I judge..

StephBeanWed61502

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge.. : Oh no youve discovered my secret!
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

<div>I knew it!  All that advocating for tolerance was really just you making fun of everybody!  </div>

musicalsunlight

Don't tell Nuggs that I'm racist.

ErinG93

MuSu, is anyone coming to your wedding that will update us on pictures? I thought you said that maybe a couple people might be able to go.

Stackeye210

I swear I'm not the troll, it's a unfortunate coincidence it's from Columbus. And I'm pretty sure I didn't judge a darn person troll.

ErinG93

Wild, I think you should go read Stack's response to Robot. It's pretty damn clear that Stacks is a non-judger.

chelseamb11

[QUOTE] Yeah, I'm not the wild girl. I just posted how I was wrong about the situation about 10 minutes ago. I get it. I continued off the post about the LV bag lady using food stamps or whatever. I don't know her situation. I<strong> guess I based it off people I know.</strong> You know the ones that get food stamps but go out and buy a new xbox game or whatever.
Posted by ILoveToRobot[/QUOTE]

But see, you weren't.  You were saying people need to sell the nice things they have if they have to go on foodstamps.  There's a HUGE difference between someone having a coach purse and THEN going on foodstams than someone who goes on foodstamps and then goes to the Coach store and buys a $500 purse. 

You were saying that you can't take your insensitive comment back about it being wrong for people on welfare to have nice things.  Well guess what, that is wrong.  You can't erase the comment you made, but you can own up to it being insensitive and apologize.

StephBeanWed61502

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[QUOTE]But see, you weren't.  <strong>You were saying people need to sell the nice things they have if they have to go on foodstamps.  There's a HUGE difference between someone having a coach purse and THEN going on foodstams than someone who goes on foodstamps and then goes to the Coach store and buys a $500 purse.</strong>  You were saying that you can't take your insensitive comment back about it being wrong for people on welfare to have nice things.  Well guess what, that is wrong.  You can't erase the comment you made, but you can own up to it being insensitive and apologize.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

<div>Nail, meet head.  Exactly this.</div>

ILoveToRobot

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[QUOTE]But see, you weren't.  You were saying people need to sell the nice things they have if they have to go on foodstamps.  There's a HUGE difference between someone having a coach purse and THEN going on foodstams than someone who goes on foodstamps and then goes to the Coach store and buys a $500 purse.  You were saying that you can't take your insensitive comment back about it being wrong for people on welfare to have nice things.  Well guess what, that is wrong.  You can't erase the comment you made, <strong>but you can own up to it being insensitive and apologize.
</strong>Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I felt like I already owned up to it but if an apology is what it takes then I'm sorry for any offense that I caused. Definately wasn't my intention to make anyone get hurt feelings over it.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge.. : Yeah, I felt like I already owned up to it but <strong>if an apology is what it takes</strong> then I'm sorry for any offense that I caused. Definately wasn't my intention to make anyone get hurt feelings over it.
Posted by ILoveToRobot[/QUOTE]

How heartfelt.

Nickivegan

I'm trying to catch up, I'm on page 14. But I judge Fishy for saying everything I would say, except better, but in crocs. And also for calling dinner "supper." An I judge Rachers for being so awesome, and then blowing that by tanning. (these are fake judges FYI)

ILoveToRobot

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge.. : How heartfelt.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

Oh lord

lyndausvi

Wow.  I'm kind-of glad I missed the rest of the thread

Nickivegan

So is Robot Wild Girl or not? That was an entertaining read. So I guess we don't need to FFF since it's all here already?

ILoveToRobot

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[QUOTE]Chels, I give her credit for owning up to starting a shitstorm.  You of all people know how tough it can be to communicate that.  (I'm being earnest here, not bitchy; I hope you know that.) Robot, if you're really sorry for digging a hole, and then digging digging digging, and then realizing that you were way off base and admitting that maybe the very smart posters here made you see the light, <strong>I'll give you respect for that.  If it's sincere</strong>.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

I wouldn't have said it to a bunch of strangers in an internet forum unless I meant it.

