Moved in with the fiancé and things aren't going great

climbingsingle

WUT.

What makes you think it's not really lost? Did you have insurance on it?

beethery

mrsamandalynn said:

Well he "lost" my ring this week while taking it for its semiannual inspection for insurance purposes. So maybe he's actually starting to get the point that when I said things weren't going well, that I meant it. Because I honestly do not believe that it's actually lost.

It's time for you to mosey. Pack your stuff and start looking for places to move to, ASAP.

AddieCake

This just gets more and more ridiculous.

holyguacamole79

mrsamandalynn said:

Well he "lost" my ring this week while taking it for its semiannual inspection for insurance purposes. So maybe he's actually starting to get the point that when I said things weren't going well, that I meant it. Because I honestly do not believe that it's actually lost.

chibiyui

mrsamandalynn said:

Well he "lost" my ring this week while taking it for its semiannual inspection for insurance purposes. So maybe he's actually starting to get the point that when I said things weren't going well, that I meant it. Because I honestly do not believe that it's actually lost.

Yeah, it's time to get the hell out of Dodge.

Viczaesar

It sounds to me like you're holding out until January and he leaves so that you won't have to be around him but he'll still be paying your rent.

Viczaesar

mrsamandalynn said:

Well he "lost" my ring this week while taking it for its semiannual inspection for insurance purposes. So maybe he's actually starting to get the point that when I said things weren't going well, that I meant it. Because I honestly do not believe that it's actually lost.

This is not a relationship.  It's a soap opera.

bethsmiles

There just aren't words at this point...

loro929

mrsamandalynn said:

Well he "lost" my ring this week while taking it for its semiannual inspection for insurance purposes. So maybe he's actually starting to get the point that when I said things weren't going well, that I meant it. Because I honestly do not believe that it's actually lost.

Is that even a joke?

You need to peace out girl scout 5 minutes ago.

Like, seriously, damn. Are you reading what you are writing to us.

Take just 1 sec and pretend that your posts are not from your but from someone else... 

WTF would you seriously be thinking? You KNOW you would be thinking "Damn, this girl must be crazy to even think of staying in this type of a situation... She be crazyyyy."

Well, apply that to yourself because that is what every single person posting on these 10 pages of thread are thinking. Get out -> because we are all wasting out metaphorical typing breath on telling you things that you should already know!

lilacck28

Am I the only one who thinks MUD?

raissyrais

holyguacamole79 said:

What a hottie. Sorry, had to.

esstee33

lilacck28 said:

Am I the only one who thinks MUD?

Nah, I've been there for a little while, too. 

mrsamandalynn

He left me. Congrats, you all win.

levioosa

mrsamandalynn said:

He left me. Congrats, you all win.

No one is happy you're hurting.  If that's what you think, then you missed the whole point of this entire thread.

Be strong.  Be you.  Work on you first.  

Best of luck.  

JennyColada

mrsamandalynn said:

He left me. Congrats, you all win.

Hey, I know that you're upset and hurting and all that bad stuff...but this isn't our fault. You don't have to come on here and tell us that we "won" as a way to be rude and condescending. It's ok to be hurt and it's ok to have bad stuff happen in your life. It happens to all of us. That doesn't mean that we are cheering for your unhappiness or pain.

So really, be an adult, say "this really sucks" and deal with it.

LabLove86

mrsamandalynn said:

He left me. Congrats, you all win.

We didn't win. We didn't want this.

What we want is for you to be happy and healthy, and in a happy and healthy relationship. So if he left you because you were trying to make your relationship happy and healthy - then it will end up being for the better.

I know it sucks right now. I know you're hurting. And I'm genuinely sorry for your pain. But it is a great time to start focusing on yourself - trust me - you will grow more from this than you think is possible. 

beethery

mrsamandalynn said:

He left me. Congrats, you all win.

We wanted you to be happy, now you actually have a chance at gaining that.

wandajune6

He did you both a favor. You will appreciate it someday.

Now you can move on and create a life for yourself that you actually want.

Sugargirl1019

All the hugs and chocolate to you. It will take awhile, but you will move on. Your heart hurts now, so cry, but definitely hang out with friends. Do not sit alone for too long. Go to movies with the girls or have girls night and eat rice krispies treats and brownies.

raissyrais

Be strong. It'll be for the better, you'll see. Now you can focus on school and sorority and you'll meet someone who is a better fit for you. 

novella1186

You're going to look back on this and be thankful that it didn't drag out further. I know it sucks right now, and I'm sorry, but this just opened the door for so many good things to happen to you. Just stay strong. It's going to be fine. 

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

esstee33 said:

lilacck28 said:

Am I the only one who thinks MUD?

Nah, I've been there for a little while, too. 

I've been there since page 4.  Waiting on the "Now I'm pregnant....with his brother's baby!" thread.

If this was real, you deserve better OP.  Enjoy your life and be free of a possessive jerk.  If it's fake, go back to WW.

theycallmelinz

Echoing PPs, none of us wanted to 'win' this. We just want you to be safe and happy. I just hope when he comes crawling back (which I strongly believe he will) that you say no to him. You're finally free to create your own happiness!

climbingsingle

wandajune6 said:

He did you both a favor. You will appreciate it someday. Now you can move on and create a life for yourself that you actually want.

Ditto this. 

decembergrl2014

I also agree with the others. I know it's hard to see now, but he did you a HUGE favor. Try to keep your mind busy...study, hang out with your friends and your soon to be sorority sisters, etc. cry also. Allow yourself to grieve. Don't bottle it in. That's sooo unhealthy. When the time is right a new guy will come along and you will be AWing to us about how great he is. I promise, you will see that his loss will be someone else's gain.

southernbelle0915

mrsamandalynn said:

He left me. Congrats, you all win.

Sorry maybe I'm just on a short fuse today, but GET THE FUCK OVER YOURSELF. 

People graciously took time out of their lives to give you 11 FUCKING PAGES of support and advice. On what asinine planet do you live where you think the SAME PEOPLE would rejoice in your crappy FI leaving you? You're fucking welcome.

If you can read and understand, which I presume you can since you are in college, go back and actually read instead of throwing yourself a god damn pity party. Maybe you'll get something out of it instead of trying to make everyone feel sorry for you.

KatieinBkln

Well shit, I'm sorry OP. That really sucks. I mean, I think you two needed to break up, but I was really hoping you'd be the one to do it.

Lean on your sorority sisters. Eat some ice cream and cry, or go kick-boxing--whatever you need to do to process your feelings. Soon enough you will start feeling better, and eventually you'll find the guy who treats you like a gift instead of like a burden. 

plainjane0415

mrsamandalynn said:

He left me. Congrats, you all win.

This, I just don't understand.  YOU came here saying that YOU weren't sure about him.  YOU said that things weren't going well, YOU never could come out and say that you ginuinely loved him and that no matter what you know that you were meant to be together.

I'm very sorry that this happened, and I want you to know that.  Breakups suck, but if you had reservations about it all, and were honestly thinking of leaving the guy anyway (I mean I guess you were thinking that based on previous vague posts) shouldn't you be happy that you are free from him?

Or are you just upset because he got to end the relationship before you did? 

No one here is happy that this happened to you, and I for one am very sorry that it did, but I'm sure you can understand my confusion?

esstee33

Do I get a prize? 

sarawifenow

I think this is the part where we are all supposed to be like, "OMG NOOOOO! I am so sorry. I never meant for my advice to be the end of your relationship (except I did). Please forgive me!" OP, you said yourself that you didn't want to be with this man. So I think you meant to say "congratulations I (you OP) win".