I am at a lost. It's over.

VulgarGirl

mikenberger said:

chibiyui said:

Get yourself super drunk tonight with your mom.

And then have someone come change all the locks tomorrow.

And seriously, Fuck Him. 

OMG...thank you for bringing that up. I called the company to see if they can change the locks and they will send someone over within an hour or so and I changed my alarm code. I also have another question...the car he drives is under my name and title along with my insurance. What should I do?

I'd call the cops and report it as stolen. But I'm a total bitch like that. If the car is 100% solely your name, you have a huge liability. I'd report it stolen and let him take me to small claims court if he paid for any payments (he might feel then that it's "his car".). Or I would send him a message right now: "you have 72 hours to return my vehicle or put it into your own name and loan and insurance. Or I will be reporting it stolen."

Depends on the amount of grief and future headache you want to cause yourself and him.

You are not a bitch if you'd give him 3 whole days. 

Drop it off by 8 am tomorrow or explain yourself to the po-po.

knottie9c5ed33df4bbd226

I am so sorry to hear that. Take the weekend to regroup and spend lots of time with Mom!

jdluvr06

lolo883 said:

AlexisA01 said:

chibiyui said:

Get yourself super drunk tonight with your mom.

And then have someone come change all the locks tomorrow.

And seriously, Fuck Him. 

OMG...thank you for bringing that up. I called the company to see if they can change the locks and they will send someone over within an hour or so and I changed my alarm code. I also have another question...the car he drives is under my name and title along with my insurance. What should I do?

Have your mom call and tell him that you need the car returned tomorrow or he needs to buy it from you at fair market value. If he gives her shit about that, you can either report it stolen or threaten to take him to small claims.

This is way better than what I was going to say.

redoryx

jdluvr06 said:

MagicInk said:

CMGragain said:

Chances are good that he met a woman that interests him.  

Well that was supportive and helpful. 

OP, I've got a lot of shoes with really big heels. Just point me in the right direction and I'll be happy to stomp.

In this line of thinking I took an ancient weapons class in college... Got pretty good at it.

Ooooh! I used to work in a prison and still remember a lot of the techniques utilized to restrain inmates....

AlexisA01

mikenberger said:

AlexisA01 said:

chibiyui said:

Get yourself super drunk tonight with your mom.

And then have someone come change all the locks tomorrow.

And seriously, Fuck Him. 

OMG...thank you for bringing that up. I called the company to see if they can change the locks and they will send someone over within an hour or so and I changed my alarm code. I also have another question...the car he drives is under my name and title along with my insurance. What should I do?

I'd call the cops and report it as stolen. But I'm a total bitch like that. If the car is 100% solely your name, you have a huge liability. I'd report it stolen and let him take me to small claims court if he paid for any payments (he might feel then that it's "his car".). Or I would send him a message right now: "you have 72 hours to return my vehicle or put it into your own name and loan and insurance. Or I will be reporting it stolen."

Depends on the amount of grief and future headache you want to cause yourself and him.

I like that idea...You have me feeling devious...dammit lol 

chibiyui

AlexisA01 said:

chibiyui said:

Get yourself super drunk tonight with your mom.

And then have someone come change all the locks tomorrow.

And seriously, Fuck Him. 

OMG...thank you for bringing that up. I called the company to see if they can change the locks and they will send someone over within an hour or so and I changed my alarm code. I also have another question...the car he drives is under my name and title along with my insurance. What should I do?

I agree with everyone else, have someone contact him and tell him the car needs to be returned within a certain amount of time or fair market value cash needs to be in your hands within the same amount of time. Once that time limit is up you call the cops and report it stolen.

themuffinman16

I am so sorry, Alexis. That douchelord can suck a bag of dicks. I second reporting the car stolen. He has had plenty of time to figure out how to break off the engagement in the most cowardly way imaginable... maybe he should have though about everything else! Reporting the theft of your vehicle is just protecting your assets (with a little evil mixed in, for good measure.)

princessgracekelly

themuffinman16 said:

I am so sorry, Alexis. That douchelord can suck a bag of dicks. I second reporting the car stolen. He has had plenty of time to figure out how to break off the engagement in the most cowardly way imaginable... maybe he should have though about everything else! Reporting the theft of your vehicle is just protecting your assets (with a little evil mixed in, for good measure.)

http://dicksbymail.com/

God bless the Internet.

drunkenwitch

AlexisA01 said:

chibiyui said:

Get yourself super drunk tonight with your mom.

And then have someone come change all the locks tomorrow.

And seriously, Fuck Him. 

OMG...thank you for bringing that up. I called the company to see if they can change the locks and they will send someone over within an hour or so and I changed my alarm code. I also have another question...the car he drives is under my name and title along with my insurance. What should I do?

