TMI?

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI? : How in the world did you guys come up with "BJ" to reference your period??
Posted by akhensley81[/QUOTE]

DUH. Blow job week. Speaking of, we call bj's 'selfishes'. Sometimes when he doesn't want to do sex but still wants a bj, that's what we call it lol. It's happened twice in our marriage lol

abbalish

AK...think about it.  In theory, period = no sex = blowjobs instead = BJ week!

mandysmear

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[QUOTE]What you said was 'not everyone is as lucky as I am'. Right after saying that Mike has never hurt your feelings. That sounds a lot more encompassing than just making fat/bloated jokes. I agree, H would NEVER say that to me, but that's not our relationship. But yeah, he has hurt my feelings once or twice in the 6 years we've known each other. I don't think I'm any less lucky than you or that he's more of a douche.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

yeah, i didn't get that point across... i didn't mean if anyone has been hurt by their partner they are a douche.  i meant more particularly in instances like akhensley's.

there are just soooo many people in my life (the knot and IRL) that are with men who say shiit like this.  all the time.  and it's makes me sad that they allow something like that to happen.  but hey if people want to put up with it, by all means - that's their choice.  doesn't mean i am not going to speak up and say how i feel about the situation though.

Calypso1977

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[QUOTE]i get that people say things in the heat of the moment and stuff where they come off as a jerk or hurt each other's feelings - we're all human.  believe me, i've been there... but yeah.. i am not into appearance comments.  not at all.  infuriates me actually. 
Posted by mandysmear[/QUOTE]

i'm with you on this, mandy.  and you are right that if he said that, he probably makes other comments on other occasions. i was with a guy before my H who CONSTANTLY made fat/weight comments of a comical nature.  or he would ask me if i "really needed to eat that" if i was having something like, ice cream. 

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI? : How in the world did you guys come up with "BJ" to reference your period??
Posted by akhensley81[/QUOTE]

As in, since they can't or don't like to have sex during that week, it is officially "Blow job week".

Or at least, that's what it is for us. Lol.

ETA: I am slow.

pinkpinot

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[QUOTE]Okay, it seems I'm not the only one who's bored today. Let's try something new. I know it's called "TMI" for a reason, but c'mon - it's slow in here. Please play along! :) I'll start. Yesterday, I met FI for dinner after work. As soon as I got up to the table he was sitting at, the first thing he said to me was <strong>"Well, I guess you've started your period." "Why?" I asked. "Because you're obviously bloated."</strong>Thaaaanks. Alright, your turn.
Posted by akhensley81[/QUOTE]

I'd roundhouse kick my FI in the jugular if he ever said that to me. 

georgia_bride09

Abbalish, I've had two abnormal paps and it basically turned out to be nothing both times (I just had some abnormal cells that needed watching, but nothing ever came of it ether time). I wouldn't get worked up just yet. 

akhensley81

mandy, I see your point. For me, appearance comments (weight/bloated) don't bother me quite that much. Now if someone makes a crass comment about my skin (dry, cracked, icky- esp in winter), I fume. And FI learned that 4 years ago and has never said a single word. So there are definitely boundaries.

nhelene

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI? : I can understand that, I really can. I was just...bothered that you seemed to take it past the appearences comment into ever having your feelings hurt by your H. And TBH, we have never, ever said hurtful things in the heat of the moment. We're very careful during our fights. It's the random out of the blue, offhand comments that sometimes hurt.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

FI used to pinch my belly fat all the time... he didn't even realize it was something that might hurt my feelings until I finally blew up at him for it.

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI? : yeah, i didn't get that point across... i didn't mean if anyone has been hurt by their partner they are a douche.  i meant more particularly in instances like akhensley's. there are just soooo many people in my life (the knot and IRL) that are with men who say shiit like this.  all the time.  and it's makes me sad that they allow something like that to happen.  but hey if people want to put up with it, by all means - that's their choice.  doesn't mean i am not going to speak up and say how i feel about the situation though.
Posted by mandysmear[/QUOTE]

Gotcha.

emilyinchile

Mandy, I'm on LVB's train of thought here. I thought your first comment about not everyone being as lucky as you was a little much.

