unpopular opinions

wadingmoose · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : I said the ones I know. I didn't say all.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

Well lookit me putting words into your mouth. Sorry 'bout that.

wadingmoose · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : Ditto. I also love doing laundry.
Posted by arbolita[/QUOTE]

Ahhh laundry fresh and warm from the dryer. Love.

temerityjane · July 2010

I think it's ridiculous that a SAHW should have to be some kind of apologist for her lifestyle.

I work when I'm offered work that interests me, and I don't work when I finish a major project or don't feel like taking on any work at that time. When I am working, it's definitely full time or more. However, I do spend LARGE amounts of time as a simple SAHW (well, fiance).

It seems like if you ARE a SAHWhatever, you have to justify it by saying "Oh, well, I do all the cooking and all the cleaning and I also volunteer and I work out all the time and this and that and this and that."

Eff that noise. There was a thread months ago where someone said something along the lines of, "I'd only be okay with someone being a SAHW if they did all the cooking and cleaning, volunteered, were always PERFECTLY put together and in amazing shape because there would be no excuse not to be." Right. Because people need to justify their life choices.

It's like overweight women who feel like they need to be embarrassed or apologize for ordering from a fast food restaurant. Bulllllshiiiiiit.

I don't have to do or not do ANY specific thing to make it "okay" for me to be at home while my fiance works. ANYTHING.

Oh, also, I don't think it's cute when threads derail into ridiculous silliness. That's my other unpopular opinion.

salt78 · July 2010

I would love laundry if I didn't have to do it in a dirty basement laundry room shared by a bunch of jerks that leave their clothes in the washer or dryer for hours on end without checking on them.

L-Bride · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : You'd think so, wouldn't you LBride. But I can tell you from the last 3ish years experience, that's not what happens. You end up doing a whole lot of butt sitting, TV watching and internetting. Sometimes you'll go out and have coffee with someone, but most of the time not. Sure you've got all that time, but YOU'VE GOT ALL THAT TIME. So you put things off, you take more time to do stuff. So you lay off, and it takes you a little longer and then a little bit longer to get stuff done. Definitely not what you think it is.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

I think it's different for everyone. I can see your side of this and you're also in a different country away from your family. I don't know if I would enjoy not working if I were in your situation. It would be lonely for me.

wadingmoose · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I think it's ridiculous that a SAHW should have to be some kind of apologist for her lifestyle. I work when I'm offered work that interests me, and I don't work when I finish a major project or don't feel like taking on any work at that time. When I am working, it's definitely full time or more. However, I do spend LARGE amounts of time as a simple SAHW (well, fiance). It seems like if you ARE a SAHWhatever, you have to justify it by saying "Oh, well, I do all the cooking and all the cleaning and I also volunteer and I work out all the time and this and that and this and that." Eff that noise. There was a thread months ago where someone said something along the lines of, "I'd only be okay with someone being a SAHW if they did all the cooking and cleaning, volunteered, were always PERFECTLY put together and in amazing shape because there would be no excuse not to be." Right. Because people need to justify their life choices. It's like overweight women who feel like they need to be embarrassed or apologize for ordering from a fast food restaurant. Bulllllshiiiiiit. I don't have to do or not do ANY specific thing to make it "okay" for me to be at home while my fiance works. ANYTHING. Oh, also, I don't think it's cute when threads derail into ridiculous silliness. That's my other unpopular opinion.
Posted by temerityjane[/QUOTE]

Hi TJ. How's it going?

I agree with you, by the way. Even on the ridiculous silliness even though I've done my share of that.

I blame sugar and caffeine.

Bubbalub · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : This. I know myself really well and I wouldn't get bored. I'm very good at keeping busy and am always on the go. I love taking classes and I do volunteer work even when working full time. I know I would do a lot more of it if I wasn't working. I also feel like I waste my weekends catching up with chores that I fell behind on during the week.
Posted by L-Bride[/QUOTE]

i2i, L-Bride. I have a ton of hobbies and I fall behind on things that are actually important to me like keeping up the garden and front yard when I'm tired from working. I cook, clean, organize, sew, knit, paint and a ton of other things. I think once I got past the "Whee! I don't have to work! I'm sleeping until noon!" phase, I would get busy. I also do volunteer work and we would be able to get a dog because someone would be home with it.

