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AlPacina

speakeasy14 said:

@lavenderfields13 I also am nervous about Hilary.  I do not understand the thought process behind bashing women for not voting for Hilary just because she's a woman.  Yes, we need to elect a woman as President, but I'm not going to vote for someone just because I share the same gender as them. 

So much this!

To me, this year, it is coming down to trust. Hillary varies her stance when it suits her. Bernie is the only person that I feel like I actually believe when he says something. And most of what he says/proposes, I support. We really do need to find something to unite our country around, before everything just completely falls apart, and it's awesome to see that the younger fraction of the adult population seems to be uniting around Bernie Sanders.

Whenever Cruz and Trump talk, all I can think is "Bullshit, bullshit, bullshit!"

ETA: To clarify, I believe we need something POSITIVE to unite our country around. Not the hateful fear-mongering that Trump is using.

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labro

CocoBellaF said:

My guess was SO wrong! But I don't even care!

speakeasy14

@CocoBellaF yay!!! Another NEY girl!!!!

jenna8984

@cocobellaf Aaaaaah congrats!!!!

AlPacina

@CocoBellaF - That is so ridiculously exciting! Congratulations!

lavenderfields13

I was wrong too @CocoBellaF ! Congrats!!! I think @jenna8984 Is having the boy! But I was wrong about you so who knows lol

@jenna8984 Are you going to find out the sex?

minskat30

@cocobellaf - Baby girls are the best!    Well, baby boys are pretty damn awesome too but just saying...

jenjen047

@cocobellaf - Congrats!!!!

Is there anyone who does not plan to find out the sex of their baby when they are pregnant? H refuses to find out for baby #1 so unless I can convince him to change his mind it will be a surprise for us.

labro

@jenjen047 Really? That seems unfair that he doesn't want to know so therefore you can't know either. Or are you just not comfortable knowing while he doesn't? I would never want to be surprised. I'm Team Tell Me What It Is!!!

speakeasy14

@jenjen047 if I ever decide to have kids I don't want to find out. But deciding to have kids would be the initial surprise anyway haha

jenjen047

@labro - There's not much of a point in me knowing without him knowing because I wouldn't be able to shop or decorate. It just feels like it would be more stressful than both of us being in the dark. And plus, whenever we find out the sex, it's something I would want to celebrate and enjoy together.

MissKittyDanger

@jenjen047  my parents didn't know and my coworker is preggo with baby #4 and all of them they didn't know. I honestly don't think I could go without knowing lol

jenna8984

@jenjen047 I said for my entire life since I was a teen that I never wanted to find out. I thought the surprise was just so fun. Then H said he really, really, really wanted to find out. And I instantly caved and said well ok! LOL. I know quite a few people who have been through IVF and treatments that chose not to know because they feel that the whole process has been so "scientific" that they'd like to still have the one "natural" item be a surprise.

@lavenderfields13 We find out on March 7th! We are hoping for a boy (obviously will love either) and we just have a feeling that it's a boy. We'll see!

minskat30

@jenjen047 - I know a few people that waited...I knew I would want to know but H was on the fence about knowing.  If he didn't want to know I was cool with that but there was no way I was waiting.  I convinced him to see the error of his ways.    It has, honestly, really helped us bond more with the baby.  We would have bonded if baby was a boy or a girl but since finding out the sex I've seen a pretty clear shift in H (and I'm sure myself, if I was monitoring myself) in relating to the baby in a specific way.  For example, I know when I was talking to H about maternity leave crap and venting, it brought both of us to a whole other level thinking..."my God I hope our daughter doesn't have to go through this crap one day".  More power to you if you can wait though - I could not.  

lavenderfields13

@jenjen047 I definitely DO want to find out - I am the most impatient person. It's funny because I never thought to discuss this with H but somehow it came up recently and he wants to know too so that's good news haha.

My friend that's pregnant right now with her first is NOT finding out. My BFF has no kids but says she is definitely NOT finding out for at least the first baby because she loves surprises and she says they're aren't many surprises left in life-which I totally get. But I'm like so your first kid will be so special that it deserves to be a surprise but the others it doesn't matter? lol

On the same topic - I have always always imagined my first baby being a girl and can't imagine having a boy first. IDK why I just always have pictured myself with a daughter. Anyone else like this?

jenjen047

@jenna8984 - I am hoping H will have a similar change of heart when I am actually pregnant, but I also know it's not the norm in Ireland the way it is here so he may stick to not wanting to know. It's honestly not a huge deal to me either way (I say that now, who knows how I will feel when the time comes). 

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I definitely could not wait to find out the sex. I'm horrible with surprises so waiting until I have the baby when I knew I could have found out earlier would be torture. Of course though if DH was adamant about waiting until the birth then I would wait with him. There is no way I could keep that  surprise from him if I already knew.

LizzyTish88

@speakeasy14 I like dress number 1! I can't wait to see what you guys pick!

