I need some comfort/advice. I have a bridal party of 8, including my MOH. I am 3 months from my date and not ONE has lifted a single finger to assist. Additionally, I have no bridal shower or bachelorette planned. Basically, if I want to celebrate anything, I am both planning and paying. I fully understand that there is no obligation to do anything besides stand there on the day off, secure your dress etc. I've read other blogs and the general responses and I'm not comforted by the dismissal of obligation. Though they arent obligated, it is NOT expected that they'll do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! I mean seriously, how would that make any bride feel to know that she wasn't thought of as special/important enough for SOME thought. Before anyone starts on the "they have lives of their own" speeches, yes, they do. So do I. That was never an excuse on my part and I don't expect it on theirs either. Why was the position accepted if they planned to do no work? I might add that each has the excuse of "I don't know what to do". I didn't know how to plan a wedding- but I got to those resources and became proactive! They have each other as a team as well! Basically, I'm saddened and hurt - completely. I don't know how to feel but I know how I DO feel.