I also think that certain comments bother certain people. If Mr. Hensley knows that ak is sensitive about her weight, then what he said is a low blow. If he knows she's fine with it then it's a still diick comment but not necessarily on his "really not ok things" list whereas something about her cooking might be if that's an area where she generally feels insecure already. I feel like there are things that I would never say to H because I know they're issues for him (and ditto him for me), whereas there are things that I've said without realizing they bugged him (and again, ditto).

akhensley81

Yeah yeah... I got it now. BJ. Sorry ladies. Leah's air farting and I'm brain farting.

mandysmear

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI? : i'm with you on this, mandy.  and you are right that if he said that, he probably makes other comments on other occasions. i was with a guy before my H who CONSTANTLY made fat/weight comments of a comical nature.  or he would ask me if i "really needed to eat that" if i was having something like, ice cream. 
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-surprised.gif" border="0" alt="Surprised" title="Surprised" />  that's awful calypso.  so glad you're not with him anymore.  makes me a sad panda.

and now that the blow job talk has started - i'm out of this thread :)  see ya guys ou there ::points to board::

Stackeye210

Abbalish - why are all the gynos around here SO slow.  I scheduled my yearly last year during my appt and they couldn't fit me in for 14 months.  Really?  So I'll be 2 months over this year.  WTF?

abbalish

Yeah, I know chances are that it's nothing.  But I always assume the worst!  Especially since I have to wait so long until I can put my mind at rest.

But thanks, it helps to know others who have been through this.

MissLeahM

Hey now.. Today has been a good day..

akhensley81

I'm reading slow this afternoon, sorry girls.

Abba- I've had 2 abormals too. Everything was fine. Hang in there.

LesPaul

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[QUOTE]Abbalish, I've had two abnormal paps and it basically turned out to be nothing both times (I just had some abnormal cells that needed watching, but nothing ever came of it ether time). I wouldn't get worked up just yet. 
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

I've had three.  And two biopsies.  But nothing bad happened eventually.  Sorry you have to wait - it's nerve wracking.

Calypso1977

yeah, it was a long 3.5 years. 

emilyinchile

Abbalish, I've also had that happen, and it was also nothing. Fingers crossed.

LVB, selfishes - I like it!

abbalish

14 months?!?!?!

If I didn't love my doctor (at OSU) so much I'd switch.  I'd say about 2 months to get an appointment is average.  If I know that and can plan around it, not such a big deal.  But now I feel kinda stuck.

Calypso1977

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[QUOTE]Abbalish - why are all the gynos around here SO slow.  I scheduled my yearly last year during my appt and they couldn't fit me in for 14 months.  Really?  So I'll be 2 months over this year.  WTF?
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

boston area isnt much better...i have to call 6-8 months ahead.... and even then i cant always get the preferred time slots.

AdeleDazeem

Abbalish - are they just re-doing the pap smear or are they doing a colposcopy?  I've had abnormals that were something and I've had abnormals that were nothing.  Even when it was something (kinda bad) and I actually needed a LEEP, they scheduled it for 3 months after the diagnosis.  All was well

louisvillebride21

I still think Bec's was the best. "Windy Occupation"

akhensley81

Sorry, Leah! I was teasing. It could be something in your diet maybe? I've had that before. I sometimes have digestion issues too though.

crfische

This thread is TMI.

Also, I can't believe you have to wait that long to see a dr. What is this? Canada?





















kidding.


























country war.

akhensley81

I usually have to call 6-8 months ahead of time to get my yearly with my OB too.

abbalish

And also in TMI, when I talked to the doctor and asked if I should be concerned she said since every other test I've had has been normal in the 4 years I've been seeing her, chances are it's nothing to worry about.  But still!

MissLeahM

No worries.. I'm lactose intolerant so it probably is just something I've been eating.

mandysmear

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[QUOTE]Mandy, I'm on LVB's train of thought here. I thought your first comment about not everyone being as lucky as you was a little much. I also think that certain comments bother certain people. If Mr. Hensley knows that ak is sensitive about her weight, then what he said is a low blow. If he knows she's fine with it then it's a still diick comment but not necessarily on his "really not ok things" list whereas something about her cooking might be if that's an area where she generally feels insecure already. I feel like there are things that I would never say to H because I know they're issues for him (and ditto him for me), whereas there are things that I've said without realizing they bugged him (and again, ditto).
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

yeah if akhensley's cool with that fine.  i'm still going to say how i feel about the situation though.  as i previously said.

and i didn't mean it like that.  sorry for the misunderstanding.  my husband and i have had arguements where he's said or done things to hurt me and vice versa - just not in a blatent "you are bloated/you must be on your period today" manner.  as i stated before.  so if you read the rest of my posts you'll see i addressed your concerns. 

and abballish - been where you are - had to have surgery for it.  i assure you abnormal paps are actually a lot more normal and common than you think.  i freaked out about mine.  but everything was fine - just keep up with your appointments, and you'll be good to go.  i also didn't see a doctor for a good 5 months in between each abnormal pap.  if you want to ask more questions please feel free to PM me :)