Report it stolen.

I have a very evil side of me I try to keep caged, sometimes she gets loose.

In seriousness, Hugs, booze and kittens.  He is a piece of shit loser coward asshole.

southernbelle0915

About the car... Ask for it back and make sure you document every attempt you make to get it back. He may try and say y'all bought it together or that it was a gift. If he refuses, then yes I would report it stolen.

themuffinman16

princessgracekelly said:

themuffinman16 said:

I am so sorry, Alexis. That douchelord can suck a bag of dicks. I second reporting the car stolen. He has had plenty of time to figure out how to break off the engagement in the most cowardly way imaginable... maybe he should have though about everything else! Reporting the theft of your vehicle is just protecting your assets (with a little evil mixed in, for good measure.)

http://dicksbymail.com/

God bless the Internet.

Lmao. 1. Someone is a dick and they don't know it yet. 2. You received a package from us and were wondering why. Simple... You are the dick. 3. You are on the wrong website
I'm not even mad at anyone and I just want to send someone a bag of dicks

drunkenwitch

@CMGrain

princessgracekelly

themuffinman16 said:

princessgracekelly said:

themuffinman16 said:

I am so sorry, Alexis. That douchelord can suck a bag of dicks. I second reporting the car stolen. He has had plenty of time to figure out how to break off the engagement in the most cowardly way imaginable... maybe he should have though about everything else! Reporting the theft of your vehicle is just protecting your assets (with a little evil mixed in, for good measure.)

http://dicksbymail.com/

God bless the Internet.

Lmao. 1. Someone is a dick and they don't know it yet. 2. You received a package from us and were wondering why. Simple... You are the dick. 3. You are on the wrong website
I'm not even mad at anyone and I just want to send someone a bag of dicks

You have NO idea how scared I was searching for that on my work computer, despite knowing it's a SFW thing.

I think it was @lolo883 who wanted his location for throat punches? Well, I want to send him several bags of dicks. I want him to have more dicks than he knows what to do with.

Then again, since he's a huge dick, would that be cannibalism?

levioosa

What the ever loving fuck?  What a fucking asshole.  I am so so sorry Alexis.  I can't even imagine.  What a fucking coward not only to end it with a 4 minute phone call, but to do it while you are at work and then take your car.  Please take care of yourself and do what you need to in order to feel better.  You don't deserve this, and you don't deserve someone who is so much of a coward that they break off an engagement via phone call and then ignore all of your calls afterwards. And, THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT.  This has nothing to do with your fertility issues (and a real partner would NEVER dream of saying that).  This has nothing to do with you.  It has everything to do with the fact that he is a cowardly fuckface who can't communicate or function in a relationship to save his life. 

Oh, and if that was my car, I'd tell him he had until 8pm to return it.  None of this next day/3 day bullshit.  If he was cowardly enough to think through a quick phone call and removing his shit, then he can deal with it.  Fuck him. 

I am so sorry.

*all of the hugs*

thespeshulestsnowflake

lolo883 said:

hellosweetie1015 said:

jdluvr06 said:

MagicInk said:

CMGragain said:

Chances are good that he met a woman that interests him.  

Well that was supportive and helpful. 

OP, I've got a lot of shoes with really big heels. Just point me in the right direction and I'll be happy to stomp.

In this line of thinking I took an ancient weapons class in college... Got pretty good at it.

I have three months of karate and a fair amount of skill with a baseball bat.

Four words - trunk full of guns.

I fenced for 10 years, I still have the swords in the garage.

Alexis, I am so sorry he is putting you through this. I know you will come out of it stronger and will someone a million times better!

AlexisA01

I sent a text asking for it to be dropped off no later than 9. We'll see what happens. I bought a Hyundai Genesis and a Hyundai Santa Fe so I can have a sedan and a suv. He has the suv but bought them seperatly on my own.

MairePoppy

For you

For him

anjemon

Since it sounds like you and Knotties got the car stuff figured out, I'd look over your stuff and see if there's anything you bought that is missing. Or anything that was both of yours that he took. It sounds like he took your photos, and while that's really weird, it's up to you to decide if you want to ask for some of them back. He's such a huge douche canoe and I wouldn't be surprised if he took off with other things you value.

Edit: Because when reading the quote I realized I called your ex-FI a she by mistake.

wandajune6

I'm so sorry. You deserve someone so much better than that. Good riddance and all the hugs.

jdluvr06

anjemon said:

Since it sounds like you and Knotties got the car stuff figured out, I'd look over your stuff and see if there's anything you bought that is missing. Or anything that was both of yours that he took. It sounds like he took your photos, and while that's really weird, it's up to you to decide if you want to ask for some of them back. She's such a huge douche canoe and I wouldn't be surprised if he took off with other things you value.

