Can we judge things?

AllAboutTheBenjamin

At my college a chick who wrote for the school paper wrote an editorial about how the girls on campus dressed "like slobs" in sweats instead of dressing to the nines every day.  She thought that students should be dressing to impress.

Yeah, except when there's two feet of snow on the ground (with ice underneath) and you're trying not to trip and kill yourself on your way to your 8am class, sweatpants feel pretty damn good.  As do any kind of non-fashion forward boots.

Everyone on campus judged her.  I think people still judge her on that campus.

saxy414

Also along the parent-judging line, I judge the parent of the little girl a few houses down from mine.  On Saturday, she was out playing in the snow, stomping through everyone's yards and using her toy shovel to move all the snow around.  I know it's silly, but it was my pretty snow in my yard! 

An hour or two later, she came back and was pushing the snow off my car with her shovel.  I didn't know what to do--so I stood up and stood right by the window.  She noticed me move inside, and that I was watching her, and ran away.  I'm glad my car wasn't scratched.

K Byte

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[QUOTE]<strong>At my college a chick who wrote for the school paper wrote an editorial about how the girls on campus dressed "like slobs" in sweats instead of dressing to the nines every day. </strong> She thought that students should be dressing to impress. Yeah, except when there's two feet of snow on the ground (with ice underneath) and you're trying not to trip and kill yourself on your way to your 8am class, sweatpants feel pretty damn good.  As do any kind of non-fashion forward boots. Everyone on campus judged her.  I think people still judge her on that campus.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

We had "that girl" writing for our campus newspaper too. She looked vaguely like a drag queen and was in the sorority on campus that was described as the most "try-hard" and fake, not even respected at all. So yeah, a bunch of people judged!

jennylove810

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[QUOTE]I judge everyone who fails miserably at driving in snowy weather here in Cleveland. No one moves here just for fun or anything, I know they've all experienced snow before, but every time it snows or rains a lot you would swear all the drivers were just imported from L.A. or Arizona or something. It's awful. Half the people pretend there's no snow or ice on the ground and drive like maniacs, and the other half act like the slightest snowfall is a blizzard and drive way too damn slow which is also a huge hazard.
Posted by K Byte[/QUOTE]

Switch Cleveland to Connecticut, and I'll co-sign this!  Some people driving like morons, others driving 3mph.  Argh!

AllAboutTheBenjamin

saxy - our neighbor's (we live in a townhouse complex) kids play hockey in our driveway when one of our cars isn't there.  It's fine, I guess, since they aren't hurting anything.  But a sick part of me wants to watch Ben pull up to the driveway and force them to cut their playing field in half.  I'm a mean neighbor.

sarabear23

I judge the people that are over right now, for swearing in front of their 4 children. AND for letting the little one play by the basement stairs and fuuck with all the Christmas presents I spent ALL WEEKEND wrapping.

aplatanada

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[QUOTE]At my college a chick who wrote for the school paper wrote an editorial about how the girls on campus dressed "like slobs" in sweats instead of dressing to the nines every day.  She thought that students should be dressing to impress.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

We had this person too.  Except it was a guy calling out the ladies. And it was in grad school, where the average age was 27. He was sincerely shocked when the female students didn't like it.

Celles

AATB -- for some reason, that reminds me of the girl who spoke at my college graduation.  She obviously deviated from her approved speech, because it was a long tirade about how none of us deserved our degrees because we all obviously came from positions of privilege and didn't understand what it was like to work for a living, let alone for an education.  Ironically, this was right after the dean of the college made a huge deal about how we were the most racially and socio-economically diverse graduating class in the university's history, and how most of us (myself included) were the first members of our families to graduate.

Seven years later, I still judge her.  Big time.

cupcakesfrosting

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[QUOTE]I judge the people that are over right now, for swearing in front of their 4 children. AND for letting the little one play by the basement stairs and fuuck with all the Christmas presents I spent ALL WEEKEND wrapping.
Posted by sarabear23[/QUOTE]

Is this at your house? If so, I judge you for not saying something to the parents.  At the very least, you could move them, so they can't play with them.