You know one thing that I really thought was uncalled for was the namecalling. I mean I had an opinion which everyone obviously disagreed with and I continued to argue my point as others did. I didn't call anyone an idiot or anything yet people felt it was OK to do it to me? We're all going to disagree on things at some point but does that mean the other person is stupid? You guys don't even know me. End rant.

ILoveToRobot

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[QUOTE]So is Robot Wild Girl or not? That was an entertaining read. So I guess we don't need to FFF since it's all here already?
Posted by Nickivegan[/QUOTE]

I am not wild girl. Clearly you can see that I'm not chicken enough to need a disguise to say what I think.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]Chels, I give her credit for owning up to starting a shitstorm.  You of all people know how tough it can be to communicate that.  (I'm being earnest here, not bitchy;<strong> I hope you know that.)</strong> Robot, if you're really sorry for digging a hole, and then digging digging digging, and then realizing that you were way off base and admitting that maybe the very smart posters here made you see the light, I'll give you respect for that. <u> If it's sincere.
</u>Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

Oh I do, no worries :)

I am with you on the underlined.  I give you (Robot) credit for finally owning up to it.  I hope you are sincere, I just had a hard time seeing that sincerity when your apology was preceded with "well if this is what it takes".  It gives me the impression like you're only apologizing because I brought it up and because that is what it would take for us to back off.  I'm sorry if I had the wrong impression.

ILoveToRobot

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge.. : Oh I do, no worries :) I am with you on the underlined.  I give you credit for finally owning up to it. <strong> I hope you are sincere, I just had a hard time seeing that sincerity when your apology was preceded with "well if this is what it takes".  </strong>It gives me the impression like you're only apologizing because I brought it up and because that is what it would take for us to back off.  I'm sorry if I had the wrong impression.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

I said that because I felt I already had but I just didn't use the word sorry.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge.. : I said that because I felt I already had but I just didn't use the word sorry.
Posted by ILoveToRobot[/QUOTE]

Got it.  I will retract my "how sincere" comment. My apologies.

Nickivegan

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[QUOTE]Also, I think Wildgirl is a lurker.  Her join date is from back in July.  So I doubt an AE made for this thread was the reasoning behind the name.
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]


I agree, yet the whole thing was mighty convenient.

Heck, it took LDY to talk about alternative AF methods for me to come out of lurk-dom, so I guess it could be anything to trigger others!

ILoveToRobot

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge.. : Got it.  I will retract my "how sincere" comment. My apologies.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

Thanks. I have a feeling I'll probably stick my foot in my mouth many times to come still.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge.. : Thanks. I have a feeling I'll probably stick my foot in my mouth many times to come still.
Posted by ILoveToRobot[/QUOTE]

It happens to the best of us ;) 

ILoveToRobot

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[QUOTE]As TMI as that thread became (though informative)**.  You were (are obvi) still normal.  I think Wildgirl might not be.  But she has only 2 posts.  Can't judge her yet.  Edit: I can't spell.
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

Good to know not everyone hates me now <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

Nickivegan

Aww Chrissy thank you!

Nickivegan

I love your cat, as well as you! OMG WE SHOULD HAVE A TK KITTY GTG. I will bring the furry catnip mice.

StephBeanWed61502

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge.. : Good to know not everyone hates me now
Posted by ILoveToRobot[/QUOTE]

<div>Definitely no hatred here.  And for what it's worth, when you <em>finally</em> clarified that your issue was actually with people you know IRL who buy expensive things <em>after</em> going on public assistance, I actually kind of agreed with you on that.</div>

ILoveToRobot

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge.. : Definitely no hatred here.  And for what it's worth, when you finally  clarified that your issue was actually with people you know IRL who buy expensive things after  going on public assistance, I actually kind of agreed with you on that.
Posted by StephBeanWed61502[/QUOTE]

I think I got stuck on the selling thing because I was like why the heck not and didn't really continue to explain my entire thought on it. Then I thought about it for a while and was like oh wait makes sense.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge.. : Definitely no hatred here.  And for what it's worth, when you finally  clarified that your issue was actually with people you know IRL who buy expensive things after  going on public assistance, I actually kind of agreed with you on that.
Posted by StephBeanWed61502[/QUOTE]