This is really good advice.

chibiyui

MairePoppy said:

For him

OMG. There are so many dick punch gifs.

wandajune6

jdluvr06 said:

anjemon said:

Since it sounds like you and Knotties got the car stuff figured out, I'd look over your stuff and see if there's anything you bought that is missing. Or anything that was both of yours that he took. It sounds like he took your photos, and while that's really weird, it's up to you to decide if you want to ask for some of them back. She's such a huge douche canoe and I wouldn't be surprised if he took off with other things you value.

This is really good advice.

Agreed. And don't wait too long on getting your car back/removing him from your insurance. This is the time when you're both emotional and you don't want to be held responsible if he makes another stupid decision. This is the same reasoning behind changing the locks.

Also, if you're at all like me, taking these steps insures that you won't have a weak moment and take him back when he inevitably comes back begging. (I had something similar, though less horrible, happen when I was younger. I was stupid, took him back, and let him walk all over me.)

hellohkb

Wow. This dicknugget almost makes Brad look good. Almost....

*hugs*

mrsdee15

Wow, this guy isn't just a douchecanoe, he's a douchemacktruck.  Why did he feel the need to take your pictures?  It's great you're getting the locks changed and everything handled ASAP.  If he doesn't return the car by 9 sharp, call the sheriff at 9:01, and report that and anything else you find missing (hopefully nothing else is missing).  You may want to take screenshots of any texts as documentation.

I cannot get over what a child he is being.  Seriously, you dodged a bullet.  You deserve so much better than this.  Have all the drinks with your mom, and remember that this is NOT your fault in any way, shape, or form.

princessleia22

AlexisA01 said:

chibiyui said:

Get yourself super drunk tonight with your mom.

And then have someone come change all the locks tomorrow.

And seriously, Fuck Him. 

OMG...thank you for bringing that up. I called the company to see if they can change the locks and they will send someone over within an hour or so and I changed my alarm code. I also have another question...the car he drives is under my name and title along with my insurance. What should I do?

If the title and insurance are in your name, it's your car.  I would send him a text message stating that he needs to return it to you.  If he doesn't, you could report it stolen. 

The not so mature response... If it's not a terribly valuable car or you don't care if you get it back, I'd be tempted to show him how much of an ass he is and key the shit out of it, graffiti it, egg it, whatever... I don't think it's considered vandalism if you own it. Maybe even just spray paint covering the windows, making it undriveable, but it could be fairly easily fixed without ruining the value of the vehicle. Save this one for a day or two from now, when you start feeling really angry, if he hasn't returned the car by then.

theartistformerlyknownas

princessleia22 said:

AlexisA01 said:

chibiyui said:

Get yourself super drunk tonight with your mom.

And then have someone come change all the locks tomorrow.

And seriously, Fuck Him. 

OMG...thank you for bringing that up. I called the company to see if they can change the locks and they will send someone over within an hour or so and I changed my alarm code. I also have another question...the car he drives is under my name and title along with my insurance. What should I do?

If the title and insurance are in your name, it's your car.  I would send him a text message stating that he needs to return it to you.  If he doesn't, you could report it stolen. 

The not so mature response... If it's not a terribly valuable car or you don't care if you get it back, I'd be tempted to show him how much of an ass he is and key the shit out of it, graffiti it, egg it, whatever... I don't think it's considered vandalism if you own it. Maybe even just spray paint covering the windows, making it undriveable, but it could be fairly easily fixed without ruining the value of the vehicle. Save this one for a day or two from now, when you start feeling really angry, if he hasn't returned the car by then.

Or leave it up on blocks and just take the wheels. You need them. For a craft project.

sarahufl

I'm sorry- that really blows.

Any chance you could leave his stuff in piles on the lawn? I've always wanted to do that but never had the chance.

And ditto PPs- report the car as stolen if he doesn't return it ASAP.

blabla89

I hate to pile on any more worry, but you need to remove his access to any combined finances, lines of credit, etc. of yours that he may have had access to. Change your passwords and whatnot. Do that before you go out drinking with your mom

flutteringinfl

When my ex and I broke up, once thing I did that really helped me deal was to go to a comedy show. I got lucky in that my friends just happened to already be going to one and invited me, but if there's a stand up club in your area you might want to check it out. A good laugh paired with some drinks and greasy appetizers can really do a bad mood good!

madamerwin

Oh my god. I am so sorry. I can't say I know what you're going through, but when I read your post I got a knot in my stomach, I just can't imagine being on your end of that call. I'm sending good vibes your way.