J&K10910

Our neighbors behind us let their kids walk through our yard in the summer to get to the pool.  Normally I don't really care THAT much, but I'm terrified that one day we'll have the grill on and one of them will walk into it and sue us or something.

Celles

I also judge people who judge people who don't "like" specific religious-themed holidays to which they may or may not subscribe.  Just sayin'.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]AATB -- for some reason, that reminds me of the girl who spoke at my college graduation.  She obviously deviated from her approved speech, because it was a long tirade about how none of us deserved our degrees because we all obviously came from positions of privilege and didn't understand what it was like to work for a living, let alone for an education.  Ironically, this was right after the dean of the college made a huge deal about how we were the most racially and socio-economically diverse graduating class in the university's history, and how most of us (myself included) were the first members of our families to graduate. Seven years later, I still judge her.  Big time.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

Holy EFF.  I'll judge her with you!

NatesGirl16

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[QUOTE]saxy - our neighbor's (we live in a townhouse complex) kids play hockey in our driveway when one of our cars isn't there.  It's fine, I guess, since they aren't hurting anything.  But a sick part of me wants to watch Ben pull up to the driveway and force them to cut their playing field in half.  I'm a mean neighbor.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
See, I don't think this is fine.  People say I'm mean, but I expect kids to play in their own area.  Even if they aren't hurting anything, why should they use your driveway.  I'm a grinch that way.

cupcakesfrosting

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can we judge things? : See, I don't think this is fine.  People say I'm mean, but I expect kids to play in their own area.  Even if they aren't hurting anything, why should they use your driveway.  I'm a grinch that way.
Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]

I am too. The kids that live in our complex play in the street, on the stairs, etc. Our landlords put a table and chairs on the landing outside our Kitchen window. The kids constantly play on the chairs, or sit there. I was washing dishes one day, and dropped a pot in the sink. One of the girls had the gall to glare AT ME for making noise in my own kitchen. Wth?

J&K10910

Also, FI had to stop me from walking outside to hand a shovel to the kid that was jumping in the snowbanks in our yard, knocking tons of snow back onto the sidewalks we had just spent 3 hours shoveling.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can we judge things? : See, I don't think this is fine.  People say I'm mean, but I expect kids to play in their own area.  Even if they aren't hurting anything, why should they use your driveway.  I'm a grinch that way.
Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]


Our garages are right next to each other, so our driveway is essentially one giant slab.  In other words - a child hockey player's dream.

I feel your grinchy-ness.  I'm more of a secret grinch :)

katiewhompus

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can we judge things? : See, I don't think this is fine.  People say I'm mean, but I expect kids to play in their own area.  Even if they aren't hurting anything, why should they use your driveway.  I'm a grinch that way.
Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]

Same here. If you don't live in my house you don't play in my yard, because I'm not willing to risk the liability of you being a dumbass and getting hurt.

sarabear23

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can we judge things? : Is this at your house? If so, I judge you for not saying something to the parents.  At the very least, you could move them, so they can't play with them.
Posted by cupcakesfrosting[/QUOTE]

We live with my IL's right now, so its technically not MY house. And I don't know these people, so it isn't my place to say anything about how they speak to their children. The presents are under the tree, and there is well over 100 of them. I'm not going to move everything so these kids can run around a house that they are visiting. Thank God theyre only here for haircuts and will be leaving soon.

cupcakesfrosting

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can we judge things? : We live with my IL's right now, so its technically not MY house. And I don't know these people, so it isn't my place to say anything about how they speak to their children. The presents are under the tree, and there is well over 100 of them. I'm not going to move everything so these kids can run around a house that they are visiting. Thank God theyre only here for haircuts and will be leaving soon.
Posted by sarabear23[/QUOTE]

Aah. That makes way more sense. I judge them too. :)

saxy414

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can we judge things? : Our garages are right next to each other, so our driveway is essentially one giant slab.  In other words - a child hockey player's dream. I feel your grinchy-ness.  I'm more of a secret grinch :)
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

I almost became the cranky old "get off my lawn" neighbor.  We live in townhouses, too, so our yards are small and all connected.  The kid walking through my yard wasn't a huge deal, I was just bummed she left huge holes of grass in my new-fallen snow. 