Yep.  People like that bug me.
My dad isn't on assistance, but his house is in foreclosure because he hasn't paid the mortgage since he and my mom divorced (about a year ago).  He didn't pay the mortgage because he "couldn't afford it".. yet in 2011 he went to Europe, threw himself a HUGE 50th bday party, and bought a 55" tv with Bose system.  And he took twice as long to get money back to me that he owed me, which he only owed me because he took it from me to begin with (graduation money that Grandma gave me early) because "I wasn't supposed to have it until graduation anyway" and he needed to pay some bills...  This foreclosure is fuucking up my mom's credit score because she still "technicallY" owns the house too, even though it went to him in the divorce.  Yeah my dad is my judgement for the day I suppose.

ILoveToRobot

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge.. : Yep.  People like that bug me. My dad isn't on assistance, but his house is in foreclosure because he hasn't paid the mortgage since he and my mom divorced (about a year ago).  He didn't pay the mortgage because he "couldn't afford it".. yet in 2011 he went to Europe, threw himself a HUGE 50th bday party, and bought a 55" tv with Bose system.  And he took twice as long to get money back to me that he owed me, which he only owed me because he took it from me to begin with (graduation money that Grandma gave me early) because "I wasn't supposed to have it until graduation anyway" and he needed to pay some bills...  T<strong>his foreclosure is fuucking up my mom's credit score because she still "technicallY" owns the house too, even though it went to him in the divorce.</strong>  Yeah my dad is my judgement for the day I suppose.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

My friend is in the same boat. She bought a house with her x fiance, moved out, took her name off the deed or loan not sure which, got bopped for thousands of dollars because they look at taking your name off the deed as selling the house and her lovely x kept refinancing the house and then quit paying the mortgage. Her name is still attached to the house so it's dragging her credit down the drain. The foreclosure isn't happening any time soon either.

Nickivegan

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge.. : OMG yes please!  Although I'm warning you now, my cat is hoity-toity and thinks she's better than everyone else.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]


Tyra just gave a "biitch, please" look. She knows she is queen of the kitty universe. She has already accepted your cat's apology.

KellyBrian2013

Okay, I'm finally caught up from when I left (page 5). Can't believe I just read all of that.

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[QUOTE]Wow, this was a thread full of assholishness, complete with some really crappy judges.  I judge people that put their dogs in the back of their pick up trucks without securing the dog at all.  I'm always worried the dog will jump or fall out of the truck, and it really terrifies me that the dog will fall or jump out of the truck in front of me and I won't be able to stop.
Posted by Holly4212011[/QUOTE]

I fully get behind this judge. FI sent me a picture from behind a guy the other day who had 2 dogs in the bed of his truck. FI said they almost came out several times, and when the guy had to brake hard once, he almost threw the dogs out of the back. Why have pets if you have no regard for their safety?

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[QUOTE]That reminded me of something I judge. I judge people who drive with their tiny dogs on their laps with the window wide open. My grandmother does this and I just can't drive with her because of it. If she gets into an accident then the dog will be killed between her and the airbag. If the dog gets out of her hands and jumps out the window, then what? Apparently, people like this never watched Marley and me.
Posted by SunriseAmber[/QUOTE]

Similarly, I also get behind this judge. I used to let me dogs ride in the backseat if I needed to take them somewhere locally, especially my older boy because he just lays down and sleeps. But after the last accident I was in (I was stopped; kid behind me panicked and hit his gas instead of his brakes... caused a 5-car accident), I refuse to let them ride in the car unless they are crated. Thank heavens I didn't have them with me in the accident... but they'd been in the back seat the day before.



Also, I know we're pretty well past the government assistance judgements, but I want to make it clear that I don't judge people on it who need it and are doing their best to survive. That's what it's there for. What I <em>do</em> judge is people who are on it that spend their income on booze, purses, etc. rather than on their food, children, etc. that they should be...