Happy Hump Day!

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Happy Hump Day! : Our insurance is through H.  A family plan is $1500 (for us and any future kids).  Luckily H's boss pays a good chunk of it, but he doesnt have to. ETA: Before I was married I was paying<strong> $575 a month for my insurance.  I live in a state where we have to have it and it was 100% OOP
</strong>Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

Good grief.  That is more than I pay for my two bedroom apartment every month! 

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Edie you should also try these meatballs sometime -

1 to 1.5 lbs ground beef
1/2 cup grated parmesan
1/2 cup dry Italian bread crumbs
1 lightly beaten egg
1 small chopped onion

Ball those bitches up and bake at 350 fo 30-40 mins.

Use this to make gravy...

1 can beef consomme
1 can cream of mushroom soup
1/2 cup sour cream

Heat that shiiit up on the stove and stir well.

SO FECKIN GOOD

Great with mashed potatoes.

Look at all the meatball recipes you have, nom nom.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]Blue, that's awful. I can't imagine paying for insurance what we pay for our vehicles a month. 
Posted by dmiller9274[/QUOTE]

I will never complain about the cost of my insurance.  They cover 100% of my fertility treatments. 

I think I have paid in co-pays for all of this stuff (and remember, 3 IUI's, 1 IVF including an egg retrieval, 2 D&C's, 3 Hysteroscopy surgeries, an HSG, 3 rounds of genetic testing, medications, hundreds of blood draws, tons of ultrasounds, and so much more), maybe around 2K.  And of that 2K, most of it was co-pays for the meds since I have to use a specialty pharmacy so co-pays are $30 per medication and I take 3-4 meds each cycle.

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AATB, do you have LTB's bourbon chicken recipe handy? (I'm too lazy to go looking for her blog on E). Maybe I'll make that this week.

Holy crap, blue. I could never afford that. I thought my insurance was expensive!

brandichamberlain

Blue-  looking at it from that way, you are very lucky then.  My friend that went through a similar number of treatments as you paid close to 30k.

celticmyss

This reminds me that I have to see how much it will be to add FH to my insurance this Fall. I am worried that if it is too much he won't to pay it and will prefer to go without insurance. This is not something I would be happy about, at all. Luckily I am pretty sure that we have a seperate option to just add a spouse rather than making a family plan.My benefits are pretty great, they cover most of my insurance. 

Honestly because of direct deposit I don't even know how much comes out of my paycheck each week for insurance. 

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]AATB, do you have LTB's bourbon chicken recipe handy? (I'm too lazy to go looking for her blog on E). Maybe I'll make that this week. Holy crap, blue. I could never afford that. I thought my insurance was expensive!
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

Dont forget though, insurance premiums are higher where COL is higher.  Plus, since we are required to have it and insurance companies can charge whatever they want, we dont have much of a choice, lol.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Yeah Sesh - my dad has always talked about getting one but I really didn't think he would.  He and his brothers grew up riding around the farm on bikes and three wheelers and stuff, but still.  I am always hearing stories of middle aged men getting motorcycles and having accidents.  And my dad... well.  Being a farmer he's had A LOT of close calls, a few of which I've recounted here.  Throw a motorcycle into the mix?  Just doesn't make me feel good.

He never wears a seat belt so I doubt he'll wear a helmet.

dmiller9274

I get that, but I'd still complain a little just because I'm cheap.

Hell my medical bills this year will probably make up for all of the years that I had insurance and didn't go to the dr for anything, but it still feels like it's such a big monthly expense. (and I'll add that I think I only pay around $400ish a month for a family plan so really it's not that bad)

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]Blue-  looking at it from that way, you are very lucky then.  My friend that went through a similar number of treatments as you paid close to 30k.
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

1 IVF cycle at my place would be close to 20K.  But if you are OOP, and dont get a live baby at the end, they refund you 75%.

But its rare to find people here without IF coverage because MA is one of only a few states that require insurance carriers to cover IF.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]Yeah Sesh - my dad has always talked about getting one but I really didn't think he would.  He and his brothers grew up riding around the farm on bikes and three wheelers and stuff, but still.  I am always hearing stories of middle aged men getting motorcycles and having accidents.  And my dad... well.  Being a farmer he's had A LOT of close calls, a few of which I've recounted here.  Throw a motorcycle into the mix?  Just doesn't make me feel good. He never wears a seat belt so I doubt he'll wear a helmet.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

My H has always kept his MC license, even though his ex never let him have a bike. I helped him pick out his Harley, but he will tell you he benefited from the safety class Honda puts on here in Ohio. It was all day and you use your own bike to get used to what it's capable of doing.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Sesh - bourbon chicken nom nom

THIS IS A REALLY EASY RECIPE TOO, EDIE

http://www.cookaholicwife.com/2011/06/bourbon-chicken.html#comments

brandichamberlain

I was filling out an application for FI to get a private policy because it is around 1/3 of the cost than to go with me and one of the questions is "Have you or your spouse been diagnosed with infertility". 

How do I answer this for him?  I am not technically his spouse YET, but in 18 days I will be and I have been diagnosed with that. 

Thoughts?