When she came back and was shoveling snow off my car, we almost had issues.  The girl couldn't have been more than five, I was kind of shocked her mom wasn't watching her.  Actually, I don't know which I would judge more: mom not watching, or mom watching and being ok with her shoveling cars. 

undyingmizery

I judge the woman I saw in Toys R Us in her late 40s (no offense keep reading) wearing one of those longer sweaters you wear with work pants or legginings as a dress with nothing else but knee high black boots. Walking next to her was her daughter I would say to be MAYBE 11 wearing itty bitty rolled up running shorts with the slit up the side UGG boots and one of those half hoodie sweatshirts.

Have respect for your daughter's safety will ya?

Celles

In a similarly vein, Mizery, I judge my ex-boyfriend's ex-wife for letting their daughter wear thongs when she was all of 12 years-old.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]I judge the woman I saw in Toys R Us in her late 40s (no offense keep reading) wearing one of those longer sweaters you wear with work pants or legginings as a dress with nothing else but knee high black boots. Walking next to her was her daughter I would say to be MAYBE 11 wearing itty bitty rolled up running shorts with the slit up the side UGG boots and one of those half hoodie sweatshirts. Have respect for your daughter's safety will ya?
Posted by undyingmizery[/QUOTE]

Not so much having respect for her safety as not being totally disgusting.  I hate when parents dress their kids like that.  I saw a girl who couldn't be more than 10 wearing stiletto heeled boots the other day and wobbling around like a Weebl.  I wanted to smack her mother.  Now THAT is dangerous. 

cupcakesfrosting

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can we judge things? : Not so much having respect for her safety as not being totally disgusting.  I hate when parents dress their kids like that.  I saw a girl who couldn't be more than 10 wearing stiletto heeled boots the other day and wobbling around like a <strong>Weebl</strong>.  I wanted to smack her mother.  Now THAT is dangerous. 
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

WEEBLS WOBBLE BUT THEY DON'T FALL DOWN!

reddy123

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[QUOTE]In a similarly vein, Mizery, I judge my ex-boyfriend's ex-wife for letting their daughter wear thongs when she was all of 12 years-old.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

<div>I judge my mom for not letting me wear any cute underwear. I just went out and bought them myself and hid them from her, including thongs at age 12.</div>

Celles

I would not let my 12 year-old wear anything that could be described as sexy.  Cute?  Sure.  Sexy?  No way.

NatesGirl16

We saw a six or seven year old wearing heeled boots (albeit small heels, but big for her) in Times Square on Saturday night.  The poor thing could barely walk and, truthfully, looked like a baby stripper.

undyingmizery

I think that gets under my skin more than ALOT of things. Seriously I find it truly digusting and disrespectful. Good job you pretty much doomed your daughter to being dirty. It probably didnt help that right before that I saw a FATHER with his 4 year old daughter in a little pink tu tu dress with high heels and that's all find and cute BUT PUT SOMETHING ON UNDER IT! I think it's terrible because there are seriously some SICK people out there.. I don't need to say more on that one. You are teaching your child to advirtise themselves

sorry for any spelling errors lol I was ranting.

J&K10910

That horrifies me, Nates.  My BFF said to me the other day "It's too bad you don't want kid, you're one of the people who could do it right and should be having them, instead of those idiots that dress their kids up like they're raising them to be in pornos, amongst other things."  Then I laughed and said "The real reason you want me to have kids is so you can laugh at me when I do half the things I judge people for, isn't it?"

reddy123

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[QUOTE]I would not let my 12 year-old wear anything that could be described as sexy.  Cute?  Sure.  Sexy?  No way.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

<div>I get what your saying. I don't want my imaginary daughter looking like a harlot or anything, I just don't see the issue with underwear, it's hidden (well, with good pants and belt). My mom and I had numerous arguments about it. It was also lame seeing all my friends shop at VS and have little boy shorts, etc, when I had granny panties.</div>