Yesterday my maid of honor called me sobbing because she realized she is not up for the role of being the maid of honor. She was also supposed to be the maid of honor in another wedding a week after nine, but I am not sure if she is going to be anymore. She told me she did not realize how much planning, responsibility, time, energy, and money went into being a maid of honor. I knew when I picked her that it was a risk because she was sometimes difficult to get in contact with, but she has been my best friend for more than half of my life. However, I never thought she would back out of being the maid of honor. She still wants to he a bridesmaid which is perfectly fine, but now I don't have a maid of honor. Now I have five bridesmaids (1 is actually a bridesman not that it matters) and my fiance has four groomsmen (1 is actually a groomswoman) and a best man so our sides are even. Should I ask one of the other bridesmaids to be my maid of honor instead? I know when I intitally decided who my maid of honor was my sister was very upset I didn't pick her, but my sister and I were not on the best of terms and she has been back and forth if she was even going to be in the wedding. She knows my maid of honor backed out so I'm not sure if she is expecting me to ask her or not. I don't want to hurt her feelings by not asking her or asking her and making her feel like a replacement. Any advice would be great!