We are hoping that I won't have to work when we start having kids up until they go into pre-school. (Or until the youngest goes into pre-school, more accurately.) But that doesn't mean that I wouldn't be able to work part time or contract telecommuting from home. I think kids need socializing as well as real bonding time with their parents which means that day care once or twice a week is totally an option for us.

GreenPepperBurger · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I think it's ridiculous that a SAHW should have to be some kind of apologist for her lifestyle. I work when I'm offered work that interests me, and I don't work when I finish a major project or don't feel like taking on any work at that time. When I am working, it's definitely full time or more. However, I do spend LARGE amounts of time as a simple SAHW (well, fiance). It seems like if you ARE a SAHWhatever, you have to justify it by saying "Oh, well, I do all the cooking and all the cleaning and I also volunteer and I work out all the time and this and that and this and that." Eff that noise. There was a thread months ago where someone said something along the lines of, "I'd only be okay with someone being a SAHW if they did all the cooking and cleaning, volunteered, were always PERFECTLY put together and in amazing shape because there would be no excuse not to be." Right. Because people need to justify their life choices. It's like overweight women who feel like they need to be embarrassed or apologize for ordering from a fast food restaurant. Bulllllshiiiiiit. I don't have to do or not do ANY specific thing to make it "okay" for me to be at home while my fiance works. ANYTHING. Oh, also, I don't think it's cute when threads derail into ridiculous silliness. That's my other unpopular opinion.
Posted by temerityjane[/QUOTE]

Whatever floats your boat. People do what's good for them, but they can't expect that everyone is going to agree with them. I'm sure a LOT of people would judge me for some of my life choices, and well, that's their prerogative.

*edited for spelling

squirrly · July 2010

I would LOVE to be a SAHW (or SAHM one day), if we could afford it. But, there are a number of business ideas I want to try out, so I'd be working, just for myself, and from home.

kikibaby · July 2010

Man, this thread is sure taking me back in time... *memmmmories*

temerityjane · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : Whatever floats your boat. People do what's good for them, but they can't expect that everyone is going to agree with them. I'm sure a LOT of people would judge me for some of my life choices, and well, that's their perogative.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

There's nothing to AGREE with.

Bubbalub · July 2010

Back to unpopular opinons: I don't like citrus fruit. The texture freaks me out.

wadingmoose · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : Whatever floats your boat. People do what's good for them, but they can't expect that everyone is going to agree with them. I'm sure a LOT of people would judge me for some of my life choices, and well, that's their perogative.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

So, it's ok for me to say, "I don't agree with people being welders?" Because, you know, it's not something I'd want to do so I clearly don't agree with it?

What?

AmoroAgain · July 2010

I know one thing- I'm not perfectly put together unless I step foot out the door. It's a total waste. I tried for a long time to not be sloppy when H came home, to have my hair nice, a little makeup on... but he didn't care in the least. And the first thing he does is change into comfy clothes so... why shouldn't i?

AmoroAgain · July 2010

I hate cucumbers.

But I love dill pickles.

stephl3055 · July 2010

I don't like coffee.

wadingmoose · July 2010

I don't understand unity candles, readings, sand ceremonies, salt ceremonies, etc. It's all AW-ish to me.

GreenPepperBurger · July 2010

I love all pickles.

And yes, people can agree or disagree with whatever they want. They can think that SAHanythings should go and get a job. They can agree or disagree with the CHOICE. I'm going on vacation in the winter and my parents don't agree with the fact I'm going.

Bubbalub · July 2010

Pickles are of the devil.

AmoroAgain · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I don't understand unity candles, readings, sand ceremonies, salt ceremonies, etc. It's all AW-ish to me.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

Ha! Salt ceremonies. It makes me think of salting the earth to kill everything.

L-Bride · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : Ditto. I also love doing laundry.
Posted by arbolita[/QUOTE]

Me too AND I love ironing. I do about 3 hours of ironing a week. It's a sickness. I iron everything from my duvet covers, to my sheets, to fi''s boxers. I also iron everything inside out as to not steam out the colors. If I wasn't working I'd be ironing the curtains. See? I would be busy.

wadingmoose · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : Ha! Salt ceremonies. It makes me think of salting the earth to kill everything.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

I'm really just against it because of Salt. I mean, she's got a movie named after her. Isn't that enough? Now she needs her own ceremony? Sheesh.

