnancy jokes. Especially since we have been trying for almost 2 years and we recently had some bad news on the TTC front. I won't be able to take it.
I've told this story before, but I had a friend growing up and her brother, who was in college (about 3 hours away) at the time, got his GF pregnant. They never told my friend's parents and the parents never suspected, even when they saw the GF because even till the end she was super tiny and did not look pregnant. So the baby is born, when, you guessed it - today! So the brother calls up the parents to tell them they are grandparents and they refused to believe him. This was probably 20 years ago now, I was in grade school at the time. The brother is trying to convince his parents, when the baby started crying in the back ground. They believed him real quick after that.

Honestly, I did not know this was a thing until I saw an article about fake pregnancy announcements (and why you shouldn't do it) this morning. If I see anyone put a fake pregnancy announcement on FB today, I plan to comment with a link to the article.

H and I have also been TTC, and I had a miscarriage in February after years of fertility problems. Hearing anything about other people's pregnancies (including fake ones) is really, really hard when TTC with no success. I am so sorry you got bad news, I'll be sending you good thoughts. Hugs.

A "friend" posted that his surrogate was finally pregnant and that him and his fiance would be having a baby. I rolled my eyes so hard I think I'm blind now. He's the kind of person who would insist his prank is legit for hours and keep pushing until you finally believed him and then he'd laugh in your face and talk about how gullible you are.

madamerwin · April 2016

InLoveInQueens said:

madamerwin said:

OliveOilsMom said:

Can't quote. But I will be skipping FB today. I can't take all the fake pregnancy jokes. Especially since we have been trying for almost 2 years and we recently had some bad news on the TTC front. I won't be able to take it.
I've told this story before, but I had a friend growing up and her brother, who was in college (about 3 hours away) at the time, got his GF pregnant. They never told my friend's parents and the parents never suspected, even when they saw the GF because even till the end she was super tiny and did not look pregnant. So the baby is born, when, you guessed it - today! So the brother calls up the parents to tell them they are grandparents and they refused to believe him. This was probably 20 years ago now, I was in grade school at the time. The brother is trying to convince his parents, when the baby started crying in the back ground. They believed him real quick after that.

Honestly, I did not know this was a thing until I saw an article about fake pregnancy announcements (and why you shouldn't do it) this morning. If I see anyone put a fake pregnancy announcement on FB today, I plan to comment with a link to the article.

H and I have also been TTC, and I had a miscarriage in February after years of fertility problems. Hearing anything about other people's pregnancies (including fake ones) is really, really hard when TTC with no success. I am so sorry you got bad news, I'll be sending you good thoughts. Hugs.

A "friend" posted that his surrogate was finally pregnant and that him and his fiance would be having a baby. I rolled my eyes so hard I think I'm blind now. He's the kind of person who would insist his prank is legit for hours and keep pushing until you finally believed him and then he'd laugh in your face and talk about how gullible you are.

Your "friend" sounds like a peach. You should send him this link.

kimmiinthemitten · April 2016

InLoveInQueens said:

madamerwin said:

OliveOilsMom said:

Can't quote. But I will be skipping FB today. I can't take all the fake pregnancy jokes. Especially since we have been trying for almost 2 years and we recently had some bad news on the TTC front. I won't be able to take it.
I've told this story before, but I had a friend growing up and her brother, who was in college (about 3 hours away) at the time, got his GF pregnant. They never told my friend's parents and the parents never suspected, even when they saw the GF because even till the end she was super tiny and did not look pregnant. So the baby is born, when, you guessed it - today! So the brother calls up the parents to tell them they are grandparents and they refused to believe him. This was probably 20 years ago now, I was in grade school at the time. The brother is trying to convince his parents, when the baby started crying in the back ground. They believed him real quick after that.

Honestly, I did not know this was a thing until I saw an article about fake pregnancy announcements (and why you shouldn't do it) this morning. If I see anyone put a fake pregnancy announcement on FB today, I plan to comment with a link to the article.

H and I have also been TTC, and I had a miscarriage in February after years of fertility problems. Hearing anything about other people's pregnancies (including fake ones) is really, really hard when TTC with no success. I am so sorry you got bad news, I'll be sending you good thoughts. Hugs.

A "friend" posted that his surrogate was finally pregnant and that him and his fiance would be having a baby. I rolled my eyes so hard I think I'm blind now. He's the kind of person who would insist his prank is legit for hours and keep pushing until you finally believed him and then he'd laugh in your face and talk about how gullible you are.

Your friend sucks!

Sorry for your struggles and losses @OliveOilsMom and @madamerwin.

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