@minskat30 I love that baby girl likes spin class! I hope you get an answer at the Dr. although it sounds completely normal so that great!

@beachyone15 Love the coloring book! We brought some to NH and my cousin's and I did it for a while. It's so relaxing!

@jenna8984 What a shitshow! Been there though so I know what you mean. Sorry you had to go through that!

Re: finding out the sex of baby.. BF and I have said we will wait to find out for baby #1. Who knows if we will when the time does come, but it's one of the things I've always wanted. As long as all the babies are healthy, it's all good! 

labro

OMG YOU GUYS!!!!!!!!!!!!

http://www.cnn.com/2016/02/10/entertainment/harry-potter-part-8-publish-summer-feat/index.html

jenjen047

@minskat30 - How did you convince him? I may need tips. I'm trying to pitch it like this: if we don't find out then we get to celebrate twice: once when we find out we are pregnant and once when the baby is born. But if we find out the gender then we get to celebrate three times: once when we find out we are pregnant, once when we find out the sex, and again when the baby is born. 3 celebrations > 2 celebrations. Case closed.

@lavenderfields13 - H has the same reasoning. He says it is one of life's few surprises. I said yes but it will be a surprise no matter when we find out. I also said the birth is a highly emotional and exciting time no matter what and knowing the gender ahead of time isn't going to lessen that at all. As for keeping just #1 a surprise, I actually agree with that. I'd be OK not finding out for #1 but would have to know for #2.  Logistically it's easier knowing if you need to buy new clothes or if you can use the same ones from baby #1 and I also think it is much easier for young children to grasp the concept of a new sibling if you can talk about it in terms of a baby brother or baby sister.

labro

Dear "Ladies" of NEY who want to be surprised/who's SOs would want to be surprised so you won't find out,

I think you're all crazy pants. I could never NOT find out.

Love,
I'maproductoftheinstantgratificationgeneration

minskat30

lavenderfields13 said:

On the same topic - I have always always imagined my first baby being a girl and can't imagine having a boy first. IDK why I just always have pictured myself with a daughter. Anyone else like this?

Short answer: This was totally me too.  

Long answer: Fair warning, this is going to sound new-agy and probably weird...I've had two sort of "images" for lack of a better word in my life.  Just images that came to me completely out of the blue (not during a dream or anything related to the subject matter).  One was walking along Lake Michigan at a very specific spot in the Fall, with a darker skinned tall man, holding his hand, feeling very loved and chatting about some very specific topics (I actually told a third party this too right after I had the image).  About a year to a year and a half later I met H, and the exact scenario played out...I mean exact.  I didn't realize it until after we were nearly home from our walk and I stopped dead in my tracks white as a ghost because it was exactly what I had imagined.  The person I told this story to before it played out was equally shocked.  The second image, relevant to this topic, was of me in the kitchen and H nearby on his computer with our daughter of about 4...she has this little apron on and is helping me bake cookies but is covered in flour and trying to eat the chocolate chips.  A second baby is in a high chair (I think its a boy but I'm not 100% sure) watching and laughing and throwing food.  It is one of the best memories of my life but I haven't had it yet...I have no doubt I'll have it though.   I personally think they are just projections of what I desire in life and not "visions" or anything but who knows.  

labro

@minskat30 Your story seriously just gave me chills!

LizzyTish88

@labro I saw that HP link earlier but someone said it will only be available in London? No idea how true that might be. I certainly hope not because I so want to read that!!

labro

@caseface5 What really? I think they mean the PLAY is only showing in London. They are publishing it as a book because so many people can't travel to see the play!

minskat30

labro said:

@minskat30 Your story seriously just gave me chills!

Honestly, it freaks me out a little too.    But they are such happy happy moments.  I feel such joy in the image...the one with H brings me to a happy place no matter what.  The one with our kids gives me so much hope for the future too.  It freaks me out but makes me smile so much every time I think about it. 

lavenderfields13

@minskat30 Maybe you're a bit psychic! That is so weird that the first "image" happened and will be really freaky if the second does too. 

labro

lavenderfields13 said:

@minskat30 Maybe you're a bit psychic! That is so weird that the first "image" happened and will be really freaky if the second does too. 

jenna8984

@jenjen047 H convinced me because he wanted to focus on just one set of names rather than argue over the "wrong" ones for 6 months. And he just really wanted to be able to do the nursery with more personalization. Not saying it has to be blue or pink, but he'd like to get the name custom on some items. Also for me the bonding happens as I experience the pregnancy. But for him the bonding happens when he can imagine doing certain things with his son or daughter.

One of my friends actually told me it was anti- climatic for her when she waited. She was in labor a very long time and had to have a c- section and she's like honestly after being sliced and diced, I no longer felt like the baby's sex was the big, magical, item of the day. I just wanted us both to be safe and healthy, you know?