WHERE'S MY MOOSE CEREMONY? Huh?

stephl3055 · July 2010

This is slightly more serious, but I think people should be able to marry whoever they want. If a guy wants to marry a guy, go for it. A girl wants to marry a girl? Okay. A girl wants to marry someone who is trans-gender? Sure. No problem.

It doesn't bother me and it's honestly not any of my business who anyone else wants to marry.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · July 2010

L-Bride - I totally get what you're saying. My FI's salary is more than mine will ever be, that's for sure. The only thing that strikes me as wrong is that it's kind of unfair for one person to work full time because... hey, maybe he doesn't want to. NOT saying your FI doesn't want to, but if I made a lot of money and FI wanted to stay at home just to persue more "fun" activities than working, I might want some kind of compromise, like both of us working part time.

Another unpopular opinion (maybe): I love wikipedia. When people say wikipedia sucks or is inaccurate, I have to assume that you've either never used it or that you misinterpret what other people have said about it. Yes, it can be edited by almost anyone. However:

1) there aren't many people fucking with the entries in molecular biology for example.

2) And I assume that if you're reading a page that relates to molecular biology, you know enough about it to know if something seems a little off.

3) And if you know nothing about the topic, you use wikipedia to supplement your other research. To conclude:

Noshit you wouldn't use wikipedia as an academic resource (hey, I wouldn't use E! online as an academic resource either, even though they know a lot about the Kardashians), but as a general knowledge tool, it's practically invaluable.

wadingmoose · July 2010

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[QUOTE]This is slightly more serious, but I think people should be able to marry whoever they want. If a guy wants to marry a guy, go for it. A girl wants to marry a girl? Okay. A girl wants to marry someone who is trans-gender? Sure. No problem. It doesn't bother me and it's honestly not any of my business who anyone else wants to marry.
Posted by steph13055[/QUOTE]

That's a pretty popular opinion around here. I completely agree.

georgia_bride09 · July 2010

I like pickles and I would totes be a SAHW/M. In fact, my H is in school right now to get a job that would possibly afford us that luxury. I guess only time will tell.

arbolita · July 2010

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[QUOTE]This is slightly more serious, but I think people should be able to marry whoever they want. If a guy wants to marry a guy, go for it. A girl wants to marry a girl? Okay. A girl wants to marry someone who is trans-gender? Sure. No problem. It doesn't bother me and it's honestly not any of my business who anyone else wants to marry.
Posted by steph13055[/QUOTE]

What about people who marry inanimate objects like a <u><a href="http://perezhilton.com/2010-03-10-man-marries-pillow" target="_blank">pillow</a></u> or the <a href="http://www.lemondrop.com/2009/03/11/woman-marries-the-object-of-her-desire-the-eiffel-tower/" rel="nofollow">www.lemondrop.com/2009/03/11/woman-marries-the-object-of-her-desire-the-eiffel-tower/</a>" target="_blank"><u>Eiffel Tower</u>?

GreenPepperBurger · July 2010

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[QUOTE]This is slightly more serious, but I think people should be able to marry whoever they want. If a guy wants to marry a guy, go for it. A girl wants to marry a girl? Okay. A girl wants to marry someone who is trans-gender? Sure. No problem. It doesn't bother me and it's honestly not any of my business who anyone else wants to marry.
Posted by steph13055[/QUOTE]

THISSSS x 1million

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · July 2010

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[QUOTE]This is slightly more serious, but I think people should be able to marry whoever they want. If a guy wants to marry a guy, go for it. A girl wants to marry a girl? Okay. A girl wants to marry someone who is trans-gender? Sure. No problem. It doesn't bother me and it's honestly not any of my business who anyone else wants to marry.
Posted by steph13055[/QUOTE]

Yeah, in my city that's NOT an unpopular opinion at all. Except the guy I saw yesterday wearing a shirt that said, "People who support gay marriage aren't thinking straight!" In Trader Joes. In a city with a large gay population.

stephl3055 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : That's a pretty popular opinion around here. I completely agree.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

I was thinking most people on here would agree with it, but it is far from the popular opinion in my general area and with some people I know.

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