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Happy Hump Day! : My H has always kept his MC license, even though his ex never let him have a bike. I helped him pick out his Harley, but he will tell you he benefited from the safety class Honda puts on here in Ohio. It was all day and you use your own bike to get used to what it's capable of doing.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

I'm hoping he does the same thing.  I'm hoping my mom makes him, lol.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]I was filling out an application for FI to get a private policy because it is around 1/3 of the cost than to go with me and one of the questions is "Have you or your spouse been diagnosed with infertility".  How do I answer this for him?  I am not technically his spouse YET, but in 18 days I will be and I have been diagnosed with that.  Thoughts?
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

What is your diagnosis?

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Happy Hump Day! : What is your diagnosis?
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

Mayer-Rokitansky-Kuster-Hauser Syndrome.

lbarr088

Speaking of insurance, I'm still waiting on my COBRA paperwork. I am 90 positive that it will show up the day my new insurance kicks in.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Happy Hump Day! : Mayer-Rokitansky-Kuster-Hauser Syndrome.
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

Thats a mouthful, lol.

What part of it do you have (if you dont mind me asking).  Are you missing a uterus or tubes?

I *think* you cant be diagnosed as "infertile" until you have been trying to get pregnant. 

maratea

AATB, I have mixed feelings about motorcycles and I always get anxious when I know my parents are riding. On one hand, I love to ride and it's fun, but on the other hand, it is very dangerous. One of my dad's friends just died last Friday in an accident on his bike.

Usually, it's not the biker that causes accidents, it's the other drivers who don't pay attention.

Blueyed228

Brandi- I only say it because the standard qualifier for infertility is "TTC for 12 months or longer"

ETA- I apologize for asking you about it.  That was really forward of me and none of my business.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]AATB, I have mixed feelings about motorcycles and I always get anxious when I know my parents are riding. On one hand, I love to ride and it's fun, but on the other hand, it is very dangerous. One of my dad's friends just died last Friday in an accident on his bike.<strong> Usually, it's not the biker that causes accidents, it's the other drivers who don't pay attention.
</strong>Posted by maratea[/QUOTE]

SO much this!

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]AATB, I have mixed feelings about motorcycles and I always get anxious when I know my parents are riding. On one hand, I love to ride and it's fun, but on the other hand, it is very dangerous. One of my dad's friends just died last Friday in an accident on his bike. Usually, it's not the biker that causes accidents, it's the other drivers who don't pay attention.
Posted by maratea[/QUOTE]


Exactly.

Ugh. I could puke ;(

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Happy Hump Day! : Thats a mouthful, lol. What part of it do you have (if you dont mind me asking).  Are you missing a uterus or tubes? <strong>I *think* you cant be diagnosed as "infertile" until you have been trying to get pregnant. 
</strong>Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

This is complicated, so bare with my novel :)

I have tubes and ovaries, but they are not in the typical positions that would be found in most women.  I do not have a uterus at all. 

When I was finding out about this, I was 15 and spent about a year meeting with different doctors and fertility specialists to figure out why I wasn't getting my period. I was on a heavy hormone therapy cycle so they know I ovulate.  It took a surgery for them to go in and look to find out.


In September, I was experiencing some symptoms (weight gain, tenderness in my chest, smell aversion, sickness, etc..) and nearly passed out at the gym.  Though I was convinced it couldn't happen, I took a pregnancy test at the urging of my personal trainer and it was positive.  I went through some tests (weird day- had several ultrasounds, saw my OBGYN, etc..) and they were all pretty baffled by what they were seeing. They confirmed that there was a pregnancy but without me having a uterus, we would be in for a long road. They estimated 8-10 weeks. They sent me for blood work.  Of course we went home and while we were scared we were over the moon excited. I didn't think I could ever do this.  They called the next day with blood work results and it wasn't considered viable. I was devastated.  Everything after that was completely natural, it all happened pretty fast.  It was about two weeks after when we got engaged. 

Sorry for the sob story.

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]Brandi- I only say it because the standard qualifier for infertility is "TTC for 12 months or longer" ETA- I apologize for asking you about it.  That was really forward of me and none of my business.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

No need to apologize.  This came up once before in a thread so I don't mind sharing.  I was just typing it out in as much of a CN form as I could.

chelseamb11

Oh wow Brandi! I can't even imagine. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

Blueyed228

Jesus Christ.  How can you be pregnant without a uterus??  It would have had to have been in the tubes and that could have been really bad.

I think for the insurance purposes, you should tell them no.  Your condition doesnt mean you are automatically "infertile", even though you have no uterus.  So its really none of their business.  With ovaries and tubes, you could do IVF with a surrogate so you do have working parts.

I would tell them no since you have not TTC.

brandichamberlain

I may DD that since no one in our families know. So please don't quote!

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]Jesus Christ.  How can you be pregnant without a uterus??  It would have had to have been in the tubes and that could have been really bad. I think for the insurance purposes, you should tell them no.  Your condition doesnt mean you are automatically "infertile", even though you have no uterus.  So its really none of their business.  With ovaries and tubes, you could do IVF with a surrogate so you do have working parts. I would tell them no since you have not TTC.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

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It happens!

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Why doesn't anyone in your family know? I'm just curious, since I'm sure they ask if y'all plan on having kids.

Blueyed228

Im really sorry that happened to you Brandi.